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Contrary1

(12,629 posts)
Sun May 24, 2015, 12:54 AM May 2015

Positive thoughts for my friend, please; as she readies herself to leave this life...

Battling breast cancer for 13 years, her time is drawing near. I have never met this woman in person; I have only known her through an online Breast Cancer Support group.

She was diagnosed at the age of 29. In all these years, there has never been even a whisper of "Why me?". Something that I cannot say for myself...yet I am still here.

She has celebrated every milestone...kindergarten for her son, another Christmas, getting to see another snowfall.

Relished every moment...a trip to Starbucks for her favorite drink, signing another report card for her only child.

I have never known a person so grateful for life, for every single day of her last 13 years.

Please...however you might believe; think good thoughts for her.

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Positive thoughts for my friend, please; as she readies herself to leave this life... (Original Post) Contrary1 May 2015 OP
All The Best cantbeserious May 2015 #1
: onecaliberal May 2015 #2
. Solly Mack May 2015 #3
All the best for your friend, Contrary1. lovemydog May 2015 #4
My heart breaks for you and her family. blue neen May 2015 #5
In these moments, I take refuge in Nájera's Poetry - For Then: Xipe Totec May 2015 #6
I pray for her peaceful passage and for her child. I lost my mom and grandma to breast liberal_at_heart May 2015 #7
Positive thoughts for your friend, my dear Contrary1... CaliforniaPeggy May 2015 #8
She has my love. babylonsister May 2015 #9
... Mnemosyne May 2015 #10
... shenmue May 2015 #11
... Lifelong Protester May 2015 #12
imo, 'why me' is an excellent question redruddyred May 2015 #13
My heart and best wishes go to her and to you merrily May 2015 #14
(((hugs)) for your friend, Contrary1. Good thoughts and gentle passing for her. sueh May 2015 #15
Safe passage eridani May 2015 #16
Wishing her a quiet juorney on the ship of the night. Half-Century Man May 2015 #17
I live my life with the idea that things roguevalley May 2015 #18
why can't we cure cancer Skittles May 2015 #19
Thank you all for your responses... Contrary1 May 2015 #20
Fuck cancer. sufrommich May 2015 #21
I believe it matters… all of it... MrMickeysMom May 2015 #22
Very moving ... she sounds amazing etherealtruth May 2015 #23
She sounds like a strong lady AgingAmerican May 2015 #24

Xipe Totec

(43,890 posts)
6. In these moments, I take refuge in Nájera's Poetry - For Then:
Sun May 24, 2015, 01:07 AM
May 2015


I want to die young at the end of the day On the High Sea, with face to the sky, When agony is but a dream far away And the flight of my soul is a bird soaring by.

Let there be no sad tears as I draw my last breath, at one and alone with the sky and the sea, No sobbing, nor prayer, nor laments of death; I only would hear the deep waves cover me.

To die when the bright glow of twilight is fading, And catches the waves in its last net of light; To be like that sun as its luminous shading Expires and is lost in the arms of the night.

To die, and die young: before time has destroyed The delicate fabric illusion has spun; When life can still say:"I am yours," but the void Of a final echo tells us death has won!

- Gossamer Stories,
Manuel Gutiérrez Nájera,
Translated by John A. Crow

liberal_at_heart

(12,081 posts)
7. I pray for her peaceful passage and for her child. I lost my mom and grandma to breast
Sun May 24, 2015, 01:10 AM
May 2015

cancer. It is tough on the children left behind. I hope her child has people around them that will love and comfort him/her.

CaliforniaPeggy

(149,699 posts)
8. Positive thoughts for your friend, my dear Contrary1...
Sun May 24, 2015, 01:13 AM
May 2015

She sounds very brave...

To have such gratitude in the face of death is a remarkable thing.

I wish her an easy transition to whatever lies beyond this life...

And for you, a for being such a good friend, for even online friends can be pivotal.

babylonsister

(171,090 posts)
9. She has my love.
Sun May 24, 2015, 01:19 AM
May 2015

I had a mastectomy when I was 27, so if YOU want to talk... But love and light to your friend!

merrily

(45,251 posts)
14. My heart and best wishes go to her and to you
Sun May 24, 2015, 02:18 AM
May 2015

It's amazing, but we can get as attached to people via fonts as we can IRL. Maybe more so, since all fonts are equal. None is better looking than the other, or older or better dressed. It's just heart to heart, spirit to spirit.

roguevalley

(40,656 posts)
18. I live my life with the idea that things
Sun May 24, 2015, 11:08 PM
May 2015

are happening for reasons. I don't know what it is for your friend but know that her story is in my heart now. I send her all the love I possess with gratitude that I can even in a small way be part of our courage. Take care too. You both are loved. She has set a standard of love and dignity that is inspirational to us all.

Contrary1

(12,629 posts)
20. Thank you all for your responses...
Sun May 24, 2015, 11:26 PM
May 2015

Kelly passed away early this morning.

It is becoming evident by the posts being made on her Facebook page that she touched so many with her strength and courage. She was always there to help others going through cancer. In fact, one of her final posts indicated who she wanted her portable oxygen to go to, since she would not be needing it anymore.

Her very last message to us was a simple one: "Love peace and blessings".

She will truly be missed.

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