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lame54

(35,292 posts)
Tue Apr 19, 2016, 11:34 AM Apr 2016

Still Mourning My Dog

I can't believe (yes I can) how much I'm missing my Snootchie Bootchies
I'm looking for any pics or vids that I can find of her but am sadly realizing that there are not very many of either
Here she is digging at the beach - she comes in at the 36 second mark



Moral Of Story: If you have a special pet be sure to document their life better than I did - I could watch a hundred of these vids




She was a wonderful and beautiful dog and will be greatly missed
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Still Mourning My Dog (Original Post) lame54 Apr 2016 OP
As a dog owner my heart goes out to you. bkkyosemite Apr 2016 #1
I understand that. redwitch Apr 2016 #2
thank you... lame54 Apr 2016 #49
I'm so sorry about the loss of your furry family member. Triana Apr 2016 #3
. Dragonfli Apr 2016 #4
This message was self-deleted by its author CompanyFirstSergeant Apr 2016 #5
You sound just like me. dorkzilla Apr 2016 #10
I was afraid to get a new best friend, but I am glad I did. demmiblue Apr 2016 #16
I always say dorkzilla Apr 2016 #18
Really love this.... Bayard Apr 2016 #28
ty....I love that poster! magical thyme Apr 2016 #34
Lame54 and I adopted Snootchie from a no kill shelter 13 years ago. unapatriciated Apr 2016 #43
You always miss them. Hardest part imo,they're like people, a unique personality in every loved dog. Sunlei Apr 2016 #6
Yes she was... lame54 Apr 2016 #71
She was a happy girl! dem in texas Apr 2016 #7
That is my favorite pic of Snootchie (I'm Lame54's wife) unapatriciated Apr 2016 #45
Sorry for your loss. geardaddy Apr 2016 #8
that's why searching everywhere... lame54 Apr 2016 #46
What a cool looking family.. busterbrown Apr 2016 #9
as much as it hurts... lame54 Apr 2016 #44
Losing my girl was the most significant loss I have ever experienced. demmiblue Apr 2016 #11
thank you for that... lame54 Apr 2016 #13
You are most welcome. demmiblue Apr 2016 #19
I remember reading tributes from people to their beloved pets on the Rainbow Bridge site Skittles Apr 2016 #59
She was an adorable fur baby dorkzilla Apr 2016 #12
lucky girl to have ya tomm2thumbs Apr 2016 #14
thanks... lame54 Apr 2016 #69
I lost a pet recently and time helps tomm2thumbs Apr 2016 #70
I get it. colorado_ufo Apr 2016 #15
I was a closed-off angry/sad mess for weeks the last time I went through that. Gidney N Cloyd Apr 2016 #17
The hurt you feel is a sign that you loved your dog Botany Apr 2016 #20
I'm so sorry they never live long enough do they? macandsandy Apr 2016 #21
It is hard when we lose a close pet padfun Apr 2016 #22
My first dog, Moses, died when I was 25 years old etherealtruth Apr 2016 #23
that line from Mr. Bojangles Skittles Apr 2016 #62
Sure does etherealtruth Apr 2016 #65
Sometimes it never goes away. Myrina Apr 2016 #24
I've loved all my dogs... lame54 Apr 2016 #41
I'm so sorry for your loss swilton Apr 2016 #25
Ah, condolences.... villager Apr 2016 #26
Still Mourning Bayard Apr 2016 #27
I lost my dog over 10 years ago, and I still miss her... lunamagica Apr 2016 #29
whether or not heaven is a thing, I believe we'll see our dogs again someday, somehow renate Apr 2016 #30
I'm so sorry for the loss of your beloved Snootchie. Vinca Apr 2016 #31
Peace shenmue Apr 2016 #32
She leaves a big hole in your heart. oldandhappy Apr 2016 #33
what an adorable doggie! I'm so sorry for your loss... magical thyme Apr 2016 #35
you won't regret it lame54 Apr 2016 #42
I feel ya. WillowTree Apr 2016 #36
I am sorry for your loss. gademocrat7 Apr 2016 #37
So very sorry, as a dog owner, actually the dogs own me... redstatebluegirl Apr 2016 #38
Cute photo ! Hugs Person 2713 Apr 2016 #39
thanks... lame54 Apr 2016 #48
I cried for a month when Roots died malaise Apr 2016 #40
I share your pain irisblue Apr 2016 #47
I'm sorry, I know how much it hurts to lose your friend. DawgHouse Apr 2016 #50
I am so sorry. floriduck Apr 2016 #51
After six years mourning Luna, I totally get that. Scuba Apr 2016 #52
Condolences...I do feel your pain. Raster Apr 2016 #53
So sorry. Eko Apr 2016 #54
Beautiful LyndaG Apr 2016 #55
Unfortunately it will take time... joeybee12 Apr 2016 #56
I'm so very sorry for your loss. MerryBlooms Apr 2016 #57
So sorry for your loss. I have an older dog, Daisy, redstateblues Apr 2016 #58
the old adage, "Time heals all wounds", it simply is not true Skittles Apr 2016 #60
((((((Hug)))))) nt Raine Apr 2016 #61
thanks lame54 Apr 2016 #68
You and me both, friend Fairgo Apr 2016 #63
I know how you feel RockaFowler Apr 2016 #64
I'm so sorry. It's hard. octoberlib Apr 2016 #66
I'm truly sorry about your beloved dog and I can't add much to what's already been said. bamademo Apr 2016 #67

redwitch

(14,944 posts)
2. I understand that.
Tue Apr 19, 2016, 11:37 AM
Apr 2016

She was so pretty! And what a wonderful name too. She will always be in your heart.

 

Triana

(22,666 posts)
3. I'm so sorry about the loss of your furry family member.
Tue Apr 19, 2016, 11:42 AM
Apr 2016

I still miss my Sassy even years later. They always own your heart.



Response to lame54 (Original post)

dorkzilla

(5,141 posts)
10. You sound just like me.
Tue Apr 19, 2016, 12:04 PM
Apr 2016

I have photos of my departed fur pals everywhere, and I do honor to them after they've left me by going and getting another unfortunate creature that needs a loving, forever home. The added bonus for me is that they help me heal - the best cure for a broken heart is to find a new love.

By the way, one of my current pack includes Darcy, a bait dog (6 months old!) who was found in Hollis, Queens with bite marks all over her. She is now the most spoiledest doggie in the world. And I'm happy that she decided to give humans another chance...she's the most affectionate little pup I've ever owned.

demmiblue

(36,855 posts)
16. I was afraid to get a new best friend, but I am glad I did.
Tue Apr 19, 2016, 12:19 PM
Apr 2016



Darcy found a good home, indeed. And by that, I mean... you are lucky she found you!

dorkzilla

(5,141 posts)
18. I always say
Tue Apr 19, 2016, 12:22 PM
Apr 2016

Darcy and my other dog, Django where the ones who rescued me! And I would be remiss not to mention my kitties as well. All rescues who rescued me.

As I am typing this 2 cats are on my lap and Django is snoring away, dreaming of chasing squirrels or finally catching that pesky mailman!!

 

magical thyme

(14,881 posts)
34. ty....I love that poster!
Tue Apr 19, 2016, 01:59 PM
Apr 2016

I believe the best way you can honor the dog you love and lost is to rescue another.

unapatriciated

(5,390 posts)
43. Lame54 and I adopted Snootchie from a no kill shelter 13 years ago.
Tue Apr 19, 2016, 03:23 PM
Apr 2016

She had been in there for six months, so I thank dog it was a no kill shelter. Her original owners were none too nice and the write up they gave her would have been a death sentence in a regular shelter. At the time her name was Shelby, we renamed her Snootchie Bootchies, it fit her so well she loved everything and everyone (except birds). We plan on adopting again after our move back to the west coast.

We also have a jack that we adopted 9 years ago...now he is a bit of a jerk but we love him.

I'm so glad Darcy found you, she will be ever grateful and give you unconditional love. I know that is how it was with Snootchie.

Sunlei

(22,651 posts)
6. You always miss them. Hardest part imo,they're like people, a unique personality in every loved dog.
Tue Apr 19, 2016, 11:48 AM
Apr 2016

Snootchie was a beautiful joyful dog.

dem in texas

(2,674 posts)
7. She was a happy girl!
Tue Apr 19, 2016, 11:53 AM
Apr 2016

Looking at the picture of her in your lap, her mouth is open and tongue hanging out, a sign of dog that is happy and right where she wants to be (in her master's lap). Thank you for giving her so much loving. It is so hard to lose a pet and you are right, take more pictures of your four-legged friends.

I am a big dog person, but years ago I took a little yorkie on rescue. She became my dearest little friend. She lived to be almost twenty years and when the day came for her to go to rainbow sky I took one last picture of her. Glad we had all those years together.

unapatriciated

(5,390 posts)
45. That is my favorite pic of Snootchie (I'm Lame54's wife)
Tue Apr 19, 2016, 03:31 PM
Apr 2016

We were representing our employer at the Wag-a-thon in Dana Point. Snootchie loved all the attention she got. She never passed up a good ear rubbing.

We took a last pic of her with us and Randall (our jack).

geardaddy

(24,931 posts)
8. Sorry for your loss.
Tue Apr 19, 2016, 11:57 AM
Apr 2016

I wish I had video of my cat, Piggy. I have photos, which are great, but I would have loved video.

busterbrown

(8,515 posts)
9. What a cool looking family..
Tue Apr 19, 2016, 12:04 PM
Apr 2016

A shout at to all: When my pooch was put down after a great life, I had tears in my eyes at the vet: Someone was sitting in the waiting room, saw my condition and stated, “Would you have rather not had the experience?” Set me straight...

demmiblue

(36,855 posts)
11. Losing my girl was the most significant loss I have ever experienced.
Tue Apr 19, 2016, 12:04 PM
Apr 2016

I understand what you are going through.


"Some of you, particularly those who think they have recently lost a dog to 'death', don’t really understand this. I’ve had no desire to explain, but won’t be around forever and must.

Dogs never die. They don’t know how to. They get tired, and very old, and their bones hurt. Of course they don’t die. If they did they would not want to always go for a walk, even long after their old bones say: 'No, no, not a good idea. Let's not go for a walk.' Nope, dogs always want to go for a walk. They might get one step before their aging tendons collapse them into a heap on the floor, but that's what dogs are. They walk.

It’s not that they dislike your company. On the contrary, a walk with you is all there is. Their boss, and the cacaphonic symphony of odor that the world is. Cat poop, another dog’s mark, a rotting chicken bone (exultation), and you. That’s what makes their world perfect, and in a perfect world death has no place.

However, dogs get very very sleepy. That’s the thing, you see. They don't teach you that at the fancy university where they explain about quarks, gluons, and Keynesian economics. They know so much they forget that dogs never die. It’s a shame, really. Dogs have so much to offer and people just talk a lot.

When you think your dog has died, it has just fallen asleep in your heart. And by the way, it is wagging its tail madly, you see, and that’s why your chest hurts so much and you cry all the time. Who would not cry with a happy dog wagging its tail in their chest. Ouch! Wap wap wap wap wap, that hurts. But they only wag when they wake up. That’s when they say: 'Thanks Boss! Thanks for a warm place to sleep and always next to your heart, the best place.'

When they first fall asleep, they wake up all the time, and that’s why, of course, you cry all the time. Wap, wap, wap. After a while they sleep more. (remember, a dog while is not a human while. You take your dog for walk, it’s a day full of adventure in an hour. Then you come home and it's a week, well one of your days, but a week, really, before the dog gets another walk. No WONDER they love walks.)

Anyway, like I was saying, they fall asleep in your heart, and when they wake up, they wag their tail. After a few dog years, they sleep for longer naps, and you would too. They were a GOOD DOG all their life, and you both know it. It gets tiring being a good dog all the time, particularly when you get old and your bones hurt and you fall on your face and don’t want to go outside to pee when it is raining but do anyway, because you are a good dog. So understand, after they have been sleeping in your heart, they will sleep longer and longer.

But don’t get fooled. They are not 'dead.' There’s no such thing, really. They are sleeping in your heart, and they will wake up, usually when you’re not expecting it. It’s just who they are.

I feel sorry for people who don’t have dogs sleeping in their heart. You’ve missed so much. Excuse me, I have to go cry now."


Excuse me, as well.

lame54

(35,292 posts)
13. thank you for that...
Tue Apr 19, 2016, 12:11 PM
Apr 2016

That was wonderful
Especially the part were she occupies my heart and what I'm feeling is her wagging tail
I needed that - thank you again

Skittles

(153,164 posts)
59. I remember reading tributes from people to their beloved pets on the Rainbow Bridge site
Tue Apr 19, 2016, 06:53 PM
Apr 2016

so many of them were understandably very long and detailed but the one that has always stuck in my mind for sheer poignancy simply said, you were a GOOD GIRL

dorkzilla

(5,141 posts)
12. She was an adorable fur baby
Tue Apr 19, 2016, 12:06 PM
Apr 2016

You'll miss her forever...I'm 50 and I still miss my dog that died when I was 12 and every other dog or cat I've ever had.

tomm2thumbs

(13,297 posts)
70. I lost a pet recently and time helps
Thu Apr 21, 2016, 09:36 AM
Apr 2016

Sometimes they are more like pets, and sometimes they are more like people, and either way, it is a big empty we are left with and hard to regroup for awhile.

Hang in there!!!

Gidney N Cloyd

(19,838 posts)
17. I was a closed-off angry/sad mess for weeks the last time I went through that.
Tue Apr 19, 2016, 12:20 PM
Apr 2016

And my current dog I'm even more attached to. He's very expressive but the goofy things he does are fleeting and hard to capture on camera.

macandsandy

(17 posts)
21. I'm so sorry they never live long enough do they?
Tue Apr 19, 2016, 12:32 PM
Apr 2016

I'm so sorry - so cute & they have the joy of life
it breaks our hearts to lose our fur babies.
When I lost my last guys (6 years ago) I made a special folder on my hard drive that said "Mac I love you".
I'm trying to remember to document my two guys now - one is 14 and one is 6.

I don't think I've ever gotten over losing any of my dogs -
I told my family to just shoot me when I can't have dogs anymore
Hugs to you and your family.

padfun

(1,786 posts)
22. It is hard when we lose a close pet
Tue Apr 19, 2016, 12:32 PM
Apr 2016

I've lost a lot in the last three years. A MIL who I really loved, 4 cats, and my 24 year old daughter.

just remember that there is another dog (or cat) out there who needs your love and will give you back in return.

etherealtruth

(22,165 posts)
23. My first dog, Moses, died when I was 25 years old
Tue Apr 19, 2016, 12:33 PM
Apr 2016

....after a long and happy life.

I am 54 now and when I think about it (mostly about how lucky I was to have him) .... I still mourn his loss (typing this caused me to tear up).

Due to a super hectic life I didn't get another dog until three years ago ... she is the love of my life (too).

I am so sorry for your loss

Skittles

(153,164 posts)
62. that line from Mr. Bojangles
Tue Apr 19, 2016, 06:57 PM
Apr 2016

the dog up and died, he upped and died; after twenty years he still grieves

rings so true for so many people

Myrina

(12,296 posts)
24. Sometimes it never goes away.
Tue Apr 19, 2016, 12:50 PM
Apr 2016

Hank was what people call my 'soul dog'. I adopted him for my daughter in 2000, when he was a puppy.
Over time she lost interest & he attached to me, eventually becoming my best friend.
When he passed in January 2015, at the old & well worn age of 16 after a very long & full life, I couldn't breathe. It was like I died too.
I knew it was coming: he had a heart murmur, fluid on his lungs, arthritis, he was deaf & blind in one eye. But that didn't make it any easier.

I have his ashes in a heart shaped urn, with a piece of his favorite blankey & his collar draped around it, and I recently had a 'Cuddle Clone' made of him. (http://www.cuddleclones.com/) While they aren't cheap, the overwhelming emotion when I took him out of the box & saw all those markings again knocked me for a loop. You may want to look into something similar.

I've lost 4 dogs over the years, and Hank was - and will always be - the hardest. The one I won't get over.

Be kind to yourself.

 

villager

(26,001 posts)
26. Ah, condolences....
Tue Apr 19, 2016, 12:56 PM
Apr 2016

That's always such a tough tough loss...


I know your pooch had a good life -- I hope it was a long one, too...

Bayard

(22,075 posts)
27. Still Mourning
Tue Apr 19, 2016, 12:57 PM
Apr 2016

I miss, and loved, my fur kids so much. Unfortunately, we've lost many to plain old age (17 yr. old Miniature Doxie, couple of 16 yr. cats), and cancer, since I've been back home in KY......my wonderful Great Pyrenees/Borzoi cross, and my purebred Borzoi, both to cancer. One terrific horse to colic, (the only one still rideable. I have a couple of 30 yr old's). Several cats. We have a whole Pet Semetary on the hill going up to the barn, that also contains ducks and chickens. I regularly stop to say Hi, and shed some more tears.

Got another Great Pyrenees pup who will be a year old next month. She is a great joy, and helped patch a big hole in our hearts. Now, if we could just get her to stop chewing everything up!

So sorry for your loss........I also recommend what others have said. A new dog can help you heal.

lunamagica

(9,967 posts)
29. I lost my dog over 10 years ago, and I still miss her...
Tue Apr 19, 2016, 01:11 PM
Apr 2016

and think about her every day.

She was 17 years old when I lost her.

I know how you feel...

Vinca

(50,273 posts)
31. I'm so sorry for the loss of your beloved Snootchie.
Tue Apr 19, 2016, 01:22 PM
Apr 2016

Sometimes I think it's harder to get over the loss of our animals than it is to get over the loss of a human family member. Maybe it's because they always give their unqualified and undying love and loyalty with no questions asked. I don't think a day goes by that I don't remember long gone cats and wish I could just bring them back for one more hug.

 

magical thyme

(14,881 posts)
35. what an adorable doggie! I'm so sorry for your loss...
Tue Apr 19, 2016, 02:02 PM
Apr 2016



I'm starting on my Jakey's bucket list in a few weeks when spring hits for sure, and intend to get lots of video and pix. He's 11 1/2 now, and his age is starting to really show.

WillowTree

(5,325 posts)
36. I feel ya.
Tue Apr 19, 2016, 02:11 PM
Apr 2016

I lost the best cat I'll ever have several weeks ago, one that loved me as much as I love her. Have come to the realization that I will probably cry for her for the rest of my life.

It just is that way with some pets.

Hugs to you.

(Tears now at work just thinking about it..............)

redstatebluegirl

(12,265 posts)
38. So very sorry, as a dog owner, actually the dogs own me...
Tue Apr 19, 2016, 02:31 PM
Apr 2016

I know how hard it hurts.... Sending good thoughts your way. Your fur baby is waiting for you at the rainbow bridge. No pain, no leash just love...

irisblue

(32,975 posts)
47. I share your pain
Tue Apr 19, 2016, 04:22 PM
Apr 2016

I miss Princess Peanut so much. But I know she doesn't hurt anymore, I couldn't keep letting her be in pain.

DawgHouse

(4,019 posts)
50. I'm sorry, I know how much it hurts to lose your friend.
Tue Apr 19, 2016, 06:04 PM
Apr 2016

I lost my Annie in Mar 2011. She was 14. I thought I'd never get over it. A year later, we rescued our little Bella. I remember thinking, why did I ever go for a whole year without a dog? When the time is right, you'll know.

 

floriduck

(2,262 posts)
51. I am so sorry.
Tue Apr 19, 2016, 06:08 PM
Apr 2016

I went through that horrible experience a year ago and it lasted until I got two puppies of the same breed. I haven't forgotten my old buddy. But the joy of the new ones helped fill the void. I wish you well.

Raster

(20,998 posts)
53. Condolences...I do feel your pain.
Tue Apr 19, 2016, 06:12 PM
Apr 2016

Question: Are those Trader Joes Crew member shirts by any chance?

Eko

(7,315 posts)
54. So sorry.
Tue Apr 19, 2016, 06:18 PM
Apr 2016

I miss all my dogs so much that I have yet to get another one after the last passed. Maybe one day.

Skittles

(153,164 posts)
60. the old adage, "Time heals all wounds", it simply is not true
Tue Apr 19, 2016, 06:54 PM
Apr 2016

some wounds time can only make easier to bear........I promise you it will

Fairgo

(1,571 posts)
63. You and me both, friend
Tue Apr 19, 2016, 07:00 PM
Apr 2016

I lost my Stella 2 months ago. She was the love of my life. 16 glorious years. I wear my heartache like a badge of honour. It is the price you pay for loving a dog...and worth every second.

RockaFowler

(7,429 posts)
64. I know how you feel
Tue Apr 19, 2016, 07:08 PM
Apr 2016

We just lost our little Sable in February and I still miss her everyday

My heart goes out to you and your family

:large
This was when she came into the office with me. Miss that little girl each day

bamademo

(2,193 posts)
67. I'm truly sorry about your beloved dog and I can't add much to what's already been said.
Tue Apr 19, 2016, 08:48 PM
Apr 2016

After I lost my two Golden's a year apart from cancer, I didn't think I could get another dog but I joined a rescue group that snatched them from death row from kill shelters. I got stuck with a foster that was not beautiful like my late dogs but I have come to love him so much because of his fierce loyalty to me and his gratitude for being rescued. He somehow knew his number was nearly up.

In 2008, I shattered my ankle and was operated on. I was on disability from work for 3 months and had to withdraw from opoids. This feral cat adopted me and has been with me since them. I am happy for every day I have with them. I will give them a good death. And then I will give another creature a chance at life and happiness. So they will pick you out when you need them the most. It may not be a puppy or a kitten but they will find you and fill the void.

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