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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsFather Addresses Firestorm Over ‘Just Being a Dad’ Photo
https://s.yimg.com/bt/api/res/1.2/NMskp1OY0ILjUEjeDcgjUg--/YXBwaWQ9eW5ld3M7Zmk9ZmlsbDtoPTM3NztpbD1wbGFuZTtweG9mZj01MDtweW9mZj0wO3E9NzU7dz02NzA-/When Jon Arrigo posted a photo of himself playing video games while one young daughter sat beside his and another painted his toenails, the 28-year-old father unleashed a firestorm of mixed reaction.
Just hours after he uploaded the photo titled Just Being a Dad to the website Reddit on Dec. 2, the photo drew strong comments.
Looks awesome from here, one of many supportive commenters wrote of the photo, while another wrote: Respect, my man. I'm a dad of a little girl too. She's too young for that quite yet, but I'll rock some glitter if the need arises, but many others felt just the opposite.
Put the controller down and play with your kids, one wrote, and another chimed in: Father of the year award. ... Stop playing ps4 and enjoy some time with your kids ... Priorities ...
https://gma.yahoo.com/father-addresses-firestorm-over-just-being-dad-photo-154448486--abc-news-parenting.html
He let the girl paint his toenails...sounds like a good dad to me.
Eleanors38
(18,318 posts)where fewer believe they have power over their lives. So, they exercise a synthetic democratic power by tearing others down, and Any behavior, picture, or statement will do.
stevenleser
(32,886 posts)Any internet post has a percentage chance of being attacked that increases greatly with how many people view it.
hifiguy
(33,688 posts)Poverty and insecurity are still the best tools for setting the masses at each others' throats while the country is being dismantled. It provides perfect cover for the theft of everything.
Eleanors38
(18,318 posts)it has become. I don't think this cultural conformity could have gone this far without the break up of clear, defensible, and accepted societal standards and mythology. As it is, the individuated nature of social media provides a kind of panache to this activity; every cyberbully and doxxydick is given gas giant status by the rest of mass media which, for better or worse, tries to prop up an older standard of national civility. But it's not hep, it's the same impotent tough guy conformity, now given a few minutes of free fame.
fishwax
(29,149 posts)OrwellwasRight
(5,170 posts)"synthetic democratic power"
snooper2
(30,151 posts)by one still picture-
Rex
(65,616 posts)Shit that is an awesome dad imo! Letting his little girl paint his toes...I think that is awesome.
I know guys that will go into fits if their son wears a pink shirt! Internet parents know everything about raising kids.
Johonny
(20,854 posts)People have been fired, given death threats, and had their lives ruined over other people's vile (often comical) interpretations of a single Internet photo of a brief moment in their entire life where they aren't doing anything illegal, abusive or interesting. It is hard to believe this keeps happening over and over. We have become the hyper-overactive imagination Country.
belzabubba333
(1,237 posts)she thought momma would get a laugh when she came home.
FSogol
(45,491 posts)belzabubba333
(1,237 posts)Number23
(24,544 posts)That is the cutest, funniest comic. Thanks for posting that.
KingCharlemagne
(7,908 posts)thing I've ever seen
Brigid
(17,621 posts)KingCharlemagne
(7,908 posts)have any pics of it, since we were kind of late adapters of digital cameras and cellphones and so on. I'll have to try to paint a picture for you with words. As I recall, my stepdaughter did my fingernails up with this dark purple polish and then she stuck some little white sticker-y things on them. I ended up looking a bit like Gene Simmons, save that I'm a guitar and piano player so my nails are cut a bit closer. Her Mom got a hoot out of it when she saw the finished product. Of course, she heard her daughter giggling the whole time, so I think she had a pretty good idea what the finished product would look like. The episode became a source of much laughter and merriment over the years, particularly around the gender-destabilizing components
Brigid
(17,621 posts)lame54
(35,295 posts)they're ignoring their kids to troll online
Takket
(21,579 posts)reaction against this is absurd. Very frustrating.
SummerSnow
(12,608 posts)He was a helluva man worked on naval ships from 5am to 5pm. Took care of his family. Best grandad in the world. He would play with us when we visited, told stories about his childhood. I really miss him.
renate
(13,776 posts)What a great grandpa!
riderinthestorm
(23,272 posts)I'd brush and barrette and slip in bobby pins and peer around his head to,watch the show with him.
It was a fantastic half hour of bonding...
etherealtruth
(22,165 posts)i bet you miss him
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A Little Weird
(1,754 posts)There are a lot of folks out there (especially on Reddit) who always look for something to complain about regardless of the story.
Warren DeMontague
(80,708 posts)calimary
(81,323 posts)I think it's great. Those little girls are gonna grow up with very fond memories of a dad who was loving and supportive of everything they wanted to do.
liberal_at_heart
(12,081 posts)zoned out watching tv or reading email or playing Candy Crush on their smart phone while their children are playing.
Alittleliberal
(528 posts)You find there are many moments you just have to ignore them.
Brickbat
(19,339 posts)Obviously, he is. Kids don't need direct attention and interaction every damn second. It just sets them up to be disappointed when they don't get it later in life. Passive interaction is just fine. Keep on keeping on, Arrigo.
Sheldon Cooper
(3,724 posts)The kids are with their dad and they're all engaging in leisure activities in the same space. I'm sure they're chit-chatting back and forth, too. There is nothing wrong with this and his kids will remember the time they painted daddy's toenails and snuggled with him on the couch. He's doing a great job.
Terra Alta
(5,158 posts)Screw the haters. Just because he doesn't give his kids his undivided
attention 24/7 doesn't make him a bad father. Looks like they are all having a good time.
NBachers
(17,124 posts)Looks like a fine family activity night to me.
MerryBlooms
(11,770 posts)Good on him!
When I was little, I wanted to be a hairdresser, and guess who let me do his hair? lol, yep, my dad. One day I styled his hair with bobby pins and ribbon when he was sleeping (he'd been out on forest service fire crew all night) and he woke up and dashed to the market for milk and cigs. He didn't realize he was sporting a new 'do until he was checking out and brushed his hand through his hair. He came home spitting mad. Sadly, that was the end of my dad letting me do his hair.
Throd
(7,208 posts)They'll make lotions to rub on my arms and feet and scald my face with hot towels.
I enjoy every moment of it.
Nevernose
(13,081 posts)Notice how the entire coffee table is covered in stickers? And "girlie" princess stickers, too? That dad loves his kids full time whether he plays video games or not, and those kids know it every time they see the stickers.
deutsey
(20,166 posts)I would imagine the sanctimonious critics are probably not parents themselves, or are helicopter parents micromanaging every second of their kids' lives.
LiberalElite
(14,691 posts)deutsey
(20,166 posts)but that the kind of presumptuous non-parents who assume they would be so much better at parenting than the parents they're critiquing.
Marr
(20,317 posts)How could anyone respond with anger to something like that?