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Faygo Kid

(21,478 posts)
Sun Apr 15, 2012, 04:09 PM Apr 2012

My mother didn't have Ann Romney's privileges. But her story is better.

Mom had a high school diploma, but that was it. She was a Rosie the Riveter type in WWII, working at Packard (see below). She married a very bright guy who was an abuser, and my earliest memories are of sheltering my little brother before the police came as he beat her. But that's another story. Since she never received a dime from her abusive ex-husband, she went on welfare (gasp!) for about six months. Then she got a job doing laundry at a high school for 20+ years, and was beloved by all, even if she didn't make hedge fund manager wages. We were never hungry, and lived in our tidy and clean house.

My brother and I went on to be the first in our family to get college degrees, and more. In retirement, she was a nationally recognized doll maker, subject of many articles. I've never met a better person, and the HELL with those like Mitt Romney who spit on women trying to raise their kids alone.

Oh, I forgot to mention: Mom was the first woman in the USA to win the War Production Board award in WWII. You may recognize the other woman congratulating her.

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My mother didn't have Ann Romney's privileges. But her story is better. (Original Post) Faygo Kid Apr 2012 OP
Excellent! kentuck Apr 2012 #1
Thanks. Time to recognize women other than Ann Romney. Faygo Kid Apr 2012 #2
K&R...wonderful! Thanks for sharing. nt snappyturtle Apr 2012 #3
Your right your mom is better because she had to do it all by herself. Great lady for sure. southernyankeebelle Apr 2012 #4
Where did your mom keep her Caddys and horsies? MADem Apr 2012 #5
Her first new car ever was a 1963 Mercury Comet. Faygo Kid Apr 2012 #6
Aww! I can picture her in it! MADem Apr 2012 #9
Loved it, thanks for sharing! Faygo Kid Apr 2012 #10
I know that color--my dad had one of the later "clunkers" of that exact sand color! MADem Apr 2012 #20
That is great! KT2000 Apr 2012 #7
Yes indeed. The Civil War produced a huge number of single moms, as well, as did WW1. MADem Apr 2012 #21
Lovely post malaise Apr 2012 #8
What a lovely post about your mother! And the photo too! secondwind Apr 2012 #11
Thank you. But get ANGRY about Romney! Faygo Kid Apr 2012 #15
Thank you for sharing this wonderful story of your mom! And yes, I am angry at Mitt! AllyCat Apr 2012 #42
Great story !! Marrah_G Apr 2012 #12
k&r n/t RainDog Apr 2012 #13
Wow! The way you just told her story and the photo brought tears to my eyes lunatica Apr 2012 #14
Thanks. You would have enjoyed her cooking! Faygo Kid Apr 2012 #18
inspiring story! treestar Apr 2012 #16
Thanks. We have GOT to win this presidential election! Faygo Kid Apr 2012 #17
+1,000 nt MADem Apr 2012 #22
That's a much more typical story Warpy Apr 2012 #19
but CatWoman Apr 2012 #23
Well, doggies - she was better at spring tonic than Mom Faygo Kid Apr 2012 #26
.... CatWoman Apr 2012 #28
KnR :o) a priceless story.... opihimoimoi Apr 2012 #24
We need more FDR Dems to step up to the plate. Historic NY Apr 2012 #25
Wow - great pic/ great story. DURHAM D Apr 2012 #27
Wow, what a life! She was made of great stuff and she was acknowledged by Eleanor Roosevelt. The Wielding Truth Apr 2012 #29
Great story rufus dog Apr 2012 #30
Your mom and mine would have been friends. Faygo Kid Apr 2012 #31
What a great woman. (sniffle) nt SunSeeker Apr 2012 #32
Look how pretty your momma is....such a sweet smile. Tikki Apr 2012 #33
Mom was no Rita Hayworth. But she was Mom. Faygo Kid Apr 2012 #34
And the HELL with those like Mitt Romney and others of his ilk and cloth indepat Apr 2012 #35
BEAUTIFUL OUTSIDE & INSIDE UHURU Apr 2012 #36
This is beautiful. Thank you! nt Sarah Ibarruri Apr 2012 #37
Recommended. William769 Apr 2012 #38
Wonderful post - TBF Apr 2012 #39
No surprise here. JNelson6563 Apr 2012 #40
k&r for a truly great mother! LeftishBrit Apr 2012 #41
great story noiretextatique Apr 2012 #43
Excellent post and photo. yesphan Apr 2012 #44
Marvelous story! FailureToCommunicate Apr 2012 #45
Thank you for this. What a great story and love the photo! Avalux Apr 2012 #46
Congrats and good for you. Faygo Kid Apr 2012 #47
shaking hands with Eleanor tru Apr 2012 #48
That's a similar story to my Denise whom I've known for 25+ years. mgc1961 Apr 2012 #49
K&R Horse with no Name Apr 2012 #50
One hell of a woman sonias Apr 2012 #51
WOW!!! Odin2005 Apr 2012 #52
Cheers to you MOTHER!!! Taverner Apr 2012 #53
My Mom was single for my early years...... AnneD Apr 2012 #54
Two Heroines paulinegaines Apr 2012 #55
Thanks for letting me JustAnotherGen Apr 2012 #56

Faygo Kid

(21,478 posts)
2. Thanks. Time to recognize women other than Ann Romney.
Sun Apr 15, 2012, 04:16 PM
Apr 2012

I hope DUers will share many stories like this.

 

southernyankeebelle

(11,304 posts)
4. Your right your mom is better because she had to do it all by herself. Great lady for sure.
Sun Apr 15, 2012, 04:21 PM
Apr 2012

Oh by the way not bad looking woman.

MADem

(135,425 posts)
5. Where did your mom keep her Caddys and horsies?
Sun Apr 15, 2012, 04:23 PM
Apr 2012

Oh wait--she didn't have time for that kind of luxurious foolishness--she was working for a living!

Your mother is the coolest! You should be VERY proud!

Faygo Kid

(21,478 posts)
6. Her first new car ever was a 1963 Mercury Comet.
Sun Apr 15, 2012, 04:28 PM
Apr 2012

Sweet little car, with no extras. But that AM radio turned my brother and I on to the Four Seasons, Motown, and then the Beatles. And Mom let us listen! Pretty cool, I would say.

I am proud. She was made of stern stuff, a child of the Depression, not highly educated but bright as hell. And a Dem. Always an FDR Dem.

MADem

(135,425 posts)
9. Aww! I can picture her in it!
Sun Apr 15, 2012, 04:37 PM
Apr 2012

A sturdy little car! Get a load of this "Comet" tale: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mercury_Comet#1960.E2.80.931963

In July 2010, USA Today reported on a 91-year-old Florida woman, Rachel Veitch, who still drives her 1964 Comet Caliente daily. The car was purchased new in 1964, and Veitch had recently set a record by accumulating over 562,000 documented miles. Veitch said all her car needed was "TLC" (tender loving care) for it to last that long. She claimed she drove it once at 120 mph "just for a mile," and had to have cruise control installed because she kept getting speeding tickets. On March 9, 2012, Rachel Veitch, then 93, applied the brakes on her beloved car for good, after she realized her eyesight was too weak to continue driving. The Caliente had 576,000 that day. [7]



I come from a line of FDR Dems, myself. And those children of the Depression knew how to make do and get by, didn't they?

Faygo Kid

(21,478 posts)
10. Loved it, thanks for sharing!
Sun Apr 15, 2012, 04:42 PM
Apr 2012

Although I think the '64 Comet was a styling clunker. I remember the one we had was some sort of sand color.

MADem

(135,425 posts)
20. I know that color--my dad had one of the later "clunkers" of that exact sand color!
Sun Apr 15, 2012, 05:41 PM
Apr 2012

Some jerk hit it and totaled it while it was parked. He liked that car--good on gas, for the times, and mechanically reliable.

KT2000

(20,577 posts)
7. That is great!
Sun Apr 15, 2012, 04:29 PM
Apr 2012

What a beautiful tribute to your mother.
And it is not easy to make a doll much less be good at it.

WWII in itself created many single mothers as not all the fathers returned home. Your post is a good reminder that single motherhood did not start recently.

MADem

(135,425 posts)
21. Yes indeed. The Civil War produced a huge number of single moms, as well, as did WW1.
Sun Apr 15, 2012, 05:42 PM
Apr 2012

It's a fair point you make.

Faygo Kid

(21,478 posts)
15. Thank you. But get ANGRY about Romney!
Sun Apr 15, 2012, 04:55 PM
Apr 2012

Mom was gracious. I am not. Get ANGRY about Mitt Romney's demeaning comments about women and the "dignity of work" for those women not born of privilege, like all those he knows. I grew up with Gov. George Romney and his wife, Lenore. George Romney was a fighter for civil rights and against the war in Vietnam; Lenore was a passionate supporter of the ERA.

Mitt is fraudulent, and could even be worse than his fellow child of privilege, W. We are in grave danger. That's why I posted this, for all the Moms trying to make it today.

AllyCat

(16,187 posts)
42. Thank you for sharing this wonderful story of your mom! And yes, I am angry at Mitt!
Mon Apr 16, 2012, 09:36 AM
Apr 2012

We need constant reminders and need to remind others.

lunatica

(53,410 posts)
14. Wow! The way you just told her story and the photo brought tears to my eyes
Sun Apr 15, 2012, 04:51 PM
Apr 2012

What a wonderful thing to say about your mom.

Faygo Kid

(21,478 posts)
18. Thanks. You would have enjoyed her cooking!
Sun Apr 15, 2012, 05:37 PM
Apr 2012

Swedish food to die for. Except lutefisk, which I never developed a taste for. Swedish meatballs, pickled herring, and all the cookies - sublime.

Faygo Kid

(21,478 posts)
17. Thanks. We have GOT to win this presidential election!
Sun Apr 15, 2012, 05:02 PM
Apr 2012

For Mom's legacy and all the other Moms out there. The Kochs are looking to make this nation one of gated communities. We have GOT to stop them.

Mom was never political. Ever. She was part of the Greatest Generation, but she was always an FDR Dem, and I remember her distrust of Nixon long before 1968.

Warpy

(111,261 posts)
19. That's a much more typical story
Sun Apr 15, 2012, 05:38 PM
Apr 2012

although anybody doing laundry these days at a big plant is not going to be making enough to keep everybody housed and fed. You were all lucky enough to grow up under the New Deal, as was I.

These days the stories are much, much sadder, but Romney is old enough to have grown up under the New Deal, herself, and undoubtedly thinks things are much the same, today. The woman is so insulated from reality that she has no clue how harsh her husband's policies have been for women.

Were it in my power, I'd put all these right wingers on a subsistence pay scale for a year. Then I'd see how much of their prejudices against ordinary people remain intact.

 

rufus dog

(8,419 posts)
30. Great story
Sun Apr 15, 2012, 06:40 PM
Apr 2012

My mom didn't have it as hard, but basically worked 40 hours a week from the WWII until she was 65 (then she cut back to 24 hours a week until she was 73) and raised seven kids. She rarely talked bad about anyone but I can hear her response to Ann Romney, "pretty lady, but she wouldn't know a hard days work if it smacked her in the ass."

Faygo Kid

(21,478 posts)
31. Your mom and mine would have been friends.
Sun Apr 15, 2012, 06:46 PM
Apr 2012

Mom would have one cigarette a day. I bet she would have enjoyed it over coffee with your mom.

They were women who rolled up their sleeves and got the job done. Grandma was like that, too.

indepat

(20,899 posts)
35. And the HELL with those like Mitt Romney and others of his ilk and cloth
Sun Apr 15, 2012, 09:18 PM
Apr 2012

who spit on and otherwise denigrate women trying to raise their kids alone. A pox on their houses. And kudos to your gallant mother (and that other gallant mother shaking her hand).

UHURU

(1 post)
36. BEAUTIFUL OUTSIDE & INSIDE
Sun Apr 15, 2012, 11:12 PM
Apr 2012

What a wonderful mom. I know her struggle, because my very similar. Left a rich abusive & alcoholic hubby with very young children, a high school education, and workplace skills ten years old. Intimidating! As with your mom, I never regretted it even though I remember working as many as four jobs at one time.

I am the Canadian mother of American children. My son is a doctor saving YankeeDoodles, and my daughter a fund raiser for a non-profit org in Canada. Ah, struggles make us stronger, no?

With a good mom, life is sweet. Lucky you & thanks for your memory of her.

JNelson6563

(28,151 posts)
40. No surprise here.
Mon Apr 16, 2012, 08:06 AM
Apr 2012

Long time Faygo Kid fan here, I knew you had at least one great parent!

A great story and LOVE the pic!

Julie

noiretextatique

(27,275 posts)
43. great story
Mon Apr 16, 2012, 11:24 AM
Apr 2012

my mom and all my aunts worked, like most women. they didn't have the option to devote themselves solely to child-rearing. great for the women who have that option, but most women don't.

Avalux

(35,015 posts)
46. Thank you for this. What a great story and love the photo!
Mon Apr 16, 2012, 11:30 AM
Apr 2012

I too am offended and angry by the notion that a single mom can't succeed and raise great children. I'm one of them; I've worked my ass off to provide for my children and make sure all three of them get a college education and follow their dreams. Two are well on their way, the other is almost through high school.

I am much better off now than when they were younger; we had nothing. I honestly don't know how I made ends meet at times. My youngest daughter (16) and I were looking at an old photo album this weekend and she said "we didn't have much, but it didn't matter. We had fun no matter what." I agreed with her.



 

mgc1961

(1,263 posts)
49. That's a similar story to my Denise whom I've known for 25+ years.
Tue Apr 17, 2012, 09:03 AM
Apr 2012

Her late ex-husband was born to wealthy parents. He was abusive in non-physical ways. He was an alcoholic. He couldn't hold on to a job no matter how well it paid and he put them into bankruptcy court with his profligate spending. Although their two children did live with their father for a while after they separated, he was unable to provide significant support to the children either under his roof or while they were in Denise's care. Consequently, she mostly raised them by herself while working however many hours she could scrounge together. Sixty and seventy hours a week at our mutual employer was not uncommon.

She voted for Obama and she'll vote for his re-election.

AnneD

(15,774 posts)
54. My Mom was single for my early years......
Tue Apr 17, 2012, 04:46 PM
Apr 2012

and she did a damn fine job. I was a single mom and put myself through Nursing school and worked a full time job. Later, after I took ex to court to do what was right, I worked a job and a part time job to make sure my daughter was well care for.

I am lucky that there is only 18 years difference in my Mom's age and mine. I still call her for advice. She has been my rock. My daughter is graduating from college next month. Mom is so excited. She is a very brilliant woman but never got the chance to go to college. She is so proud that her first born daughter graduated college and now her first born daughter's daughter is graduating from a very prestigious college in California next month.

One of our topics of frequent conversation is how our society sets up single moms for failure and how much more harshly they judge single moms as opposed to single dads.

I am happy to report that my daughter has started having long phone calls with me now (as opposed to dufus dad). I get the good calls like; what is the best way to write the resume, how do I budget, how can I invest, when am I ready for sex (I am a nurse after all) and any health questions. I have gone from mother to trusted friend and mentor-just like MY Mom is to me. She set the example and set the bar high.

I am glad to see that your mom set a fine example and over come her adversities to do such a fine job. I am sure she is as proud of you as you are of her.

paulinegaines

(1 post)
55. Two Heroines
Thu Apr 19, 2012, 11:31 AM
Apr 2012

So moved by your mother's story. The omission of the privilege in this absurd Romney-Rosen mishigas has infuriated me. Raising kids with no help and no cushion is an entirely different experience from raising them with all the privileges, or at least access to privileges money can buy. I know. I've done it both ways. The real heroes, in my opinion, are ones like your mom. I've always thought that Eleanor Roosevelt related to women outside her social class because she was marginalized in her own family. Anyway, this picture is awesome. I hope you have it framed.

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