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sheshe2

(83,786 posts)
Thu Dec 18, 2014, 12:26 AM Dec 2014

Homeless for the Holidays

Op-ed: Homeless for the Holidays Some parents kick their kids out into the December cold for being gay. Here’s your chance to help them.



A few months ago, a young man showed up in my office looking for help. He had fled from his abusive, unaccepting parents in Rhode Island, and made his way to New York City. He was small and thin; his size made him appear to be about 15 or 16 years-old, though he was a few years older.

He was carrying his few belongings in a clear plastic garbage bag, so they were on display for anyone to see
. The thought of people seeing him carrying his dirty socks and underwear, along with his toothbrush and deodorant, was painful. Teens are acutely aware of how others see and judge them. They feel especially humiliated when people can tell that they are homeless.

I gave him two canvas bags and some food. We called our drop-in center and made a list of the few options he had for a place to spend the night. At the Ali Forney Center, we had a waiting list of more than 200 youths to get into our 89 beds. Sending him out into the night, I hoped he would be OK. I worried that his smallness and vulnerability would make him a target for abuse in the shelters or in the streets.

I hate many things about the epidemic of LGBT youth being driven from unaccepting homes and made to endure homelessness in the streets. One thing I hate is seeing kids show up with their belongings in garbage bags. It has become a symbol for me of how homophobia makes too many parents look at their LGBT children with contempt, as if they are garbage themselves — something to be disposed of, thrown away. And it speaks to the sudden abruptness and thoughtlessness of the child’s displacement. There is no plan made for where they will go, or how they will survive.

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CARL SICILIANO is the founder and executive director of the Ali Forney Center, the nation’s largest, most comprehensive organization dedicated to homeless LGBT youth. Watch a video that shows the harsh realities this group faces below.





"We are a people of love and we need to show that love to our kids...."

Tears~ watch the video. "Every kid deserves a bed tonight. "

Original from here http://www.advocate.com/commentary/2014/12/17/op-ed-homeless-holidays

Posted from William769's site here http://lgbtworld.info/op-ed-homeless-for-the-holidays-some-parents-kick-their-kids-out-into-the-december-cold-for-being-gay-heres-your-chance-to-help-them/



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Homeless for the Holidays (Original Post) sheshe2 Dec 2014 OP
"Every kid deserves a bed tonight." brer cat Dec 2014 #1
Thanks Sheshe. William769 Dec 2014 #2
They only mentioned the number of beds available on the video sheshe2 Dec 2014 #3
Speaking of trying to help here in Florida William769 Dec 2014 #4
Florida sucks. sheshe2 Dec 2014 #5
Despicable 'states' rights' and 'Tenther' groups support this. Their constant and unrelenting hate freshwest Dec 2014 #8
First Christmas away from home... DreamGypsy Dec 2014 #6
I ran away from home when I was 14. nilesobek Dec 2014 #7

brer cat

(24,574 posts)
1. "Every kid deserves a bed tonight."
Thu Dec 18, 2014, 12:38 AM
Dec 2014

Amen. There is a world of hurt here. I will help the Ali Forney Center when I can. Thank you she and William.

William769

(55,147 posts)
2. Thanks Sheshe.
Thu Dec 18, 2014, 01:51 AM
Dec 2014

This has been a problem for far to long with LGBTQ youth.

I wished I had the statistics at my fingertips to post because they are staggering.

sheshe2

(83,786 posts)
3. They only mentioned the number of beds available on the video
Thu Dec 18, 2014, 02:06 AM
Dec 2014

and those sad children in need of them out number those. The difference was indeed staggering. Don't know why I post things that hurt my soul, yet we need to feel the pain to make change. It hurts, well then we just have to do a hell of a lot better. We need change to make it right.

It is beyond me how any parent could do this, oh I know it's true, yet I don't understand the cruelty of it all.

Tears~

William769

(55,147 posts)
4. Speaking of trying to help here in Florida
Thu Dec 18, 2014, 02:16 AM
Dec 2014

Kids that are kicked out by bigoted parents cannot even get adopted my a loving Gay couple. How fucked up is that?


Title VI
CIVIL PRACTICE AND PROCEDURE

Chapter 63
ADOPTION

View Entire Chapter




63.042?Who may be adopted; who may adopt.—
(1)?Any person, a minor or an adult, may be adopted.

(2)?The following persons may adopt:
(a)?A husband and wife jointly;

(b)?An unmarried adult; or

(c)?A married person without the other spouse joining as a petitioner, if the person to be adopted is not his or her spouse, and if:
1.?The other spouse is a parent of the person to be adopted and consents to the adoption; or

2.?The failure of the other spouse to join in the petition or to consent to the adoption is excused by the court for good cause shown or in the best interest of the child.

(3)?No person eligible to adopt under this statute may adopt if that person is a homosexual.

(4)?No person eligible under this section shall be prohibited from adopting solely because such person possesses a physical disability or handicap, unless it is determined by the court or adoption entity that such disability or handicap renders such person incapable of serving as an effective parent.
http://www.leg.state.fl.us/Statutes/index.cfm?App_mode=Display_Statute&Search_String=&URL=0000-0099/0063/Sections/0063.042.html


Talk about insult to injury!

sheshe2

(83,786 posts)
5. Florida sucks.
Thu Dec 18, 2014, 02:40 AM
Dec 2014

I think I read you were selling your house. Get the hell out of there, your state is sadly ugly to deny a child a loving home.

I posted something on your site about....

WATCH: Teen With Two Moms Tells Texas It’s Time to Change

Using the example of his “pretty ordinary” family — including a younger stepsister who is a straight-A student and loves “subversive things” like The Hunger Games, Gossip Girl, and fashion, a younger brother who has pledged to wear a Santa hat outfitted with Yoda ears every day this month in hopes of bringing Austin a white Christmas, and his two moms — the 16-year-old eloquently destroyed antigay arguments rooted in reverence for “tradition.”

“There are still people who stubbornly refuse to recognize family even when it’s right in front of them,” Marriott-Voss said. “Some people are still genuinely concerned that my parents’ love could harm tradition or erode society, maybe even threaten existing marriages.”


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“We share the same values and beliefs as everyone else, the same normal struggles and triumphs, except we are denied the basic dignity of being officially respected as the family that we are,” the teenager continued. “These antifamily laws create a raw deal for kids like me. Marriage is supposed to be a very important issue, but these laws cause children to be raised across the country in homes without it. The most important thing I want you to take away from me today, is that it’s not our families that need to change, it’s Texas.”

http://lgbtworld.info/watch-teen-with-two-moms-tells-texas-its-time-to-change/

Get out of there now William

freshwest

(53,661 posts)
8. Despicable 'states' rights' and 'Tenther' groups support this. Their constant and unrelenting hate
Thu Dec 18, 2014, 04:26 AM
Dec 2014
is nauseating and they can get away with in states. No one should be fooled. They are fascists.



DreamGypsy

(2,252 posts)
6. First Christmas away from home...
Thu Dec 18, 2014, 02:45 AM
Dec 2014

...there are many reasons why for some "the holiday season" is not a season of joy.

Be open to the lives of others experiencing their first Christmas away, and the reasons...

She's standing by the train station, panhandling for change
Four more dollars buys a decent meal and a room.
Looks like the Sally Ann place after all,
In a crowded sleeping hall that echoes like a tomb
But it's warm and clean and free and there are worse places to be,
And at least it means no beating from her Dad
And if she cries because it's Christmas Day
She hopes that it won't show...
First Christmas away from home.


nilesobek

(1,423 posts)
7. I ran away from home when I was 14.
Thu Dec 18, 2014, 03:33 AM
Dec 2014

I couldn't imagine the pain of running for being gay. I was running from abuse. Been running for 36 years now and still cannot get far enough away.

This is a worthy cause. Rec.

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