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madfloridian

(88,117 posts)
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 01:13 AM Jun 2014

Sickening! 22 yr old assisted living supervisor won't let staff call 911. 80 yr old patient dies.

Last edited Sat Jun 21, 2014, 10:18 AM - Edit history (2)

The only degree this 22 year old supervisor of an assisted living facility holds is that of Florida Nursing Assistant. Yet she held that man's life in her hands. I can not imagine not calling 911 for such an event as this.

This is a reputable well-known facility, so this is especially scary in my mind.

Assisted Living Supervisor Arrested After 80-Year-Old Lakeland Resident Dies



An investigation by the state Attorney General's Office found that an 80-year-old man who needed medical attention at a Lakeland assisted living facility died after a facility supervisor wouldn't let staff members call 911 for nearly four hours. The supervisor has been charged with neglect.

Rachel White Mobley, 22, who was promoted to executive director of the Grace Manor at Lake Morton facility at 610 Lime St. after the April 2013 incident, faces one count of neglect of an elderly person, a second-degree felony.

...At 11:30 p.m. on April 29, 2013, Burrows went to the nursing station and complained that he had a stabbing pain in his eye, the affidavit said, and facility employees Kristal Stowell and Samantha Spivey watched Burrows and saw that he was getting worse.


Mobley was called 6 times and asked permission to call 911. She finally told them to call the on-call health care agency.

In one of the calls, Mobley told Stowell to call the on-call home health agency. When Stowell did, the agency told Stowell to call 911, but Mobley still would not let her, according to the report.


It was later determined Burrows had a stroke.

Paramedics took Burrows to Lakeland Regional Medical Center at 3:42 a.m., and a CT scan showed that Burrows had a brain hemorrhage, the report said.

Burrows died at 7:25 a.m.


Burrows was chaplain at a local hospital for 26 years.

Why is a 22 year old woman with such poor judgment in charge of so many senior citizens and able to make life and death decisions for them?

From what I can gather from the article, this incident happened last year and has been being investigated all this time.

Okay, here we go. I edited this post to bold my exact words about age. Please note the words "with such poor judgement" . I also bolded part of the first paragraph to list her only degree which in most minds should not qualify her to lead a senior facility.

One can not win for losing here at DU now. She was arrested, the Attorney General said she was not qualified for the executive director position she was appointed to after Burrow's death. She is on administrative leave.



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Sickening! 22 yr old assisted living supervisor won't let staff call 911. 80 yr old patient dies. (Original Post) madfloridian Jun 2014 OP
She was certainly in the wrong, no question. CaliforniaPeggy Jun 2014 #1
I assume they feared for their job. madfloridian Jun 2014 #3
The article doesn't state the ages of the employees Live and Learn Jun 2014 #11
There are so many questions that come to mind. blue neen Jun 2014 #2
Maybe it would cost the facility money, and she was under orders tblue37 Jun 2014 #74
Why does her age matter? dilby Jun 2014 #4
Judgment. madfloridian Jun 2014 #6
I'd add "empathy for the elderly" too XemaSab Jun 2014 #67
Yes, empathy is a very appropriate word. madfloridian Jun 2014 #69
training and experience magical thyme Jun 2014 #70
People with years of experience don't work in assisted living facilities. dilby Jun 2014 #77
I realize that. CNA jobs are generally minimum wage, or barely above it magical thyme Jun 2014 #79
they do in management positions. absolutely. cali Jun 2014 #99
If he had a history of migraine, maybe this would be more understandable. Warpy Jun 2014 #5
If I remembert correctly, there might be a drug that can avebury Jun 2014 #39
not a doctor, but i believe you're referring to tpa, which doesn't work for hemorrhagic strokes. unblock Jun 2014 #52
That drug is a clot buster Warpy Jun 2014 #71
The first thing I thought was: how the hell did a 22-yr-old get to be a Nay Jun 2014 #7
She wasn't just a superviser choie Jun 2014 #102
I was thinking she must be somebody's girlfriend. nt raccoon Jun 2014 #114
"Wouldn't LET them call 911"? WillowTree Jun 2014 #8
She was likely following written protocols Warpy Jun 2014 #10
I agree. madfloridian Jun 2014 #12
Exactly Shampoobra Jun 2014 #17
Having lost 2 grandparents in just 3 months, right before I turned 22, alp227 Jun 2014 #9
Sad blkmusclmachine Jun 2014 #13
Does anyone know what the protocol is if a person has a DNR? pnwmom Jun 2014 #14
DNR does not mean do not treat alfie Jun 2014 #20
?? The guy was conscious and asked for care. Barack_America Jun 2014 #106
Yes, he was. It wasn't clear to me what happened after that. pnwmom Jun 2014 #108
The night staff at many facilities is often smaller and less experienced. No Vested Interest Jun 2014 #15
I am by far an expert yeoman6987 Jun 2014 #21
About Senior living facilities... the_sly_pig Jun 2014 #16
There appear to be 3 of these Grace Manor facilities in that town. madfloridian Jun 2014 #24
maybe Ms. Mobley's superiors had given her strict orders to not call 911 ? steve2470 Jun 2014 #18
From the article, it sounds like Mobley is changing her tune Eleanors38 Jun 2014 #19
Fox News now has a video and rundown about it. Staff and former staff agree... madfloridian Jun 2014 #25
NOBODY would ever tell ME not to call 911 in an emergency. Triana Jun 2014 #22
No, the real people to blame are the corporate dicks who decided it was OK to put a 22 year old Fla Dem Jun 2014 #41
I agree. Triana Jun 2014 #72
She was then promoted to exec director, same place. AJ ruled she was not qualified for position. madfloridian Jun 2014 #23
Did I read this right? vankuria Jun 2014 #27
You read it right. madfloridian Jun 2014 #51
Ok, thanks for the clarification vankuria Jun 2014 #53
There are some lax regulations. madfloridian Jun 2014 #54
Someone needs to start digging to find out Blue_Tires Jun 2014 #81
Of course ... she must have turned 23 so time for her promotion ... sunnystarr Jun 2014 #73
Her age is irrelevant here Generic Brad Jun 2014 #26
Attorney General said she was not qualified. madfloridian Jun 2014 #29
What makes you think that far too many Sissyk Jun 2014 #85
indeed TorchTheWitch Jun 2014 #111
I agree with you. Sissyk Jun 2014 #115
I find it interesting that you focus on her age in such a negative way. bravenak Jun 2014 #28
Do I need to assume you want to start this battle all over again? madfloridian Jun 2014 #31
No. Just find it interesting. bravenak Jun 2014 #32
Read the OP with the bolded parts. madfloridian Jun 2014 #33
I will not be making any more statements about your op. bravenak Jun 2014 #34
And if you are going to post more about me in the AA forum, will I have the right to respond? madfloridian Jun 2014 #35
I will not be posting about you in AA unless you write another op trashing me.nt bravenak Jun 2014 #36
Would you link to that post? Or do you want me to do so? madfloridian Jun 2014 #37
Which post? bravenak Jun 2014 #40
Those posts are about racism. You said I was ageist. madfloridian Jun 2014 #42
You also implied i was a racist. bravenak Jun 2014 #44
If you continue I will link to your exact words. madfloridian Jun 2014 #46
I did not call you those names, you called me them.nt bravenak Jun 2014 #47
Since you have hijacked this thread to fight old battles.... madfloridian Jun 2014 #48
Oh my, are you threatening me? bravenak Jun 2014 #50
No, bravenak, it's not my world either. madfloridian Jun 2014 #63
Why wouldn't you be able to post in the AA forum? I dislike the suggestion that msanthrope Jun 2014 #78
... TBF Jun 2014 #57
Editing your OP doesn't help when you have TorchTheWitch Jun 2014 #112
Regarding age vankuria Jun 2014 #55
Then the facility is at fault if they hired her for a position she was not qualified for. bravenak Jun 2014 #60
+100 Sissyk Jun 2014 #87
i think Age does Matter in this case just as it did when talking about old out of touch bigots JI7 Jun 2014 #96
I think you may have a point.nt bravenak Jun 2014 #103
Please note my edits to my OP. madfloridian Jun 2014 #30
No offense but how on earth does a 22 year old avebury Jun 2014 #38
Probably because they don't have to pay her as much BuelahWitch Jun 2014 #64
Yep, promoting her was the shocker. madfloridian Jun 2014 #76
Now Bay New 9 covering it. Making good points. madfloridian Jun 2014 #43
The judge should take a long look at her, ask her for her qualifications, degrees and certificates. Timez Squarez Jun 2014 #82
She has that 'deer in the headlights' look Stainless Jun 2014 #45
Age is relevant because lack of experience Harmony Blue Jun 2014 #49
I'd agree that lack of experience is the TBF Jun 2014 #59
It is crazy in that area - TBF Jun 2014 #56
The owners are definitely at fault for not giving her permission to call but I honestly do not think jwirr Jun 2014 #58
The staff did finally call before they really got permission. madfloridian Jun 2014 #62
I assumed it from the word Grace. All states have been moving the elderly and those with disability jwirr Jun 2014 #65
Administrative leave? Wow. She must know someone. She should be fired. ancianita Jun 2014 #61
Here is the problem, people use these places as stepping stones. dilby Jun 2014 #66
Don't I know it! Parasitic, incompetent bureaucrats with grinchy hearts who I'll never expose my ancianita Jun 2014 #95
Most of the women I talk to who work as CNA's dilby Jun 2014 #97
I would think vankuria Jun 2014 #104
A supervisor should have the experience and the confidence to buck protocols Karia Jun 2014 #68
Message auto-removed Name removed Jun 2014 #75
That doesn't make sense d_r Jun 2014 #80
Post removed Post removed Jun 2014 #83
WTF Skittles Jun 2014 #93
Message now hidden. alp227 Jun 2014 #100
it wasn't me who alerted Skittles Jun 2014 #105
i should've said that i alerted it. nt alp227 Jun 2014 #107
I think the real problem with the post is it was offered as THE reason Skittles Jun 2014 #113
Yes, it looks as if she is incompetent. Sissyk Jun 2014 #84
Actually in dealing with the elderly and ill...qualifications do matter. madfloridian Jun 2014 #89
I haven't seen anyone attacking you. I've seen people Sissyk Jun 2014 #90
K&R Alex P Notkeaton Jun 2014 #86
No more than is going on in all the others. Sissyk Jun 2014 #88
Hawaii Alex P Notkeaton Jun 2014 #92
I cannot believe you are saying that all other states would allow this kind of violation of rules jwirr Jun 2014 #94
Sorry, FLorida does have more it than many other states and cali Jun 2014 #101
My former mother-in-law (a sweetheart) yellerpup Jun 2014 #91
involuntary manslaughter might stick Doctor_J Jun 2014 #98
At 18 years old and no college degree, I would've had the common sense to call 911. phleshdef Jun 2014 #109
I discovered that nursing homes are absolute hell holes aint_no_life_nowhere Jun 2014 #110

CaliforniaPeggy

(149,611 posts)
1. She was certainly in the wrong, no question.
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 01:20 AM
Jun 2014

I would have called 911 in spite of her order not to do so.

Why didn't they?

And did the patient have an advanced directive?

Live and Learn

(12,769 posts)
11. The article doesn't state the ages of the employees
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 02:04 AM
Jun 2014

but if their supervisor was that young I am betting that they were very young too. I would have called too, no matter what age I was.

blue neen

(12,319 posts)
2. There are so many questions that come to mind.
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 01:21 AM
Jun 2014

Why would Ms. Mobley tell them not to call 911? It's no skin off her back.

Like you mentioned, why would a 22 year old who is not an RN or DR be in charge of making these kinds of medical decisions? She also violated the standing orders of the doctor.

Why is this investigation taking so long?

tblue37

(65,340 posts)
74. Maybe it would cost the facility money, and she was under orders
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 01:23 PM
Jun 2014

not to allow expenses to go up?

Obviously she lacks sufficient judgment and experience to be in any position that puts people's lives in her hands.

dilby

(2,273 posts)
4. Why does her age matter?
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 01:27 AM
Jun 2014

And the facility is sticking by her so I am going to assume it's part of their procedure.

madfloridian

(88,117 posts)
6. Judgment.
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 01:40 AM
Jun 2014

The ability to realize that she held elderly lives in her hands. Age does matter in some cases.

XemaSab

(60,212 posts)
67. I'd add "empathy for the elderly" too
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 12:34 PM
Jun 2014

Empathy's not quite the right word, but it ties in with judgement, like you're saying.

My grandma spent the last 20 years of her life complaining about various ailments, and understanding where she was coming from was sometimes challenging. Knowing when she needed actual medical intervention and when she just wanted attention was tough. Also, understanding her frustration at her declining health is something that I doubt a 22-year old could really grok.


 

magical thyme

(14,881 posts)
70. training and experience
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 12:44 PM
Jun 2014

Medical care takes years to get really good at. A 22 year old nursing assistant is in no way qualified to be making those kinds of calls.

dilby

(2,273 posts)
77. People with years of experience don't work in assisted living facilities.
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 01:59 PM
Jun 2014

They move on to higher paying jobs.

 

magical thyme

(14,881 posts)
79. I realize that. CNA jobs are generally minimum wage, or barely above it
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 02:25 PM
Jun 2014

whether you're in an assisted living facility or elsewhere.

The point is that nobody with that level of training or experience should have been in the position that young woman was in. I blame the people who put her in that position. She lacked to qualifications necessary to be making judgement calls of that type. She should have been the person asking whether to call 911, not the person deciding.

Warpy

(111,255 posts)
5. If he had a history of migraine, maybe this would be more understandable.
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 01:28 AM
Jun 2014

However, even calling 911 at his first sign probably wouldn't have saved his life. Hemorrhagic strokes have a much poorer outcome than embolic (blood clot) strokes and his age was against him.

And yes, I can't believe a 22 year old NA was put in charge of the place. That needs to be changed. Somebody with a license would have noted signs and symptoms she simply wasn't educated enough to see. At least a licensed, educated staff member might have saved the home the need to fight a lawsuit, although the outcome for Mr. Burrows would have been unlikely to change.

avebury

(10,952 posts)
39. If I remembert correctly, there might be a drug that can
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 10:39 AM
Jun 2014

help a stroke victim but it has to be administered within a certain amount of time and that time frame is not that long. If that is true then this idiot's incompetence could very well be deemed incompetence. Erring on the side of caution and calling 911 is a much better decision then practicing medicine without a license.

unblock

(52,209 posts)
52. not a doctor, but i believe you're referring to tpa, which doesn't work for hemorrhagic strokes.
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 11:18 AM
Jun 2014
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tissue_plasminogen_activator

Tissue plasminogen activator (abbreviated tPA or PLAT) is a protein involved in the breakdown of blood clots. It is a serine protease (EC 3.4.21.68) found on endothelial cells, the cells that line the blood vessels. As an enzyme, it catalyzes the conversion of plasminogen to plasmin, the major enzyme responsible for clot breakdown. Because it works on the clotting system, tPA is used in clinical medicine to treat embolic or thrombotic stroke. Use is contraindicated in hemorrhagic stroke and head trauma.

Nay

(12,051 posts)
7. The first thing I thought was: how the hell did a 22-yr-old get to be a
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 01:41 AM
Jun 2014

supervisor in a nursing home?

OH YEAH, she would be a cheap employee.

WillowTree

(5,325 posts)
8. "Wouldn't LET them call 911"?
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 01:46 AM
Jun 2014

The others who followed her instructions were at least as responsible. The man was in trouble and deteriorating and they obviously knew it. At that point, the call should have been made whether they had "permission" or not.

Warpy

(111,255 posts)
10. She was likely following written protocols
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 01:57 AM
Jun 2014

developed for seniors who were healthy enough to be living semi independently, able to drive and manage their own affairs. She had to go up the chain to get him looked at.

Written protocols are no substitute for having one educated and licensed person on staff. A 22 year old nurse would have known what was going on pretty quickly.

Shampoobra

(423 posts)
17. Exactly
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 03:21 AM
Jun 2014

Last edited Sun Jun 22, 2014, 12:51 AM - Edit history (1)

They had the opportunity to help the man and piss off an unreasonable supervisor, simply by pushing three little buttons. I can't believe the whole pack wasn't charged along with their supervisor.

alp227

(32,020 posts)
9. Having lost 2 grandparents in just 3 months, right before I turned 22,
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 01:52 AM
Jun 2014

I can't believe people like Mobley can be so cold and inhumane like this.

pnwmom

(108,977 posts)
14. Does anyone know what the protocol is if a person has a DNR?
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 03:02 AM
Jun 2014

If an ambulance had come and a DNR had been in effect, would they have still taken him to the hospital?

alfie

(522 posts)
20. DNR does not mean do not treat
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 04:04 AM
Jun 2014

Having a DNR does not mean you don't offer treatment, especially to a man able to walk to the station and complain of having pain.

pnwmom

(108,977 posts)
108. Yes, he was. It wasn't clear to me what happened after that.
Sun Jun 22, 2014, 03:05 AM
Jun 2014

Whether he went unconscious with the stroke soon afterwards.

No Vested Interest

(5,166 posts)
15. The night staff at many facilities is often smaller and less experienced.
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 03:08 AM
Jun 2014

The thinking is that most of the residents will be in bed and asleep and not much care is needed.

 

yeoman6987

(14,449 posts)
21. I am by far an expert
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 09:00 AM
Jun 2014

But it seems to me that most issues happen in the middle of the night or immediately upon waking up. I certainly could be wrong about that. It just seems that way.

the_sly_pig

(741 posts)
16. About Senior living facilities...
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 03:11 AM
Jun 2014

There are those of which I am familiar that are not allowed to touch residents even to help them up after falling.

In our area they don't employ [trained] medical staff 24 hours per day.

They rely on taxpayer funded ambulance services for routine transports to hospitals.

These companies don't mind charging resident's $4,000.00+ per month, but also rely heavily on taxpayers for actual medical and transportation needs.

Just another corporate subsidy....

Finally, nobody can be told they cannot call 911, this event is a failure on multiple levels involving multiple individuals.

steve2470

(37,457 posts)
18. maybe Ms. Mobley's superiors had given her strict orders to not call 911 ?
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 03:24 AM
Jun 2014

If so, that's piss poor medical procedure and would lead to litigation against the facility. It's hard for me to believe that she would have refused 911 all on her own authority, but I guess anything's possible. I would think an RN, even a 22 year old RN, would have called 911, orders or no orders.

Very sad.

 

Eleanors38

(18,318 posts)
19. From the article, it sounds like Mobley is changing her tune
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 03:51 AM
Jun 2014

about protocols, denying that permission was not asked, and contending it wasn't necessary. A particularly smelly blind eel has fizzed to the surface, here.

 

Triana

(22,666 posts)
22. NOBODY would ever tell ME not to call 911 in an emergency.
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 09:08 AM
Jun 2014

E V E R.

The idiot 22-year-old is mostly to blame. But someone could/should have defied her. If they were fired for doing so, it would be a good idea to SUE the damn facility owners for their deadly bullshit policies.

Fla Dem

(23,657 posts)
41. No, the real people to blame are the corporate dicks who decided it was OK to put a 22 year old
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 10:45 AM
Jun 2014

in charge of a assisted living facility. Which they probably did because they could pay her less than a more mature, better educated, more experienced professional.

madfloridian

(88,117 posts)
23. She was then promoted to exec director, same place. AJ ruled she was not qualified for position.
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 09:39 AM
Jun 2014

From an article at Channel 10 news, Tampa.

http://www.wtsp.com/story/news/local/polkcounty/2014/06/20/assisted-living-facility-employee-arrested/11202849/

"We at Grace Manor are stunned at the arrest of Ms. Mobley and the way this matter has been handled. From the beginning, we have cooperated fully with investigators over the past year and were led to believe that the matter was coming to resolution," said Sara Brady, a spokesperson for Grace Manor.

In addition to allegations that Mobley told employees not to call 911, charges which she denies, Mobley told them not to give him his prescribed medication, which she "did not have the authority to violate orders of the doctor."

Mobley has since bonded out of jail. A reporter went to her Winter Haven home in an attempt to talk to her about the charges, but was told to talk to her attorney.

Since Burrows' death in April 2013, Mobley has been promoted to executive director at Grace Manor, but the Attorney General's Office investigation found that she is not certified by the state to hold such a position
.

vankuria

(904 posts)
27. Did I read this right?
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 10:03 AM
Jun 2014

"Since the death Mobley has been promoted to executive director"...what the hell? Someone who's being investigated for the death of a resident is promoted? She should be on leave until the matter is resolved, I certainly wouldn't want her in charge of making decisions for my loved one.

Having worked in group homes, not exactly assisted living but still caring for medically frail people, even when a nurse wasn't on duty there was always an RN on call to contact with questions. Whenever we felt someone could be in trouble we never and I mean never hesitated to call 911. If there is a policy against this at the facility in question they most certainly need to be investigated

vankuria

(904 posts)
53. Ok, thanks for the clarification
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 11:28 AM
Jun 2014

this obviously must be about the worst place on the planet for taking care of seniors! To promote someone while an investigation is taking place about their questionable decisions that could've led to someone's death is morally reprehensible.

I'm wondering about the state regulations regarding assisted living in Florida, perhaps they could be that lax? I'm not a big fan of Florida, my elderly parents lived down there for about 3 yrs. and moved back. They hated the Dr.'s, medical facilities, everything. My mother told me of an experience where she called her Dr.'s, office with a question and got charged a fee.

madfloridian

(88,117 posts)
54. There are some lax regulations.
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 11:31 AM
Jun 2014

Nursing home facilities should be a priority in Florida as well as assisted living homes....but they do not seem to be.

There is a chronic shortage of beds at rehab/nursing homes....they are supposed to be fixing the problem but I doubt it with Rick Scott in charge.

sunnystarr

(2,638 posts)
73. Of course ... she must have turned 23 so time for her promotion ...
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 01:16 PM
Jun 2014

either that or she gave good bj's to the right people.

Generic Brad

(14,275 posts)
26. Her age is irrelevant here
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 09:53 AM
Jun 2014

This comes down to a combination of her qualifications and the choices she made. If she was not qualified to hold that position, then her employers also contributed to Burrows premature death.

madfloridian

(88,117 posts)
29. Attorney General said she was not qualified.
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 10:05 AM
Jun 2014

However, I do think age could matter greatly when dealing on a personal basis with the elderly. There are some at age 22 who would have empathy enough to be effective, but far too many would not. So age is not irrelevant here, not in this case.


From an article at Channel 10 news, Tampa.

http://www.wtsp.com/story/news/local/polkcounty/2014/06/20/assisted-living-facility-employee-arrested/11202849/

"We at Grace Manor are stunned at the arrest of Ms. Mobley and the way this matter has been handled. From the beginning, we have cooperated fully with investigators over the past year and were led to believe that the matter was coming to resolution," said Sara Brady, a spokesperson for Grace Manor.

In addition to allegations that Mobley told employees not to call 911, charges which she denies, Mobley told them not to give him his prescribed medication, which she "did not have the authority to violate orders of the doctor."

Mobley has since bonded out of jail. A reporter went to her Winter Haven home in an attempt to talk to her about the charges, but was told to talk to her attorney.

Since Burrows' death in April 2013, Mobley has been promoted to executive director at Grace Manor, but the Attorney General's Office investigation found that she is not certified by the state to hold such a position.

Sissyk

(12,665 posts)
85. What makes you think that far too many
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 03:33 PM
Jun 2014

22 year olds would not have empathy for the elderly?

That's some screwed up thinking there, I think.

TorchTheWitch

(11,065 posts)
111. indeed
Sun Jun 22, 2014, 04:05 AM
Jun 2014

People either have empathy or they don't. Age has nothing to do with it. I've never thought that teenagers or those in their early twenties generally didn't have empathy for the elderly and have no idea why anyone would believe that.

That kind of thinking isn't just screwed up it's ageist. I'm curious if the OP would admit that they themselves had no empathy for the elderly at the age of 22 or if they think they were one of what they believe are the magically enlightened few that did at that age.

 

bravenak

(34,648 posts)
28. I find it interesting that you focus on her age in such a negative way.
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 10:03 AM
Jun 2014

As if you think her age is the reason for this, and it seems you are broad brushing young people as irresponsible and not able to be in a position of authority. For someone who got so upset at 'ageism', one would think you would avoid engaging in it yourself.
So i guess you weren't really mad about ageism then.

madfloridian

(88,117 posts)
31. Do I need to assume you want to start this battle all over again?
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 10:17 AM
Jun 2014

I will get my "defense" post ready to repost with additions if necessary. First read the edit to the OP with the bolds to my original words.

There is not a single thing to post about here anymore without being attacked by someone for something.

madfloridian

(88,117 posts)
33. Read the OP with the bolded parts.
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 10:19 AM
Jun 2014

I will get that post ready to put in my journal with my defense against all accusations.

madfloridian

(88,117 posts)
35. And if you are going to post more about me in the AA forum, will I have the right to respond?
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 10:24 AM
Jun 2014

Just asking.

madfloridian

(88,117 posts)
37. Would you link to that post? Or do you want me to do so?
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 10:27 AM
Jun 2014

Perhaps enough is enough. There are enough quotes in that post to make my point 10 times over.

 

bravenak

(34,648 posts)
40. Which post?
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 10:39 AM
Jun 2014

They are in my journal. You can link to whatever you want to link to. If you want to discuss i can provide proof that what i was saying has been discussed in liberal circles for years.
Ta-Nehisi Coates wrote an excellent piece describing those things as have many other black liberals. And white liberals. I posted a few recently.
One was http://www.democraticunderground.com/10025072693
Then this:http://www.democraticunderground.com/10025084965
This one too:http://www.democraticunderground.com/10025084425
And here:http://www.democraticunderground.com/10025065109

madfloridian

(88,117 posts)
42. Those posts are about racism. You said I was ageist.
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 10:45 AM
Jun 2014

So post that post if you want to continue.

My recommendation is to leave it alone now.

 

bravenak

(34,648 posts)
44. You also implied i was a racist.
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 10:48 AM
Jun 2014

I found that remarkable and i wanted to figure out why my saying old and white in a sentence made so many of that description so angry. I figured it out thanks to those intelligent folks.

madfloridian

(88,117 posts)
46. If you continue I will link to your exact words.
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 10:59 AM
Jun 2014

If I have to continue to fight accusations of racism and ageism to stay at DU, then watch me. I will do so.

This is childish stuff. You know I am neither racist nor ageist. Why do you keep doing this?

madfloridian

(88,117 posts)
48. Since you have hijacked this thread to fight old battles....
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 11:04 AM
Jun 2014

should I repost the previous battles here or start a new post? Think about it before you start something.

 

bravenak

(34,648 posts)
50. Oh my, are you threatening me?
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 11:10 AM
Jun 2014

I though i was being civil. Enjoy your day.
Btw, post whatever you want to post. I wont be alert stalking you today or any other day.
I have grown a very thick skin in the past couple of weeks. Anyone can go and read any post of mine since i don't delete them. I gave my honest perspective of how i see the future and the past.
If you want to do another trash Bravenak thread, have at it. It's your world, i just live in it.

madfloridian

(88,117 posts)
63. No, bravenak, it's not my world either.
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 12:07 PM
Jun 2014

I just live in it, too.

What "trash bravenak" post are you referring to? If you want to continue this please post the link.

 

msanthrope

(37,549 posts)
78. Why wouldn't you be able to post in the AA forum? I dislike the suggestion that
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 01:59 PM
Jun 2014

the AA group does not function on the same rules as other groups.

TorchTheWitch

(11,065 posts)
112. Editing your OP doesn't help when you have
Sun Jun 22, 2014, 04:11 AM
Jun 2014

similar ageist replies in the thread. Yeah, you did claim in at least two other posts (and I haven't even read anything more past this point in the thread) where you agree that her age means she lacked empathy and where you flat out state that most people of her age have no empathy for the elderly.

I'd really like to know whether at the age of 22 you yourself had no empathy for the elderly or if you believe you were one of what you claimed were one of the very few at that age that did.

vankuria

(904 posts)
55. Regarding age
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 11:39 AM
Jun 2014

I would assume someone 22 yrs. old would not have had a lot of experience in the work world. Usually being the executive director of a facility would involve experience in a lot of different areas, such as supervisory skills, knowledge in running a facility, scheduling, crisis intervention, conflict resolution, appropriation of funds, etc., not to mention education.

Even for a very mature 22 yr. old it's hard to believe they would qualify for an executive director position.

 

bravenak

(34,648 posts)
60. Then the facility is at fault if they hired her for a position she was not qualified for.
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 11:49 AM
Jun 2014

I know 22 year olds who have finished college and are very very professional and always follow protocol. Many 22 year olds are raising multiple children and keeping them safe and well fed. I was caring for my own grandmother at that age and she died a year after i moved out of state because my aunt forgot to get her meds before she went on a turn around to Laughlin. I, as young and 'unqualified as i was, always managed to call Rite Aid and get her meds ordered and walked to pick them up.
We need to see if she followed procedure and if there was leeway in the rules for her to use her own judgement. A fifty year old may have done the same thing if the rules dictated to handle situations in that manner. There have been many incidents where the person in charge was much older and quite incompetent, and some where patients have died when they shouldn't with an older medical professional supervising.

Sissyk

(12,665 posts)
87. +100
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 03:34 PM
Jun 2014

Thanks, bravenak!

I was thinking the same thing. Heck, I even recced her thread before I really knew what the whole damn kerfuffle was about. But, now saying far too many 22 year olds don't have empathy for the elderly is wrong on so many accounts.

JI7

(89,249 posts)
96. i think Age does Matter in this case just as it did when talking about old out of touch bigots
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 08:14 PM
Jun 2014

yes, tehre are probably some 22 year olds who could do the job well but in most cases this would not be true just because experience matters a lot in some jobs. just doing the same job will give people time to face things they might not have thought of so if it happens again when they are in charge they can be prepared better.

and of course there are older people who might suck at the job . but there is nothing wrong with saying a job like this should require much more.

and the same goes for old out of touch bigots . there is nothing wrong with pointing out that those in certain generations do tend to have certain views more than others. this doesn't mean every single one of them does or that there aren't younger ones with horrible views.

i get your point with the response though.

avebury

(10,952 posts)
38. No offense but how on earth does a 22 year old
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 10:31 AM
Jun 2014

become Executive Director of an Assisted Living Facility? And why on earth would they even ask for permission to call 911? A total failure by the facility's ownership, this woman and the entire staff. I see an expensive law suit in their future. That facility needs to be thoroughly investigated with the potential to lose it's license. I wonder what other sh*t has been going on that has not been reported.

I would be concerned about leaving a relative in their hands.

I went back and read an earlier post and saw that the woman was promoted to Executive Director after the patient's death? That is totally unbelievable. I would vote to shut this place down.

BuelahWitch

(9,083 posts)
64. Probably because they don't have to pay her as much
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 12:19 PM
Jun 2014

Especially if she does not have any advanced degrees.

What gets me is she was *promoted* after the man died. She should have been dismissed.

madfloridian

(88,117 posts)
76. Yep, promoting her was the shocker.
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 01:55 PM
Jun 2014

While they were being investigated for her actions, they promoted her to exec director.

madfloridian

(88,117 posts)
43. Now Bay New 9 covering it. Making good points.
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 10:46 AM
Jun 2014
Director facing charges after senior neglected at assisted living facility

In an arrest report investigators said last April, Burrows complained to staff about stabbing pain in his eye. Witnesses said Mobley wouldn’t give approval to have Burrows taken to the hospital, even after the 80-year-old’s condition worsened.

Staff members told investigators it was their policy to get permission from Mobley before calling 911. Eventually, they told investigators they disobeyed those orders and made the call but it was too late.

...Documents show Mobley was actually promoted to the executive director position after the incident last year. Those reports also say Mobley doesn’t have the certifications for that position, but the assisted living facility seems to be standing behind Mobley.

The facility released this statement: “We believe the court will agree with us that the allegations against Ms. Mobley are without merit.”

Meanwhile family and friends of the 80-year-old devoted family man and reverend say they’ll continue to remember his love for people and ministry.


 

Timez Squarez

(262 posts)
82. The judge should take a long look at her, ask her for her qualifications, degrees and certificates.
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 03:15 PM
Jun 2014

When she cannot produce a damn thing, the judge should order Grace Mansion to dismiss with extreme prejudice Mobley without any chance of getting a damn dime, and should be suing her for the death of Burrows.

Stainless

(718 posts)
45. She has that 'deer in the headlights' look
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 10:58 AM
Jun 2014

I find it particularly disturbing that the aging population is doomed to suffer at the hands of under qualified medical charlatans such as this young woman who used extremely poor judgment and had way too much authority.

There are also some comments on this thread that show appalling ignorance about maturity and age. I will do some further research and perhaps write about it.

Harmony Blue

(3,978 posts)
49. Age is relevant because lack of experience
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 11:10 AM
Jun 2014

and ability to think through complex problems does matter if you are in charge. Most human beings don't fully mature their brains well into their mid 20's-early 30's. I work with a lot of young teenagers and young 20 year olds at my other job and I can say that they are capable of brilliance at times, but they still do need guidance.

TBF

(32,056 posts)
59. I'd agree that lack of experience is the
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 11:45 AM
Jun 2014

biggest issue. There are very talented hard working teens and young adults out there. But to be put in charge of a facility like this really speaks to the person who put her in that role. That should be an accessory to negligent homicide charge imo.

TBF

(32,056 posts)
56. It is crazy in that area -
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 11:40 AM
Jun 2014

had a family member down there in a Morton Plant hospital.

It is all such a racket. Granted that people get old and they do die (and sometimes there are several causes of death with organs just shutting down) - but it seems like some of these caretakers (anyone from home health aids to social workers to doctors) develop a very cavalier attitude. This example of course is an extreme - and I would like to see a charge of negligent homicide.

jwirr

(39,215 posts)
58. The owners are definitely at fault for not giving her permission to call but I honestly do not think
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 11:43 AM
Jun 2014

that whoever is left in charge should need permission for that. I would be curious to know why she did not call when they finally did give permission? I wonder what the state rules and regs are for this type of housing are? Each state has their own rules and that should determine who gets promoted. I wonder if the name indicates that this is a church run home?

madfloridian

(88,117 posts)
62. The staff did finally call before they really got permission.
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 12:04 PM
Jun 2014

That's the way I understand it. They called anyway. There are many ads locally promoting the Grace Manors here, and they refer to the fact that their church refers people there. I believe the one on Lake Hunter used to be for retired ministers...not sure now. I do think there is/was a church connection.

jwirr

(39,215 posts)
65. I assumed it from the word Grace. All states have been moving the elderly and those with disability
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 12:21 PM
Jun 2014

out of very expensive nursing homes and institutions to cheaper community housing that is often privately owned. The problems start when the states also give up the right to make and enforce rules regulating these smaller facilities.

In MN this would include licensing the facility, setting staff requirements and pay levels, etc. The facility my daughter is in is such a situation. The county social worker is required to visit the home 2 times a year and also receives full reports 2 other times. The state has a pay scale and a continuing education program for both the owners and staff. It works very well.

ancianita

(36,053 posts)
61. Administrative leave? Wow. She must know someone. She should be fired.
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 12:01 PM
Jun 2014

I would never stay in a facility run by anyone under 40. Only those nearest in age to those needing help are sensitive enough to listen to and care for anyone who's not their family.

Care is a personal and professional ethic. Standards of care should be nationalized. Neglect should be subject to immediate dismissal.

dilby

(2,273 posts)
66. Here is the problem, people use these places as stepping stones.
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 12:31 PM
Jun 2014

They pay crap and mostly get people right out of nursing school, as soon as the person has experience they are out. Plus people who are in their 40's lack the ability to do the physical stuff required by these jobs, there is a lot of lifting and physical work needed. Until these facilities pay their employees as much as a hospital no one will stay in them longer than they have too.

ancianita

(36,053 posts)
95. Don't I know it! Parasitic, incompetent bureaucrats with grinchy hearts who I'll never expose my
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 08:06 PM
Jun 2014

precious last days to. As for the heavy lifting part, there are orderlies for that. No one like her should be allowed near any old age care facility.

dilby

(2,273 posts)
97. Most of the women I talk to who work as CNA's
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 08:23 PM
Jun 2014

in assisted living facilities have to do the lifting, their shoulders, backs and wrists are all messed up. The facilities don't spend the extra money on getting orderlies.

When I retire I am going to do it in Thailand, currently you can get an assisted living place there for under $400 a month and they don't call it Assisted living they call it the Privilege Living. It's pretty sad when you can live out your days in a tropical environment being treated kindly and with respect at a 10th of what it costs to do it here in the States. I also looked at India which has some really beautiful facilities, the British have been retiring there for over a 100 years and it's cheaper than Thailand but I like the beaches in Thailand.

vankuria

(904 posts)
104. I would think
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 10:42 PM
Jun 2014

the supervisory staff would not be the one's doing the hands on work and in particular the executive director which Ms. Mobley was promoted too.

Karia

(176 posts)
68. A supervisor should have the experience and the confidence to buck protocols
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 12:37 PM
Jun 2014

I knew someone who was promoted to supervisor when she was an RN with a Bachelor's degree and about 20 years of experience in ER, ICU, Cardiac ward, and nursing home care. She also had years of teaching/training experience. Whenever a patient was sent to a hospital it cost her facility money (they had to hold the bed for a certain period of time but could not collect for the patient's care), so she had to justify it to her superiors. BUT she had the expertise and experience to know what to do. She also trained her staff to know when to call 911 on their own.

There were times when she bucked the business's protocols, and I suspect she resented having to explain herself to superiors whose expertise was finance and not medicine, but she was passionate about her job and put patients first.

Response to madfloridian (Original post)

d_r

(6,907 posts)
80. That doesn't make sense
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 03:03 PM
Jun 2014

at all.

How does someone with a nursing assistant certificate become "executive director" a senior center at age 22? Is it that they are so unwilling to pay a competent, experienced administrator that they hired an inexperienced person? How in the world could she get a job like that?

Response to d_r (Reply #80)

alp227

(32,020 posts)
100. Message now hidden.
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 09:21 PM
Jun 2014

But interesting jury...

Juror #1 voted to HIDE IT
Explanation: Oh barf. Hide it.
Juror #2 voted to HIDE IT
Explanation: Agree with the alerter, inappropriate and sexist assumption.
Juror #3 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE
Explanation: No explanation given
Juror #4 voted to HIDE IT
Explanation: No explanation given
Juror #5 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE
Explanation: No explanation given
Juror #6 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE
Explanation: I see NO misogyny, it appears to be an overeager alerter who is probably didn't read the thread. The post to which this one is an answer asks how a clearly incompetent person that age got that level of supervisory job. "sleeping with the boss" is certainly one possible explanation. Maybe the sarcasm icon should have been used, but I understood the reply without it. Anyway, there's no shortage of people who get their job because of who they sleep with. That's not misogynistic, that's fact, regardless of gender.
Juror #7 voted to HIDE IT
Explanation: The speculation had no evidence base, and is demeaning to women, young people in general, and especially young women.

Skittles

(153,160 posts)
105. it wasn't me who alerted
Sun Jun 22, 2014, 02:31 AM
Jun 2014

I said WTF in hopes of getting them to explain further, but Juror # 6 has their head up their ass - it is simply not fair to surmise this gal got her job via sex - Juror # 7 gets it right - no evidence of that

Skittles

(153,160 posts)
113. I think the real problem with the post is it was offered as THE reason
Sun Jun 22, 2014, 04:14 AM
Jun 2014

as if there was on other possible way a young gal could be in a position of authority (when I was 22, I was a sergeant)

Sissyk

(12,665 posts)
84. Yes, it looks as if she is incompetent.
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 03:24 PM
Jun 2014

But it doesn't have anything to do with her age or not having a degree.

Let's see what happens in court.

EDITED TO ADD: I'm sorry for the man's family. And, I regret I didn't note that before the edit as this should be what the story is about.

madfloridian

(88,117 posts)
89. Actually in dealing with the elderly and ill...qualifications do matter.
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 03:43 PM
Jun 2014

As I said in the OP which I edited because of the now attacks on me......a person that young with poor judgement should not be in that position.

As to degree, I do think that it is important to have the proper education to be executive director of a facility like that.

I never cease to be stunned here lately at the way posts are interpreted.

It's like.....well let's see how I can demean this post and this poster with stuff I know they are not saying.

But yes, the elderly are important. They count. And those put in charge of them should be qualified.

Sissyk

(12,665 posts)
90. I haven't seen anyone attacking you. I've seen people
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 04:06 PM
Jun 2014

discussing things with you. That is why you posted this, right? For discussion?

You said earlier, way too many that age do not have empathy for the elderly. I think you are wrong. Empathy is usually not something you grow into. You have it, or not. And the majority of young adults I know, have it. I'm sorry if you are around young adults that do not.

Of course the elderly matter. I took care of one from 19 to 24. Not because I had to, but because I wanted to. I didn't have a degree in the elderly either. A degree does not teach you empathy. And, in her position, she was not treating the elderly. She was following directions from the degreed higher ups. Why do you think they are standing behind her? I think because she was following her job description that they wrote for her.

Again, I don't see anyone demeaning you. I just see me, and others, discussing with you.

Sissyk

(12,665 posts)
88. No more than is going on in all the others.
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 03:42 PM
Jun 2014

Florida just gets pointed out here more.

What state do you live in so I can look up some stories for you?

jwirr

(39,215 posts)
94. I cannot believe you are saying that all other states would allow this kind of violation of rules
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 05:54 PM
Jun 2014

and regulations. I live in Minnesota. And since I have worked as a social worker inspecting facilities for both the elderly and the developmentally disabled I know that young lady would never have been promoted to the level she was in here.

 

cali

(114,904 posts)
101. Sorry, FLorida does have more it than many other states and
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 09:22 PM
Jun 2014

it's very unlikely you'll be able to dig something up as insane as happens regularly in Florida due to shit repuke governance, in Vermont.

yellerpup

(12,253 posts)
91. My former mother-in-law (a sweetheart)
Sat Jun 21, 2014, 04:14 PM
Jun 2014

had a stroke and laid in her nursing home bed for 11 hours before an ambulance was called. She had a stroke during the night and when they checked on her the next morning she was too weak to swallow. They wrote her up for refusing to take her meds. No one called the family during that time. Her son arrived at the nursing home on a regular visit and called for an ambulance. She survived the stroke and the pneumonia that developed later (in a hospital). Later, the nursing home's explanation was that she had signed a DNR order when she checked in and they were following her orders. She lived another 18 months in appalling condition. Sad. She truly suffered.

Also, neither age nor training impacted her outcome. It all had to do with insurance and law.

aint_no_life_nowhere

(21,925 posts)
110. I discovered that nursing homes are absolute hell holes
Sun Jun 22, 2014, 03:27 AM
Jun 2014

My mother who's in her 90s got pneumonia two years ago and after a hospital stay, her doctor asked her to go to a supposedly reputable nursing home for two weeks of supervised recuperation. I imposed one condition: that I be allowed to go with her 24 hours a day and sleep next to her at night in a chair. The nursing home reluctantly agreed and needed the business. I therefore got a detailed inside look as to what takes place in such a place. It was appalling and very sad. And this was a well-advertised and promoted facility located not far from the beach in California. Two days after my mother arrived, half the patients caught a bad stomach flu that caused vomiting and diarrhea and my mother was placed on a liquid diet for three days. The CNAs came down with the same ailment and at night there was virtually no staff. My mother spent 6 hours in her urine and feces because the facility didn't hire fill-ins for their sick nursing assistants. I pleaded with the night nurse to clean my mother but she refused. I discovered that contrary to the way things work in hospitals, where nurses and even the wing's charge nurse get involved in every task when they are short-handed, the policy in nursing homes is that the nurse only dispenses medication and supervises but does not touch the patient's body. I wanted to clean her myself but I was prevented from touching my mom by the nurse because the facility's insurance prevented any non-personnel from doing anything with patients.

My mother's doctor wanted her to have physical therapy in the nursing home. Physical therapy was 15 minutes twice a week, with a therapist who thought of herself as a stand up comedian and never stopped telling jokes to her entourage of friends who followed her around. She did virtually nothing with my mother except crack jokes.

The doctor ordered an inflatable mattress for my mother because of her bed sores. That mattress stayed for 10 days in a corner of the room while daily I pleaded with the nurses and the administrators to set it up.

The nursing home decided to clean the curtains around my mother's bed and took them down. Unfortunately, there was an extremely bright light from the hallway that was on 24 hours a day and the nursing home's policy would not allow me to close my mother's room door. It took the facility one week to bring back the curtains and so my mom had a bright light shining in her eyes the whole time. I would move my mom's bed sideways so she didn't face the light. Every time I left to go home to take a shower or go eat, the nurse moved the bed back. I went ballistic with the administrators, who told me that policy required aligned beds in every room.

After two weeks, I had eight pages of notes about what terrible things I saw in that place. The floors were almost never cleaned and the cleaning workers told me it was typical, because the administrators at these types of facilities are always under-staffed. The nursing home was required to post a book containing a compilation of government regulation violations for the public to see. I found it located behind a post near the lobby. It was extremely thick, containing violation after violation. The facility had a government rating of "1" on a scale of 5. I was told by one of the CNAs that this was typical and that this facility was better than most. From the outside it looked pretty nice.

Among the dozens and dozens of outrageous failures I wrote about in my notes was how my mother was treated when she checked out. She still suffered from dangerously low blood pressure when she left for home and her doctor ordered a prescription of blood pressure raising medication. The nurse asked me what pharmacy I wanted to use and faxed a copy to Walgreen's. At the time I wasn't aware that Walgreen's didn't accept military veteran's Tricare insurance. When Walgreen's told me they couldn't fill the prescription they said they couldn't give me a copy of the prescription directed to them (to go to another pharmacy) and suggested I drive back to the nursing home to get another prescription. When I went back to the nursing home minutes later, the nurse said my mother's file had been sent to storage and nursing home policy didn't allow it to be retrieved to obtain another copy of the prescription for any reason. She basically said to "fuck off" even though my mother needed this medication desperately. It was a week-end and I had to track down my mom's doctor in his home to write me another prescription.

I resolved that I will never go to a nursing home. If I get real old and sick, I'll find a cabin up in the mountains and die in peace, as far away from assholes in the nursing home field as I can get.

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