How does one even find this out? Still, it does nothing to save my dog or my stuff. Everything I care about and worked all my life for. I can't even find a decent place for Yoshi even if I could cope with his leaving me.

Ask about the Red Cross. Good luck.

Check your pm.

please follow up on this one, please!

A misanthrope you are not.

can you send it again?

I got one from Omaha Steve, but I think I'm also missing a couple of others as well. I'll delete some stuff and see if that helps.

and she can send info in reply

in case she doesn't come back to this thread.

Thanks!

Will let you know how they respond to my request for temporary fostering. Good luck!

HERE


https://philadelphia.craigslist.org/search/roo

You don't fool around, you might get crabby, but you do step up to the plate.

You rock!

as to whether you heard back from your pm.

I wish her the best, and hope she can help herself.

OK?
You got the lesson, listen to yourself instead of your family. (helluva way to have to get it, but....)

Won't be easy, but just get through the next step, then another....

One step at a time. Try to focus on a way forward and don't get bogged down in your feelings about your family right now. You can process those later, from a safer place.

but just in case:


Covenant House
www.covenanthousepa.org

31 E Armat St
Philadelphia, PA
(215) 951-5411
Victory House of Lehigh Valley
www.victoryhouselv.org

314 Fillmore St
Bethlehem, PA
(610) 691-3373
Agape Family Shelter
www.lebanonrescuemission.org

139 S 9th St
Lebanon, PA
(717) 272-6573
Homeless Advocacy Project
www.homelessadvocacyproject.org

1429 WALNUT STREET, 15TH FLOOR
Philadelphia, PA
(215) 523-9595
Good Samaritan Shelter
www.goodsamshelter.org

141 High St
Phoenixville, PA
(610) 933-9305
CHS Homeless Assistance Programs
www.chscorp.org

1945 Fifth Ave
Pittsburgh, PA
(412) 246-1640
Next Step Center Inc
www.nextstepcenter.org

406 Stoystown Rd
Somerset, PA
(814) 444-8588

I have to go to the place that my county has and it's full. I just don't have the strength for this anymore. I've been so beaten up by my family I just feel like a total piece of dirt they always wanted to scrape off their shoes anyway. I haven't even seen them in seven years, I never tell them anything about me and they're just so sure that they knew all along that I was just a fruitcake to stupid to hold down a job yet they also know that I've worked my whole life. Far longer than they did since they had the chance to go to school past high school and I never did. Yet it's a knife in my heart all the same.

openings? Your case worker could help maybe, and please look into msanthropes post.
She may have a possible place for you.

What really sucks about this is that each county has it's own social services and you're just stuck working with the county social services that you have. It goes by where you're a resident. Had I not been stuck living in a wealthy county that never felt the need for much in the way of social services I'd be better off. For example, if I was a resident of Philly then I'd go through Philadelphia County's social services which are actually a whole lot better than my county. My county has next to nothing for shelter. One buidling that only houses 50 people in total at any given time, and there's a very long waiting list. Plus, other sorts of people get bumped ahead of me in line: people with young kids, pregnant women, alcoholics/drug addicts, people with AIDS and seniors, etc. My case worker already told me last week when she was here for hours that the shelter is not anywhere she wants me to go because of how bad it is. She should know, she has other clients in there all the time.

As I mentioned in my PM to you, that's unheard of in my area of California, where social services case workers have 900 clients and only process paperwork for a small handful of government programs. They won't even point you to local programs that could help you. You're much better off calling 211 if you need a list of resources.

Anyway, don't underestimate that one major bit of luck you had in getting a social worker who seems to care about you personally!!!

Sid

TWO.

And as for Yoshi here is the website for an Akita rescue group. They will help you find a temporary foster home for Yoshi until you have another place to live and job:

http://www.bigeastakitarescue.net/

http://akita.rescueshelter.com/Pennsylvania


I also suggested you find your nearest library and figure out how to get on the internet using their computer.

and will free you up to look around for different jobs and places to stay.

Dammit!!!

Please PM me with the latest?

I was so hoping that something would pan out for you! I wish I had the means to help!! Please update me as you can!!

I hope things turn around for you.

to go through utterly useless social services keep you from going out and applying for jobs on your own?

If you've never had to deal with social services yourself you wouldn't understand that.

and totally precludes job hunting? And has for the year or so you've been out of work? Really? Why am I skeptical?

yourself is my advice. I don't appreciate you dressing down someone in a tough place in front of god and everyone.

She's been crying here on DU for about three months now, never quite manages to accomplish any of the genuinely helpful suggestions that have been posted for her. She claims to have stayed for about ten years in substandard housing, blames her landlady on her losing her job, thinks it's okay if her dog attacks people who come on her property. I don't think that's condescension. I think that's trying to hold her accountable for her own choices.

Plus, in all this time never have made any effort to get a job? The last thing I believe she was doing was bartending. If she's a competent bartender why hasn't she gotten another such job? Oh, yeah, that's right. She also says that working nights at that job meant she couldn't have any friends. Well, most of my life I've worked an evening shift and I never had any trouble keeping friends.

Maybe that's also condescending, except that I'm stating my own particular experience.

was, but I guess if you have a history with this poster, I'll admit that I should probably keep my nose out of it.

I can't see that "person" anyway.

that person (no quotes) on ignore. If you were actually ignoring her, you wouldn't have been able to see any of the replies to her. You replied to a reply to her.

Twice this year, and it looks like she's building up to the third time.

This is the third time, in as many months.



http://www.democraticunderground.com/10026221474



http://www.democraticunderground.com/10026473464



http://www.democraticunderground.com/10026597184

For showing such soulessness and insensibility.

Kind of post like this should not belong there.

It's instructive to read through them.

http://www.democraticunderground.com/10026221474

http://www.democraticunderground.com/10026442802

The most interesting thing about these is how she rarely responds to actual useful advice, then disappears and a month later is back.

They at least are quite genuine, and I hope someday they will see results for their kindness.

Not everyone operates on emotion.

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Beat me to it.

A lot of Torch's harassed experience and inability to get things done ring true to me from my own experience.

I'd like to suggest why she keeps dancing away when people get too pushy is not because she's trying to pull some sort of "fast one" but because she's afraid if someone comes in and starts laying down "tough love" they will demand that she make changes she is trying to avoid making (like giving up the dog) or they will start impinging on her autonomy in various ways. The woman who wrote the famous "why poor people make bad decisions" article buys cigarettes and smokes and seems to feel that's an important choice and "break" she needs to have. But if any outsider swooped in to "judge", those cigs would be the first thing taken away.

This is why elderly people are often afraid of their own children when they get to be a certain age (they might "get sent to a home&quot . A neighbor of mine was telling me about having to move a friend of theirs out of a place "she couldn't afford" which meant forcing her to "give up a lot of her books". Having heard that, I'm not about to trust her with my own housing problems! There are certain choices that involve home and identity that we don't want to make unless absolutely, absolutely forced to do it.

If this is the reason, Torch the Witch did lose vital credibility through avoidance. (And before anyone piles on me, I'm saying that because I'm concerned TtW couldn't raise as much GoFundMe money as she could have because her disappearances raised those questions. I've strongly suggested to her to bite the bullet and *request* a Third Party from DU to come visit her and vouch for her situation as a third party. Preferably an older member with some credibility.

I would really like to know if this plan is in process.

In the meantime, *please* don't make assumptions about how many crappy little things people in these sorts of situations have to get done each day. My organized looks like I'm being scheduled by the Helicopter Mom From Hell. Even if TtW was applying for jobs, do you think she'd be in any condition to appeal to an employer? If you don't want to help her - fine. But leave some benefit of the doubt that you may not be able to comprehend the scale of fragmentation imposed by situations of imminent homelessness, unemployment, and depression over lack of prospects.

And my mind is open to the other ones, too.

I continue to encourage TtW to get a "credibility witness" (and possibly some outside help pulling her stuff together).

My own situation got so ridiculous I actually needed something like a "life coach" to help keep me on top of my calendar. Luckily I live in an area where that was among the resources available to me. Perhaps not so much in the suburbs of Philadelphia...

Your post was full of perspective and it's always best to think positive.

so much sense it's ridiculous...

I don't know TTW but given my personal experience with bad luck mixed with clinical depression that I haven't always been able to adequately treat, I know that all it can take is a year or two of having crap thrown ceaselessly at you before you lose the will to get out of bed and face that crap head-on. And I'm proud: the last thing I'd do is post pictures of my horrible living conditions and my eviction notice in the hope that somebody will take pity on me, even though I'm asking for help. It isn't always logical, how people respond to tragedy and we all have our limits. Just my two cents'.

people lose patience rather quickly with someone who begs for help, is offered genuinely useful and helpful advice which is ignored. Then comes back later needing help for the exact same problems. And still won't act on that advice.

From this distance, meaning on DU, none of us can do very much to give her meaningful assistance.

It's possible she might be following up on advice she can use, but just not getting around to informing people of the results. Or she's discounting advice she can't use yet - and again, not getting around to informing people of the particular results. Part of this might be because she's overwhelmed: part of this may be because she's afraid of the response if she doesn't lock step with the supposed "friendly" advice. For instance, while it's good to have the places for the dog to go, perhaps she wasn't ready to let the dog go at the time the suggestions were made, and she was still desperately working on just not getting evicted.

Moving is about the most stressful thing there is: all TtW's resources are probably going into trying to stay where she's at. This may be unrealistic, which is why the vanishing acts occur: she doesn't want people telling her that, and it's very depressing and exhausting to think about. TtW may not be making perfectly "rational" decisions, but who among us does? There are a lot of human factors that go into each of our decisions. But when you are poor, and you've been asking other people for money, you're every move is suddenly under a lot of scrutiny. That magnifies the stress a hundred fold. It's paralyzing.

The two most unhelpful things you can do in this situation is insinuate they are running a scam (discouraging other people from helping) and nitpick them for not finding a job yet (increasing their sense of self-criticism, fatigue, depression - and exacerbating the situation that's preventing them from getting a job). If you are SURE they are running some sort of scam, regularly pretending to be out of rent and desperate every month on multiple Internet forums, then they should be outed. But if you just "suspect" them, it might be your own biases that are setting off your sniff test.

You are correct in that TtW needs more help that can be provided from the distance of DU - and I'm not at all confident that what she actually needs (complex case management that includes housing services, mental health services, employment services, perhaps something like "life coaching"...) is available where she lives. The biggest problem is that dealing with the sort of problems she has usually takes a lot longer than the timeline she's looking at for holding on to her apartment. I'm not sure what the endgame of that will be since it sounds like her chances of getting, much less holding onto a job, are nil - but it's cruel to snap her back for trying.

I've been through that mill, too -- and it's just like you describe.

I'm very late with this reply, now that the immediate crisis has been averted, but I would like to respond to your invitation for a Third Party to vouch for TTW's situation. I've been on DU for many years, I just don't post much (I hardly ever even sign in, I just read), so my post count is comparatively low and therefore I don't know how much "credibility" I have.

But I can tell you that I know TTW's real name, I have her address, I have her phone number, and we have had some very lengthy online and phone discussions about all this.

I have seen all the court summaries and documents involved, via the court's online access to its cases.

All of it -- the timelines, the dollar amounts, the varying names used by the landlady, the district court decision against TTW, the appeal, the case against the landlady by the city (for not being licensed to rent) and the disposition on that, the latest Complaint filed against TTW by the landlady, and even the initial property inspection report (which appeared as an attachment to the latest Complaint) -- ALL of it matched up and validated what TTW had been saying all along. I did not doubt her in the least, but many did, and I regret not jumping to her defense at the time. When not at work, I was very busy with researching avenues for her to try to get out of this mess, and spent my time on that rather on posting in the free-for-alls that these threads became.

So, take my credibility for whatever you think it's worth, but hopefully rest assured that all of this has been completely true and very harrowing for her to try to navigate almost on her own. There have been roadblocks that she hasn't even mentioned on here, but I think that you understand better than most how that goes.

Again, thank you for putting out there just how difficult it really is to just "pull yourself up by the bootstraps" when the system and our society is the way it is.

I hope someday that will change.

The time I took to point out the inconsistencies after one of the last posts by the op resulted in not being able to post for a while. I wasn't unkind - I just pointed out the obvious. You just can't state the obvious.

Sheesh, in her time of need you grilling her like the police. Are you for real? Where is your humanity?

manage and handle social services issues, it can take months even. Calling 20 numbers, being placed on death hold while you explain your situation over and over and over and over again to those 20 different people until you finally get through to the receptionist who can make the appointment 10 days from now, and then you get cut off after you've sat there for 45 minutes, and you have to start all over again. So during those 10 days you're struggling with paperwork and more appointments, running in circles with the courts and any other administrative hoops you have to jump through. Driving to and from, finding parking, paying for parking with your last pennies. Sitting and waiting so you don't miss the appointment, while your meter is ticking down, watching that digital light board slowly click one at a time towards number C78. You arrived on time, but now they're only at C24. While all the people in front of you are explaining THEIR story for the 20th time in the hopes that this person has the right answers and the possibility of offering some help.

Job hunting? OMFG, have YOU ever hunted for a job when you feel like the mucus on the mold UNDER the pile of poo at the bottom of the cess pitt? And of course to find that job you have to spend more time on the phone, more time waiting by your computer for a reply which usually never comes. You're just ignored because you're too old, you live too far away, you have too much experience, you have too little experience, you're not the bosses niece, you're not pretty enough. The pay is shit, there's a reason why there is a vacancy because the boss is an idiot or a perv or the place is going bankrupt... More time scouring the online ads over and over and over again, sending off resume after resume and perky little cover letter over and over and over again. Driving to the place to drop off a resume and the looks you get when they just say 'oh thanks yeah, that's already been filled'. They feel sorry for you, and you feel rejected. Again. Too little, too late. As usual.

So yeah, be skeptical, but if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all. You don't KNOW what it's like and I hope that you never do.

I cant find job. I am not pretty. I have not a huge network of friends. ..

My God you made me tear up. Bless your heart and emphaty

3 years and has been near a breakdown on several occasions. I am helping her out as is my other kids. So my donating to TTW is impossible right now. My daughter is fostering a dog now and it is a comfort to her (and they are providing money for food and veterinary visits). The dog is a great comfort. Every week she sends out her resume anywhere there is the remotest chance of her getting the job. She tailors her resume for each one.

Now there appears to be a breakthru with a job. I am cautiously optimistic. But we'll wait and see. I don't know how much more she can take.

TTW's situation is far more severe but her mental fatigue is understandable...

There's gotta be someone who can take care of Yoshi for a while. You can't lose your dog!

(Not that it helps, but right now I'm crying over you losing your dog.)

And I don't know how I'd even survive that. I could give him back to the breeder but they'd adopt him out to another permanent home. And I CAN'T lose him! He's my whole world, and every day I need him more. Just thinking about having to have to take him somewhere and walk away has me sobbing like mad. I just don't know a sole who could take him where I know he's be treated well temporarily. My one neighbor would love to have him temporarily but her brother that lives with her and her husband is the one that owns most of the property and he won't do it. He's a jerk, but he foots most of the bills since her and her husband are both on disability. There just isn't anyone else.

the word rescue, and your location. If he's not a pure bred, just choose whatever breed is closest. There are rescue groups everywhere for every breed. Contact those that are near you. They will help. I'm a volunteer for a Bichon Rescue that has reps and foster homes all over the country. We pick up the dog, get them examined by a vet & caught up on any needed shots and fix any health problems they have, then find a foster home to keep them until they find a GOOD forever home. All rescue groups I'm aware of do the same. At least that will take one worry off your shoulders.

When someone has a problem and you hand them a solution and they don't take it…...

You said it.

I do think she has but unfortunely social system is "unable" to serve her. Look she is notvm toping the waiting list: a singke person, not a family, she obviously doesnt fit the prérogatives. ..

She mentions SheilaT is on her ignore list (for whatever reason), and perhaps you are as well?

Maybe a number of people need to post that same info so she (TTW) actually sees it and can reply.


Those of us who are pet parents would probably feel a whole lot better knowing that poor Yoshi has a safe place to go until TTW gets her life together.

At least she couldn't have been when that was posted. The way ignore works on DU3, TTW wouldn't have been able to post that where she did if she was ignoring SheilaT.

Ask for foster care for your dog.

And maube try to go to another county.

Why is social service so unserving toxards you? Over here , when I was homeless in Parid they would not serve me well because I didnt " filled the social workers expectations" Means that I xas not using drugs nor alcohol, did not got pregnant etc.

I had even considered leaving the country...

Stay strong my friend.

I wish I could help....So much.

A billion hugs from France.

If you could only get some national MSM TV exposure, become a "celebrity" of sorts, particularly of the hate-based variety, then you'd probably have hundreds of thousands of dollars in your account.

Families can be very disappointing, particularly in the U.S., it's best to rely only on yourself. Just "divorce" them forever.

Thanks for the kind words. I've done so much crying today that I have a whopper of a headache now and I'm so exhausted from it all.

Please let your dog go if the breeder will take him back. People are going to make the decision for you and it may wind up bad for your dog.

sell everything I had, live in my car and in the back of my friend's restaurant, leave my KID (age 16) to stay with her friends and start all over, without a penny, from scratch.

I started over as a nanny, given a room to live in, in a nice home for a single dad looking after his kids and household. I sold most of my stuff, re-homed one of my 2 little dogs, one who went to a super nice family. I got to keep one of them, thankfully, but she was on the fence too until the dad said we could give it a try, and it was fine, thankfully. I got to stay in touch with the lovely people who adopted my other one, and they were the best doggie parents ever, so that was amazing.

Thankfully my daughter was looked after by parents of her friends, but they had no room for me, especially because of the damn dog. So I stayed in the workshop of my friend's restaurant where my stuff was stored while I was selling it. I slept on a mattress on the floor with no heat, and didn't want them to know... but he figured it out and discretely gave me the key to his business so I could sleep on the couch in there and take a shower. He never told anyone, bless his heart.

There is so much more to the story, but this isn't about me today. What I want to say is you can recover, you will have to make sacrifices you never imagined and your life will never be the same, but it's not the end of the world. I don't blame anyone but myself and a very bad investment choice I made. But I did what I had to do in the aftermath, sucked up my pride and scrubbed toilets and did someone else's laundry and worked my ass off to scramble out of the deep, dark hole and slowly grab my life back one minute at a time. There were many days when throwing myself in the river seemed like the best option, but I held on just a little but longer. I wasn't brave enough for that... For the past 5 years it's been one step forward and 2 steps back and I'm still not recovered completely, but I'm grateful that I've held on and I'm doing pretty good and I have options and a relatively better life.

This is a situation many of us face at this age, nearly 55 and not in good health. I hide my physical and social problems and get in there and do a good job with a stupid smile on my face. We're considered old now, aren't we at this age? The younger ones always get the job, the man, and we're invisible sometimes. We have to sell ourselves on our wisdom, reliability and maturity and hide our mistakes, none of us are perfect. But it is possible to grab this life back and to fight back and soldier on and muster up the courage and humility to do what needs to be done to survive.

Put the pooch in foster care for now. He'll be fine and once you're back on your feet you can reclaim him. Pack up your things so they're well organized, pack for yourself only what you need and find a place for just you, and find a job, any job, even if it's cleaning toilets. This is the business of living life and if you've made it this far you can keep on doing it and pull yourself out of the hole. It won't be fine, but it will have to do for today. Listen to yourself and no one else, do for yourself and no one else. No one else has your back but you, you can't rely on anyone but yourself. Use social services in every possible way, accept any help that is offered that makes sense.

Forget about what got you here and look at what's in front of you. Don't let this stuff hold you back anymore.

You'll be ok. You're smart, creative, and strong in spite of all this and you'll pull through. It's just what we do. I can only give you my best wishes and confidence that you'll make the right decisions and get through this pile of crap. XOXOXOXO

going well for your daughter as well.
Peace.

All I can say is yeah, 'I have what it takes' but sometimes the burden of being so strong and independent becomes tiring and I really wish that I had someone to take some of it off me or that I win the lottery or or or something.

My daughter and I learned from this immensely, it had a huge impact on her, but it made her equally strong and a genuine force to be reckoned with. Luckily she is not burdened with social issues, and is happy, outgoing, social and totally amazing. She is, as we say 'kicking ass and taking names' in her career and has never ever blamed me for our circumstances during the dark days. I made sure she learned from it in fact, and literally have said to her 'Do NOT end up like me!' and she gets it and she won't. She's promised me my little stone cottage in the countryside and cabana boys to push my wheel chair around in my old age, bless her heart, lol.

I have another doggie now, and have a good situation that's not ideal but it's far from horrid, that's for sure. We learn what we can live with -- and without. This crap we haul around called 'stuff' becomes just a millstone around our necks. A microwave... a fork, knife and spoon, a coffee mug and a plate are sometimes enough. We can wash our clothes and dishes in the shower while the Louis Vuitton handbag sits gathering dust on the shelf.

Life goes on and it's what we choose to make of it.

I can so relate to your two posts and they brought up memories of rough times and having to start over, brought up some tears too. It taught me to never take good times for granted and to always have a Plan B ... just in case things went south I needed a plan for what I would do next.

The first step is to forget the blame game. None of that matters. Only today matters and we can make the very best of it to make a better tomorrow. No matter how depressed I became, I would only allow myself to give into it one day a week for two hours. Then I'd bawl my eyes out.

We are so fortunate in this land of plenty. Years ago there wasn't the organization of networks that were able to assist those in need. Technology helped change that, making connections possible.

I also have a new appreciation of "bleeding heart liberals" now. In reading how so many take all cries for help to heart and are ready to open their homes and pocketbooks and are so understanding, I really feel lacking and I'm in total awe of their generosity of spirit. I was raised with the "God helps those who help themselves" philosophy and I'm really always helping people with anything in my means. I just don't see that with this op.

I hope some of the suggestions/offers made up thread help. My thoughts are with you and your dog. I hope things work out.

were helping out! What happened to your gofundme page? If it is still up, I can pitch in a few more dollars.

But that is sad that your family won't help u stay off the street. I hope you can find somewhere to stay and i hope your case worker can help get you some kind of employment somewhere.

Yes, I know this will be gone very soon. Such is life, eh?

People, re-read all her posts and the replies from the great DUers that want to help. And really think about what is being said and suggested. Nothing has been done on her part to help herself. Think people. What happened to the PayPal money? Where is the 'Help Me' account or whatever it is called. How do you afford a Shiba? Why has she lived in those unbearable conditions for so long? Who's computer is she using for posting? Who pays for that? I'm not saying, throw her to the wolves. But, use your common sense. She needs to help herself. Not just post on here looking for others to do it for her. Yes, you are all awesome people for wanting to help. But, it doesn't seem she wants to help herself.

Bamboozled?

Free ride?

Mental health issues? (Yes, I know whereof I speak, here)

Do what you will with this. All I ask is that you really think about it.

& feel.

board are intelligent enough to make their own decisions about whom they choose to help and support. Clearly you have NOT read the saga and the chain of events or else you would fucking understand what she is going through. And clearly you have NOT been through this kind of shit or else you'd keep your mouth shut.

Just knock it off; your pointless input has no value here.

In GD why are valid questions and reasonable observations squelched provided they aren't attacks?

As someone who has dealt with serious mental health issues within her family members and substance abuse in friends, just playing nice and not saying anything at all is NOT helpful. Especially when the person having issues refuses to take sound advice or exhibits an incapacity to help themselves.

pointing that out previously.

But the style of posting is so different that I thought it was noteworthy.

And I gotta say, I've never used currency for ass wiping.

but only one kind of decision should be discussed.

I love posters who tell us what we can and cannot discuss in General Discussion.

Another one who have zero clue on what TtW is going through.

I suppose I should thank you for your gallant attempt to spare me from my feelings. But honestly, I am more than capable of evaluating a situation, by using a broad knowledge and experience base, to come to my own conclusions. Your valiant attempt to save the rest of us has gone duly noted, and I'm glad you are banished from this thread.

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until you've truly walked in that person's shoes you have no idea of what she's done. You don't seem to understand what literally paralyzing fear can do to someone, and how truly exhausting and incapacitating so much stress can be. Sleepless nights with that level of anxiety, trying to think straight enough the next day to deal with the myriad of issues she's tried to ...... and all, physically, on her own - you have NO right to make the claim that she doesn't seem to want to help herself. Perhaps without the depression, anxiety, hopelessness (nothing seems truly doable when you're emotionally and physically spent - and I'm only guessing at these things, TTW - forgive me if I'm wrong) and abandonment by those family members most other people can depend on even for emotional support, and you have a recipe for exactly what this has come to.

It really pisses me off when I see people ask how a poor person pays for a computer - how does anyone even operate without one anymore when absolutely everything is online, including this thread with your so helpful advice.

TTW, I hope you can find foster care for your beloved dog and get the right kind of therapy and tools/peace/rest you need to truly make a new start for yourself and leave all this mess behind.

"The ugliest thing I have ever seen is a human being without compassion." ('Empathy/understanding').

Far too high rent, in a self described dump, with an abusive landlady. Continuing to choose to live there a whole year after being unemployed. How about finding a cheaper place to live? As in, a year ago?

I have been in threatening, insecure, living conditions, and have had to desperately scramble to find a place to live. I'm just not feeling it.