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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsEncountered a situation today that made me sad, but I don't know how to resolve in my mind.
I was getting my hair cut when a blind woman came in with her service dog.
The lady that cuts my hair is a HUGE animal lover, actively involved with rescue work, etc.
When the woman and her service dog came in she gave a low groan, and proceeded to tell me that the woman DID NOT LIKE her service dog. Not because the dog didn't do his duty, but because he was too big, and too hairy and a male. Apparently, she never gives the dog any approval or affection (this proved to be true from what I observed from the time she was there).
The dog has really long, thick fur and it was visibly matted and dirty.
My hairdresser said it had been much worse in the past, until she confronted the woman about it.
She said, "Well, I CAN'T SEE!"
My hairdresser responded, "Well don't you ever touch him?"
"No! Not if I can avoid it!"
"How can you tell if he's OK?"
"If something was really wrong I'd be able to tell!"
She refuses to return him to the guide dog service because that would mean another long wait for a dog.
In the meantime, the dog seemed to be doing his job, but just looked, well depressed.
I don't want to sit in judgment of someone with a major handicap, but jeez!
This dog hasn't FAILED in any way, and he's going to live his whole life with no love or affection.
It just really bummed me out.
hobbit709
(41,694 posts)Coventina
(27,172 posts)He looked well fed, and had no obvious medical issues.
hobbit709
(41,694 posts)I believe you have to sign an agreement with them to get the dog that probably spells out some things the owner has to do.
LiberalAndProud
(12,799 posts)not to mention terrible discomfort for the animal. Yes, if the grooming issue is dire enough, they will intervene.
gateley
(62,683 posts)Maybe they can match her with a friend she can bond with. They'd both be happier.
And OP, I hear ya. It would be eating me up, too. You may have to deal with some bureaucratic bullshit, but it would be worth it. Good luck! And thanks for caring. *hug*
Erich Bloodaxe BSN
(14,733 posts)Or some other place that does dog grooming/bathing?
Coventina
(27,172 posts)Which is LITERALLY next door, in the strip mall, to a Petsmart!
But, yeah, what you suggested is exactly what my hairdresser offered, and the lady got pretty nasty with her and said she didn't need any help.
Shankapotomus
(4,840 posts)and won't accept outsiders coming in with help for or to give attention to the dog to make his life just a little bit better?
Seems to me there's only one thing to do.
Steal the dog and replace it with a Roomba.
A HERETIC I AM
(24,379 posts)Too funny
Salviati
(6,008 posts)Give that woman 2-Billion dollar$ and she's
Donald Sterling.
Most billionaires are on some level, as psycho as that woman.
But they are
insulated and reinforced by their vast fortune$.
So The Public does not suspect the hideous truth that hides
behind-the-cash.
redqueen
(115,103 posts)People with disabilities don't get a pass to be assholes to the animals who are dependent on them.
I agree with the above poster. The people who raise those dogs don't spend all that time and effort in order to hand them over to someone who'll neglect them. Definitely let them know.
Coventina
(27,172 posts)If she doesn't know, she can probably find out and tell me.
And then I'll contact them!
I suppose the worst thing they can do is tell me that they don't listen to tattle-tales.
redqueen
(115,103 posts)The poor dog deserves better, that's for sure.
CBGLuthier
(12,723 posts)They are quite capable of being as wrong and bad as anyone else. You should indeed sit in judgement of this woman and her blindness is no excuse.
Coventina
(27,172 posts)I just have a hard time wrapping my head around it.
I mean, if I had another being devoting their ENTIRE LIFE to making my life easier, I would think that love would come naturally.
Granted, I love animals already, so any animal that crosses my path gets love, but jeez!
I just don't understand it....
LittleGirl
(8,291 posts)thanks for stating the obvious that sometimes isn't. Perfect.
FailureToCommunicate
(14,022 posts)(And I know what I am talking about)
nikto
(3,284 posts)Society needs to recognize that fact, too.
Or if you prefer, "say what?"
La Lioness Priyanka
(53,866 posts)that helps you get through life. esp if the dislike is around things like being male or large.
now, if he was like bailey and peed and pooped in protest, that would be another thing
Divernan
(15,480 posts)Suggest they either take the dog away, or pay to have someone groom the dog once a week. And get grumpy blind lady into much needed therapy.
Duppers
(28,127 posts)She needs a good lecture and her dog NEEDS grooming and affection - it'd not only make him happy, it'd extend his life! Even if I had to pay for his grooming and visit her occasionally to love on her dog.
And, as hobbit709 said, I'd also contact the guide dog service just in case they could do something. No dog should suffer emotional isolation, especially not a sensitive, trained one.
Of course, I'm confrontational when it comes to protecting the under-dog of any species. Done it many times.
Thanks for posting this and hugs to you for your compassionate, sensitive heart.
Divernan
(15,480 posts)What this blind jerk is doing is Abuse!
savannah43
(575 posts)impunity. Someone turn her in to the ASPCA and let her exchange the dog for a human assistant who won't take her abuse. Then, let us know what happens.
Spitfire of ATJ
(32,723 posts)avebury
(10,952 posts)got the guide dog you should consider calling animal control and reporting her. What she is doing is neglect and being blind is no excuse. Lack of grooming, particularly on long haired dogs can cause a lot of health problems.
BlancheSplanchnik
(20,219 posts)Guide Dogs For The Blind is the main organization, I think.
That poor puppy.
I work with Deaf people, and sometimes Deaf/Blind people. There are great people, average ones and some real dickweeds out there. There are people who hate the whole world because they're consumed with resentment.
I also once caught a quadriplegic person stealing from vendors at a carnival, and then she AND her husband went ballistic for being confronted.
Jerkism is an equal opportunity affliction.
QuestForSense
(653 posts)I'm not sure it's possible to each someone-who-isn't-giving about giving-as-good-as-they're-getting, but there must be someone from the agency that places the dogs who might be able to help the woman have a more productive relationship with her dog. I'm shocked no one picked up on this when they were placing the dog. The bond is the most essential factor of all.
Coventina
(27,172 posts)I confess that I don't know a lot about how it was done, but I give money to a "dogs for the deaf" charity and they always talk about how the process of getting a good match is so important.
It kind of boggles my mind how this could have happened unless the woman put on a big act that she was so happy to get the dog and didn't say anything about wanting a smaller, short-haired female.
Dyedinthewoolliberal
(15,590 posts)'none of my business' thing. It's too bad I agree but what really can be done?
840high
(17,196 posts)Takket
(21,629 posts)if she doesn't keep the dog groomed he's going to get fleas eventually and by the time this woman figures it out, the infestation is going to be all over her house.
savannah43
(575 posts)niyad
(113,581 posts)exactly where this poor, abused (yes, it is abuse to hate and not properly care for your companion) dog came from.
the woman is lucky it wasn't me sitting there, because she would have gotten more than an earful. having a disability does NOT excuse a person being an insufferable, hateful, cruel person.