I'm a very strong person, but this is close to breaking me.

I hate January.

Our fear was that she wouldn't be. But she got to spend a whole lot of time with friends and family. Shortly after everyone left, she died. At least we all have the memory of one last holiday season with her.

Wow, 2015 is starting out terribly for your family.

hug to you and yours

My heart goes out to you and the other survivors.

I am so very sorry.

(((((((((((Siwsan))))))))))

Be well.

Please accept my deepest condolences to you and your family. If you need someone to grieve with or just get something off your chest, you are welcome to PM me anytime. The loss of a sibling and mother so close together has to be very difficult. You have friends here even if we are only "cyber" friends. Even virtual hugs can help a little.

Be very gentle with yourself during your grieving period. I remember when my mom died I could not bake a decent cookie or even a brownie.

Take care.

I'm in the process of slowly losing my mother to Alzheimer's (pretty advanced now) and there are no words to describe it. I'm sorry you've faced so much loss all at once.

May the sweet memories help you through your grieving period and bring you peace.

It is brutal to have two deaths so close together. Dementia is one of the hardest things for a family to deal with; it really takes strength to see the loss of the person every day while they are still physically here. I hope that you can rest and find some peace in your own life.

It was four years for my mother on Monday and I'm still not really "together" yet in a lot of ways.

Comfort and peace to you and yours.

First my mom died, then a month later, my sister was diagnosed with advanced pancreatic cancer. Lost her a month later. I'm so sorry and know how intense this is.

I will soon be 64, and my mom is going to be 93. I wonder every day how much longer she will be with me.

In many a sympathy card, I have said that, no matter how old we are, and no matter how much of a release it may be from a life that has become unrewarding, I don't think we are ever completely ready to bid that final farewell to the woman who loved us before she even met us.

Wishing you inner strength, and people around you who are strong enough for you to lean on when your own strength wavers.

Death sucks, and I'm sick of it.

It is really hard what you're having to go through. You are in my thoughts.

will rise to the surface.

That is very difficult and sad beyond sad.

My thoughts are with you and your family. Please take care.

Peace to you, and to all who loved them.

I am so glad you still have family to grieve together. If you ever need to talk, reach out to anyone here and we will listen. Please take be gentle with yourself now. Now it's time to take care of you.

She is at rest now and you and your family can find peace in your memories of her.

I can't imagine how difficult it must be to lose two family members in such a short period of time. Please accept my sincere condolences.

(((hugs)))

Dementia is a nasty disease. Parents aren't supposed to bury kids. Take care of yourself.
B

So much loss and pain in such a short time for you and your family. My dad died a few months ago Alzheimer. Then 2 weeks later my BIL.

Peace and Hugs to you and yours Siwsan.

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I'm so sorry.





Peace...

May the memories of your sister and mom always be a blessing and your family know no more sorrows.

So sorry to hear it. No words can make a difference. Sending you strength and courage.

It is especially hard when loss is piled on loss. I have also had to shoulder that burden and I know how heavy it is. With one step in front of the other, hours will become days, days; weeks, and then months.

My warmest thoughts are with you.

You are in my thoughts.

Strength and peace to you and yours. Such a terrible time of loss you've had, may your sister and mother both rest in peace. I'm sure they're all together.

I can't imagine what you're going through.

and hugs, may you in time know happiness and peace.

Losing your mom and your sister within the span of just a few weeks is a terrible blow. Nearly exactly the same thing happened to me a year and a half ago, when I lost my mom first and then my sister only 9 days later. My mom had been hospitalized with heart troubles for 6 months, but my sister's passing was sudden and unexpected. Natural causes, we don't know exactly what happened (family estrangement sadly) but we think it was either a stroke or a coronary. Like you, I also posted the news on DU (my mom had been a member since it launched in 2001) and received a flood of warm and supportive responses. It was wonderful to hear from people who knew who she was and had such kind things to say about her. Ever since that, I always make it a point to respond whenever I come across a thread where someone posts the news of a loss of a loved one or loved ones.

Your mom and sister would be proud to know that you have paid tribute to them in this way. And it is true, you will find an inner strength you never knew you had. I hope you take some comfort and strength in the responses you get here.

Sincerely,
Pat

I Am so sorry.

you are a super woman, Siwsan.

Super women need to grieve.

All losses of loved ones are hard to bear, but when they come in such close proximity, it can be, or at least seem, utterly overwhelming. I lost my mother on Dec. 13, 2000, and my father 12 days later, on Dec. 25 (Christmas Day) -- both to lung cancer. Everybody's grieving process is different, of course, but if I could offer any bit of wisdom gained through my own experience, it would be this: honor your grief, give it room to be whatever it will be, and for whatever length of time it may need (which will probably be a lot longer than you currently realize). Try not to monitor either your grieving or your healing; don't judge the quality of your grief -- or worry about what you may be feeling or NOT be feeling. -It may seem like forever in coming, but the acute grief will eventually pass, even though the loss will remain with you forever. Healing will come, too, but on a schedule all its own -- a schedule you can no more control than the weather. The void you feel at the core of your being will never be filled -- it will always be there -- but in time, like a tree that loses a major limb, you will grow around that void, and it wil, in time, cease to comprise so much of your being as it currently seems to.

My thoughts are with you and yours during this difficult time.

-Mark

((((((Siwsan))))))))

all find strength and peace and comfort, and may your memories bring you joy.

My thoughts are with you and your family

Nobody I know is superwoman. I know that my mom lost her husband, sister, mother and father all within the same few weeks and I don't know how she managed to raise us. It was because she had a heart and soul like few others.

May your heart and soul be filled with comfort at this time.

I send you love and healing energy. Be kind to yourself and take time for yourself.
Peace and love, Kim

this is the loving advice i received from a dear friend after loosing my dad and my husband in the span of 3 weeks. i am very sorry for your loss of 2 loved ones in such a short time.

it is not easy to grieve so much grief. the powerful scent of blooming tomato plants in the garden and a beautiful wisteria outside the sliding glass door of our bedroom were especially comforting.

surround yourself with kindness and accept the kindness from others during this time. it really does make one stronger.

A friend said "give grief it's space".

For some reason those words felt right to me.

I wish you well.

I believe you are a super woman.
And every time you can barely stand with the weight of all your grief, consider the fact, you still stand.
If you fall, the memories of your mother, sister, brother, and father can help you back to your feet; if you let them.


My father, fallen friends, and comrades keep me on my feet.

I think that's how I'd view it - your sweet mom is now reunited with your dad and your two siblings. Up in Heaven.

It's hard to know what to say. But I'm glad you posted here. It can be comforting and sustaining at a sad time like this. Thank you for sharing this deep personal pain. And save this thread. When I posted about my mom's passing, the responses from people here were so touching. They really did help me get through it. Read through the posts and know that you don't mourn alone. DU will buoy you up.

Three weeks ago I lost my big sister and I can feel your pain. She was suffering from ALS, so like with your mother, we knew it was coming, but you are never ready. Hugs and good wishes to you and your family. You will be strong for each other.

It's just that won't make anything easier. There are no super powers, except coping.

Being a survivor means lots of loss, and therefore a need to find new resources and people, while cherishing the ones that remain.

I have been adopting people in lieu of those I lost, giving an outlet for the caring that had no place to go.

But even if you choose to do so, remember to take care of yourself. I learned that the hard way.

Wishing you peace, strength and healing.

My Grandma went back on the 24th & was buried on what would've been her 68th wedding anniversary. (Grandpa passed in 2013).

it takes time until you find peace with your loses.

that's a lot to handle. My heart goes out to you and your family.

I wish there were words that could ease your sorrow.

Cyber hugs sent your way. RIP, Mum and Sis.

As one who has lost both parents, I know it is very hard. Only time will help.

thing. You will find some day that you will laugh and smile. You may feel with guilt the first few times but it will come. Be gentle on yourself. Your body blows are critical. My parents died ten months apart and i thought I would die. I didn't. You will come through this at some point with a better feeling for life and yourself. Keep this thread bookmarked and know that people you never met and never will reached out through the darkness to comfort you. I am sorry for this, for you and yours. It is a terrible things but like Rose Kennedy said, "After the rain, the birds sing." Take care of yourself and know you are loved.

That's a lot to bear.

May both your mom and sis RIP.

Be good to yourself, OK?

One beautiful thing is how the memories of what our loved ones were REALLY like -- before they were sick -- come back full force after we lose them. After seeing my dad in a wheelchair with a kind of dementia for a couple years, it was amazing to me how clearly the "old dad" came back to me in the days after he died.

Sorrow is ultimately a form of tribute and even gratitude for who they were, for what we've been lucky enough to have had. Peace to you.

You and your family are in my prayers.

they will meet again somewhere also. Sometimes it's the only way to handle the grief of such tremendous losses.

in such a short time period. It's hard enough to deal with one loss, but two must be crushing. But as you say, we must move forward and always keep our loved ones in our hearts and memories. I lost my Mom a little less than 40 years ago, yes she died young. I still think of her with love and pull up memories of both my Mom and Dad.

recognize your pain and so wish you didn't have to endure it.

Super Woman, I think your tribute to your mother is beautiful and really shows us to treasure those small fleeting moments and not take anything for granted.

Hug each other and love each other, you are so wise. Peace and healing to you

Wishing you the strength you need at this terrible time for your family.