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madamesilverspurs

(15,803 posts)
Sat Oct 17, 2015, 04:40 PM Oct 2015

I changed my mind.

Growing up in the 1950s with active Republican parents gave me certain view of the world. That party affiliation was familiar and comfortable. But as my “growing up” continued I came to see things in a different light. It made for some uncomfortable family conversations, but even Dad acknowledged that the change hadn’t been made without ample consideration; he didn't like it, but he never suggested that my differing opinion was based in frivolity or momentary expedience.

Gaining understanding is not the same as “flip flopping”. We can either encourage learning or condemn those who realize a changed perspective on the basis of improved information.

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I changed my mind. (Original Post) madamesilverspurs Oct 2015 OP
But while your change in understanding came about over a course truedelphi Oct 2015 #1
Exactly right. n/t CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2015 #2
"...many of us suspect Ms Clinton..." madamesilverspurs Oct 2015 #5
The proof is in her past behavior. truedelphi Oct 2015 #7
My own past behavior madamesilverspurs Oct 2015 #9
... NanceGreggs Oct 2015 #26
But your defense earlier was right out of Abusers' Manual 101 - truedelphi Oct 2015 #35
Hillary Clinton's Achilles heel is her ambition. PufPuf23 Oct 2015 #19
Oh, yeah. Nothing worse than an ambitious female. pnwmom Oct 2015 #20
My opinion has nothing to do with HRC's sex. PufPuf23 Oct 2015 #27
God forbid we'd have someone w/ ambition OldHippieChick Oct 2015 #34
Her "evolving" position on gay marriage is another example... markpkessinger Oct 2015 #32
However a politician's changing position truedelphi Oct 2015 #33
It couldn't be because it sounds good when campaigning could it? Faux pas Oct 2015 #3
Unless you are changing your mind from your stands on issues to your oponent's Live and Learn Oct 2015 #4
Change of mind is one thing. Martin Eden Oct 2015 #6
The above ^^^^ truegrit44 Oct 2015 #8
Especially when it happens repeatedly. Arugula Latte Oct 2015 #11
Right. And Bernie's second amendment positions have nothing to do pnwmom Oct 2015 #21
manny here used to be republican, or hell- bragged how they used to party and BBQ with them.... bettyellen Oct 2015 #10
It's one thing to have a gradual shift in your politics, and move from R to D or vice versa. Arugula Latte Oct 2015 #12
it is really hard for me to respect any adult taken in by the 80's Republican party- I remember how bettyellen Oct 2015 #15
It's hard for me to respect any adult taken in... dreamnightwind Oct 2015 #16
Yah all Dems suck all the time, except for Sanders and Warren. I know, I know.... bettyellen Oct 2015 #17
Actually it's because of both sides thinking "they're all crooks" dreamnightwind Oct 2015 #18
so awesome you discourage voting because no one is good enough. bettyellen Oct 2015 #23
so awesome you misinterpret what i say dreamnightwind Oct 2015 #24
perhaps not you, but manny popular posters have an axe to grind against all but two Dems..... bettyellen Oct 2015 #29
Of course. But that wasn't my point. Arugula Latte Oct 2015 #30
Just saying I'd have to judge on a case by case basis.... bettyellen Oct 2015 #36
That explains a lot. nt ecstatic Oct 2015 #25
Did you change your mind, or did you change your principles? (NT) NiceTryGuy Oct 2015 #13
That is apparently madamesilverspurs Oct 2015 #14
I change my mind all the time! I figure if I change it enough, I might find one that works!! Ghost in the Machine Oct 2015 #22
Others who have changed their minds include Elizabeth Warren, Cenk Ugyr, Ed Schultz, Lincoln Chafee, Tarheel_Dem Oct 2015 #28
When the Facts Change, I Change My Mind. What Do You Do, Sir? NutmegYankee Oct 2015 #31

truedelphi

(32,324 posts)
1. But while your change in understanding came about over a course
Sat Oct 17, 2015, 04:50 PM
Oct 2015

Of events, and a period of time, Hillary Clinton's change in attitude comes only when it is politically expedient.

When did she first come out against the XL Pipeline? Why right before a major election, when it was pretty much writing on the wall that the republicans would have the upper hand in Congress, and they could continue her State Department's original push for it.

When did she come out against the TPP? When it pretty much was known that it is going to get passed anyway!

While your change in attitude was an honest one, many of us suspect Ms Clinton of being political expedient and totally unhindered by such notions as honesty or doing what is right.

madamesilverspurs

(15,803 posts)
5. "...many of us suspect Ms Clinton..."
Sat Oct 17, 2015, 04:58 PM
Oct 2015
Suspect -- that's where I have a problem. I can "suspect" til the cows come home, but absent proof I'd prefer to conduct my conversations with her/about her from a position of respect rather that suspect. Helps to keep the conversation civil, far more productive than adversarial.

truedelphi

(32,324 posts)
7. The proof is in her past behavior.
Sat Oct 17, 2015, 05:16 PM
Oct 2015

Going all the way back to when she worked as Sam Walton's personal attorney at the very same point in time in the 1980's when WalMarts were forcing many mom and pop businesses to shut down.

madamesilverspurs

(15,803 posts)
9. My own past behavior
Sat Oct 17, 2015, 05:30 PM
Oct 2015

has been condemned here. Apparently, my erstwhile membership in the GOP, even though I officially left it behind in the early 1980s, is sufficient to accuse me of being perpetually guilty of the most horrible offenses possible. For me it was similar to when I got my first pair of glasses, it literally changed everything; but that transition means nothing to those who persist in condemning what was rather than lending a measure of credibility to what is. It makes as much sense as saying "You were once five years old, therefore you are always five years old."

truedelphi

(32,324 posts)
35. But your defense earlier was right out of Abusers' Manual 101 -
Sun Oct 18, 2015, 03:09 PM
Oct 2015

"Respect not suspect" is what countless sophisticated cheaters tell their spouses and lovers. "I am going to talk a different talk and walk a different walk. Don't focus on the past, dearie, I am yours now."

How many times have we women heard that one?

Of course, it is a most natural stance for Ms Clinton, who put up with decades of such abuse from her own spouse. Yet for whatever reason, she was (and is) still considered a "feminist" despite her spouse's behavior intimidating interns barely out of their teens.

PufPuf23

(8,776 posts)
19. Hillary Clinton's Achilles heel is her ambition.
Sat Oct 17, 2015, 11:14 PM
Oct 2015

Ambition over principal.

I wish that I did not perceive HRC in that manner but my perception has grown over the years unfortunately.

pnwmom

(108,978 posts)
20. Oh, yeah. Nothing worse than an ambitious female.
Sun Oct 18, 2015, 12:55 AM
Oct 2015

That's why not a single one has been elected yet.



ANYONE who aspires to be President of the US is, by definition, ambitious. And anyone who takes office will HAVE to compromise. That's our system of government was set up -- with three co-equal branches of government.

If Bernie wins the election, his most fervent followers will end up accusing him of betraying the cause, just as many of them accuse Obama.

PufPuf23

(8,776 posts)
27. My opinion has nothing to do with HRC's sex.
Sun Oct 18, 2015, 03:52 AM
Oct 2015

I do not do fervent too well regards to politicians.

HRC has a good shot at POTUS and I may vote for HRC but would rather not be in that position.

truedelphi

(32,324 posts)
33. However a politician's changing position
Sun Oct 18, 2015, 03:02 PM
Oct 2015

On Social Issues usually is not due to a quid pro quo (unless getting to retain or gain voters one election day is to be considered such a quid.)

There are few Big Money backroom deals that come about due to a change in an individual's social issue positions.

No one says, "Your daughter or son or sister-in-law will garner a top spot at my health insurance company in exchange for you suddenly being pro-LGBT." But that happens all the time with matters relating to Big Energy. And also, Big Banking, Big Military, Health Insurance and Pharma.

Faux pas

(14,679 posts)
3. It couldn't be because it sounds good when campaigning could it?
Sat Oct 17, 2015, 04:53 PM
Oct 2015

Then there a some people who were/are already evolved.

Live and Learn

(12,769 posts)
4. Unless you are changing your mind from your stands on issues to your oponent's
Sat Oct 17, 2015, 04:57 PM
Oct 2015

right before a debate. That is flipflopping.

Martin Eden

(12,867 posts)
6. Change of mind is one thing.
Sat Oct 17, 2015, 05:11 PM
Oct 2015

Change of position based on political calculation is another.

The first is genuine. The 2nd is insincere, temporary, and can't be trusted.

pnwmom

(108,978 posts)
21. Right. And Bernie's second amendment positions have nothing to do
Sun Oct 18, 2015, 12:56 AM
Oct 2015

with political calculation, rural Vermont style.

 

bettyellen

(47,209 posts)
10. manny here used to be republican, or hell- bragged how they used to party and BBQ with them....
Sat Oct 17, 2015, 05:32 PM
Oct 2015

and now interestingly, their biggest gripes are against 95% of Democrats.
Is that flip flopping or their same old same old- because it actually looks pretty consistent to me.

 

Arugula Latte

(50,566 posts)
12. It's one thing to have a gradual shift in your politics, and move from R to D or vice versa.
Sat Oct 17, 2015, 06:57 PM
Oct 2015

It's another thing to repeatedly change your position, once you are supposedly firmly established as a Democrat for many years, on an issue-by-issue basis in order to accommodate whatever seems the most politically expedient at the time.

 

bettyellen

(47,209 posts)
15. it is really hard for me to respect any adult taken in by the 80's Republican party- I remember how
Sat Oct 17, 2015, 07:19 PM
Oct 2015

obviously bigoted, selfish and cruel they were. I do think you had to live under a proverbial rock to be an adult who missed all that.

dreamnightwind

(4,775 posts)
16. It's hard for me to respect any adult taken in...
Sat Oct 17, 2015, 07:36 PM
Oct 2015

by neoliberal corporatism masquerading as progressive policies for the people in 2015. We've seen the policies these politicians push for too long to claim ignorance. If we had no better choice I could respect it, but we do and I don't.

 

bettyellen

(47,209 posts)
17. Yah all Dems suck all the time, except for Sanders and Warren. I know, I know....
Sat Oct 17, 2015, 07:39 PM
Oct 2015

It because of totally black and white thinking like that that so few people bother to vote in the midterms. Thanks guys!

dreamnightwind

(4,775 posts)
18. Actually it's because of both sides thinking "they're all crooks"
Sat Oct 17, 2015, 10:03 PM
Oct 2015

and that neither side represents them, which is largely true, since both sides are giving lip service to the people at election time, and room service to their large corporate donors all of the time.

By the way, I vote in the midterms, so find a new line. If we can get our party back from the third way, you'll see people climbing over each other to vote for Dems.

 

bettyellen

(47,209 posts)
29. perhaps not you, but manny popular posters have an axe to grind against all but two Dems.....
Sun Oct 18, 2015, 01:24 PM
Oct 2015

And both these posters and the Dems the love have sketchy records, or are not actually Dems.
Freepers love that kinda self defeating shit, I do not.


Ghost in the Machine

(14,912 posts)
22. I change my mind all the time! I figure if I change it enough, I might find one that works!!
Sun Oct 18, 2015, 01:05 AM
Oct 2015
Thank you, I'll be here all week... the tip jar is on the stage...


Peace,

Ghost

Tarheel_Dem

(31,234 posts)
28. Others who have changed their minds include Elizabeth Warren, Cenk Ugyr, Ed Schultz, Lincoln Chafee,
Sun Oct 18, 2015, 04:00 AM
Oct 2015

Jim Webb....and the list goes on. There are even libertarians who claim to have changed their mind, and now support socialism. So, changing one's mind seems to okay for some, but a cynical plot for others.

NutmegYankee

(16,199 posts)
31. When the Facts Change, I Change My Mind. What Do You Do, Sir?
Sun Oct 18, 2015, 01:41 PM
Oct 2015

Often attributed to John Maynard Keynes, though it is debated if it was an actual quote.


Every thinking person should do this. - there is no flip flopping in the world of rationality.

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