Not a word people should even consider using.

as a white woman. There's no danger of me writing a hip hop song, or protesting any lyrics or books.

Just not this 53 year old.

WE give it power via our reactions!
We need to Stop reacting when we hear it-Stop being offended, indignant, Outraged and insulted. It's just a word and it's use to hurt others only works when we pay attention to it. We have to remember those who try this tactic do so With intent to create a distraction, get attention and create social problems.

They are like children having temper tantrums. We are dealing with "Immature Control Freaks".
If you ignore the tantrum, after awhle they give up bacause it didn't work.
It's the same thing here.
Ignore the word, address the facts-move on.

They will Stop when We stop.

uses it in the rap music he writes and records. The other uses it while playing games on the net. When challenged they both say it does not mean the same thing. The game player says that they all use it in order to make it meaningless. Something like playing Archie Bunker with words.

I have my doubts that this is going to work and further I am not so sure that it does not contribute to the use of it by rwers. Any thoughts?

By the way both boys have a black heritage which probably makes them think they are entitled to use it.