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ScreamingMeemie

(68,918 posts)
Mon Apr 13, 2015, 08:27 AM Apr 2015

"Hate" is a strong word where I come from...

I hate that I put off doing my taxes, and now it will be a mad dash to the finish line on April 15th. (Do I? or am I just disappointed in myself)

I hate how it can rain for 3 days in Houston and when it finally slows up, I find a 6 foot tall weed that will be noted by the HOA within 10 minutes of the sun coming out. (actually, maybe it's just the HOA that I have a "strong dislike" for)

I hate how teenagers are always sick on Monday mornings... (You can set a clock by my son, but I think I'm more irritated than anything)

I hate that my husband is dead, here in what should really be the beginning of the "good times" for us. (hate pretty much nails it here)


Only one of those four sentences is actually the truth. The gutwrenching feeling only applies to the last statement I have made. But we, as humans, have taken that word and applied it to the most ridiculous of things...

...like political candidates and ideas.

Hatred of a candidate? I ain't got time for that. I'm too busy trying to get my son to go to school.

Cheers.


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"Hate" is a strong word where I come from... (Original Post) ScreamingMeemie Apr 2015 OP
I hate the Chicago Bears. PeaceNikki Apr 2015 #1
Happy Day-after-Favre/Rodgers/Starr Day! ScreamingMeemie Apr 2015 #3
You, too!! PeaceNikki Apr 2015 #6
I'll take some of the Favre-Rodgers-Starr love! Borchkins Apr 2015 #49
Hell yeah!! PeaceNikki Apr 2015 #58
! ScreamingMeemie Apr 2015 #67
shame on you marym625 Apr 2015 #7
Im sorry for the loss of your husband. aikoaiko Apr 2015 #2
Thanks... ScreamingMeemie Apr 2015 #13
well said nt G_j Apr 2015 #4
People who brand others as "haters" are only embracing their own inner hatred, storing it up like leveymg Apr 2015 #5
I think it's a sign of lack of critical thinking skills. nt antigop Apr 2015 #11
agreed. it's a juvenile reaction to brand others this way roguevalley Apr 2015 #32
it's sad, really. I wonder about their education level and age. nt antigop Apr 2015 #86
Yep. 840high Apr 2015 #68
I agree, the Hillary boosters scream I hate Hillary repeatedly. Like I will end the world Katashi_itto Apr 2015 #24
Hillary is Pro Choice and favors LGBT equality. You have attacked me for being critical of religious Bluenorthwest Apr 2015 #35
Meh Bobbie Jo Apr 2015 #54
Personally...I think you arrived at DU..... Sheepshank Apr 2015 #59
I think people who have known Puglover Apr 2015 #8
... ScreamingMeemie Apr 2015 #15
I agree, hyperbolic dreck, but I won't vote Hillary. Katashi_itto Apr 2015 #25
That is your perogative. Puglover Apr 2015 #26
Oh heck no. I live in Louisiana. Red.. In New Orleans. Liberal city, Red 3rd world state. Katashi_itto Apr 2015 #27
Yeah, you said that already. We get it. cheapdate Apr 2015 #28
And I will keep saying it...tough for you Katashi_itto Apr 2015 #29
Suit yourself. cheapdate Apr 2015 #60
Well back then I did vote Gore. So error #1 on your part Katashi_itto Apr 2015 #73
"Why vote for her in the first place?" cheapdate Apr 2015 #90
Bully for you! Katashi_itto Apr 2015 #91
Wouldn't it be amazing if they ran a Democrat who actually gave a shit about working people, jtuck004 Apr 2015 #39
+1000 kath Apr 2015 #50
I hate Rand Paul trumad Apr 2015 #9
I can't stand them. ScreamingMeemie Apr 2015 #16
Hate is a wasted emotion. sabrina 1 Apr 2015 #48
Not really... trumad Apr 2015 #53
It tends to take over one's ability to think rationally, absorbs the mind with negative rather than sabrina 1 Apr 2015 #64
like I said. . trumad Apr 2015 #70
I've never seen hatred work positively for anyone. sabrina 1 Apr 2015 #71
Sabrina--- trumad Apr 2015 #72
So you think politics has such a trivial impact on our lives... MelungeonWoman Apr 2015 #10
I think you need to reread my post because you're agreeing with me while admonishing me. ScreamingMeemie Apr 2015 #12
I hate the idea of a Republican President. Snarkoleptic Apr 2015 #14
I can't stand the idea of a Republican president. ScreamingMeemie Apr 2015 #18
not just emotions though... handmade34 Apr 2015 #21
Hate is for things, not for people Dont call me Shirley Apr 2015 #17
Or events. Puglover Apr 2015 #19
Yes, beings is a better substitute for people. Dont call me Shirley Apr 2015 #87
+10000! n/t RufusTFirefly Apr 2015 #31
Agreed. ScreamingMeemie Apr 2015 #51
K&R demmiblue Apr 2015 #20
Me too, and they don't speak for fully 90 percent of those who post here, IMO. ScreamingMeemie Apr 2015 #62
Good post. tridim Apr 2015 #22
Nicely said, Mbrow Apr 2015 #33
'Imo this relentless call-out isn't helping Clinton's campaign at all' sabrina 1 Apr 2015 #46
Not true...again. zappaman Apr 2015 #75
Dem voter registration was over 40% in 2008. Left leaning Independents voted for Dems that's how sabrina 1 Apr 2015 #88
Says who? zappaman Apr 2015 #89
That is my thing. I said it yesterday and I'll say it again today... ScreamingMeemie Apr 2015 #63
I loathe Ted Cruz. kairos12 Apr 2015 #23
I can't stand that he's repping Texas. ScreamingMeemie Apr 2015 #65
I don't hate anybody. Really! RufusTFirefly Apr 2015 #30
This. n/t jtuck004 Apr 2015 #37
Right? Nicely said. ScreamingMeemie Apr 2015 #66
I refuse to hate a person. Tommy_Carcetti Apr 2015 #34
That's pretty much what I am. ScreamingMeemie Apr 2015 #76
Perhaps it is just wishful thinking by those who would otherwise have to confront the idea that they jtuck004 Apr 2015 #36
Interesting. ScreamingMeemie Apr 2015 #77
Yes hate os a very strong word. hrmjustin Apr 2015 #38
Before Little boots and the Dick madokie Apr 2015 #40
I can't stand them. ScreamingMeemie Apr 2015 #78
+1 n/t Alkene Apr 2015 #41
I don't hate Hillary. I just won't vote for her. Tierra_y_Libertad Apr 2015 #42
Unfortunately, that's too sensible RufusTFirefly Apr 2015 #45
Yep. Like being called a commie traitor for opposing the war in Vietnam. Tierra_y_Libertad Apr 2015 #47
Same here. 840high Apr 2015 #69
...and I believe you don't hate her. ScreamingMeemie Apr 2015 #79
I hate to see Democrats, especially left leaning Democrats, being called 'haters' by members of the sabrina 1 Apr 2015 #43
And now griefers Autumn Apr 2015 #56
I think they dug that one up from about ten years ago. I remember it, a Third Way word for the Left sabrina 1 Apr 2015 #61
also when they insist that there's always sexism coming from right and left alike MisterP Apr 2015 #74
It's depressing. I think the goal is nothing more than trying to reframe the conversation. ScreamingMeemie Apr 2015 #80
...... daleanime Apr 2015 #44
. ScreamingMeemie Apr 2015 #81
When we were growing up... one_voice Apr 2015 #52
Thank you for sharing that. ScreamingMeemie Apr 2015 #82
I hate that your husband is dead, too. merrily Apr 2015 #55
thank you for that, merrily... ScreamingMeemie Apr 2015 #83
Of course. I know nothing that I or anyone can say that helps. merrily Apr 2015 #85
When you are reduced to calling fellow Democrats haters Autumn Apr 2015 #57
It is not a good way to campaign for the positive for sure. ScreamingMeemie Apr 2015 #84

ScreamingMeemie

(68,918 posts)
13. Thanks...
Mon Apr 13, 2015, 08:58 AM
Apr 2015

It's been over 7 years. I'll never be over it, but I haven't stopped trying to find new ways to get through it every day.

leveymg

(36,418 posts)
5. People who brand others as "haters" are only embracing their own inner hatred, storing it up like
Mon Apr 13, 2015, 08:32 AM
Apr 2015

a scarce commodity, as if it's going away. Sadly, not.

It's a sign of extreme insecurity, and there's already too much of that in this world.

roguevalley

(40,656 posts)
32. agreed. it's a juvenile reaction to brand others this way
Mon Apr 13, 2015, 10:12 AM
Apr 2015

My concerns are mine and they are legitimate

 

Katashi_itto

(10,175 posts)
24. I agree, the Hillary boosters scream I hate Hillary repeatedly. Like I will end the world
Mon Apr 13, 2015, 09:35 AM
Apr 2015

because I wont vote for her.

 

Bluenorthwest

(45,319 posts)
35. Hillary is Pro Choice and favors LGBT equality. You have attacked me for being critical of religious
Mon Apr 13, 2015, 10:37 AM
Apr 2015

clerics who are anti choice and anti gay. You opposition to Hillary is not surprising. Several of her most active critics have made it very clear that they admire the anti gay, anti choice Pope's point of view. One suggested the Pope for President, another offered him up as a mentor to this Party. Anti gay, anti Choice, they want him to guide this Party because you see, they are very progressive people who just happen to be all straight white men promoting bigoted sexists.

 

Sheepshank

(12,504 posts)
59. Personally...I think you arrived at DU.....
Mon Apr 13, 2015, 11:59 AM
Apr 2015

to post fast and furiously (I think I noticed like 2400 posts on one 90 period) building up numbers, and from then until now, continue to post negativisms against many DEM personalities. There is an agenda for sure.

But I agree with the other poster just prior to mine. I think your pushing your agenda deserves a great big *meh*.

Puglover

(16,380 posts)
8. I think people who have known
Mon Apr 13, 2015, 08:45 AM
Apr 2015

great tragedy have great perspective. And I am still heartbroken that you had/have to endure yours dear Meemie.

I read most of the rest as hyperbolic dreck on a silly discussion forum.

I won't spend 30 seconds of my time arguing about an avatar of all things. Yawn.

And when the time comes I will, as you vote for Hillary.

Again the rest is all hyperbolic dreck served up by folks who would be well served to get a hobby.




Puglover

(16,380 posts)
26. That is your perogative.
Mon Apr 13, 2015, 09:45 AM
Apr 2015

I hope you aren't in a purple state.


Frankly Hillary has never once lost to a Republican and she has faced much bigger morons then the clown care now faces including Jebbie.

My hope is that if she is elected she surprises me.

 

Katashi_itto

(10,175 posts)
27. Oh heck no. I live in Louisiana. Red.. In New Orleans. Liberal city, Red 3rd world state.
Mon Apr 13, 2015, 09:47 AM
Apr 2015

I agree, I hope she surprised me by being actually for the people. It would be nice.

cheapdate

(3,811 posts)
60. Suit yourself.
Mon Apr 13, 2015, 12:07 PM
Apr 2015

We got eight years of Bush/Cheney as a result of your "protest vote" strategy. He never should have won in 2000 but a small, yet critical, minority of voters wanted to "send a message" to the Democratic Party.

The next president will probably appoint two, and as many as four, U.S. Supreme Court justices. I don't know who Hillary would appoint, but I'd rather take my chances with her than with Ted Cruz. The makeup of the court can affect public life for a generation or more.

I don't believe Hillary Clinton will reverse global economic trends, stop climate change, or end U.S. militarism. But she'll probably uphold the Obama administration's agreement with Iran, whereas the GOP hopefuls have vowed to nullify it immediately. Hillary would undoubtedly continue rapprochement with Cuba. Hillary supports a functioning system of environmental regulations. She nominally believes in the science of carbon dioxide induced global warming. She's secular. She supported the DREAM Act in the senate and cosponsored a bill to permanently ban drilling for oil in ANWR.

I could waste more time explaining why I will support Hillary Clinton, or whoever the Democratic nominee is in 2016, but I won't. Suit yourself.

 

Katashi_itto

(10,175 posts)
73. Well back then I did vote Gore. So error #1 on your part
Mon Apr 13, 2015, 02:10 PM
Apr 2015

2nd error is assuming I ever have done a protest "no vote". I campaigned both times for Obama. I draw the line at yet other corporatist.

And if Hillary won't at least enable (Your words) "Won't reverse global economic trends, stop climate change, or end U.S. militarism." Why vote for her in the first place?

cheapdate

(3,811 posts)
90. "Why vote for her in the first place?"
Mon Apr 13, 2015, 08:59 PM
Apr 2015

Last edited Tue Apr 14, 2015, 08:43 PM - Edit history (1)

I listed eight reasons in my earlier post, so I'm not sure what to make of your question.

Perhaps your attention was elsewhere.

Vote for whoever you want, or don't vote. It makes no difference to me. I'm voting for the Democratic candidate.

 

jtuck004

(15,882 posts)
39. Wouldn't it be amazing if they ran a Democrat who actually gave a shit about working people,
Mon Apr 13, 2015, 10:50 AM
Apr 2015

and the person won?

All the Republicans who had been using the label Democrat to profit from for all those years, pretending that running against the ideas of Jimmy Carter would be anything but personally profitable, would look like mulch.

 

trumad

(41,692 posts)
9. I hate Rand Paul
Mon Apr 13, 2015, 08:48 AM
Apr 2015

Ted Cruz, Rick Santorum---and all the other clowns the Right Wing has lined up for 2016.

ScreamingMeemie

(68,918 posts)
16. I can't stand them.
Mon Apr 13, 2015, 08:59 AM
Apr 2015

But I reserve true hatred for only my last example. I won't give them that much energy.

sabrina 1

(62,325 posts)
64. It tends to take over one's ability to think rationally, absorbs the mind with negative rather than
Mon Apr 13, 2015, 12:18 PM
Apr 2015

positive thinking and rarely has positive results.

sabrina 1

(62,325 posts)
71. I've never seen hatred work positively for anyone.
Mon Apr 13, 2015, 01:07 PM
Apr 2015

Wait, isn't this argument reversed? Aren't you the one who called US 'haters'? So I should take it as a compliment then? and here I was feeling sad about it.

Lol, I'm glad we had this little chat, I had no idea you were merely projecting.

 

trumad

(41,692 posts)
72. Sabrina---
Mon Apr 13, 2015, 01:12 PM
Apr 2015

Can't the word "hater" be a metaphor for people who go into a frenzy about stupid shit?

The word Hate simply doesn't mean the same to me as other people.

Kind of like the word fuck---it's used in so many ways.

I hate Broccoli---I hate Ted Cruz- I hate that movie, I hate Dick Cheney.

It's just a fucking word!

MelungeonWoman

(502 posts)
10. So you think politics has such a trivial impact on our lives...
Mon Apr 13, 2015, 08:55 AM
Apr 2015

that we shouldn't have strong feelings about it?

I'm sure the dozens of 'quit hating my candidate!' threads here this morning are very heartfelt and earnest, but honestly. Nobody is hating your candidate. This is politics and other people are going to voice their opinions. I grew up in a place of hate and worked hard to move away from that place, I'm not seeing it here. You're not doing anybody a service by conflating other people's opinions to hate.

I am now going to move on to one of the many current threads on THE LOGO and make a comment on my honest opinion of the thing. I wonder how that will go, lol.

Enjoy your day.

ScreamingMeemie

(68,918 posts)
18. I can't stand the idea of a Republican president.
Mon Apr 13, 2015, 09:01 AM
Apr 2015

I won't let them have that much control over my emotions.

handmade34

(22,758 posts)
21. not just emotions though...
Mon Apr 13, 2015, 09:14 AM
Apr 2015

what real breathing republicans do is control my life, my actions, my abilities to breath clean air, eat good food and have authority over my body...

...so sorry you lost your husband

demmiblue

(36,898 posts)
20. K&R
Mon Apr 13, 2015, 09:07 AM
Apr 2015

I wish the hosts would be a little quicker to the draw and lock those types of disruptive meta threads. They really only exist to cause drama and divide DU.

tridim

(45,358 posts)
22. Good post.
Mon Apr 13, 2015, 09:26 AM
Apr 2015

I don't support Senator Clinton, but I am miles from hating her. Yet, every time I explain why I don't support the Senator I am immediately labeled a hater. No nuance at all, 100% pure hater. Disgusting.

Sorry I don't hate her, but keep trying... I guess? IMO this relentless call-out tactic isn't helping Clinton's campaign at all.

Mbrow

(1,090 posts)
33. Nicely said,
Mon Apr 13, 2015, 10:30 AM
Apr 2015

Short and to the point. I would try and write a serious OP about why, but others have said it better then I could.

sabrina 1

(62,325 posts)
46. 'Imo this relentless call-out isn't helping Clinton's campaign at all'
Mon Apr 13, 2015, 11:25 AM
Apr 2015

No it's not. So why would anyone want to hurt her campaign, or the Dem Party chances of winning?

There are only two reasons I can think of.

1) Someone doesn't want Dems to win.

2) Dems have hired some pretty stupid Political Consultants who have no idea how to run a winning campaign.

If it's the latter, it's not too late to fire them.

Dem Voter Registration is already down by approx 10% since 2008. The party cannot afford to drive any more voters out of the party. That 10% are mostly left leaning Dems who are now registered as Independents. To win, Dems are going to need every Dem vote including the much despised 'Left'. AND they are going to need those who are now Left Leaning Independents.

So far, looking just at DU today, I don't see that happening.

If they don't want our votes, they have found a great way of telling us. 'Just call them haters'.

zappaman

(20,606 posts)
75. Not true...again.
Mon Apr 13, 2015, 03:10 PM
Apr 2015

http://www.gallup.com/poll/166763/record-high-americans-identify-independents.aspx

As this graph clearly shows, Democratic membership is at 31%. It's peak was in 1988 and 2008 at 36%. Independents are climbing and Republican membership has decreased to 25%.

5% is not "nearly 10%" no matter how many times you say it...


http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1002&pid=6462196

sabrina 1

(62,325 posts)
88. Dem voter registration was over 40% in 2008. Left leaning Independents voted for Dems that's how
Mon Apr 13, 2015, 07:36 PM
Apr 2015

we won, Everything. On a Progressive, Liberal message. By 2012, the Dem Leadership lost the House. Telling the Left that their ideas were 'retarded' didn't help, condescending to voters doesn't help either. It was clear they didn't want the Left, other than to vote, but not to participate in the party in any way.

And rather than learn WHY that happened, they continued to push Third Way candidates and messaging in 2014 which lost us the Senate.

I don't know who is running this party, but they sure aren't listening to the voters.

And calling people who genuinely do not believe their chosen candidate is best for this country, 'haters' is guaranteed to lose them even more voters.

It's fine though, there have been major shifts before in politics, and we may be approaching that again. Certainly people are not going to stay where they are not wanted, or their ideas are considered to be 'retarded'.

Why should they? And the party cannot win without the Left, so it's time for them to start respecting the people who put them in power, or don't whine when they choose not to do, see those two Midterms, again.

ScreamingMeemie

(68,918 posts)
63. That is my thing. I said it yesterday and I'll say it again today...
Mon Apr 13, 2015, 12:18 PM
Apr 2015

Supporters do more to harm a campaign than help it when they resort to this. It has a way of galvanizing people.

RufusTFirefly

(8,812 posts)
30. I don't hate anybody. Really!
Mon Apr 13, 2015, 09:59 AM
Apr 2015

Not even Dick Cheney or Vladimir Putin. Nothing good comes from hating people. Nothing.

I can hate disease, bigotry, and income inequality. But hating people only makes us even less humane than we've already become. And that's exactly the opposite of what we need these days.

Tommy_Carcetti

(43,209 posts)
34. I refuse to hate a person.
Mon Apr 13, 2015, 10:34 AM
Apr 2015

There are some people (for example, the 46th Vice President of the United States) who disgust me to every single fiber of their being, but even them I do not hate.

I hate things, not people. I hate things such as racism and war and murder.

 

jtuck004

(15,882 posts)
36. Perhaps it is just wishful thinking by those who would otherwise have to confront the idea that they
Mon Apr 13, 2015, 10:45 AM
Apr 2015

aren't thought of. At all.

ScreamingMeemie

(68,918 posts)
77. Interesting.
Mon Apr 13, 2015, 03:57 PM
Apr 2015

It could be.

Sometimes here, I think it's an attempt to frame the conversation and to control.

RufusTFirefly

(8,812 posts)
45. Unfortunately, that's too sensible
Mon Apr 13, 2015, 11:22 AM
Apr 2015

Having to take the time to explain that you aren't a Hillary hater is a bit like having to explain that your opposition to the illegal Iraq invasion didn't mean that you were a Saddam supporter.

It's really a pretty despicable propaganda technique that puts thoughtful people on the defensive, sucks the oxygen out of an argument, and diverts attention away from inconvenient truths.

Unfortunately, it's very effective.

sabrina 1

(62,325 posts)
43. I hate to see Democrats, especially left leaning Democrats, being called 'haters' by members of the
Mon Apr 13, 2015, 11:17 AM
Apr 2015

Dem Party.

That's pretty much how we lost the House and Senate.

Makes me wonder, is that the goal?

This is OUR party. Why would anyone hate the left so much that they would want to drive them away from the party?

Makes you wonder ....

sabrina 1

(62,325 posts)
61. I think they dug that one up from about ten years ago. I remember it, a Third Way word for the Left
Mon Apr 13, 2015, 12:15 PM
Apr 2015

airc!

MisterP

(23,730 posts)
74. also when they insist that there's always sexism coming from right and left alike
Mon Apr 13, 2015, 03:04 PM
Apr 2015

of course they worry about leftofascism and firebaggers, but that's because they like Bernard-Henri Levy!

ScreamingMeemie

(68,918 posts)
80. It's depressing. I think the goal is nothing more than trying to reframe the conversation.
Mon Apr 13, 2015, 03:59 PM
Apr 2015

I hope that is the only goal.

one_voice

(20,043 posts)
52. When we were growing up...
Mon Apr 13, 2015, 11:32 AM
Apr 2015

My mom wouldn't allow us to use the word 'hate'. She said we didn't know the true meaning. We could say 'really, really don't like' etc, but we were not allowed to say we hated something, not even brussel sprouts. lol. That was more for my bothers cuz I loved them.

I think it's because of the racism that both my parents saw, I guess they knew what it really meant. We weren't allowed to call each other stupid/idiot either. Or tell each other to shut up. My mom always said words could hurt as much as a hand. So there were certain things we weren't allowed to say.

Between my parents there were 12 kids (blended family) some of them were grown. At one time there were 8 of us--but after a few years 3 went back to live with their mom (dad's first wife) so for the most of the time if was 5. But we all keep in touch.

ScreamingMeemie

(68,918 posts)
82. Thank you for sharing that.
Mon Apr 13, 2015, 04:00 PM
Apr 2015

I was raised much the same way. We couldn't say "shut up, stupid, dummy, jerk..."

Kudos to your parents for doing a terrific job!

merrily

(45,251 posts)
85. Of course. I know nothing that I or anyone can say that helps.
Mon Apr 13, 2015, 04:55 PM
Apr 2015

I wish I did. I also wish I had something better to offer than just an online hug. But, since it is all I can offer. please have another.

Autumn

(45,120 posts)
57. When you are reduced to calling fellow Democrats haters
Mon Apr 13, 2015, 11:46 AM
Apr 2015

because they disagree with your candidates choices you have no credibility.

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