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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsAre you able to disagree with someone without hating him/her?
If you agree with people about most things, but disagree with them about some things, is that still hating them?
The hate meme gets thrown around so prolifically around here, it makes me wonder sometimes.
Erich Bloodaxe BSN
(14,733 posts)understand how people feel about an issue. As a result, people tend to simply make guesses about the mental and emotional states of people with whom they are arguing, and to overemphasize their projected emotions.
I've been accused of being frothing or vitriolic in comments that I wrote while simply being sarcastic or even amused.
So accusations of 'hate' are probably more often a reflection on the mental and emotional states of the person making such an accusation than they are of the people at whom they are tossed.
Lex
(34,108 posts)WillowTree
(5,325 posts).......or hold a belief or opinion that the other person might percieve as disrespect when I do, in fact, respect them and do not, to any degree whatsoever, hate them.
Lex
(34,108 posts)but it doesn't mean you "agree with" many things about them.
However, refusing to do something as basic as that seems spiteful and hateful to me.
Bluzmann57
(12,336 posts)I disagree with certain people about certain things and yet we still like each other.
I suppose it matters what the issue is. For instance, a former friend spouted off about Asian people, calling them, well I won't repeat it here but the key word starts with a G. I am married to an Asian woman so I told him off and have never had contact with him since then. But I have friends with whom I disagree on economic issues and maybe a social issue or two and we are still friends.
Daemonaquila
(1,712 posts)For example, I have a lot of friends I disagree with on certain important issues. Hate? Absolutely not. However, there are some people, let's say Dick Cheney or Pat Robertson, who I disagree with on so many issues, and their general outlook on pretty much anything important is so vile, that yes, I can say I hate them.
RedCappedBandit
(5,514 posts)Hate might be a strong word, but certain disagreements definitely indicate what type of person you're dealing with.
Brickbat
(19,339 posts)Marr
(20,317 posts)I think their beliefs make them heartless pricks/utter morons, by definition.
Orrex
(63,215 posts)Well, probably not. BUT CONSIDER YOURSELF WARNED!!!!!!1!!
Coventina
(27,121 posts)I say "thinks he is" because he's on SSDI and Medicaid.
el_bryanto
(11,804 posts)I also think that feeling morally superior to someone else feels great. When you can combine the two - the pleasure we seem to take out of hatred, with the warm assurance that we are morally right - well that's a nice feeling.
And of course, online there's much less consequences for opening your mouth and being mean or hurtful.
Bryant
closeupready
(29,503 posts)here on DU just to be malicious and trollish.
That said, I think I disagree with everyone on this board about something or other. That's democracy.
Cleita
(75,480 posts)yet we are friends to the point that we look out after each other's interests and properties like BFEEs would. We can't talk about anything political though because we are at polar opposites in beliefs and opinions.
onecaliberal
(32,863 posts)Send poor folks to fight your endless wars and then refuse to care for them when they return. Endlessly seek to cut food stamps, social security, Medicaid and Medicare. Force the poor to pay for large corporations to escape any taxation. Discriminate on people because their skin color is not the same as yours. Militarize the police, so they can quell the uprising when it happens.
LeftinOH
(5,354 posts)If it's whether or not the toilet paper roll should trail from the top or bottom of the roll, then I can deal someone being wrong (like when it's pulled from the bottom).
If it's whether or not, say, "open carry" gun exhibitionists are demonstrating their freedom ..or simply being monstrous creeps, then I'm probably going to hate on them a bit.
Populist_Prole
(5,364 posts)Obviously, disagreements on matters of personal tastes or likes/dislikes don't matter.
Speaking metaphysically, or even politically, there can be a lot at stake.
For example;
Person A strongly advocates a policy that would, if enacted, destroy person B's livelihood, but merely solidify person A's gains.
Even if person A in themselves can't make said policy happen, I could well understand person B's being angered by person A's indifference; and so I could understand feelings of malice on person B's part.
Orsino
(37,428 posts)I hope I can still recognize the merely uninformed who don't realize the misery they are helping to perpetuate, and save the actual hatred for those who profit from it.
Zorra
(27,670 posts)fadedrose
(10,044 posts)if I got my facts straight . . .
Tierra_y_Libertad
(50,414 posts)When it comes to politicians, I'm indifferent. Which is why I vote policies and principles rather than party or politician.
qwlauren35
(6,148 posts)I recently found out that a woman I knew thought that Trayvon Martin was racist because he called Zimmerman "a cracker who's following me" and that Zimmerman had cause to be armed and patrolling the neighborhood due to recent robberies and he was within his rights to shoot and kill Martin. Obviously, the court and jury agreed.
Made me sick inside. But I couldn't bring myself to hate her.
Chan790
(20,176 posts)I disagree with my best friend on whether his wife is attractive...she's not. I don't hate him.
On more important issues like who should be the 2016 Democratic presidential nominee...it's too important to not hate partisan supporters of evil candidates.
Zorra
(27,670 posts)discriminate against LGBT.
Nuclear Unicorn
(19,497 posts)One's own mob is larger/more vocal than the other mob. Those who are on the out-side tend to be more civil and conciliatory. Those are the more numerous/louder side seem to feel they are at liberty to give way to the frenzy.
Binkie The Clown
(7,911 posts)I just feel sorry for people who don't see things as clearly as I do.
libdem4life
(13,877 posts)One minister (also speaking of revenge) said that it's like taking poison and hoping the other person dies. I see no reason, ever, to pollute myself by stooping to another's level. There is always a high road, should one choose to reach for it.
CloneClinton
(31 posts)Every time I disagree with something on this site I get called a troll even though I've been here a long time...