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eridani

(51,907 posts)
Sat Nov 28, 2015, 11:55 PM Nov 2015

The unbearable burden of being poor

https://www.dailykos.com/story/2015/01/16/1358076/-The-unbearable-burden-of-being-poor

My hunch is that the endless war on the middle class has hardened even those who consider themselves leftists. Wealth or economic stability is something that is earned, and if someone hasn't earned it then how can they be worthy of our help? Why don't they just go get a damn job, already? Go work at McDonald's and flip burgers, right?

Except it is not that easy.

I am broke right now. Broke, broke, broke, brokety fucking broke. Like, considering turning my apartment into a brothel broke. I applied for SNAP benefits today because otherwise I don't know how I'm going to eat, and I really can't stomach one more bowl of the beans and rice concoction I have been living off of.

Three months ago, I was fine! I had a job that paid a higher than average wage, low rent, manageable debt, etc. But even with a comfy wage, I still lived more or less paycheck to paycheck (see above "manageable" debt).

I haven't lost everything yet, so if I am fortunate enough to get an EBT card, you'll see me in line at the grocery store dressed professionally, looking privileged and shit, and watch in horror as I use "government" money to pay the bill. Then you'll watch me get into my pretty new car and drive away.

That pretty new car is going to be either repo'd or have a lien on it soon, I don't know which is going to happen first. And if you're one of those people who can't believe that I'm driving such a nice car after using SNAP to pay for my groceries, consider this: I love that car. I am proud of my car. Not because it's a car, but because the day that I needed a car, I went out and bought one and I was proud that I was able to do that.
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The unbearable burden of being poor (Original Post) eridani Nov 2015 OP
kick Liberal_in_LA Nov 2015 #1
If it is a new car in Texas, Sorry, no EBT card. Downwinder Nov 2015 #2
Here too. bravenak Nov 2015 #3
WHAT?? SusanCalvin Nov 2015 #7
Our daughter with breast cancer was turned down for SNAP Downwinder Nov 2015 #9
Sounds like that limit was way too low. SusanCalvin Nov 2015 #14
Yes I think there has always been a limited value on the one jwirr Nov 2015 #18
Follow the comments to that story. artislife Nov 2015 #4
Greatest country in the world! 'Merica! Juicy_Bellows Nov 2015 #6
That should not happen here. SusanCalvin Nov 2015 #8
Thanks. artislife Nov 2015 #11
Of course it's hard. SusanCalvin Nov 2015 #16
At least you didn't have to do it yourself Facility Inspector Nov 2015 #10
I remember Laura Ingalls Wilder artislife Nov 2015 #12
Yeah, but I'm thinking that was probably baby teeth? SusanCalvin Nov 2015 #15
Most people are one or two paychecks away from disaster Warpy Nov 2015 #5
Part of the problem in our society is automobiles and rent. hunter Nov 2015 #13
Being poor sucks the life out of you Marrah_G Nov 2015 #17
Thank you for this post. 30+ years ago when we started on jwirr Nov 2015 #19

SusanCalvin

(6,592 posts)
7. WHAT??
Sun Nov 29, 2015, 11:30 AM
Nov 2015

How does that work? (Well, poorly, yeah, but I mean the details -you'd have to sell a newer car and buy an older car? This makes no sense to me.)

Downwinder

(12,869 posts)
9. Our daughter with breast cancer was turned down for SNAP
Sun Nov 29, 2015, 11:56 AM
Nov 2015

because her used car was above the value limit. It ceased to matter as she got most of her food in the hospital.

SusanCalvin

(6,592 posts)
14. Sounds like that limit was way too low.
Sun Nov 29, 2015, 08:59 PM
Nov 2015

And unless they suspect actual fraud of some sort, why on earth put one more burden on a person anyway??

I hope things turned out well for your daughter.

jwirr

(39,215 posts)
18. Yes I think there has always been a limited value on the one
Sun Nov 29, 2015, 09:41 PM
Nov 2015

car you can own. When I had a car the limit in my state was $2500.

 

artislife

(9,497 posts)
4. Follow the comments to that story.
Sun Nov 29, 2015, 03:28 AM
Nov 2015

I will add, through the whole shitty shit shit last 5 years, one of the low points, out of many, was an abscessed tooth. I remember crying and thinking "This is what poverty feels like." I couldn't afford a regular dentist. I called a tech school and the young woman told me about a free clinic I could go to at 7 am in the morning...I got there and they yanked the molar out. That is all they would do, there was no follow up. Rinse with warm salt water and keep it clean.


Juicy_Bellows

(2,427 posts)
6. Greatest country in the world! 'Merica!
Sun Nov 29, 2015, 06:03 AM
Nov 2015

Suck it up Nancy, this here is the best!



We shit on our poor on a regular basis - even some that claim to be 'left' on this very board are rich, out of touch dickheads.


SusanCalvin

(6,592 posts)
8. That should not happen here.
Sun Nov 29, 2015, 11:39 AM
Nov 2015

Thinking about this, I actually found the original John Lennon quote that has been posted here as "Granny's teeth":

"In England, there are only two things to be, basically: You are either for the labor movement or for the capitalist movement. Either you become a right-wing Archie Bunker if you are in the class I am in, or you become an instinctive socialist, which I was. That meant I think people should get their false teeth and their health looked after, all the rest of it. But apart from that, I worked for money and I wanted to be rich. So what the hell -- if that's a paradox, then I'm a socialist."

http://www.john-lennon.com/playboyinterviewwithjohnlennonandyokoono.htm

I am so sorry for what happened to you. That is so wrong.

 

artislife

(9,497 posts)
11. Thanks.
Sun Nov 29, 2015, 12:02 PM
Nov 2015

That was the winter two friends and I lived in one of the friends house as they kept taping foreclosure warnings on the door. The thing that people don't realize is how hard it is mentally to get the momentum to get back up once you have been knocked down down down. This is the first year I don't feel desporate. But it was tough and there were many times I really had to work to keep myself in this realm.

SusanCalvin

(6,592 posts)
16. Of course it's hard.
Sun Nov 29, 2015, 09:08 PM
Nov 2015

I've not had it happen (knock on wood), but of course people have emotional reactions to events and circumstances. It slays me (as my mom would put it) that anybody doesn't get that.

 

Facility Inspector

(615 posts)
10. At least you didn't have to do it yourself
Sun Nov 29, 2015, 11:57 AM
Nov 2015

Grampa lived through the depression, he couldn't believe it when mom wanted to take us to the dentist.

 

artislife

(9,497 posts)
12. I remember Laura Ingalls Wilder
Sun Nov 29, 2015, 12:03 PM
Nov 2015

talking about the tooth, the string and the door. And I thought about it then. The pain was stunning.

SusanCalvin

(6,592 posts)
15. Yeah, but I'm thinking that was probably baby teeth?
Sun Nov 29, 2015, 09:02 PM
Nov 2015

I had a couple taken out more or less that way myself..

No comparison to a permanent tooth with an abcess.

Warpy

(111,277 posts)
5. Most people are one or two paychecks away from disaster
Sun Nov 29, 2015, 05:46 AM
Nov 2015

because wages have fallen so far over the last 40 years of conservative mismanagement from both parties.
I hope the person who wrote the article makes a visit to the food bank while they're waiting. They're big on staples and usually short on things like fruit (which is what I miss when poverty moves in for another stay like a freeloader relative I can't stand).

And if it makes anyone feel any better, I'm much happier having my taxes pay for SNAP than for the military. You won't get any dirty looks from me if I'm in line behind you.

hunter

(38,317 posts)
13. Part of the problem in our society is automobiles and rent.
Sun Nov 29, 2015, 01:36 PM
Nov 2015

In most places a person is not treated like a functional adult if they don't have a nice reliable clean car, or a nicer rental or mortgaged dwelling.

One brush with poverty, for whatever reason, and a person is kicked out of the cult of working people, and it's very difficult to get back in.

What we need is a minimum income, comfortable safe and secure housing for all, appropriate medical care for all, in communities with good public transportation.

As a nation we could easily afford to take care of everyone but for the high-level corruption of our military-industrial-complex and major financial institutions. The uber-wealthy wish to control all wealth and property in the U.S.A., and the rest of us as mere "human resources" and consumers

The poor our blamed for their own troubles even by their peers living very near the edge of poverty themselves.

From an environmental standpoint, maybe we ought to be paying people to live a comfortable, low energy, low environmental impact sustainable lifestyle; without automobiles, without meat for dinner every day, without more than one or two children. What we call "economic productivity" today is a direct measure of the damage we are doing to both the natural environment and our own human spirit.


jwirr

(39,215 posts)
19. Thank you for this post. 30+ years ago when we started on
Sun Nov 29, 2015, 10:00 PM
Nov 2015

this trickle down road many in the middle class turned away from the needy because they did not understand. And they let raygun and the tv prosperity preachers convince them that we were all welfare queens.

I think many of them know better now because they are slipping down also. I do not hate them for turning away but what I want is for them to finally look into who the poor really are.

We are the elderly who cannot find a job anymore. We are the disabled who cannot work. We are the family that lost their income because our jobs disappeared. We are the young who finished school but still cannot find a job with a living wage. We are the mother who had to stay home to care for a loved one and could not work outside the home. There are endless reasons why we are poor but I can guarantee you that none of us are welfare queens.

I beg those of you who have learned the hard lessons of poverty to remember so that when fortune shines on you and you rise up again you can look back in love and kindness on those who will never be able to rise because of their circumstances. Remember us when you vote.

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