The doctor I worked with quit as was afraid this would happen to their home and family. Those who know, understand what these doctors do. Those who do not only fear what they fear.

Best wishes and hopes for you and yours.

I am thankful that we have not been harassed prior to tonight. But it is something I think about when I give someone my name. It is the ones who seethe with their hidden rage that I worry about. I am welcoming to those who make it known that that is how they feel. Then I know to stay away from them.

We always thought this woman to be a bit rude to us and now we know the truth.

Even though we put our son in a private non-religious preschool I still worried that someone would cause problems. That is where my real fear lies. A few months ago someone shot out the windows in both mine and Mr.Honey's cars. I just assumed it was juvenile delinquents. But a little bit of me had thought that perhaps someone had discovered who we are. And then our house was egged.

Thanks for your thoughts and well wishes.

Lilyhoney

random.

Have you seen or heard of the movie After Tiller? I wish more people would see what actually happens. And yes, there are back alley holy shit "abortionists" like Gosnell who in no way follow the law or any sort of ethics, but in every line of work there are assholes. Excuse me, jerks. Oh darn. People who have low ethics. The laws are meant to stop people like him and he in no way represents much of what happens but is held up as the poster child. Sorry, preaching to the choir. And leave the rest of the family alone. Again, preaching to the choir and sorry.

Good luck, feel free to pm if you need to, am willing to listen to rants or ventings.

And I do feel that people should know what the doctors and their families might go through. I keep telling Mr.Honey that he and his siblings should write a book about what it is like to be a doctors child.

I see the protesters still hanging out in town with their signs and I am overcome with feelings that need representation. Which is the nice way to put it.

Dr.Mr.Honey filed suit against the state of Illinois regarding excessive and unnecessary requirements for ambulatory surgical clinics. The case reached the Supreme Court and was settled with an acceptance of some restriction.

After Dr.Mr.Honey died the clinic was sold to a practitioner who let the clinic fall apart and the clinic was shut permanently. So freaking sad.

And yes when Dr.Mr.Lilyhoney died FR danced on his grave.

Lilyhoney

I am so sorry you and your family had to go through this.

The small minded, ill-educated people who do this kind of thing can make life so miserable and they cause so much pain.

Your FIL provided a great service, he obviously was a very compassionate, well respected by his peers and gentleman.

Please hug your husband and stay strong.

I can only send you hugs at this time - feel free to pm if you need to

I sure will give Mr.Honey some hugs.

He is way less confrontational than I am. He called me as he left the restaurant and told me what the woman had said to him. I was the one who wanted him to take the food back and get his money back. He just wanted to eat his cheeseburger. But he knew that was what his dad would do so he did. He did not want confrontation but he is a good man who will stand up for what is right. So he went back in and refused the food and demanded his money back. Principals matter.

Thanks again for the hugs and support.

Lilyhoney

I love a good fight.

I did take a concealed carry weapons training class, but only have a BB gun which I keep locked inside a gun cabinet, inside of a locked fire proof safe with a trigger lock on it. I have a toddler in the house.

Thanks!

Lilyhoney

health care for whatever she needs. Wealthy women have no problems, usually the family doctor will take care of everything in the privacy of her office, but women without means are forced into public clinics for the world to see and scorn. What a bunch of crap. I had hoped with the abortion pill and morning after over the counter protection, public clinics would become obsolete, but here we are.

You and your family are in my thoughts. No way should you have to deal with this hatred. People have no business in the most personal business of other human beings.

and I totally agree with you.


Lilyhoney

Dear Lily,
I am so sorry to hear that you and your family are being harassed and possibly in danger...when we moved to a very conservative area of TN, our family was "outed" as "progressive Yankees!" we were scorned in the neighborhood, our daughter not included in social activities, and I feared for her safety...so much hate and scary people wanting to cause harm because our beliefs were different...now with guns and violence more prevalent, please be careful and don 't take any chances. Sincerely, Hannah

Lilyhoney, it is unconscionable that extremists continue to make life difficult for you and your family. It's probably not worth much, but I think I'm not alone when I say that I stand with you and your family.

...and apparently the med community there too. Hold fast to that, and I hope for your sake that tonight's experience was an aberration.

she teaches the procedure at a teaching hospital (at least, I'm pretty sure she does). She uses her maiden name and the kids have my brother's. She's in a relatively liberal location (a big city) but in something of a sea of conservatives.

Of all the right wing fanatics I hate, the anti-choice zealots are the one's I hate the most.

she is an amazing woman to do this - and while she may not be thanked often, she is provided such a great service that is needed and will always be needed and I am in awe and appreciate those that can do this work in the face of the anti-choice zealots, who are ill-educated and would avail themselves of an abortion (in secret, of course) if needed.

she does get thanked a lot by her clients and she finds her work to be very rewarding. I think she does very little clinical work now as she has multiple research grants.

and you can thank her again from me -

a thank you card on "National Day of Appreciation for Abortion Providers" which is on March 10th but this year I was traveling and forgot. I also make a (pretty large) donation to Planned Parenthood at the same time (which I did not forget). I've also sent cards to the local Planned Parenthood clinic on that day.

Your last line (and this OP) made me tear up. Full reproductive freedom and access to services is my issue of passion. Too often Democrats here even on DU are soft on it. That soft support directly contributes to the steam the right wing has on passing laws restricting access. I was encouraged when the national party removed "rare" from the platform. We need to remove the stigma and own this issue.

I have so much love and respect for providers and their entire staffs. It's a noble profession wrought with a fear for what the lunatics will do. It's disgusting to me that they must live in the shadows while those wishing and doing them harm are in the limelight.

Thank your SIL and Lilyhoney, thank your in-laws for looking out for women, men and families. I hope my weekly "talks" (ok sometimes daily now that I have a 13-year-old son and 12-year-old daughter) have allowed the thought to sink in that yes "mom and dad will need to freak out for a day, but after that we will advise and support whatever decision you and your SO make", but I am talking about young kids and hope to God, if for whatever reason, they can't come to me or husband, they are fortunate to meet up with amazing souls like both your in-laws. I was a lucky teen. Not smart or safe. I remember two times when I thought my world might be ending. Looking back now, years later, I know that wasn't the case, but it sure as shit felt like it. I felt desperate, I've never felt like that since and never want to. Even at 28. Married with two kids and finding out a 3rd was on the way, I did not CHOOSE to terminate, but was so thankful for days while I wrapped my head around it that it was an option. I graduated high school in 1997 and have 3 close friends who chose abortion and it truly was the best decision. 1 now works for PP and another volunteers her time at PP. Access to their choice made a world of difference and the world is much better off that these 3 young girls (now women obviously) were able to obtain a safe and legal abortion.

I have one girl and two boys. I thank you both and your families for giving my kids and their girlfriends/boyfriends access to their choices. Thank you for helping to enforce MY choice also. Amazing. Thanks to choice and birth control I am able to work easily and to go make a donation to my local Planned Parenthood. I'll use your user names.

there are dozens of women who are quietly grateful for his care. They shouldn't have to be quiet.

I'm so sorry you had to deal with that.

and your whole family.

To repeat what I said upthread, full reproductive freedom and access to services is my issue of passion. Too often Democrats here even on DU are soft on it. That soft support directly contributes to the steam the right wing has on passing laws restricting access. I was encouraged when the national party removed "rare" from the platform. We need to remove the stigma and own this issue.

I have so much love and respect for providers and their entire staff and families. It's a noble profession wrought with a fear for what the lunatics will do. It's disgusting that you and they must live in the shadows (or with any kind of fear) while those wishing and doing them harm are in the limelight.

Are you perchance in Northern IL? I'd love to meet you. I was active at
Dr. Jakubowski's practice in Aurora, IL as an escort. The man was a saint and hero in my view. I'm located locally and definitely understand the dynamics involved.

I had no idea of the problems involved for abortion providers' families for a long time. Naive me, I never dreamed anyone would go after their families

These doctors are HEROES in my view!!! To face the daily rage of the right wing... awful. And its not just rhetoric - its direct violent action.



Pm me of course if you want to.