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Omaha Steve

(99,632 posts)
Tue Apr 21, 2015, 07:54 AM Apr 2015

After Mom’s Facebook Plea, Hundreds Show Up to Bullied Girl’s Birthday Party


Mackenzie Moretter’s classmates didn’t want to attend, so her Minnesota town pulled together to throw an epic celebration.



Jenny Moretter (left) and her daughter, Mackenzie, at Mackenzie's 10th birthday party. (Photo: Jenny Moretter/Facebook)


http://www.takepart.com/article/2015/04/20/after-moms-facebook-plea-hundreds-show-bullied-girls-birthday-party?cmpid=tpdaily-eml-2015-04-20

April 20, 2015 By Liz Dwyer

Staff Writer Liz Dwyer has written about race, parenting, and social justice for several national publications. She was previously education editor at Good.


It’s the stuff of childhood nightmares: You’re so unpopular at school that no one wants to come to your birthday party. That’s the situation fourth grader Mackenzie Moretter, who has a rare genetic disorder called Sotos syndrome, found herself in last week after she distributed invitations to her classmates. But thanks to her mom Jenny Moretter’s savvy use of social media and the kindheartedness of other members of their community, the young girl’s celebration on Saturday in her hometown of Shakopee, Minnesota, was attended by about 300 people, including a player from the Minnesota Vikings.

Indeed, after Moretter discovered that her daughter’s 10th birthday party invitation received no RSVPs, she took to Facebook to ask other moms in the suburban Minneapolis community to stop by with their daughters.

“Hello moms. I’m writing because I have a beautiful daughter named Mackenzie who is turning 10. I recently invited several girls to her birthday party this Saturday. I got cancellations or no calls at all saying whether they’re coming or not,” wrote Moretter.

The heartbroken mother went on to share that bringing gifts for Mackenzie wasn’t necessary. “Just stop by and wish her a happy birthday,” she wrote.

FULL story at link.





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After Mom’s Facebook Plea, Hundreds Show Up to Bullied Girl’s Birthday Party (Original Post) Omaha Steve Apr 2015 OP
A great kid who makes our world a better place. Octafish Apr 2015 #1
4th grade, and already "hating"... how sad! Glad she had a terrific birthday! secondwind Apr 2015 #2
glad she had a great birthday, but it is sad NewJeffCT Apr 2015 #14
Beautiful girl & great mom. Good on the real people who helped celebrate her birthday. appalachiablue Apr 2015 #3
This is turbinetree Apr 2015 #4
Well not one word from the other side saying why they couldn't attend? yeoman6987 Apr 2015 #27
Dichotomy ProfessorGAC Apr 2015 #5
This message was self-deleted by its author ChisolmTrailDem Apr 2015 #6
You want to harass 10 year olds? LisaL Apr 2015 #7
Yea, not very artfully expressed outrage, huh? I want to know that those children and their parents ChisolmTrailDem Apr 2015 #8
I can see people being busy, but it's hard to imagine the odds treestar Apr 2015 #9
It's possible they were all busy, but not one changed their plans with the advanced notice they had. ChisolmTrailDem Apr 2015 #10
True. I'm usually impressed by the younger generation treestar Apr 2015 #11
"I recall that football team that let the disabled kid make a touchdown." Exactly. That's ChisolmTrailDem Apr 2015 #12
Those were high school kids NewJeffCT Apr 2015 #15
Somewhere there is a breakdown here. MN schools have been working to integrate the disabled jwirr Apr 2015 #20
Tolerance is not a problem here. LisaL Apr 2015 #21
I know but I think the bullying classes may also address that problem. jwirr Apr 2015 #22
Try telling a coach you can't play on Saturday because of a yeoman6987 Apr 2015 #29
Might be a good thing to at least have a talk with them treestar Apr 2015 #13
kids can be cruel allan01 Apr 2015 #16
Good news is that this little girl might have a good outcome. LisaL Apr 2015 #18
Message auto-removed Name removed Apr 2015 #17
Recommended. H2O Man Apr 2015 #19
Kick Omaha Steve Apr 2015 #23
bravo. excellente allan01 Apr 2015 #24
Oh MAN that's cool ismnotwasm Apr 2015 #25
Hello Humankindness! onecaliberal Apr 2015 #26
Some people really suck, and then you read stories like this. Initech Apr 2015 #28

Octafish

(55,745 posts)
1. A great kid who makes our world a better place.
Tue Apr 21, 2015, 07:59 AM
Apr 2015

Thank you to the good people of Minnesota who created some great memories for a child.


NewJeffCT

(56,828 posts)
14. glad she had a great birthday, but it is sad
Tue Apr 21, 2015, 09:46 AM
Apr 2015

but not sure I would call it hating. As her parents said, the other kids are nice to her at school, but she doesn't have any close friends or kids she hangs out with. At that age, I think it's more the other kids being fearful of a kid that is different and not knowing any better.

turbinetree

(24,701 posts)
4. This is
Tue Apr 21, 2015, 08:30 AM
Apr 2015

a great tribute to those families and the Minnesota Viking player to show up.




And it gave notice to the parents and the students that didn't show up that they were basically rude, that intolerance is not acceptable

 

yeoman6987

(14,449 posts)
27. Well not one word from the other side saying why they couldn't attend?
Tue Apr 21, 2015, 10:07 PM
Apr 2015

I think calling all of them names without a chance to explain themselves is rather unfair and nobody RSVPs anymore. Maybe some of the kids even showed up.

ProfessorGAC

(65,042 posts)
5. Dichotomy
Tue Apr 21, 2015, 08:32 AM
Apr 2015

I'm angry at the fact that nobody wanted to come. But, it's a feelgood story after all.

I'm mad and happy at the same time.

Response to Omaha Steve (Original post)

 

ChisolmTrailDem

(9,463 posts)
8. Yea, not very artfully expressed outrage, huh? I want to know that those children and their parents
Tue Apr 21, 2015, 08:46 AM
Apr 2015

know how their actions hurt a little girl who just wanted to have a birthday party.

treestar

(82,383 posts)
9. I can see people being busy, but it's hard to imagine the odds
Tue Apr 21, 2015, 08:49 AM
Apr 2015

that every single one could not make it. I'd think they need to look at the school, the classroom and figure out why those girls are so snotty, if that's the case. Possibly every one of them had something else to do, with all the scheduling they do of kids now.

 

ChisolmTrailDem

(9,463 posts)
10. It's possible they were all busy, but not one changed their plans with the advanced notice they had.
Tue Apr 21, 2015, 08:53 AM
Apr 2015

Not one RSVP or other indication that they would not be there was offered. Not one.

Those kids in that MN school and their parents need to have a good look in the mirror at themselves. That hundreds of total strangers showed up and not one classmate says all they need to know about their characters.

treestar

(82,383 posts)
11. True. I'm usually impressed by the younger generation
Tue Apr 21, 2015, 08:55 AM
Apr 2015

As you'd expect to hear more like they went out of their way to go to the girl's birthday party, since she does have a disability. I recall that football team that let the disabled kid make a touchdown. Kids in present day are usually more compassionate and sensitive than my generation was. So this is an odd story. But true it is not just feel good as they need to look in the mirror.

 

ChisolmTrailDem

(9,463 posts)
12. "I recall that football team that let the disabled kid make a touchdown." Exactly. That's
Tue Apr 21, 2015, 09:01 AM
Apr 2015

the memory that clicked in my head: Why couldn't they have rallied around McKenzie like that football team rallied around their classmate?

NewJeffCT

(56,828 posts)
15. Those were high school kids
Tue Apr 21, 2015, 09:56 AM
Apr 2015

that let the boy score a touchdown, if I recall? There is a big difference between high schoolers and kids in 4th grade that are 8 and 9 years old. I'd put the blame way more on the parents than the kids in this case. As the girl's dad said, the kids in the school were friendly to her, but she just didn't have friends. The parents should have taught their kids not to be fearful of kids and people that are different than them.

I'm glad that she ended up having a great birthday party, but I'm more sad about the other kids in her class being ignorant and fearful of their classmate. I just hope she can find a few real friends at school going forward.

jwirr

(39,215 posts)
20. Somewhere there is a breakdown here. MN schools have been working to integrate the disabled
Tue Apr 21, 2015, 10:25 AM
Apr 2015

into classes for decades and it includes teaching tolerance. Most of our schools also have anti-bullying classes.

Some thing went really wrong here. Also I would guess that the parents and children in this 4th grade are very aware of how the community reacted and are NOW feeling pretty embarrassed. Or at least I hope so.

LisaL

(44,973 posts)
21. Tolerance is not a problem here.
Tue Apr 21, 2015, 10:29 AM
Apr 2015

It doesn't sound like anyone is actively bullying the child.
She is being ignored by her peers.

treestar

(82,383 posts)
13. Might be a good thing to at least have a talk with them
Tue Apr 21, 2015, 09:02 AM
Apr 2015

I'm pretty sure most parents would advise their child to be kind to a kid with a disability.

LisaL

(44,973 posts)
18. Good news is that this little girl might have a good outcome.
Tue Apr 21, 2015, 10:09 AM
Apr 2015

Since adults with this syndrome might be in a normal range of height and intellect.

Response to Omaha Steve (Original post)

H2O Man

(73,537 posts)
19. Recommended.
Tue Apr 21, 2015, 10:12 AM
Apr 2015

This shows that when people of good will step up, they can accomplish wonderful things. And have fun in doing so.

This is truly beautiful. Thank you for posting it.

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