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backscatter712

(26,355 posts)
Wed Mar 26, 2014, 08:12 PM Mar 2014

This is fucking hardcore. MA gov. cand. Steve Grossman(D) passes kidney stone in debate, keeps going

I. Am. Impressed.

http://talkingpointsmemo.com/livewire/mass-guv-candidate-passes-kidney-stone-during-debate

Mass. Guv Candidate Passes Kidney Stone During Debate

There may be a lot of reasons to grimace during a political debate, but Massachusetts state Treasurer Steve Grossman (D) actually spent an entire gubernatorial forum in acute physical pain while passing a kidney stone, the Boston Globe reported Wednesday.

Grossman's campaign spokeswoman Chandra Allard told the newspaper that her boss has suffered from chronic kidney stones on and off for 30 years. She said Grossman went to a gubernatorial forum on LGBT issues hosted by grassroots advocacy group MassEquality on Tuesday night despite waking up in serious pain earlier that morning.

From the Globe:

Grossman’s pain-level was a 10 on a scale of 1-to-10, Allard said, and yet he fervently answered questions on everything from transgender rights and mandatory sex education to issues facing youth and aging members of the LGBTQ community.


His herculean effort to finish out the 90-minute forum while passing the kidney stone even inspired a parody Twitter account.


I hereby nominate Steve Grossman for Badass Of The Year!
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This is fucking hardcore. MA gov. cand. Steve Grossman(D) passes kidney stone in debate, keeps going (Original Post) backscatter712 Mar 2014 OP
OMG. blue neen Mar 2014 #1
I think that would earn avebury Mar 2014 #7
Agreed. blue neen Mar 2014 #8
Don't you pass a kidney stone while peeing??? angstlessk Mar 2014 #2
Not sure what the exact circumstances are... backscatter712 Mar 2014 #4
OUCH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! angstlessk Mar 2014 #6
Having experienced both, I'd say childbirth beats a kidney stone. n/t freshwest Mar 2014 #31
That is the truest statement of the day! nt mimi85 Mar 2014 #33
Are you sure? I believe I'm going to get a lot of dispute from those who didn't bear children, LOL! freshwest Mar 2014 #40
Yeah, but Orrex Mar 2014 #35
At least mine was. After two day of no pain relief labor that ended up in a C-section, freshwest Mar 2014 #44
beats NewJeffCT Mar 2014 #36
As in childbirth being more painful. Tell me about your childbirth experience. n/t freshwest Mar 2014 #39
I don't have any NewJeffCT Mar 2014 #41
Childbirth is dangerous for many people. My grandmother died in childbirth. I would have if I'd not freshwest Mar 2014 #45
depends on the size of the kidney stone too... VanillaRhapsody Mar 2014 #58
I'm referring all kidney stone vs. childbirth to Wieldling Truth. EOM. freshwest Mar 2014 #62
I knew I should have scrolled down... awoke_in_2003 Mar 2014 #73
I had two natural births no anesthesia, one at home. vanlassie Mar 2014 #55
Definitely - I speak 840high Mar 2014 #46
beats? As in more painful or as in you would rather? Thor_MN Mar 2014 #49
I don't have first-hand experience with either... backscatter712 Mar 2014 #52
I'll explain it as some women I worked with explained it to a man, who was also 'curious.' freshwest Mar 2014 #53
Sounds a lot like a Bill Cosby bit I heard. Thor_MN Mar 2014 #63
It's not you, Thor, some of the posts are JAQing the obvious and attempting to have a gender spat. freshwest Mar 2014 #64
Sorry, I don't know what JAQ means... Thor_MN Mar 2014 #66
'JAQing Off: Just Asking Questions.' The classic technique goes: freshwest Mar 2014 #67
OK, I get that. That was the only words I could come up with, ironically. Thor_MN Mar 2014 #69
I believe it is more painful for men to pass than a women to pass a kidney stone. The Wielding Truth Mar 2014 #56
That, and IIRC, the urinary tracts are narrower. n/t backscatter712 Mar 2014 #57
ewww.. that's really bad. The Wielding Truth Mar 2014 #60
Okay, all the men will ask you about childbirth from now on out. Bye. n/t freshwest Mar 2014 #61
Why? I said nothing about childbirth. The Wielding Truth Mar 2014 #68
I am not sure how to read that... awoke_in_2003 Mar 2014 #72
when it's bad it can take hours or days eShirl Mar 2014 #10
it passes from the kidney to the ureter also barbtries Mar 2014 #11
Yes! mockmonkey Mar 2014 #13
Not always Leith Mar 2014 #16
Kidney stones come out... mockmonkey Mar 2014 #71
That's Gross, Man Roland99 Mar 2014 #14
I knew that one would come up. mimi85 Mar 2014 #34
I was shocked it hadn't yet! Roland99 Mar 2014 #37
Kinda depends on what you mean by pass. pnwmom Mar 2014 #20
The stone passes from the kidney, through the ureter, to the bladder, then exits via the urethra REP Mar 2014 #23
Nope! It can take weeks to pass a kidney stone. longship Mar 2014 #50
Well on Deadwood....the peeing came AFTER the stone finally came out! VanillaRhapsody Mar 2014 #59
Holy crap! zappaman Mar 2014 #3
I don't even want to imagine that. Solly Mack Mar 2014 #5
happened to me in december. barbtries Mar 2014 #9
I am willing to bet, that is what most folk do! etherealtruth Mar 2014 #18
Yes, but I pass them every 30-45 days and have done done so for about 30 years too - no ER REP Mar 2014 #24
Argh ... sorry about that etherealtruth Mar 2014 #26
i don't have to imagine barbtries Mar 2014 #70
Lightweight. Teddy Roosevelt was shot in the chest and finished his campaign speech anyway. Lasher Mar 2014 #12
Teddy Roosevelt made Chuck Norris lick his own elbows. Ikonoklast Mar 2014 #28
I'd second that nomination! calimary Mar 2014 #15
A friend of mind said it was the most painful experience she ever endured. Auntie Bush Mar 2014 #19
My brother passed out. Hassin Bin Sober Mar 2014 #29
Dear God ... there is no one tougher than this guy! n/t etherealtruth Mar 2014 #17
Whoa, he is badass! I've cared for several people while they were passing stones, how did this man Mnemosyne Mar 2014 #21
Fellow kidney stone sufferers, pnwmom Mar 2014 #22
Lucky you. REP Mar 2014 #25
I have the second type and so far, so good. pnwmom Mar 2014 #30
I have the type that doesn't matter what I eat/don't eat REP Mar 2014 #42
I am so sorry. Kidney stones are a horror! n/t pnwmom Mar 2014 #43
Passing a stone is on par or worse than giving birth!! Dude is tough!!! n/t Darkhawk32 Mar 2014 #27
State treasurer Grossman is no delicate flower. He is past DNC chairman and ran for FailureToCommunicate Mar 2014 #32
I had a veritable rock garden going justhanginon Mar 2014 #38
pissed it I passed it, passed the lil bastid. lonestarnot Mar 2014 #47
If for no other reason the man should be elected........... wandy Mar 2014 #48
Shows 'em what he's made of! Props to Mass State Treasurer Steve Grossman! Cha Mar 2014 #51
OMG.... CherokeeDem Mar 2014 #54
Good Lord! This guy is tough! nt Sarah Ibarruri Mar 2014 #65

avebury

(10,952 posts)
7. I think that would earn
Wed Mar 26, 2014, 08:19 PM
Mar 2014

my vote. Anybody that could make it through a debate in that much pain is one very dedicated candidate.

backscatter712

(26,355 posts)
4. Not sure what the exact circumstances are...
Wed Mar 26, 2014, 08:17 PM
Mar 2014

...but from what I've been told, the pain of passing a kidney stone is like the pain of childbirth... if the "baby" was a melon-sized ball of broken glass...

freshwest

(53,661 posts)
31. Having experienced both, I'd say childbirth beats a kidney stone. n/t
Wed Mar 26, 2014, 09:26 PM
Mar 2014

Last edited Thu Mar 27, 2014, 05:41 PM - Edit history (1)

BTW, I'm not going to do the gender wars for anyone, so it's of no use to reply to me on this thread again, go on without me.



freshwest

(53,661 posts)
40. Are you sure? I believe I'm going to get a lot of dispute from those who didn't bear children, LOL!
Wed Mar 26, 2014, 09:55 PM
Mar 2014

freshwest

(53,661 posts)
44. At least mine was. After two day of no pain relief labor that ended up in a C-section,
Wed Mar 26, 2014, 09:58 PM
Mar 2014
my baby was the best! And while I was pregnant was the first time I felt sorry for men on a very profound level.

NewJeffCT

(56,828 posts)
36. beats
Wed Mar 26, 2014, 09:46 PM
Mar 2014

as the childbirth beats a kidney stone in terms of more pain? Or beats because it's less painful?

(I do know a woman that said she had a natural no anesthesia childbirth, and that was less painful than her kidney stone, but everybody is different)

freshwest

(53,661 posts)
39. As in childbirth being more painful. Tell me about your childbirth experience. n/t
Wed Mar 26, 2014, 09:53 PM
Mar 2014

Last edited Thu Mar 27, 2014, 05:42 PM - Edit history (1)

BTW, I'm not going to do the gender wars for anyone, so it's of no use for anyone to reply to me on this thread again. Just settle it among yourselves.



NewJeffCT

(56,828 posts)
41. I don't have any
Wed Mar 26, 2014, 09:56 PM
Mar 2014

I was just relaying what one woman told me, and then said that it would be different for each person.

freshwest

(53,661 posts)
45. Childbirth is dangerous for many people. My grandmother died in childbirth. I would have if I'd not
Wed Mar 26, 2014, 10:04 PM
Mar 2014
been in the hospital for delivery. I've passed kidney stones and while it got my attention, I had to take care of child at the same time. It was no comparison and while I could choose to be offended at your statements, I won't be. If you ain't been there, you just cannot know. Nothing wrong with that.

 

awoke_in_2003

(34,582 posts)
73. I knew I should have scrolled down...
Thu Mar 27, 2014, 05:04 PM
Mar 2014

I wasn't sure how to read what you said. This clears it up. Being male I cannot give birth, and I have never had a stone. I guess that makes me pretty lucky

vanlassie

(5,681 posts)
55. I had two natural births no anesthesia, one at home.
Wed Mar 26, 2014, 10:34 PM
Mar 2014

I had a kidney stone. Give me labor. At least you get a prize in the end. No, I'm serious. And yes, some women do have terrible birth experiences. This is MY experience.

 

Thor_MN

(11,843 posts)
49. beats? As in more painful or as in you would rather?
Wed Mar 26, 2014, 10:18 PM
Mar 2014

Not being able to experience the one it's strictly out of curiosity that I ask.

backscatter712

(26,355 posts)
52. I don't have first-hand experience with either...
Wed Mar 26, 2014, 10:25 PM
Mar 2014

...but from the accounts I have heard or read, it's a tossup - some say childbirth is more painful, some say kidney stones.

In both cases, on the 1-10 pain scale, it clocks in at OMGWTFBBQ!

freshwest

(53,661 posts)
53. I'll explain it as some women I worked with explained it to a man, who was also 'curious.'
Wed Mar 26, 2014, 10:31 PM
Mar 2014

He wanted an description of what pushing a child out of your body. They tried, and he could not grasp it. So they got 'visual' so he'd 'get it.'

They said, 'Okay, see your mouth? Open yor lips up wide. No, wider than that. No, a little bit more. Oh, no, more, more, more.'

He said, 'Okay, then what?'

One of women said, 'Now pull your lips back over your head.'

His eyes nearly popped out of his head and he looked at them horror. You might try it, to stretch your imagination.

If you were (giving you the benefit of the doubt with the JAQ) being facetious, as the subject was pain, you, and most people on Planet Earth don't need to be told this.

If all else fails, ask your mom. But she'll probably give you a sanitized version, as she won't want you to suffer any distress. Moms are that way, sometimes.



 

Thor_MN

(11,843 posts)
63. Sounds a lot like a Bill Cosby bit I heard.
Wed Mar 26, 2014, 11:00 PM
Mar 2014

IIRC, he attributed that to Carol Burnette.

My question was because the way you phrased could be considered ambiguous. I.E, childbirth is painful but it beats the heck out of a kidneystone, or childbirth beats a kidney stone on a pain scale by ranking an 11 on a scale of 1 to 10, while the stone is a 7. I honestly could not tell which you thought was more painful, but suspect now that you are saying childbirth.

Not sure what you mean by JAQ... I was just looking for clarification on what appeared to be an objective opinion. If it offended in any way, my apologies.



freshwest

(53,661 posts)
64. It's not you, Thor, some of the posts are JAQing the obvious and attempting to have a gender spat.
Wed Mar 26, 2014, 11:08 PM
Mar 2014

Most women and the men in their lives, would not find what I said ambiguous. We are cool. I'll see you around, but I'm not going to answer more JAQs that want to turn my meaning into something it's not. I don't do the gender thing.

P.S. I don't know about the Cosby or Burnett reference. This story happened at my company, to people I knew. It's possible they picked the example to teach him from those comedians. He didn't think it was funny, the women all did, though, especially the way he reacted to the visualization.

 

Thor_MN

(11,843 posts)
66. Sorry, I don't know what JAQ means...
Wed Mar 26, 2014, 11:15 PM
Mar 2014

Google apparently doesn't either, so I can't feel too bad about that...

Sorry if you got questions you didn't want.

freshwest

(53,661 posts)
67. 'JAQing Off: Just Asking Questions.' The classic technique goes:
Thu Mar 27, 2014, 12:53 AM
Mar 2014

Something is obvious, but is questioned. But the questions are not innocent. The person pretends to be confused by what every person knows.

In this case, everyone on this forum was born. Every human knows of the pain of childbirth.

That response about JAQing is not directed at you, unless you want a gender fight, which some may do. The spat of comments to my initial reply, which had no emotional or judgment content implied, only a personal experience.

BTW, I knew all the people in the anecdote I shared very well, not only the women, but the man, too.

See you later.

 

Thor_MN

(11,843 posts)
69. OK, I get that. That was the only words I could come up with, ironically.
Thu Mar 27, 2014, 04:59 AM
Mar 2014

but I couldn't see how it that would make sense.

Please understand that your statement was not obvious, as least to me. You had the benefit of hearing your tone when you read it, the plain text can be taken either way. Unless the contest is defined, "beat" only means that one is better than the other. Since I was very young when I was born, I don't remember it. And only people that have experienced both, as an adult, can have an objective opinion, everyone else has no clue. The only male that can have a (minority, at best) opinion about any aspect of a given childbirth is the father. And in terms of pain, no opinion at all.

My experience that I now attribute to a kidney stone had me on my bathroom floor hoping that something, anything would come out of me in any direction, from any opening I already had. Anything to make it go away. So knowing that the two don't compare gives me new appreciation.

eShirl

(18,496 posts)
10. when it's bad it can take hours or days
Wed Mar 26, 2014, 08:24 PM
Mar 2014

depending on the stone size and shape it might move a little bit at a time w/ each pee but not all thw way
(wife of a sometimes kidney stone passer)

barbtries

(28,808 posts)
11. it passes from the kidney to the ureter also
Wed Mar 26, 2014, 08:24 PM
Mar 2014

i passed a stone last year and all the pain i experienced was while it was still inside. apparently it was so small when/if i peed it out (it may have dissolved) it didn't cause any further pain to speak of.

mockmonkey

(2,824 posts)
13. Yes!
Wed Mar 26, 2014, 08:28 PM
Mar 2014

You pass them while peeing. I get them about every 3 to 5 years. I was thinking that he must have been wearing some depends. I always find a healthy spewing of swear words gets me through the moment.

I'm drinking lemonade everyday to hopefully put off my next round since I don't have health insurance. Thank You republican governor.

Leith

(7,813 posts)
16. Not always
Wed Mar 26, 2014, 08:40 PM
Mar 2014

My husband had a kidney stone a few years ago. His pain was in the lower back on either side of the spine. He was sitting in a chair surfing the web when the pain appeared suddenly. All he could do was scream and clutch his back. Luckily I recognized the symptoms and let him know he wasn't in immediate danger.

I can understand feeling bladder stones while peeing.

mockmonkey

(2,824 posts)
71. Kidney stones come out...
Thu Mar 27, 2014, 08:28 AM
Mar 2014

when you pee. When they are too large you go through lithotripsy. To prevent blockage they might place a stent in your urethra.

Is your husband still clutching his back and screaming?

pnwmom

(108,990 posts)
20. Kinda depends on what you mean by pass.
Wed Mar 26, 2014, 08:58 PM
Mar 2014

With me, there's a point when the pain is suddenly over. The stone has past whatever the last obstacle was, and it doesn't hurt after that. By the time I pee, the problem is already over.

But I have no idea how this would work with a guy.

REP

(21,691 posts)
23. The stone passes from the kidney, through the ureter, to the bladder, then exits via the urethra
Wed Mar 26, 2014, 09:09 PM
Mar 2014

He's had them for 30 years; he's used to dealing with them (same here - I've been passing stones monthly for about that long).

longship

(40,416 posts)
50. Nope! It can take weeks to pass a kidney stone.
Wed Mar 26, 2014, 10:21 PM
Mar 2014

Trust me. I have done it seven times. Twice I had surgical help. Apparently, like Mr. Grossman, I have a problem with them. I taught school every day for months, popping Vicodin like candy, and never missed a class. I scheduled the sonic wave lithotripsy on Friday when I had no classes. I was home by noon on Saturday and back at school on Monday.

But kidney stones are a real bitch. On another really bad case, I was hospitalized twice for pain control. Heroine analogs became my friend, until I could not keep food down because of them. That time it was the more invasive LASER surgery. Too bad the stone was well into the ureter so lithotripsy was not an option.

Here's the deal. If the doctor cannot find the stone she cannot treat it. And they like to hide. And the pain reflects all over the place, mostly into ones balls. It's like being kicked in the nuts for hours on end. If it cannot be found, it can go on for weeks.

And yup! The pain can be fucking awful.

zappaman

(20,606 posts)
3. Holy crap!
Wed Mar 26, 2014, 08:16 PM
Mar 2014

I had one last year and it leveled me.
2 shots of dilaudid, 1 shot of morphine and a percocet made it all better!

Lasher

(27,625 posts)
12. Lightweight. Teddy Roosevelt was shot in the chest and finished his campaign speech anyway.
Wed Mar 26, 2014, 08:27 PM
Mar 2014
“Friends, I shall ask you to be as quiet as possible. I don't know whether you fully understand that I have just been shot; but it takes more than that to kill a Bull Moose,” he began. He spoke for at least 55 more minutes (though some estimates say 90), still wearing his blood-soaked shirt.

http://mentalfloss.com/article/12789/time-teddy-roosevelt-got-shot-chest-gave-speech-anyway

Ikonoklast

(23,973 posts)
28. Teddy Roosevelt made Chuck Norris lick his own elbows.
Wed Mar 26, 2014, 09:21 PM
Mar 2014

And Chuck Norris then thanked him for doing so.

calimary

(81,402 posts)
15. I'd second that nomination!
Wed Mar 26, 2014, 08:40 PM
Mar 2014

He DOES sound like a Badass of the Year! I remember my mom being flattened by kidney stones for entire days at a time. My husband had to go to the ER with one. His skin was as ashen gray as the inside of an old fireplace.

Auntie Bush

(17,528 posts)
19. A friend of mind said it was the most painful experience she ever endured.
Wed Mar 26, 2014, 08:54 PM
Mar 2014

She was doubled up with pain and passed out in a hotel bathroom floor...making it difficult to get immediate help.

Hassin Bin Sober

(26,334 posts)
29. My brother passed out.
Wed Mar 26, 2014, 09:23 PM
Mar 2014

And this is a guy who has duct tapped gashes in his hands while on job sites. He had a big sliver in I his hand that his wife finally dragged him to a surgeon to have removed because he was too busy to see the doctor.

Mnemosyne

(21,363 posts)
21. Whoa, he is badass! I've cared for several people while they were passing stones, how did this man
Wed Mar 26, 2014, 09:01 PM
Mar 2014

manage to even remain standing?!

pnwmom

(108,990 posts)
22. Fellow kidney stone sufferers,
Wed Mar 26, 2014, 09:04 PM
Mar 2014

if your urologist doesn't tell you, ask what kind of stone you had. If s/he doesn't mention it, there are steps you can take with diets and supplements that might help, depending on the kind of stone you have. This is a case where the internet might tell you more than the doc who is offering a high tech solution (but doesn't help you avoid future stones). But run it by your doctor after you've done the research, to make sure any diet/supplement solution is okay for your case.

In my case, I needed to increase my intake of calcium and magnesium, and to reduce my high consumption of spinach. And I never let myself get dehydrated! It's been years since I had a stone. Knock on wood.

pnwmom

(108,990 posts)
30. I have the second type and so far, so good.
Wed Mar 26, 2014, 09:26 PM
Mar 2014

I think I was eating way too much spinach and other high-oxalic acid foods for my situation. And I miss it -- but not enough to start eating a lot again.

FailureToCommunicate

(14,018 posts)
32. State treasurer Grossman is no delicate flower. He is past DNC chairman and ran for
Wed Mar 26, 2014, 09:36 PM
Mar 2014

governor in 2002, among many accomplishments.

justhanginon

(3,290 posts)
38. I had a veritable rock garden going
Wed Mar 26, 2014, 09:51 PM
Mar 2014

when I was young, a lonnnng time ago. The pain is unbelievable and just so unrelenting.
Back in the "good old days" they took them out surgically if they were too large to pass. I have a 10" scar on one side and two 12" on the other from those accursed stones. Then they went to inch long incisions and got them that way. Now they Zap them with ultrasound and you go home a little sore but sans stones the same day. I haven't had any since I retired but now I drink a lot of water and pee whenever I even slightly have to go. Keeps everything diluted and makes it harder for the stones to form I believe.
I've had them in service (Fort Bliss Texas), at work, driving my car and sitting at home. The car is the worst because you are not sure if you can make it to the emergency room. They pretty much suck wherever and scare the hell out of you the first time.
Hats off to Mr. Grossman. I hope noone noticed the tears.

wandy

(3,539 posts)
48. If for no other reason the man should be elected...........
Wed Mar 26, 2014, 10:15 PM
Mar 2014

Can't say that I've personal had the pleasure. Someone I once worked with did.
Wasn't me, but trust me. I felt it.

Cant help but think that Steve Grossman would serve the people of his state well.
He surly has the stones for it.

CherokeeDem

(3,709 posts)
54. OMG....
Wed Mar 26, 2014, 10:32 PM
Mar 2014

I went sobbing to the ER when I had a kidney stone... I can't even imagine...

Badass and dedicated... wow....

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