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WilliamPitt

(58,179 posts)
Mon May 4, 2015, 08:54 AM May 2015

How to Talk to Your Kids About Bernie Sanders

How to Talk to Your Kids About Bernie Sanders

Sometimes it can be scary and confusing for kids when they’re faced with an unknown, like a politician who actually represents the regular people who voted for him. As you tuck them into bed don’t be surprised if you hear questions like, “But what about the billionaires? Who’s going to speak for them?” or “Why is he so angry all the time?” or “Mom, why did you hit him?” We’ll get to that last one in a minute.

I find that the best way to address kids’ valid concerns about politicians is to ease them into it. The last time we tried to explain a government shutdown to my 10-year-old he said, “Wow, sounds like they don’t know how to do their jobs. They should all be fired.” There’s no telling what sort of blood lust this whole Bernie situation could unleash in our household and I’m betting your family is struggling with the same sense of unease. I’ve put together some answers to use when fielding common questions from your kids. You’ve probably been asking yourself some of these questions too, so don’t feel shy about talking to yourself about Bernie Sanders. We all do. It’s completely natural.

What does it mean when a politician “doesn’t lie”?

Well, this means that he or she is telling “the truth”. This is the type of behavior that one might expect from, say, your teacher or a librarian. I understand it can be confusing, trust me, it’s definitely confusing to most adults. What we’re used to is a sort of non-truth-jargon-bite and we nod and think “Thank you politician for the nonsense that just came out of your face hole” and we get right back to eating our burrito(s) because that’s life, man. I think you know by now that adults don’t really expect the truth otherwise why would we ask you if you’ve brushed your teeth and then accept your answer without making you breathe directly into our faces “just to be sure”? We’re used to being lied to. We like it. It’s soothing. So this situation is uncomfortable for us too. Just know this: you are not alone. We will get through Truthmageddon-Honestypocalypse-2016 together.

(snip)

But why is he even bothering when he can’t win?

I’m gonna lay this out real plain and simple to you kids: None of us have a chance in H-E-double-hockey-sticks of achieving our biggest, boldest, bravest dreams unless we do one thing: Try. Without underdogs there would be no upsets and no legends. It’s exhilarating to see people try to win against all odds because most of us identify with that feeling. We’re so small, we’re just one person in an ocean of people. And all those other people? Taller, richer, smarter, more talented, better connected, nicer teeth, snazzier suits. How could we ever be the one who makes the shot, writes the book, gets the job or the girl or the life we’ve always wanted? Why us? But why NOT us?

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How to Talk to Your Kids About Bernie Sanders (Original Post) WilliamPitt May 2015 OP
Oh yeah. 99Forever May 2015 #1
Do you personally agree with Bernie on everything? boston bean May 2015 #2
If memory serves me well donnasgirl May 2015 #5
And the NRA loves Hillary, NOT.. It is not a differentiator... boston bean May 2015 #6
Your Comment made it sound like donnasgirl May 2015 #8
He's more conservative than O'Malley and Hillary on guns... TekGryphon May 2015 #9
Reflects Vermont. Rural state with less need for regulations, as Dean pointed out in 2004 n/t eridani May 2015 #70
Vermont is one of the 3 states (Wyoming & Arizona as the other 2) JonLP24 May 2015 #78
Rated F by the NRA, indicating a pro-gun control voting record. L0oniX May 2015 #7
Thank you loonix donnasgirl May 2015 #12
Add to that he was the first senator to say that he was NOT going to hear Netanyahu karynnj May 2015 #29
That tells me something very positive about Bernie. Enthusiast May 2015 #72
Okay, but then there's this: JaneyVee May 2015 #34
20 years ...How far back will you go? Lots of people have changed opinions since then. FFS L0oniX May 2015 #37
Restricts lawsuits against gun manufacturer for gun misuse Mnpaul May 2015 #57
Thank you for that! Paka May 2015 #79
You sound desperate to pin something, anything, on Bernie. Difficult ain't it? Enthusiast May 2015 #73
Remind me: Why do Bernie supporters have to agree with him on every issue again? merrily May 2015 #10
They don't have too. So don't expect the same from Hillary supporters. boston bean May 2015 #11
? When did I hold Hillary supporters, or anyone, to that standard? merrily May 2015 #13
haha boston bean May 2015 #14
You saw me post that? Link, please. merrily May 2015 #15
Stop taking it so personally... Are you denying it is said? boston bean May 2015 #16
When you post to me to tell me to stop doing something, it ought to be something merrily May 2015 #17
Well, I'm glad we agree then.... It should not happen, even though it does. boston bean May 2015 #18
No clue what you think we agreed to. Whatever. merrily May 2015 #19
That people should not hold others to standards they don't hold themselves too. nt boston bean May 2015 #20
Yet, as a group, posters who support Hillary have done that merrily May 2015 #23
ah... are you saying I do that?? I've never done that. boston bean May 2015 #24
What part of "as a group" was mysterious. merrily May 2015 #25
I am a Hillary supporter. boston bean May 2015 #26
You're not a group, though. So again, what part of "as a group" was mysterious. merrily May 2015 #27
I'm part of a group you feel is holding a double standard... boston bean May 2015 #28
I will not support any Democrat that supports the TPP. Enthusiast May 2015 #74
to rbnyc May 2015 #50
I noticed that two. :) DisgustipatedinCA May 2015 #52
twice rbnyc May 2015 #61
+1 cui bono May 2015 #66
nope. and let me give you a gift to use in your quest to go after Bernie cali May 2015 #21
^^^this^^^ L0oniX May 2015 #39
As many here have said before BrotherIvan May 2015 #31
I feel the same about Hillary. nt boston bean May 2015 #33
Please tell me your position on this BrotherIvan May 2015 #43
Why the challenge. I was always against the war. boston bean May 2015 #44
Because one candidate argued for a war that was disastrous BrotherIvan May 2015 #45
And the other represented Vermont. ucrdem May 2015 #46
Because people would vote against her but vote for Bush III BrotherIvan May 2015 #48
Ten bucks if that's not the match up. ucrdem May 2015 #49
I already bet $100 with someone on this board that Jeb will be the Republican nominee BrotherIvan May 2015 #56
Okay it's a sure thing. So let's screw with it and make it real contest? ucrdem May 2015 #62
Fair enough BrotherIvan May 2015 #63
formidable and a warning. merrily May 2015 #76
+1 BrotherIvan May 2015 #81
And??? Should I have not have voted for Kerry? boston bean May 2015 #47
I didn't vote for Kerry in the primaries BrotherIvan May 2015 #51
Obviously it was not a make or break for you then. boston bean May 2015 #53
That's called a leap in logic BrotherIvan May 2015 #59
You asked me about the iwr. I answered. boston bean May 2015 #60
I was pointing out the assumption that it wasn't important for me a leap in logic BrotherIvan May 2015 #64
What does it matter my personal motivations for backing a candidate. boston bean May 2015 #75
I am asking because I was trying to understand your point of view BrotherIvan May 2015 #82
I told you my point of view. I already voted for two persons who boston bean May 2015 #83
Ok, good day BrotherIvan May 2015 #84
...^ that 840high May 2015 #69
Good for him on the Second Amendment. Makes him more electable. NYC_SKP May 2015 #38
Bravo! marym625 May 2015 #3
Nice One malthaussen May 2015 #4
I am going to make a bold prediction: either he will win the primary or he won't. merrily May 2015 #22
I'll just leave this cogent critique here ConservativeDemocrat May 2015 #30
Absolutely true! and I love your why not us by the way. Go Seahawks! Go Bernie! liberal_at_heart May 2015 #32
This is great, Will. hifiguy May 2015 #35
Don't forget about part about the secret trade negotiations. ucrdem May 2015 #36
This message was self-deleted by its author 1000words May 2015 #40
Great piece. Kudos! KittyWampus May 2015 #41
I think this new truth, is the new New Deal, that we have all hoped would come along. Hubert Flottz May 2015 #42
You rocked the H-E-double-hockey-sticks out of that. AtomicKitten May 2015 #54
I have to talk to my kids about Bernie Sanders? liberal N proud May 2015 #55
Kicking out lobbyists for big business/the wealthy/conservatives turns me on. merrily May 2015 #77
I get ya, Will... MrMickeysMom May 2015 #58
Terrific! JDPriestly May 2015 #65
My kid actually schooled me on Bernie. w8liftinglady May 2015 #67
HUGE K & R !!! - Thank You !!! WillyT May 2015 #68
I think bernie is going to be the one to do it. redruddyred May 2015 #71
Great Piece. Paka May 2015 #80

boston bean

(36,224 posts)
2. Do you personally agree with Bernie on everything?
Mon May 4, 2015, 08:57 AM
May 2015

If not, what would be one thing you disagree with him on?

Mine would be his pandering to gun nuts to get elected to the Senate... he is not above playing politics.... So, I think we can all get over putting him up on some pedestal like he is the only true one... We did this in 2008 already.

For some here, I believe his support for Israel's actions against Gaza would be one?

boston bean

(36,224 posts)
6. And the NRA loves Hillary, NOT.. It is not a differentiator...
Mon May 4, 2015, 09:45 AM
May 2015

However, it is true that he voted against the brady bill.

donnasgirl

(656 posts)
8. Your Comment made it sound like
Mon May 4, 2015, 09:52 AM
May 2015

The NRA was in love with Bernie which is not the case, In my opinion and speaking for myself only I will back Bernie Sanders until further notice, with money and our votes and I speak for my whole family.

TekGryphon

(430 posts)
9. He's more conservative than O'Malley and Hillary on guns...
Mon May 4, 2015, 09:57 AM
May 2015

... but, in return, is more liberal in other areas.

He voted for protecting gun manufacturer's and sellers from lawsuits back in 2005. It was quite a stunning defeat to gun-control groups.

Personally, I find O'Malley to be the most consistently liberal of the three, but that's tempered by the fact that he's completely unelectable.

JonLP24

(29,322 posts)
78. Vermont is one of the 3 states (Wyoming & Arizona as the other 2)
Tue May 5, 2015, 08:30 AM
May 2015

with the least restrictive gun laws possible(within the federal limits).

Guns aren't a huge issue for me so it isn't something that offends as same with Dean & I'm consistently liberal. One of the most progressive states also favors gun rights. Same here but it is a very secondary issue, doesn't swing my vote either way.

 

L0oniX

(31,493 posts)
7. Rated F by the NRA, indicating a pro-gun control voting record.
Mon May 4, 2015, 09:51 AM
May 2015
Mine would be his pandering to gun nuts to get elected to the Senate... he is not above playing politics.... So, I think we can all get over putting him up on some pedestal like he is the only true one... We did this in 2008 already.
bullshit

Rated F by the NRA, indicating a pro-gun control voting record.
http://www.ontheissues.org/Domestic/Bernie_Sanders_Gun_Control.htm


For some here, I believe his support for Israel's actions against Gaza would be one?
He wasn't the only one!
All 100 Senators, including Vermont’s Bernie Sanders and Patrick Leahy, joined in passing a Senate resolution on July 17, 2014 supporting “the State of Israel as it defends itself against unprovoked rocket attacks from the Hamas terrorist organization.”

http://www.counterpunch.org/2014/07/24/why-did-bernie-sanders-get-gaza-so-wrong/

karynnj

(59,507 posts)
29. Add to that he was the first senator to say that he was NOT going to hear Netanyahu
Mon May 4, 2015, 11:45 AM
May 2015

- he is supportive of the Iran deal. On Israel/Palestine, it is impossible to find a Senator who would NOT support Israel. I think he, like most Senators, backed the 2 state solution.

 

JaneyVee

(19,877 posts)
34. Okay, but then there's this:
Mon May 4, 2015, 07:26 PM
May 2015

In 1993, Sanders voted for a National Rifle Association (NRA)-supported bill to restrict lawsuits against gun manufacturers and against the Brady Bill.

Mnpaul

(3,655 posts)
57. Restricts lawsuits against gun manufacturer for gun misuse
Mon May 4, 2015, 08:46 PM
May 2015

That would be like suing a car manufacturer for someone who was run over by a reckless driver. He was correct in voting against it.

merrily

(45,251 posts)
10. Remind me: Why do Bernie supporters have to agree with him on every issue again?
Mon May 4, 2015, 09:59 AM
May 2015

The pony, rainbow pooping unicorn memes were something DU's right made up to bash DU's left with. They were never the reality.

boston bean

(36,224 posts)
11. They don't have too. So don't expect the same from Hillary supporters.
Mon May 4, 2015, 09:59 AM
May 2015

It's not nice to hold others to a standard one does not hold themselves too.

merrily

(45,251 posts)
13. ? When did I hold Hillary supporters, or anyone, to that standard?
Mon May 4, 2015, 10:01 AM
May 2015

If never, isn't your directing me to stop something I never did misleading?

boston bean

(36,224 posts)
14. haha
Mon May 4, 2015, 10:03 AM
May 2015

How could you vote for her?? I mean TPP TPP TPP TPP TPP is the end all be all and how you could you possibly be for someone who "might" support that? It is so undemocratic and unliberal!

You're right, I never see that standard being applied.

merrily

(45,251 posts)
17. When you post to me to tell me to stop doing something, it ought to be something
Mon May 4, 2015, 10:09 AM
May 2015

I did at some point, don't you think?

I don't accuse you of every behavior of every Hillary supporter on the board that displeases, do I? That's bizarre.

I treat you as an individual, not as a poster child for every bad behavior of every Hillary supporter.

merrily

(45,251 posts)
23. Yet, as a group, posters who support Hillary have done that
Mon May 4, 2015, 10:24 AM
May 2015

as much as supporters of anyone else, if not more so.

merrily

(45,251 posts)
25. What part of "as a group" was mysterious.
Mon May 4, 2015, 10:35 AM
May 2015

There is a difference between my making a general statement about Hillary supporters a group and your posting to me "Don't do X."

merrily

(45,251 posts)
27. You're not a group, though. So again, what part of "as a group" was mysterious.
Mon May 4, 2015, 10:37 AM
May 2015

BTW, what is the point of this tedious game? If it's about getting the last word, it's yours.

boston bean

(36,224 posts)
28. I'm part of a group you feel is holding a double standard...
Mon May 4, 2015, 10:39 AM
May 2015

So, I asked...

I'm not playing any game.

 

cali

(114,904 posts)
21. nope. and let me give you a gift to use in your quest to go after Bernie
Mon May 4, 2015, 10:20 AM
May 2015

so you don't need to continue to make shit up- poorly. this is a real issue and I think Bernie is flat wrong on it.

(oh, at least Bernie was mildly critical of the Israeli attack on Gaza when he called it an overreaction. Hillary? Uh no You will never find a critical word from passionately pro-Israel Hillary. )

So go do your own research, but here's what to type into google search: Bernie Sanders F-35

I do not agree with Bernie on Israel. I think it's perfectly valid to bring it up- though as Hillary is even MORE pro-I, it's kind of pointless.

I do not agree with Bernie on the F-35. I believe his position is flat out indefensible.

He has not been strong on federal gun control- though he has supported background checks, he thinks most gun control should be a state issue. I agree with him on this, but others certainly don't.

But I'm nothing like you. I don't live in denial and I don't make stuff up- like laughably claiming that Bernie is just copying Hillary in opposing Citizens United.

BrotherIvan

(9,126 posts)
31. As many here have said before
Mon May 4, 2015, 07:22 PM
May 2015

I don't agree with Bernie on everything. But I do think that what he supports he honestly believes and has strong reasons for doing so. I think he is honest in stating those reasons. But for the most part, he represents my values very closely.

And I think that political expediency is not in his makeup. I don't think he has or will sell out. That is very rare these days and is one of the reasons for all the enthusiasm since his announcement.

boston bean

(36,224 posts)
44. Why the challenge. I was always against the war.
Mon May 4, 2015, 08:23 PM
May 2015

I voted for Edwards in the primary and Kerry for president.

So, what does that tell you. I assume a lot of people criticizing Hillary voted for one who drafted the iwr and another who also voted for it.

BrotherIvan

(9,126 posts)
45. Because one candidate argued for a war that was disastrous
Mon May 4, 2015, 08:30 PM
May 2015

The other was 100% correct that the war was an abomination, would create ISIS, would kill a million innocent people, and would and did take away from social programs and the good of the people in this country. Not to mention that we had no right to invade a country which had not attacked us as Hillary clearly states in her speech. If you think Clinton did not vote for the war because of political expediency, then why was she so wrong when millions of people knew everything she said was untrue?

I am saying that claiming that one is supporting Clinton because she is a strong fighter and can raise a lot of money is fair. She has proven that. But acting like her record is anything but what it is is entirely disingenuous.

ucrdem

(15,512 posts)
46. And the other represented Vermont.
Mon May 4, 2015, 08:32 PM
May 2015

You're right in that this election might come down to IWR again, in which case Hillary is screwn and Jeb wins. But let's hope it doesn't.

BrotherIvan

(9,126 posts)
48. Because people would vote against her but vote for Bush III
Mon May 4, 2015, 08:34 PM
May 2015

Not the strongest logic I've ever seen. But the last few days have been historical in that regard.

BrotherIvan

(9,126 posts)
56. I already bet $100 with someone on this board that Jeb will be the Republican nominee
Mon May 4, 2015, 08:44 PM
May 2015

I am 99.99% sure that he will be. And that is the argument of why people don't need to support Clinton just because they are afraid of a Republican winning. I think that Jeb is so awful a candidated, detested by anything to the left of McCarthy and loathed by conservatives. I can't see any blue states breaking for Jeb and they absolutely must for a Republican to win an election. I don't think independents will break for him either.

That is why whomever wins the Democratic primary wins the election. I am speaking with other Hillary supporters in other threads just today that a Democrat walks into the general with 257 votes and a Republican walks in with 149. A Republican would have to win every swing state and a solidly blue state to get to 270. Short of election theft on a massive scale or a huge October surprise (entirely possible) it is almost statistically impossible for a Republican to win the presidency for the near future. It's simple arithmetic.

That's why it is possible for a liberal/left-leaning progressive to win this time. Obama ran as a solid liberal and had a pretty easy time of it, Republican cash not withstanding.

ucrdem

(15,512 posts)
62. Okay it's a sure thing. So let's screw with it and make it real contest?
Mon May 4, 2015, 08:55 PM
May 2015

Sorry no sale. Bernie could be a super guy but he's a long shot to win and we don't need to mess with a sure thing at this moment.

p.s. Clinton has one vulnerability and that's IWR and I don't think it's an accident that an otherwise improbable candidate comes along who can hold that against her. I'm not saying Bernie's a player but I imagine he'll get the attention of the usual suspects.

BrotherIvan

(9,126 posts)
63. Fair enough
Mon May 4, 2015, 09:04 PM
May 2015

I think that's a fair and honest reponse. If you back Clinton because you think she's the only one who can win, I know that her ability to raise a lot of cash is formidable.

BrotherIvan

(9,126 posts)
81. +1
Tue May 5, 2015, 01:48 PM
May 2015

It says quite a lot that we are supposed to only think people who can buy the presidency are even eligible.

BrotherIvan

(9,126 posts)
51. I didn't vote for Kerry in the primaries
Mon May 4, 2015, 08:38 PM
May 2015

I thought that he was not a good candidate for a national election. He was the establishment candidate and did not generate enthusiasm. People seem to forget that that is important. You can have all the money in the world, but you can't buy that.

boston bean

(36,224 posts)
53. Obviously it was not a make or break for you then.
Mon May 4, 2015, 08:40 PM
May 2015

I voted for Edwards. It obviously wasn't a make or break for me 11 years ago and isn't today either.

I'm sure it wasn't a make a break for many people back then either including yourself.

BrotherIvan

(9,126 posts)
59. That's called a leap in logic
Mon May 4, 2015, 08:48 PM
May 2015

Yes, it was important to me then because I think that any leader who was so wrong about it, when so many other Democrats had the courage to vote against it, was too entrenched or severely compromised. Hence, the lack of him being a candidate that created enthusiasm. He was running against the war, or he could have, if he had not voted for it.

Do I think IWR is make or break for non-political junkies in 2016? No. Do I think the appearance of representing the establishment is? YES.

BrotherIvan

(9,126 posts)
64. I was pointing out the assumption that it wasn't important for me a leap in logic
Mon May 4, 2015, 09:08 PM
May 2015

I'm just trying to understand people's motivations for backing a candidate. The best and frankly most honest one I have seen is that Hillary has the ability to raise the most cash which is absolutely necessary to win. I think I have raised very important facts that refute that, but if that is the reason, fair enough. What doesn't work is when people try to claim she is the most liberal, progressive candidate running. She isn't. As I said, I admire and expect people to be honest and forthright. I think Clinton supporters would get a lot less pushback if they would just be honest.

boston bean

(36,224 posts)
75. What does it matter my personal motivations for backing a candidate.
Tue May 5, 2015, 07:47 AM
May 2015

I support Hillary Clinton. I took the time and answered you and it just wasn't good enough I suppose.

She is a liberal and progressive and a democrat. Dennis Kucinich was also regaled as the most liberal progressive choice around here. People can support who they like. I'm not concerning myself as to someone's personal motivations.

I like Hillary and think she will make a great President.

BrotherIvan

(9,126 posts)
82. I am asking because I was trying to understand your point of view
Tue May 5, 2015, 02:07 PM
May 2015

That's what usually passes for discussion.That is what civil discourse is about: people presenting their arguments and then debating the issues. I think good reasoning stands up to vigorous debate.

boston bean

(36,224 posts)
83. I told you my point of view. I already voted for two persons who
Tue May 5, 2015, 02:26 PM
May 2015

supported the IWR. And you voted for at least one as well.

I told you it wasn't a deal breaker for me in response to your inquiry regarding it.

I'm not sure how much more help I can be or how much more clear I could be.

 

NYC_SKP

(68,644 posts)
38. Good for him on the Second Amendment. Makes him more electable.
Mon May 4, 2015, 07:49 PM
May 2015

Most American support it.

He's not running for president of the gun control minority of America.

Still, he supports magazine limits and I don't:

http://www.ontheissues.org/domestic/Bernie_Sanders_Gun_Control.htm

marym625

(17,997 posts)
3. Bravo!
Mon May 4, 2015, 08:59 AM
May 2015

Love it! And, we will win.We will all win when Bernie wins!

Your suit may be snazzier but I bet my dresses are

merrily

(45,251 posts)
22. I am going to make a bold prediction: either he will win the primary or he won't.
Mon May 4, 2015, 10:21 AM
May 2015

Meanwhile, America will hear him.

Either way, my support of him is a great investment for me.

If supporting him is not a good investment for you, don't support him.



ConservativeDemocrat

(2,720 posts)
30. I'll just leave this cogent critique here
Mon May 4, 2015, 11:49 AM
May 2015
Grow up. ("Bernie Sanders isn't a Liar&quot

It says it better than I care to put in the effort to explain.

- C.D. Proud Member of the Reality Based Community


ucrdem

(15,512 posts)
36. Don't forget about part about the secret trade negotiations.
Mon May 4, 2015, 07:35 PM
May 2015

And oh yes the promise to run a clean campaign, immediately followed by a deep dive into Clinton Cash. Or maybe it would be best to avoid the subject altogether as it's already a little shopworn.

Response to WilliamPitt (Original post)

Hubert Flottz

(37,726 posts)
42. I think this new truth, is the new New Deal, that we have all hoped would come along.
Mon May 4, 2015, 08:16 PM
May 2015

The precursor of better things to come. And better than the honest truth, is damned hard to imagine.

I'm glad Bernie had the great good sense, to run on the democratic ticket.

I think the man is electable.

Is he perfect? No mortal man is.

We wanted hope and change in 2008, I think we still do.

liberal N proud

(60,347 posts)
55. I have to talk to my kids about Bernie Sanders?
Mon May 4, 2015, 08:44 PM
May 2015

That makes it sound like either the "sex talk" or the "stranger talk." Maybe it's the "DRUG TALK"




good grief!!

w8liftinglady

(23,278 posts)
67. My kid actually schooled me on Bernie.
Mon May 4, 2015, 10:24 PM
May 2015

I had no idea he was THAT much of a believer in anything political.He has researched Bernie's entire political career and agrees with everything Sanders has stood for. It's very inspiring to me..

Paka

(2,760 posts)
80. Great Piece.
Tue May 5, 2015, 08:56 AM
May 2015

I don't have kids, but I have nieces and nephews and great nieces and nephews. They all need to be part of the discussion. I plan to talk with the whole lot of them. GO BERNIE!

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