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Last edited Sat Apr 18, 2015, 11:51 PM - Edit history (3)
As you probably already guessed... It didn't take
I'm not even sure what the fuck I want to post this for but... Regardless...
On Friday the 10th, I went in for some common male hernia surgery. I really was not worried at all... I mean, what could possibly go wrong?
I got there at 9:00am and was home by 2:30pm. What I didn't know at the time was that the surgeon had nicked my bladder. Looking back, I know when it ripped open... The doc had told me their would be no dietary restrictions so I went for mini pizza's for dinner at 7:00pm. Toast up some English muffins till they are about 90% done, then a mixture of some 'meat' flavored sauce, crushed garlic and Romano cheese, and spread it on... Top with some fresh mozzarella and a drizzle of some good olive oil and top with a little fresh oregano... Pop them back into the toaster oven and finish them off. Fuckin heaven.
I'd put them on the plate and moved off to the couch and sat down wrong... The pain was insanely sharp and... Weird. It went away quickly though, so I just figured I'd worry if it happened again... That was a mistake.
Through the night it became increasingly hard to get up or down... But it just felt like increased soreness and I thought I must just be working it too hard for day 1 and needed rest. I was still pretty fucking wrong. I needed my nephew's help getting into bed around 11:00pm and it was very slow and painful... I popped a few more of the pain pills they had given me and figured I'd see what was what in the morning. I was just not getting better at this.
I awoke around 4:00am Sunday morning in a lot of pain... Plus my right side was now feeling very... Funny... Clammy with the skin having almost a 'plastic' feel and very... Squishy. In addition, my stomach was undeniably distended. It took me almost an hour to realize I was unable to get out of bed... Reach my phone... Or even cry out... Pain and nausea were coming over me in waves I'd never felt... I was just kind of lying their moaning from the effort... And knew something was very wrong and that I was at that moment, very much fighting to stay alive.
Around 6:00am, things had not improved... They had gotten much worse and I was simply fighting to stay conscious. I heard my brother coming out of his room for his morning coffee... I was pretty happy he was regular that morning... I'd been waiting and hoping he would be... The only thing I had that I could both reach and throw was the pill bottle, so I threw it at my door and fuckin fell almost two feet short... Fortunately it made enough of a rattle that he heard it and stopped... I was able to moan load enough to get him to knock and check it out...
I'm lucky my brother is not stupid and as soon as he turned on the light and saw me, he turned around, got his cell and called 911. Only asking me questions he repeated from the operator... Sadly, I was of little help.
The real trouble began when the ambulance guys showed up... See... My room does have the distinct odor or weed perpetually hanging around, as well I keep my stash of weed and edibles right out in the open... It's fuckin legal people... Sheesh.
As they came into my room, it was obvious exactly where their eyes were drawn and the look on their faces told the story... They were certain they had someone who had taken too many edibles... So pretty much a waste of their time and they did nothing to even try to hide it. Even after my brother had explained the hernia surgery and showed them what I HAD been taking, it was obvious they were not buying it.
They took me out to the ambulance and I had managed to get them the message to contact my Surgeon/Doctor, and off we went... Things were about to get even worse.
When we got to the hospital, I was wheeled into a room and stuck me with Dilaudid... Vile shit... It fucks up your head, making you unable to make sense of even the simplest of things, makes you puke instead of breath and even has the added bonus of doing absolutely nothing for the pain... WTF? Why do hospitals use this shit?
The Doctor at the hospital tried to get information out of me for hours... Ran all manner of tests... Even chided me for 'not being co-operative'... I shit you not. All the while, the pain just kept getting worse... I remember that I kept thinking... Don't people pass out after a certain point? Is there not only so much a body can take? Sure wasn't seeming like it... Sheesh.
The pain was going from my groin, up through my stomach and especially on my lower right side, just above the hip... And it just kept getting worse. I could not believe how long my stomach muscles had been cramped... It would be a few more days of that... But then the other pain started... In my left arm and it went all the way up my shoulder and around and down into my chest.
There were only two young girls in the room with me at the time and I know I must have looked odd that I was actually pulling myself up a bit and looking intently at my left hand... They both started asking me what was happening... And there were a lot of noises... And then all the pain went away... Just for a moment it was gone... And then everything else went away and I died.
Of course, they brought me back (I don't know that story yet), my brother got a hold of my Doc, who got me to a different hospital and did the repair surgery... THAT is a fuckin story I gotta write out sometime... And many other horrible things happened during my stay at that hospital this past week... Most of it was simply disgusting and more than a bit humiliating, so I'll skip it.
I came home today and I feel pretty good. I plan on being at work Monday. I still don't know what to make of all this yet... I think I'm going to go smoke a joint and play some Borderlands 2 though...
Sheesh.
Edit:
First off... Thanks everyone for the wonderful support. I appreciate it.
Going Back to Work Monday - hmmm... Let me tell you a bit about where I work. The place is freakin awesome, I love it there... By far, the best job I've ever had. The company is wicked liberal and they are treating the situation with every concern going toward my well being. I was visited every day by many levels of management, people I've never met, who sure acted like they were sincerely concerned. I have been assured that no time off I take regarding this will be taken from my PTO (we get a lump sum of days, 20 to start, that combines sick, vaca and personal... All called PTO) and that the company will just eat the time... This includes days taken already, upcoming, follow up visits, as well as any potential 'legal' time needed, so they are giving me zero pressure to return. As well, I believe this is how companies should treat their people, so I'm not particularly going back because of any kind of 'guilt' or 'loyalty' or whatever. The bottom line is that I freakin like to go to work, it's is always pretty much zero stress, in a very comfortable atmosphere that is filled with a great group of people. We do good things together and have fun doing it... Every company should be like this. I spent a few days in the Dilaudid fog and it was a wicked scary place to be... I want to go be my friends, have some laughs and do some good... I think I want that more than anything else. Believe me... If this had happened and I was working at any other job I've ever had, I would be taking at least all of next week off but... I do want to go in for myself.
shenmue
(38,506 posts)The Velveteen Ocelot
(115,829 posts)That sounds like an absolutely horrendous experience. Glad you survived; take it easy. Maybe you shouldn't go to work on Monday. I sure wouldn't!
PeaceNikki
(27,985 posts)Wow.
OKNancy
(41,832 posts)scary shit...
Laurian
(2,593 posts)Be well!
zappaman
(20,606 posts)Glad you got thru it.
I lost my 24 year old brother in law to minor surgery.
Even for my recent colonoscopy, I made sure to really talk with every nurse, doctor, anesthesiologist, etc.
We take it for granted it is going to be simple, but things can happen.
Hang in there.
femmocrat
(28,394 posts)You are incredibly lucky to have survived all of that. Are you thinking "malpractice"?
Glad you are better, Joe.
justiceischeap
(14,040 posts)Glad you made it.
SidDithers
(44,228 posts)Farming the Bunker always makes me feel better.
Sid
justiceischeap
(14,040 posts)I may have to start a new play through.
SidDithers
(44,228 posts)Sid
bluedigger
(17,087 posts)Good thinking having a Cadillac arrest in the hospital though. Perfect place for it.
Trailrider1951
(3,414 posts)I wish a speedy recovery to you....
livetohike
(22,157 posts)and take care of yourself
Taylorz
(53 posts)Just take care of yourself, and defintely follow up with your Doctor.
NOLALady
(4,003 posts)you made it back!
Liberal_in_LA
(44,397 posts)seabeyond
(110,159 posts)not very encouraging.
i thought i was having a heart attack once. my whole body was shaking. they couldnt get the iv in. had bruises al over two arms. they were pissed at me.
say wha? not doing it on purpose.
enjoy your damn time. and take care of you
I'm so glad you're okay...you mentioned the Dr. nicking your bladder and I'm assuming this caused all your problems. Why didn't the Dr. repair this during your initial surgery or at least make you aware there could be a potential problem? Do you plan on pursuing charges against him, I mean you could've died.
Again, I'm so glad you survived this horrible ordeal and please rest up and don't push yourself.
boston bean
(36,223 posts)I couldn't imagine the pain. A hernia operation is very painful itself. And to add that to it and almost dying!!!!
Glad u are still here.
mnhtnbb
(31,401 posts)Unbelievable! What a horrible experience. I can't believe your surgeon didn't know he nicked your bladder, though.
My OB/Gyn sliced my bladder when I had my last son--C-section--25 years ago. But, he knew it. Fixed it at the time.
BUT--and watch out for this--there was nerve damage from where he sliced/repaired. Ended up--little
did I know--with unable to being able to completely void. So, down the road a year or so, I end up
in the hospital with a raging bladder/kidney infection and high temp. The problem with not voiding completely
is that you can have bacteria build up in the urine that never gets voided.
I refused to let the urologist 'fix' it. No more surgery, thanks. Which means that I make sure to void completely
by pressing the heel of my hand on the part of my lower abdomen that results in the bladder being completely
emptied. Kind of a PITA, but no thanks to more surgery.
Glad you're still with us!
demmiblue
(36,875 posts)I am very glad that you still walk this mortal realm!
Take care, Joe.
Cha
(297,564 posts)Glad you're back.. you obviously have strong recuperative powers!
MineralMan
(146,325 posts)Glad you're OK.
Fumesucker
(45,851 posts)beam me up scottie
(57,349 posts)Seriously, glad you're back!
sheshe2
(83,875 posts)So glad you made it Ohio Joe
Iggo
(47,564 posts)Great to have you back, buddy!
(Suspended punch in the nose for your original ambulance drivers. They did eventually get you to the hospital, I guess.)
blm
(113,083 posts)Stay with us.
Starry Messenger
(32,342 posts)Jesus Malverde
(10,274 posts)mountain grammy
(26,644 posts)Good. Welcome back to the living.
Unknown Beatle
(2,672 posts)And take it easy. I wouldn't go back to work after an experience like that.
NJCher
(35,715 posts)He likes his work. It's therapeutic for him. So if he wants to go back, he should go.
"Work" is the crux here: so few people think of work as fun and good, but work can be all of that. It sounds like he works for a very unusual employer.
Cher
LiberalEsto
(22,845 posts)Sending healing blessings to you
LiberalArkie
(15,728 posts)A nurse pulling a needle out of my arm when I was in my room after the operation. Too much anesthesia. No white light no nothing. But talk about being high. It took a long time for that crap to work its way out of my system. I even asked them the back off the pain meds as I was having a hard time knowing whether I was a person or a bowl of silly putty.
greatauntoftriplets
(175,749 posts)It's good that your brother was there to get you to the hospital.
hlthe2b
(102,343 posts)Thank heavens you made it through. What a horrendous experience!
panader0
(25,816 posts)Kidding, so glad you are OK. I visited a friend today at a hospital in Tucson. He had suffered liver and renal failure. It looked really bad for him. But today he was better. Whew...
Electric Monk
(13,869 posts)nolabear
(41,991 posts)Seriously, I'm really glad you're okay.
malaise
(269,157 posts)Glad you're home and recovering - what an experience
BlueJazz
(25,348 posts)....you receive from the ambulance guys. They have absolutely no right to judge anyone who is in pain. They're not a Doctor.
Take care...Man.
Jamastiene
(38,187 posts)It sounds like you had a horrible ordeal.
I hate it when people are judgmental of weed. It is Nature's gift to human kind. I wish more people would smoke it and learn it is not the Great Satan so many seem to think. Those must have been some dumb ass hospital emergency workers if they thought pot could cause any of your symptoms. It's a miracle you are still alive if that is the kind of attitude you had to deal with. I'm glad you are back with us now. Don't leave us to deal with 2016 alone. We've lost enough DUers in the past few years.
Liberal In Red State
(442 posts)with you and please let your brother know that I'm so happy he was there to help you! Awaiting . . . The rest of your story!
kentuck
(111,110 posts)For real.
bravenak
(34,648 posts)I'm glad you live to play another day.
ismnotwasm
(41,999 posts)I'm very glad you're alive
lumberjack_jeff
(33,224 posts)Demeter
(85,373 posts)What a nightmare! You must have excellent luck to overcome all that, plus a good brother and doctors.
It is a problem the way people are treated by strangers, especially strange "helping professionals".
Best wishes for a speedy recovery and many pain-free years.
AuntPatsy
(9,904 posts)bluesbassman
(19,379 posts)Glad you made it back!
CentralMass
(15,265 posts)put right arm through a window and cut my main artery at the wrist. The school bus was late that day and my older brother was home sick. My mother, who normal got us on the bus had to leave for work. I had forgotten a text book in the house and went into the garage and was rapping on the window of the kitchen door for my brother to come and let me in. He was ill in the bedroom and didn't hear me.
The glass must have had a defect and it shattered and I cut my wrist very badly. I ran to the neighbors knocked on the door and passed out as they opened the door. The put a tourniquet on my arm and wrapped it with two towels loaded me in the car and rushed towards the center of town. They had called the police and hoped to meet up with an ambulance but when that didn't happen, they rushed me to the nearest hospital. I had regained consciousness and was surprisingly calm. As we got close to the hospital I had lost a tremendous amount of blood and felt warmth flush over me. I apparently calmly asked my neighbor, who was cradling me in the back seat while her husband drove, if I was going to die, and she said I don't honey, i don't know. My vision cut out and went gray and then white. I've always attributed this to the "white light" that people speak of who have had near death experiences. I can't recall much of that piece other then a sensation of calm and peace. I came to in the ER on the surgical table after they started IV. They had to my corduroys off with scissors because they were completely blood soaked and stuck to my legs making them too hard to pull off. They repaired the artery and I obviously made it. Thanks to my neighbors and I believe some divine intervention. I am not overtly religious but I have had several serious accidents that I probably shouldn't have a survived.
So Ohio Joe, congrats for making it and I'll bet this experience will be one that you will ponder for years
classof56
(5,376 posts)What a brave kid you were! So glad for the happy ending, and BTW, a belated welcome to DU.
Peace
C Moon
(12,221 posts)safeinOhio
(32,714 posts)Stay safe.
BlancheSplanchnik
(20,219 posts)Sorry to be inarticulate! OMG!!
passiveporcupine
(8,175 posts)I had a bad surgery experience too (doc operated in the wrong place on my foot), but nothing like yours. Not life threatening, just depressing because I came back to the hospital with a fever and serious asthma attack, and then found out what he'd done. I was crying and depressed, and the nurses didn't believe what I was telling them. They were supporting the doctor, even though he screwed up my surgery, and it made my stay in that hospital hell. I was only there a couple of days and so glad to get out of that mess.
I can only say, you lucked out here. Everything fell into place to keep you alive and you are one lucky dog, because the crew that came to get you could have let you die from their ignorance...I mean permanently die.
So glad you made it. And now have a story to tell your grandkids.
NBachers
(17,135 posts)We're lucky to still have you here. We need all the Democratic voters to stay alive- and I'm glad you are, Ohio Joe!
colorado_ufo
(5,737 posts)You just scared the hell out of me, and I am so sorry for all you went through!
I just had a double hernia surgery a week ago Thursday, and thank God and my excellent surgeon, all went well. I am of the female persuasion, but we gals can get the same type of hernias that guys do (Google it, peeps). Anyway, I am even more grateful for my great medical care after reading you story. You HAVE to tell us the rest, when you are up to it!
One thing: Please, please, please do not go to work Monday. Your body has been through hell, and you need to help it recover with a few days of rest and some good nutrition. Listen to Grandma here.
And, for sure, welcome back!
Gothmog
(145,496 posts)madamvlb
(495 posts)tavernier
(12,396 posts)Appears that your work here is not yet finished... Can't imagine why otherwise you would have suffered and survived such a horrendous event!!
frogmarch
(12,158 posts)Joe, so glad you're here! Holy shit!
RKP5637
(67,112 posts)KT2000
(20,586 posts)for you yet!
barbtries
(28,810 posts)so glad you came out okay
joanbarnes
(1,723 posts)hollysmom
(5,946 posts)to the emergency room before I died. Not that I expected that, I just thought I had some reaction to medication.
I laugh when I was wondering what was going on when the guy ahead of me had a bleeding gun shot wound and they were making him fill out forms before they would treat him, but they told me to never mind and pulled me in the back and hooked me up to machines. But no white light for me, just very tired, but then again I was dying from extremely low blood pressure, so no pain, just very tired and fell asleep for 3 days While they kept resuscitating, me ha ha.
petronius
(26,603 posts)greatlaurel
(2,004 posts)Get well soon! What an ordeal you have been through.
Good luck.
awoke_in_2003
(34,582 posts)Take care and get better
Caretha
(2,737 posts)do take it very very easy, and quit thinking that you "have to work".
Just this once, look out for yourself, please.
Ruby the Liberal
(26,219 posts)Not suggesting you don't feel ready, only that you have been through some incredibly major stuff the last week+ and the body can't recover if you don't give it time. Especially with something as integral as abdominal/hernia work that affects your every movement.
Be good to yourself, and may you heal fully and soon.
voteearlyvoteoften
(1,716 posts)MrMickeysMom
(20,453 posts)I'm very glad you are back, but someone should be alerted as to the poor first response you had. Once knowing about the surgery, they should have done a much better job of assessment, based on your swollen stomach and condition of skin. No doubt, vital signs wouldn't have been good
So what in the world is wrong with THEM?
Actue care system - bad! What WAS that hospital? Warn people!
Get well soon all the way, OJ.
Taylorz
(53 posts)Laffy Kat
(16,386 posts)What couldn't the doctor figure out about that? Jesus. That was a close one.
WhiteTara
(29,721 posts)Thespian2
(2,741 posts)sorry you had such a terrible time. Tie a knot in that rope and hang on.
winter is coming
(11,785 posts)Glad you're still with us.
AnotherDreamWeaver
(2,852 posts)onethatcares
(16,178 posts)it's one hell of a killer story. I'll be waiting for the rest.
OH, and glad you're alive to tell it.
dixiegrrrrl
(60,010 posts)does it seem less scary now???
Now, about that surgeon error....I take it they are going to pay for all your hospital bills, yes?
I was thinking, as I read the part about your being unable to signal for help...
I gotta start taking my phone into the bedroom with me.
or have plenty of loud things to throw.
and I for one would be interested in the rest of your hospital adventures, as far as you are willing to share.
So very glad you did not leave us forever, Joe.
Welcome back.....
spanone
(135,862 posts)Enthusiast
(50,983 posts)I've been through some difficult medical shit. But I never died. Jesus Christ!
You are so fortunate to have a wonderful work place. And your brother!
I remember, my friends were at work. It was great to be with my friends. But we were losing our jobs. We had been acquisitioned out. That's tough when you're recovering from a life threatening accident.
I'm so glad you made it, bud. Geez.
still_one
(92,372 posts)may be common, but it is not without risks. Not only a surgical error like you went through, but also
Infection complications, both which can be life threatening. There are also potential side effects that can cause a lot of unpleasant things for years. There is no question your case was mishandled in an awful way.
Wishing you a smooth and full recovery. Glad you are with us
Kali
(55,019 posts)glad you are still here! take it easy and heal up right.
CaliforniaPeggy
(149,683 posts)Now look here, I've lost too many friends already! I'm just not ready to add you to that list, ya hear me???
SO GLAD you made it. SO GLAD.
And yes, since you love your job that much, by all means go into work Monday. But do listen to your body...If you don't feel well, don't go, and maybe see your doc. OK?
Gawd, man.
Binkie The Clown
(7,911 posts)"The best way to stay alive is to keep far away from surgeons."
Warpy
(111,332 posts)The best way to stay alive is to know when they're appropriate and when to tell them to treat something medically until it can't be treated any more.
Warpy
(111,332 posts)while I was in line to pay my taxes. They didn't do anything about my broken leg I kept telling them about until Wednesday, they were too focused on my perfectly healthy heart when what I told them was it's basically a nerve problem I've had since my 20s.
Oh, well, at least my kidneys are still stable, I'm at home, and the air cast is making hobbling around so much easier I'm not bothering with the crutches. Oh, and a nice guy picked the 2 envelopes stuffed with multiple pages of tax returns up and said the postage would be his treat, even though I was trying to hand him the money. There are still good people out there and I was due a reminder of it.
I'm glad we both survived to vote again.
The EMTs need a reality check and the people who listened to them are utter dimwits. However, maybe you need something with a drawer in it next to your bed for the edibles.
LeftishBrit
(41,209 posts)It sounds as though something went wrong with the first surgery? Anyway, I hope that there are no further problems whatsoever, and that you are soon 100% healthy!
Lisa0825
(14,487 posts)It's great that you work for such an awesome company that is genuinely concerned about their employees
marym625
(17,997 posts)So glad for your brother!
Scary, scary stuff!
Hotler
(11,443 posts)Get some good rest (sleep) and take care.
Peace
Hot.
DeSwiss
(27,137 posts)I didn't want to come back.
Your life will never be the same.
K&R
calimary
(81,441 posts)Glad you lived to tell the tale!
I'm told people who go through an experience as profound as this - come back and notice a new, or renewed, appreciation for the little stuff. The sights, the smells, the sounds, little miracles in every little day. You perceive things fresh, with new eyes and new ears, and maybe a whole new mindset.