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Harmony Blue

(3,978 posts)
Wed Apr 16, 2014, 07:30 PM Apr 2014

As a MGTOW or a grass easter (certain kind of MGTOW)

I am against Patriarchy because I am not interested in the gender roles of marriage 1.0 or marriage 2.0 or the idea of marriage at all. I have tasted freedom and have escaped the bondage of the worker drone paradigm and being a slave to the big corporate machine. The fundamental problem I have is when those that proclaim to be against patriarchy for the good of all women do not apply this for men as well...that is a contradiction. I am against gender roles for men and women flat out...that is my belief system and I am consistent about it.

Feminism can't make progress if a segment of it fights patriarchy on behalf of women but still expects men to conform to traditional gender roles. This is why a topic like women having to register for the military draft is a touchy subject for example but it is something we must discuss for true equality to take place.

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As a MGTOW or a grass easter (certain kind of MGTOW) (Original Post) Harmony Blue Apr 2014 OP
find me that feminism you speak of, otherwise your OP has no foundation. seabeyond Apr 2014 #1
Male rights matters as much as female rights Harmony Blue Apr 2014 #2
you mean the draft card is the horrid inequality toward men you speak of? you did NOT show seabeyond Apr 2014 #4
It is a horrible inequality indeed Harmony Blue Apr 2014 #12
womens rapists go free, congress tell women to put an aspirin between her knees, legally they stick seabeyond Apr 2014 #14
Ah, sorry to hear about your divorce/child custody issue but I understand now... CTyankee Apr 2014 #6
I never have been married or have any children Harmony Blue Apr 2014 #15
Oh, this crowd? BainsBane Apr 2014 #11
To help you understand Harmony Blue Apr 2014 #13
i say this sincerely. i get it. i respect your right to opt out. none of our business. nt seabeyond Apr 2014 #16
Thanks Harmony Blue Apr 2014 #20
If you're in Japan, this is a big deal Warpy Apr 2014 #26
I haven't had the greatest luck with the opposite sex either BainsBane Apr 2014 #18
"Having escaped the plantation (marriage)" Tell us more about how marriage is like slavery. LeftyMom Apr 2014 #24
Thanks for letting us know. MineralMan Apr 2014 #3
Shocker, ain't it? BainsBane Apr 2014 #10
It's too bad you don't get your ideas about what feminists argue BainsBane Apr 2014 #5
i have no problems with them registering either. anyone? there is not gonna be a draft. ever. seabeyond Apr 2014 #9
Atleast you have finally professed it. nt boston bean Apr 2014 #7
Yes I am a grass eater Harmony Blue Apr 2014 #17
"As a MGTOW or a grass easter" Aerows Apr 2014 #8
Here is some more info Harmony Blue Apr 2014 #21
From your link BainsBane Apr 2014 #22
I'm now more confused Aerows Apr 2014 #25
WIBAMU Auntie Bush Apr 2014 #19
"Reject traditional gender roles" generally means "...and replace them with these!". lumberjack_jeff Apr 2014 #23
 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
1. find me that feminism you speak of, otherwise your OP has no foundation.
Wed Apr 16, 2014, 07:33 PM
Apr 2014
Feminism can't make progress if a segment of it fights patriarchy on behalf of women but still expects men to conform to traditional gender roles.

Harmony Blue

(3,978 posts)
2. Male rights matters as much as female rights
Wed Apr 16, 2014, 08:07 PM
Apr 2014

until females have to legally register when they turn 18 like young males we might as well be chasing our own tail and that would be far more productive.

Having escaped the plantation (marriage) I am not interested in going back even if the divorce/child custody laws were changed in the Western world. That is what makes a MGTOW different from an MRA.

MRA's believe they can change things through the legal system while MGTOW decide to opt out of the matrix and take the red pill.

 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
4. you mean the draft card is the horrid inequality toward men you speak of? you did NOT show
Wed Apr 16, 2014, 08:10 PM
Apr 2014

me the feminist that you portrayed. that null and voids your argument.

opt out. no one is stopping you. i doubt anyone even cares. choice dude.

Harmony Blue

(3,978 posts)
12. It is a horrible inequality indeed
Wed Apr 16, 2014, 08:20 PM
Apr 2014

...the draft, like voting, and the jury duty is part of being a citizen of this Republic. It is the core symbiotic relationship between the individual and the state. The state grants different privileges and rights (there is a difference between rights and privileges for those wondering) to its citizens in return for service to the state. We can debate the level of involvement one must partake to be considered a citizen and and how power the states should have vs the individual but the fabric of an ordered society is this relationship..

I have already opted out despite having a college degree. But younger males are choosing not to go to college altogether avoiding the crushing student debt. Instead they are going in a different direction in this two tiered economy created by the 1%. People used to use a white centered point of view of judging black males but now we are starting to realize that they are opting out of the system is a form of protest. They are making a rational choice that seemed alien to use at the time but now we are starting to see why they are making such choices.



 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
14. womens rapists go free, congress tell women to put an aspirin between her knees, legally they stick
Wed Apr 16, 2014, 08:23 PM
Apr 2014

a probe up our women and girls getting a legal medical procedure for the sole purpose to cause them pain, women get paid less, do more of the work, are denigrated, humiliated, objectified, hypersexualized, pornified, we can not get an ERA passed

and you have a problem with a draft card.

Harmony Blue

(3,978 posts)
15. I never have been married or have any children
Wed Apr 16, 2014, 08:24 PM
Apr 2014

women receive a lot of grief when they choose to not marry or have children and men face the same social pressure as well.

BainsBane

(53,034 posts)
11. Oh, this crowd?
Wed Apr 16, 2014, 08:19 PM
Apr 2014

Last edited Wed Apr 16, 2014, 08:51 PM - Edit history (1)

http://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/
I looked at that for the first time the other night. Lovely bunch.

Then there is this

http://www.mgtow.com/


I think opting out is great. No issues with your doing that. Spreading the false info about feminism, however, I don't care for.

Harmony Blue

(3,978 posts)
13. To help you understand
Wed Apr 16, 2014, 08:22 PM
Apr 2014

The reddit crowd is part of the MGTOW movement more closer to PUA.

They call themselves red pillers but they are purple in that they still seek validation and approval of females to fuel their own self worth. My self worth is fueled for example by helping my neighbors not how many women I can score with. The purple pillers are still stuck in the blue pill world but still have some red pill tendencies.

The MGTOW website is a new website fairly recently added.

Harmony Blue

(3,978 posts)
20. Thanks
Wed Apr 16, 2014, 08:30 PM
Apr 2014

many of my peers male and female are losing interest in marriage and having children all together. It is something I think about often.

Warpy

(111,267 posts)
26. If you're in Japan, this is a big deal
Wed Apr 16, 2014, 10:38 PM
Apr 2014

They're not even interested in hooking up, the pill and a condom protecting them from offspring and disease.

However, it's not yet a problem here, so turn in your Viagra and be our guest.

BainsBane

(53,034 posts)
18. I haven't had the greatest luck with the opposite sex either
Wed Apr 16, 2014, 08:29 PM
Apr 2014

Also had a rather unpleasant marriage. I haven't decided to make it into some sort of political statement or movement. I realize I have attachment issues related to how I was raised and bad choices I myself have made in life.

BainsBane

(53,034 posts)
5. It's too bad you don't get your ideas about what feminists argue
Wed Apr 16, 2014, 08:10 PM
Apr 2014

from feminists themselves rather than MRA sites like MGTOW. If you read HOF much, you would see we frequently argue against patriarchy's oppression of men and members there give a lot of thought about how to raise their sons to not feel encumbered by patriarchal notions of manhood.

As for selective service, I have no problem with women's registering. In fact, I think national service of some kind should be compulsory for all Americans. I suspect, however, you will ignore these comments since you have made a habit of ignoring what I and other feminists have written in the past. That might explain your misapprehension on these subjects. It is difficult to know what feminists argue when you don't listen to them.

 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
9. i have no problems with them registering either. anyone? there is not gonna be a draft. ever.
Wed Apr 16, 2014, 08:15 PM
Apr 2014

but, mostly people argue no one should sign the cards/everyone should sign the cards.

wow. problem solved.

Harmony Blue

(3,978 posts)
17. Yes I am a grass eater
Wed Apr 16, 2014, 08:25 PM
Apr 2014

I lead a peaceful life not a militant one.

I am no Achilles. I rather grow old than seek glory and die young.

 

Aerows

(39,961 posts)
8. "As a MGTOW or a grass easter"
Wed Apr 16, 2014, 08:12 PM
Apr 2014

Does this mean you are a vegetarian, you only eat eggs that are boiled and dyed or you are trying to become a cow?

This post baffles me.

BainsBane

(53,034 posts)
22. From your link
Wed Apr 16, 2014, 08:37 PM
Apr 2014
Herbivore men (草食 男子 Sōshoku(-kei) danshi?) or grasseaters are a social phenomenon in Japan of men who shun marriage or gaining a girlfriend.[1] They are characteristically described as frugal, and interested in personal grooming . . .

According to Fukasawa, sōshoku danshi are "not without romantic relationships, but [have] a non-assertive, indifferent attitude towards desire of flesh". Later, philosopher Masahiro Morioka redefined sōshoku-kei danshi as men who are "the nice guys of a new generation who do not aggressively seek meat, but instead prefer to eat grass side by side with the opposite gender.


And some say those of us who oppose objectification don't like sex. My attitude toward "desires of the flesh" is far from indifferent.

Edit: DU seems to have done funky things with the Japanese characters. Don't mistake that as some editorial comment on my part.
 

Aerows

(39,961 posts)
25. I'm now more confused
Wed Apr 16, 2014, 10:30 PM
Apr 2014

than I was when I started reading this thread.

I'll just get out of it now.

I do not mean any disrespect. You are free to choose your life as anyone does, and I hope that you have blessings in your chosen path.

 

lumberjack_jeff

(33,224 posts)
23. "Reject traditional gender roles" generally means "...and replace them with these!".
Wed Apr 16, 2014, 08:39 PM
Apr 2014

I think there are worse definitions of "being a man" than autonomy; exercising the right to do as you choose.

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