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mia

(8,361 posts)
Sun Sep 21, 2014, 05:16 PM Sep 2014

What happens to your email account after you die?

We log into our email, social media and bank accounts, perhaps dozens of times a day, without thinking about how effortlessly we manage our lives online. But have you ever thought about what happens to these accounts when you die?

Donna Johnson, 43, and her family found out how frustrating it can be to gain access to a loved one’s digital accounts when her father, Ray Johnson, passed away unexpectedly in January 2010. Not having the password to her father’s email account turned an already difficult time into a financial nightmare. Her mother, Claudia Johnson, 67, tried to guess the password to her husband’s email, without any luck, and the company wouldn’t reset the password or grant her access, saying their user agreement terminated upon the account holder’s death....

Johnson didn’t want anyone to have to go through for her what her mother did when her father died.

“In my will, I put down all of my main accounts, my email account, my photo accounts, my Facebook account, anything like that,” she says. “I listed what my login and what my password were and that those would be provided to the executor of my estate just so in case anything happened to me, they could go in, they could get anything they needed before anything was shut down.”



http://finance.yahoo.com/news/what-happens-to-your-email-account-after-you-die-160820508.html

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What happens to your email account after you die? (Original Post) mia Sep 2014 OP
Great idea yeoman6987 Sep 2014 #1
This is good advice but of course passwords must be updated. spooky3 Sep 2014 #2
good advice NJCher Sep 2014 #3
I am thinking it just fills up and maxes out liberal N proud Sep 2014 #4
Mine is going straight to hell. BlueJazz Sep 2014 #5
get letters testamentary treestar Sep 2014 #6
http://www.deadmansswitch.net/ Ms. Toad Sep 2014 #7
Everything is on a DVD,with my will.. HipChick Sep 2014 #8
That's good but maybe a flash drive is better. cui bono Sep 2014 #9
I don't do social media, I don't shop on line Demeter Sep 2014 #10
I treat all email as if it is being read Skittles Sep 2014 #16
I suggest a book Sherman A1 Sep 2014 #11
K & R malaise Sep 2014 #12
I'm in the process of updating my will, and I'll make sure this is covered in some way. SheilaT Sep 2014 #13
when my daughter died in 2001 barbtries Sep 2014 #14
Flash drives aka thumb drives work great. lovemydog Sep 2014 #15
My employer expects me to check my emails after I am dead. Yavin4 Sep 2014 #17
LOL. Just like my last job. It would be funny if it weren't so true. crazylikafox Sep 2014 #19
A web-based password vault would work for this Texano78704 Sep 2014 #18
My father died in 2012. cwydro Sep 2014 #20
When my father died a few years back Dr Hobbitstein Sep 2014 #21
Not trusting technology entirely, HeiressofBickworth Sep 2014 #22
Spouse has access to my password application. politicat Sep 2014 #23
I included all my passwords to my brother; greiner3 Sep 2014 #24
 

yeoman6987

(14,449 posts)
1. Great idea
Sun Sep 21, 2014, 05:27 PM
Sep 2014

I would add ITunes, Amazon Instant Videos purchased, e-books, etc. we certainly live in a different world where information on the web may have to be settled.

spooky3

(34,466 posts)
2. This is good advice but of course passwords must be updated.
Sun Sep 21, 2014, 05:31 PM
Sep 2014

So one needs to stay on top of this.

NJCher

(35,709 posts)
3. good advice
Sun Sep 21, 2014, 05:50 PM
Sep 2014

Anyone who has been a power of attorney or trustee will tell you what a nightmare this job is. E-mail and all the rest just adds an additional layer of red tape to deal with.


Cher

liberal N proud

(60,339 posts)
4. I am thinking it just fills up and maxes out
Sun Sep 21, 2014, 06:11 PM
Sep 2014

When the junk mail can no longer be received, it will stop. That will teach those SOB's sending me all that trash.



treestar

(82,383 posts)
6. get letters testamentary
Sun Sep 21, 2014, 06:15 PM
Sep 2014

if the person has a will, the executor can deal with all entities once they get the letters issued.

If not, someone opens the estate and gets appointed as representative.

Then you can step in the shoes of the person and deal with them yourself.

cui bono

(19,926 posts)
9. That's good but maybe a flash drive is better.
Sun Sep 21, 2014, 07:16 PM
Sep 2014

Then you can update account/password changes regularly.

 

Demeter

(85,373 posts)
10. I don't do social media, I don't shop on line
Sun Sep 21, 2014, 07:18 PM
Sep 2014

email is for instant communication. It's totally insecure and potentially unreliable. The NSA can walk through it like gangbusters.

Anybody want to see my condo board emails or spam file? I'll leave you my password.

Sherman A1

(38,958 posts)
11. I suggest a book
Sun Sep 21, 2014, 07:19 PM
Sep 2014

"Before It's Too Late" by oishi - thompson. Helps you organize pretty much everything. As for the electronic part of life, I have set up a separate file with accounts and passwords using a business card file, so that I can add them, delete them and change as needed.

 

SheilaT

(23,156 posts)
13. I'm in the process of updating my will, and I'll make sure this is covered in some way.
Sun Sep 21, 2014, 07:33 PM
Sep 2014

I have a file that has all of my passwords in it, but I need to update individual passwords every so often, so I can't just print it out one time and be done forever.

It's a real nuisance, even though I generally have pretty secure passwords.

Did you know, that the systems that don't want you to use a recognizable word, apparently never learned French?

barbtries

(28,810 posts)
14. when my daughter died in 2001
Sun Sep 21, 2014, 07:47 PM
Sep 2014

i tried to get her password for her yahoo account; they refused. if things went through snail mail we could get them. things were lost and they would not do a thing for me.
i've tried to make sure my children have my important passwords in case i die suddenly.

lovemydog

(11,833 posts)
15. Flash drives aka thumb drives work great.
Sun Sep 21, 2014, 07:58 PM
Sep 2014

They're cheap & easy.

Update them every few days.

Leave them in your house.

I do this for myself, just to keep my passwords updated and backed up on something separate from my hard drive.

Texano78704

(309 posts)
18. A web-based password vault would work for this
Sun Sep 21, 2014, 08:22 PM
Sep 2014

All you would need to provide is the master password. Last Pass would be one example.

 

cwydro

(51,308 posts)
20. My father died in 2012.
Sun Sep 21, 2014, 08:25 PM
Sep 2014

My sister tried forever to get his FB account deactivated (which he only did without any knowledge of the stupid site).

He still has an account.

 

Dr Hobbitstein

(6,568 posts)
21. When my father died a few years back
Sun Sep 21, 2014, 08:26 PM
Sep 2014

he had recently cleared his passwords and browsing history. He knew he was dying, and didn't want his crazed ex-wife to get ahold of anything (which was a sound plan, because as soon as she found out, she tried claiming they never divorced and she tried to take everything, in the end all she was able to do was receive his 2 month old power bill, which was for more than the deposit). However, he left no info for me or my family to get into his accounts (he did leave his PIN number for his bank card with a trusted family friend, so that made closing his account easier). It took time, but we got into everything eventually.

A year ago, my step-father passed away. He wasn't too tech savvy, so there wasn't anything to go through, but my mom made sure to tell me and my sister that there's a certain file in a certain directory on her computer that has all her passwords for everything of importance (and various account numbers).

HeiressofBickworth

(2,682 posts)
22. Not trusting technology entirely,
Sun Sep 21, 2014, 08:55 PM
Sep 2014

I have a small notebook on my desk with all account information and passwords in it with instructions to deactivate everything when I die. I need to put a label on the book -- thinking about "The Key to Everything" as the title. It's in pencil so when I change a password, I can easily change the entry.

politicat

(9,808 posts)
23. Spouse has access to my password application.
Sun Sep 21, 2014, 09:44 PM
Sep 2014

So spouse can shut things down as needed. If we both go at the same time... Well, our heirs are Planned Parenthood, the Electronic Freedom Foundation and Mediciens Sans Frontiers. They can figure it out. (We do keep a hard copy of the master access to our applications in the safe deposit box, so once the estate is through probate, they can do the necessary.)

I tolerate my family, I love my friends, but I have only one person on the planet I trust with the whole of my interior world. If I go first, he should have the right to decide when and what he chooses to keep of me.

Should Spouse predecease me, I will probably set up a dead man's switch; if I don't log in every 72 hours, everything (nonessential) burns; if I'm out of action for longer (probably 6 weeks; if I'm out of action for that long, my DNR and living will should have kicked in and I'm done anyway), then everything else burns, closes and transfers. Digital dead man switches are not difficult; I think there are even some pre-pack apps now, instead of having to code one.

 

greiner3

(5,214 posts)
24. I included all my passwords to my brother;
Sun Sep 21, 2014, 11:20 PM
Sep 2014

Who is the executor of my will.

Also, I have a Word document on my computer's Desktop that has all online passwords, sort of encrypted of course but easy when you know a few basic things about me.

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