and probably nobody else will, either. I figure I'll eventually fall down the stairs and break my neck and the cats will eat me. Cheap and efficient.

talking about a new cemetery for the indigent in our area.

The proofreader missed that it was described as an "indignant cemetery."

I said, if/when I end up dead and too impoverished by our corporate state even to afford a funeral, that's the cemetery I will be proud to occupy (pun intended).

Funerals are for the living, not the dead and nothing will bring back the ones we love. Kid will also get the same treatment, with a little bit more to have a service as there are friends to attend, and will be dumped in with me.

If I had my druthers I'd go up to the top of a snowy peak or old growth forest and breathe my last there and be at peace at last. Let the wild animals have a meal later, if they thought it worthwhile.

Only doing the rest out of pity for the kid. I don't even want to die at a hospital or hospice. But we don't always get to choose when the heart is involved. I refuse to be sentimental over a funeral.

That's just me, I know some people who have spent many thousands on their affairs as a family or community get together and had great sending off ceremonies. Music, everything. No one in my family cared about it, just made sure they had their plot and everything paid for to not be a burden to anyone else

I did that too, for both of us. Nice and tidy, including picking us up and cleaning us, nothing for anyone to do and be bothered. Each to his own.

It is widely said that cats will eat their dead owners. But I'm sure you've made plans for their welfare when you're gone...

No service. No nothing. And as cheaply as it can all be accomplished.

about?

and giving her interest for when she died. She lived in Kansas.

She had about 400 grand after my father died and she went through it like it was water. She did this all on her own and wouldn't let any of us give her any guidance so we had no idea if some salesman took her for a ride. We only found out when she died. She had told us she had 6-8 grand for her final expenses. We were expecting that so when we went to make plans hours after she died, we then found out that what ever company she thought she was paying money too probably stole her money.

We are going to pursue it and see what we can recoup and I will do my part to help this to not happen to others.

My mother had made arrangements through a cremation society, and including copies of the death certificate, the cost was about $1100.00 this May. We did not pay for embalming (not required), or a casket, or a piece of land - all things she considered outrageous wastes of money, even before reading The American Way of Death (I encourage everyone to do so). There is no need for the living to bankrupt themselves for the dead.

I understand how hard it is to make those decisions, especially when you thought everything was taken care of. Three years ago I wanted to pay ahead oh my sister's services and the money was put into some sort of funeral business savings association. I do not remember the exact term but the money was not held by the funeral home and we could have used it at another funeral home had we needed to. This is something to look for when prepaying. Not sure how long this has been available but it takes some of the worry out of the plan

Take care. I hope that they can locate your mother's funds. Take care. Kim

suckered into it and it was probably from a desire to spare you the expense.

Thinking of reserving a plot in a 'green' cemetery for myself.

The law firm where I work is busy putting all these Ponzi-scheme characters in prison and trying to recover over $600 million. People would prepay for their funerals thinking the money would be there to pay for the services when they died. Instead, the money disappeared. You will find much to read and shake your head about. Two of these characters were the inspiration for HBO's Six Feet Under.

right thing. Put your money in a credit union burial scheme and stop enriching the grifters and snake oil salesmen who always manage to declare bankruptcy when it's time to deliver our money.

Sue the relatives of the business owner.

It is not a lot and I have my plot paid for. I am going to put it in a savings account, not much interest but I believe it will be safe. I don't trust any type of investment Mutual funds etc. My daughter has power of attorney so she can have access to the account when needed. Also I hope to add to if I can.

... They are with your will. My friend's mother always talked about being buried with her mother. We were surprised that she was not on the paperwork. Surprised to the tune of $1500.

He wanted to be cremated.
The fire didn't go out for a week, and was a heat source for the crematorium.
We were going to bill them for the equivalent in oil, which they usually used, but decided not to.
I want to go the same way!


















(sarcasm intended)

...not like the three screaming passengers in his car.

but from the sounds of it she doesn't. A funeral home will accept the policy if there is one signed over. Many states have laws preventing just what happened and stiff fines for the offender.

he is helping is figure this out and we will get to the bottom of this. Her Funeral was last Monday and after that, he began making calls and he is keeping us informed. He said he had not seen anything like this before but it is a small town.

If my mother had asked for help instead of doing things all on her own, we could have prevented all of this. She wanted to show us all she could do finances on her own. Before dad passed, he always took care of everything.

I think the whole principals of funerals, caskets, burials, and the like is a scam, but that's just me. I'm donating my bod to science and I don't care what they do with the ashes. If I didn't do that I'd try to do a green burial in a compostable shroud. The worms could nibble me up -- at least I'd be put to some use.