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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsDo you ask new sex partners about their HIV status prior to engaging in sex?
From the CDC:
Sharing your HIV status
I heard you should always ask people that you are starting to date about their HIV status. Its better to talk about it earlier rather than latercertainly before you have sex. How would you ask someone youre dating about their HIV status?
I was on Facebook and saw a post about the importance of knowing your HIV status. Do you know yours?
I always ask people that I am starting to date about their HIV status. Youd be surprised at how easy the conversation can be.
I got tested for HIV last week. I was nervous but relieved to learn that I am HIV-negative. Knowing my status feels great and now I want to encourage all of my friends and family to get tested, too. What are some reasons you might not want to get tested? I can tell you about my experience and it might help address your concerns.
About a year ago, I found out that Im HIV-positive. Since then, Ive been taking HIV medication and I feel great. The virus is controlled and at undetectable levels. When was the last time you were tested for HIV? I will go with you to get tested if youre scared or nervous.
http://www.cdc.gov/actagainstaids/campaigns/oneconversation/start.html
edhopper
(33,604 posts)Charlie Sheen.
KamaAina
(78,249 posts)closeupready
(29,503 posts)"I wish I had the chance to forget to ask ..."
Binkie The Clown
(7,911 posts)My first wife and my second wife is the full extent of my experience in that department.
Iggo
(47,563 posts)Ex Lurker
(3,815 posts)there's literally no way I could have contracted HIV. If a hypothetical partner really wanted to know, I would get tested, but there's no reason to do so now. I don't know whether I would bother to ask someone else or not, to be honest. Female to male transference rate is very rare, so I probably wouldn't bother with it.
Again, all hypothetical. I don't expect to find myself in a situation where it would be relevant.
Codeine
(25,586 posts)closeupready
(29,503 posts)go forth with having sexual intercourse without condoms, without knowing someone's HIV status? I think lots of people do, too. And under the right circumstances, probably tons of people would, also.
By the way, I am NOT judging you for it. I respect your freedom to accept responsibility for your decisions.
Codeine
(25,586 posts)closeupready
(29,503 posts)Can you rally trust your hand anymore?
No telling where it has been.
blogslut
(38,007 posts)Get tested. Always use protection with a new partner. Never assume you're safe just because you're in a committed relationship.
ProudToBeBlueInRhody
(16,399 posts)Laughing Mirror
(4,185 posts)As I assumed that the people I had sex with over the past 30 some years assumed of me. Sometimes people would volunteer the information, but I never remember asking anybody outright.
La Lioness Priyanka
(53,866 posts)La Lioness Priyanka
(53,866 posts)"i am clean", it generally meant that they do not know their status. IMO it is best to treat everyone you are having sex with as Hiv positive, unless you know otherwise (like, have seen an actual document with their recent hiv status).
the onus to keep ourselves hiv negative, rests with ourselves.
Jim Lane
(11,175 posts)One common situation: I got tested at least three months after any possible exposure, the test came up negative, and I have no possible exposure since then. I tell my partner this. If she represents that she's in the same situation, we each trust the other and can have unprotected sex (still using birth control).
Another common situation: I had unprotected sex with a former partner, as above, and haven't been tested since. I disclose this. A new partner might be willing to trust me but not my former partner, whom the new partner has never met. I have no problem with that; I'll get tested again.
The whole subject is often an annoyance but it's a necessary one.