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RKP5637

(67,111 posts)
Mon Sep 8, 2014, 01:33 PM Sep 2014

Ninety-year-old gay couple marries in Iowa after 72 years together

Beautiful!

http://www.theguardian.com/world/2014/sep/08/ninety-year-old-gay-couple-marries-in-iowa?google_editors_picks=true




More than seven decades after beginning their relationship, Vivian Boyack and Alice “Nonie” Dubes got married.

Boyack, 91, and Dubes, 90, sat next to each other during Saturday’s ceremony, the Quad City Times reports.

“This is a celebration of something that should have happened a very long time ago,” the Rev Linda Hunsaker told the small group of close friends and family who attended.

The women met in their hometown of Yale, Iowa, while growing up. Then they moved to Davenport in 1947 where Boyack taught school and Dubes did payroll work.

Dubes said the two have enjoyed their life together and over the years they have traveled to all 50 states, all the provinces of Canada, and to England twice.

“We’ve had a good time,” Dubes said.

Boyack said it takes a lot of love and work to keep a relationship going for 72 years.
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Ninety-year-old gay couple marries in Iowa after 72 years together (Original Post) RKP5637 Sep 2014 OP
wpw! xchrom Sep 2014 #1
it's a beautiful strawberries Sep 2014 #35
Aww, that's sweet. hifiguy Sep 2014 #2
Wow! BrotherIvan Sep 2014 #3
That brought tears to my eyes. Joyous ones! William769 Sep 2014 #4
You're welcome, William! RKP5637 Sep 2014 #6
Good to see you too! William769 Sep 2014 #8
... RKP5637 Sep 2014 #12
I Love it..."We've had a good time" joeybee12 Sep 2014 #5
That's amazing. Codeine Sep 2014 #7
How wonderful! uppityperson Sep 2014 #9
Yale, Iowa. Population 243. progressoid Sep 2014 #10
Doesn't surprise this Iowan who knows that Skidmore Sep 2014 #36
Nor this Iowan! progressoid Sep 2014 #43
Great! Congratulations to them! n/t BeeBee Sep 2014 #11
This is so awesome! PearliePoo2 Sep 2014 #13
How wonderful for them azurnoir Sep 2014 #14
Absolutely cool! SpankMe Sep 2014 #15
Beautiful ! mahannah Sep 2014 #16
Woohoo!! TheVisitor Sep 2014 #17
This story 100% provided my warm fuzzy for the day...thanks n/t Sheepshank Sep 2014 #18
72 years together sort of blows my mind... SMC22307 Sep 2014 #19
Yeah that's truly amazing! Initech Sep 2014 #20
Cheers to you as well! (n/t) SMC22307 Sep 2014 #21
I know -- this is so amazing on so many levels!! nt LisaLynne Sep 2014 #22
Some in my family have made it to the Golden Anniversary... SMC22307 Sep 2014 #25
Joy! Joy! Joy! Raster Sep 2014 #23
Oh Goodness I Love This! redstatebluegirl Sep 2014 #24
How wonderful for them. GentryDixon Sep 2014 #26
Awesome Lithos Sep 2014 #27
yep NJCher Sep 2014 #30
k&r. Thanks for posting. nm rhett o rick Sep 2014 #28
K&R Sissyk Sep 2014 #29
LOVE. theHandpuppet Sep 2014 #31
I'd love it if they'd consider writing a book theHandpuppet Sep 2014 #32
It'll never last. eggplant Sep 2014 #33
Here’s hoping left is right Sep 2014 #34
I think of how many millions of people are afraid of these ladies. lpbk2713 Sep 2014 #37
Yep, they're out to destroy millions upon millions upon millions of straight marriages, RKP5637 Sep 2014 #39
Youthful indiscretion, they will grow out of it. AngryAmish Sep 2014 #38
I love this story!! loyalsister Sep 2014 #40
awwwwwwwwwwwww Marrah_G Sep 2014 #41
Awww! This is so sweet! smirkymonkey Sep 2014 #42
They've been together more than twice as long as I've been alive. nomorenomore08 Sep 2014 #44
Have to post this again.... Spitfire of ATJ Sep 2014 #45
... RKP5637 Sep 2014 #49
Friends of my mom's for 30+ years getting old in mke Sep 2014 #46
Huge K & R !!! WillyT Sep 2014 #47
What a fantastic thing! jen63 Sep 2014 #48
Thank you for sharing this! RKP5637 Sep 2014 #50
You are quite welcome! jen63 Sep 2014 #51
I often think many people never quite understand just now many LGBT people there are, just RKP5637 Sep 2014 #52
This is what opponents of marriage equality have been fighting. Orsino Sep 2014 #53
Truth Matters in Marriage of Elderly Women. lamont753 Sep 2014 #54
Thank you! RKP5637 Sep 2014 #55

BrotherIvan

(9,126 posts)
3. Wow!
Mon Sep 8, 2014, 01:40 PM
Sep 2014

That is a marriage to look up to, two people loving and supporting each other through life. So amazing that they finally get to share it officially to the world!

uppityperson

(115,677 posts)
9. How wonderful!
Mon Sep 8, 2014, 01:48 PM
Sep 2014

Shove this in the faces of those who are worried marriage equality will threaten "real marriage". Congratulations to these women.

progressoid

(49,991 posts)
10. Yale, Iowa. Population 243.
Mon Sep 8, 2014, 01:49 PM
Sep 2014

Imagine that. Teh gay agenda even got to a little town in Iowa 8 decades ago.

The force is powerful with teh gays.

progressoid

(49,991 posts)
43. Nor this Iowan!
Mon Sep 8, 2014, 10:02 PM
Sep 2014

Although there is a certain segment of Iowa that routinely embarrasses us.
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(Steve King)

SpankMe

(2,957 posts)
15. Absolutely cool!
Mon Sep 8, 2014, 02:33 PM
Sep 2014

Rec to the 100th power. What a life they've had (so far...).

72 years? And neither Iowa - nor America - imploded. More evidence that the right wing is just plain wrong about this issue.

Lithos

(26,403 posts)
27. Awesome
Mon Sep 8, 2014, 04:34 PM
Sep 2014

In a fair world, they should be having their Diamond Anniversary in 3 years with lots of cake and balloons.

L-

NJCher

(35,685 posts)
30. yep
Mon Sep 8, 2014, 05:17 PM
Sep 2014

I was thinking the same thing.

But I am happy they are getting what they want and deserve after all these years.

Did anyone notice how much they look alike? They say the longer two people stay together, the more they look like each other. Never thought this was true, but hmmm.


Cher

RKP5637

(67,111 posts)
39. Yep, they're out to destroy millions upon millions upon millions of straight marriages,
Mon Sep 8, 2014, 07:52 PM
Sep 2014

turn ALL of their children LGBT, and institute an LGBT run country. One has to be careful of these crafty older people posing as innocents pushing the "Gay Agenda" (whatever that is supposed to be.)!

loyalsister

(13,390 posts)
40. I love this story!!
Mon Sep 8, 2014, 08:16 PM
Sep 2014

I recently heard someone who works in the county clerk's office talk about enjoying the history. What a pleasure it must be to be a part of this history. I envy all of the people who dealt with the paperwork to make this happen!

nomorenomore08

(13,324 posts)
44. They've been together more than twice as long as I've been alive.
Tue Sep 9, 2014, 06:23 AM
Sep 2014

Saying their bond isn't just as strong as any "official" marriage would be absurd.

getting old in mke

(813 posts)
46. Friends of my mom's for 30+ years
Tue Sep 9, 2014, 03:41 PM
Sep 2014

and always sent birthday cards to our kids when little. A wonderful, wonderful couple.

jen63

(813 posts)
48. What a fantastic thing!
Tue Sep 9, 2014, 05:07 PM
Sep 2014

I had a great aunt who died about ten years ago at the age of 100, and had a "live in roommate" for decades. We all knew that they were lesbians, but since aunt TeTe never brought the word up, we respected that. She was of the Victorian era after all. They were completely devoted to each other. When Gladys got too much to handle for my elderly aunt, she had to put her in a nursing home. I'm sure it killed her to do it, but she sat with Gladys all day, every day. If only some heterosexuals could take a play from that book, we'd all be a lot better off. She was heartbroken when Gladys finally died. Great ladies!

jen63

(813 posts)
51. You are quite welcome!
Tue Sep 9, 2014, 05:23 PM
Sep 2014

I think the RWNJs think this is a new phenomenon, but it is as old as time itself. The family knew, but no one had a problem with it. You love who you love! Twenty years after Gladys died, aunt TeTe was still telling "Gladys stories". The same as any heterosexual person who has lost a loved one. I think she would be amazed at the way this country is embracing same sex marriage, though I don't know that with her upbringing if she would've taken advantage of it, if it was offered to her. Maybe I'm under estimating her though. I'd like to think she would have.

RKP5637

(67,111 posts)
52. I often think many people never quite understand just now many LGBT people there are, just
Tue Sep 9, 2014, 06:05 PM
Sep 2014

millions upon millions upon millions. It's great that it has become more out in the open! I'm absolutely amazed there is marriage now. I think many people are now more understanding once they started realizing LGBT people are just like them, same struggles in life, happiness and goals.

lamont753

(2 posts)
54. Truth Matters in Marriage of Elderly Women.
Thu Sep 11, 2014, 11:33 AM
Sep 2014

Proof that contrary to what hateful people say,things like being Gay is a sexual anomaly, this has nothing to do with sex. It has everything to do with love. I wish them Peace and Happiness. BTW I am not gay, but I defend, and demand their rights and respect, with the same passion that I defend, and demand my own as a Afro American Male.

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