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LuckyTheDog

(6,837 posts)
Wed Jun 6, 2012, 08:00 PM Jun 2012

My step-sister just died of cancer. If I did not already support single-payer, I would now.

As if it isn't bad enough to die at age 48, leaving behind one adult kid, one college-age kid and a 10-year-old kid, she was tormented by her insurance company for the whole 2 1/2 years she was battling the disease.

So, please join me in sending out a huge FUCK YOU to this country's system for financing medical care.


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My step-sister just died of cancer. If I did not already support single-payer, I would now. (Original Post) LuckyTheDog Jun 2012 OP
My deepest condolences. bluerum Jun 2012 #1
I'm so sorry for your loss, zazen Jun 2012 #2
I'm so sorry LeftofObama Jun 2012 #3
Terribly sorry to read this. BlueIris Jun 2012 #4
Safe passage to her... CaliforniaPeggy Jun 2012 #5
sorry for your loss Liberal_in_LA Jun 2012 #6
My condolences and "a huge FUCK YOU to this country's system for financing medical care." nm rhett o rick Jun 2012 #7
Same here. So sad for this family, and or the woman herself truedelphi Jun 2012 #55
so very sorry... handmade34 Jun 2012 #8
I'm so very sorry for your loss. Metatron Jun 2012 #9
I don't even know her and I am in tears for her children. Especially the 10 yr old. I know southernyankeebelle Jun 2012 #10
I'm sorry renate Jun 2012 #11
Very sorry to hear this. wendylaroux Jun 2012 #12
I am so sorry for your loss abelenkpe Jun 2012 #13
So sorry. It isn't bad enough that you have cancer... Frustratedlady Jun 2012 #14
My condolences. So sorry to hear about this. calimary Jun 2012 #15
I was driven to bankrupcy by my cancer nxylas Jun 2012 #16
health care mehrrh Jun 2012 #17
I hear you! Talk about kicking someone when they're down. The for-profit insurance companies make.. freshwest Jun 2012 #18
Am sorry for your loss and I join in a humugouse F___U___shout out! glinda Jun 2012 #19
First, GiveMeFreedom Jun 2012 #20
A big hug to you, Lucky. pacalo Jun 2012 #21
I'm sorry for your loss! one_voice Jun 2012 #22
I add my sorrow...and my anger....to that of the other posters. We should have single payer. nt Honeycombe8 Jun 2012 #23
... Mnemosyne Jun 2012 #24
Lucky- I think you have come up with one of the best memorials rurallib Jun 2012 #25
I am so sorry for your loss. May she rest in peace. myrna minx Jun 2012 #26
I am so sorry to hear of your/her two battles, the disease AND FailureToCommunicate Jun 2012 #27
People need a strong advocate to help them fight insurance dixiegrrrrl Jun 2012 #28
Gladly. K&R &FUCK YOU, YOU MURDERING BASTARDS! Egalitarian Thug Jun 2012 #29
My most sincere condolences. emilyg Jun 2012 #30
I am so sorry for your loss. Pool Hall Ace Jun 2012 #31
I'm so sorry for your loss cal04 Jun 2012 #32
I'm so sorry for your loss suffragette Jun 2012 #33
I am so sorry about your sister. And yes, the insurance industry only makes it worse McCamy Taylor Jun 2012 #34
I am so sorry for your loss Digit Jun 2012 #35
All my sympathies to you and your family countryjake Jun 2012 #36
so sorry for your loss. barbtries Jun 2012 #37
I join your FUCK YOU to the health care system in this country with great passion GObamaGO Jun 2012 #38
I am so sorry for you loss!!! FairyDust Jun 2012 #39
Deepest sympathy malaise Jun 2012 #40
I'm so sorry for your loss leftynyc Jun 2012 #41
Insurance companies are worse than the cancer druidqueen Jun 2012 #42
So sorry to hear this...I'm sure she's at peace joeybee12 Jun 2012 #43
My sincerest sympathies and condolences to you and the family mazzarro Jun 2012 #44
My deepest sympathies to you & your family. CrispyQ Jun 2012 #45
I'm so sorry for your loss, and I agree with you about the insurance industry. yardwork Jun 2012 #46
In addition to losing a son, I had to lose everything financially as well. Dustlawyer Jun 2012 #47
Please accept my condolences and deepest sympathies, LuckyTheDog. Octafish Jun 2012 #48
I'm so sorry for your loss. Zoeisright Jun 2012 #49
I'm sorry to hear about your step sister AndyA Jun 2012 #50
My heart goes out to you and the family goclark Jun 2012 #51
I'm so sorry for your loss catbyte Jun 2012 #52
A hug to you KT2000 Jun 2012 #53
I join you in calling out the shameless for-profit healthcare system in our country. Doremus Jun 2012 #54
I lost my dear husband 2 years ago... WinstonSmith4740 Jun 2012 #56

zazen

(2,978 posts)
2. I'm so sorry for your loss,
Wed Jun 6, 2012, 08:04 PM
Jun 2012

and I join you in a prayerful f--k you to the parasitic insurance industry. Appalling.

CaliforniaPeggy

(149,629 posts)
5. Safe passage to her...
Wed Jun 6, 2012, 08:08 PM
Jun 2012

I hope her children will be all right...

My deepest condolences to all of you who love her.

truedelphi

(32,324 posts)
55. Same here. So sad for this family, and or the woman herself
Thu Jun 7, 2012, 05:44 PM
Jun 2012

battling a disease we could eradicate if the Big Corporations would give up their purchased "right" to say their poisons and toxins are safe.

And then nasty fact of her having to spend her time battling her insurers.

This is exactly why we need Universal Single Payer You Know the rest.

handmade34

(22,756 posts)
8. so very sorry...
Wed Jun 6, 2012, 08:15 PM
Jun 2012

I abhor what we do to so many people w/o appropriate health care ins... I'm there and only by the "grace of god go I"

 

southernyankeebelle

(11,304 posts)
10. I don't even know her and I am in tears for her children. Especially the 10 yr old. I know
Wed Jun 6, 2012, 08:21 PM
Jun 2012

how it feels to lose a parent at a tender age. My dad died when I was 22 and I also had a little sister age 11 and a little brother age 4 at the time. My parents had the 2 youngest late in life. That youngest brother never got over his death and then when our mother died of a heart attack right in front of him as a 22 yr old. It was to much for him. This brother would never go to the doctor and at the age of 39 he died of lung cancer and he never smoked. So my heart goes out to you. Life sometimes really isn't fair. But you know that as times go by you will remember the good times and you will smile.

renate

(13,776 posts)
11. I'm sorry
Wed Jun 6, 2012, 08:23 PM
Jun 2012

I'm sorry about her passing and I'm sorry that she had to spend the last years of her life dealing with an extra source of stress that in any other civilized country would not have been necessary.

wendylaroux

(2,925 posts)
12. Very sorry to hear this.
Wed Jun 6, 2012, 08:24 PM
Jun 2012

This is beyond sad. Those poor kids.

And a huge FU to this country's health care system.


Frustratedlady

(16,254 posts)
14. So sorry. It isn't bad enough that you have cancer...
Wed Jun 6, 2012, 08:39 PM
Jun 2012

the insurance companies are another cancer and it should be illegal for them to harass.

My deepest condolences to all the family.

nxylas

(6,440 posts)
16. I was driven to bankrupcy by my cancer
Wed Jun 6, 2012, 08:44 PM
Jun 2012

Fortunately, I survived it, and even more fortunately, I was able to move back to the UK. I hope my cancer never returns, but if it does, at least I know that my treatment will be free at the point of delivery.

mehrrh

(233 posts)
17. health care
Wed Jun 6, 2012, 09:01 PM
Jun 2012

I am sorry for your grief -- and I am compeltely in agreement with you -- it's not the government that gets between you and your medical care -- it's the g.d. insurance company!
Yet, idiots who don't think straight are afraid to vote for single payer health care.

freshwest

(53,661 posts)
18. I hear you! Talk about kicking someone when they're down. The for-profit insurance companies make..
Wed Jun 6, 2012, 09:04 PM
Jun 2012

Tom Delay look like a puppy dog in their ability to literally beat the life out of one. Take good care of them and sorry that it is what it is. There are problems for SP but it's the future we're fighting for. So that those who come after us won't live in this hell.

GiveMeFreedom

(976 posts)
20. First,
Wed Jun 6, 2012, 09:41 PM
Jun 2012

LTD, my sincere condolences for your loss. I too, suffer from the horrible disease of cancer. My fight is slow and steady and I hope I have many years left. You seem like a level headed person so, your wish is my command . . .

FUCK THE MEDICAL INSURANCE COMPANIES.

They should not exist, putting profit over human life is unconscionable.

Your Welcome and Angles now surround you.

pacalo

(24,721 posts)
21. A big hug to you, Lucky.
Wed Jun 6, 2012, 09:42 PM
Jun 2012


And I hope this country will come to its senses & finally do what's morally right. All the taxpayer money spent on wars -- destroying countries to build them up again -- is evidence that this country could afford to provide as good medical coverage for its citizens as our congresspeople are getting.

I'm so sorry that your sister's remaining days were further traumatized by a profit-focused corporation on which she, ironically, depended for help.

My condolences to her family, especially her children.

rurallib

(62,423 posts)
25. Lucky- I think you have come up with one of the best memorials
Wed Jun 6, 2012, 09:59 PM
Jun 2012

you possibly could for your beloved step-sister.

Here's to those greedy bastards in the medical insurance field and especially to the politicians they own - FUCK YOU

FailureToCommunicate

(14,014 posts)
27. I am so sorry to hear of your/her two battles, the disease AND
Wed Jun 6, 2012, 10:28 PM
Jun 2012

the insurance companies.

My younger brother died of pancreatic cancer not long ago and he/we had to fight for the damn insurance also.

Cancer sucks!
(and) Fuck the insurance system!

I wish courage and strength to you and her family in the days ahead.

dixiegrrrrl

(60,010 posts)
28. People need a strong advocate to help them fight insurance
Wed Jun 6, 2012, 10:43 PM
Jun 2012

it is not fair that a person is fighting a deathly illness and their insurance company.

Pool Hall Ace

(5,849 posts)
31. I am so sorry for your loss.
Wed Jun 6, 2012, 10:47 PM
Jun 2012

And it adds insult to injury that she had to fight with the insurance company while battling the cancer.

There is no health *care* in this country. Just profit$ for the CEOs. We need single payer NOW!

McCamy Taylor

(19,240 posts)
34. I am so sorry about your sister. And yes, the insurance industry only makes it worse
Wed Jun 6, 2012, 10:58 PM
Jun 2012

for both patients and families. The sneaky way they try to deny care ends up making everyone wonder if something else could have been done---something that the insurance company would not pay for.

countryjake

(8,554 posts)
36. All my sympathies to you and your family
Thu Jun 7, 2012, 02:18 AM
Jun 2012

I really don't know when people will finally figure out that insurance companies are killing people in this country. It just is a sad state of affairs.

Strength and peace.

GObamaGO

(665 posts)
38. I join your FUCK YOU to the health care system in this country with great passion
Thu Jun 7, 2012, 04:07 AM
Jun 2012

And I am so sorry for your loss.

FairyDust

(42 posts)
39. I am so sorry for you loss!!!
Thu Jun 7, 2012, 04:50 AM
Jun 2012

That is what I have said all along. It only takes one illness to get you on that side. I'm with you.

 

leftynyc

(26,060 posts)
41. I'm so sorry for your loss
Thu Jun 7, 2012, 05:33 AM
Jun 2012

I lost my dad to pancreatic cancer a month ago. He had medicare and supplemental insurance as my mom worked for NY State her whole career and we all often wondered what people who didn't have that did about home health care and the like. Our whole family supposts single payer - it's the only answer and wont bankrupt us.

druidqueen

(62 posts)
42. Insurance companies are worse than the cancer
Thu Jun 7, 2012, 08:01 AM
Jun 2012

In 1995, my husband was diagnosed with lung cancer (right lung). They removed 2/3 of his lung...the usual stay in the hospital for this surgery was 5 - 7 days. My husband had health insurance from his employer. Unfortunately he was in the cardio-thoracic ICU for 3 weeks. His insurance would only pay for 6 days.....we were left with a 6-figure bill!! We were forced to file bankruptcy. Then in 2002 he was diagnosed again with lung cancer (left lung - they removed half of that lung). AT that time he was receiving SS disability & on Medicare..we had a supplemental policy ---- and had to pay $0 for his surgery....SINGLE-PAYER NOW!!!!

mazzarro

(3,450 posts)
44. My sincerest sympathies and condolences to you and the family
Thu Jun 7, 2012, 09:40 AM
Jun 2012

Sad to know that she had to run through the gauntlet and torment of medical insurance shenanigans.

CrispyQ

(36,478 posts)
45. My deepest sympathies to you & your family.
Thu Jun 7, 2012, 11:09 AM
Jun 2012


And yes, FUCK YOU insurance companies & this perverted thing we Americans call a health care system. IT IS NOT.

Dustlawyer

(10,495 posts)
47. In addition to losing a son, I had to lose everything financially as well.
Thu Jun 7, 2012, 11:37 AM
Jun 2012

We had to go through bankruptcy. Do you know how hard that is? I am sure the poster does, but think about it. I had 2 other kids to support. Profit in health care, what a joke!

Zoeisright

(8,339 posts)
49. I'm so sorry for your loss.
Thu Jun 7, 2012, 11:53 AM
Jun 2012

And I DESPISE insurance companies. They are blood sucking vultures who provide NO value at all and make money on human suffering. I wish there was a hell so insurance company execs would burn in it.

AndyA

(16,993 posts)
50. I'm sorry to hear about your step sister
Thu Jun 7, 2012, 02:38 PM
Jun 2012

How sad that her last years were spent in part fighting with the insurance company. She should have been focusing on staying as healthy as possible and spending time with friends and family.

Health care for profit never has the best interests of those who are sick in mind, because what's best for patients hurts the bottom line.

catbyte

(34,402 posts)
52. I'm so sorry for your loss
Thu Jun 7, 2012, 02:56 PM
Jun 2012

and here's my FUCK YOU too because if the ACA is overturned, I'll have to divorce my husband of 28 years because he's reached our insurance company's arbitrary lifetime benefits cap (diabetes type I for 53 years). Yeah, the GOP is the party of family values, all right. Some choice--divorce or financial ruin. America sucks.

Again, my condolences to you and your family.

Diane
Anishinaabe in MI & mom to Leo, Taz & Nigel, members of Dogs Against Romney, Cat Division
"Dogs Aren’t Luggage--HISS!”

Doremus

(7,261 posts)
54. I join you in calling out the shameless for-profit healthcare system in our country.
Thu Jun 7, 2012, 05:33 PM
Jun 2012

The United Corporations of America's idea of vanity license plates: naming the hospital for the highest bidder.

WinstonSmith4740

(3,056 posts)
56. I lost my dear husband 2 years ago...
Thu Jun 7, 2012, 08:36 PM
Jun 2012

He had a very rare, inherited form of cancer caused by a mutated gene. We had only Medicare for him...no "Medi-gap" or anything like that. And I thank (your deity of choice here) for Medicare. We weren't turned down or given less than cutting edge treatments. He was always treated with respect and caring. At one point when we were taking our last good, hard swing at that bastard disease, I had made a comment about "Yeah, I know, we have to wait until everything's approved." His doctor said, "Oh, no. We can start his treatments tomorrow. You guys have Medicare, they always approve. That's why doctors like it." And Sarah Palin's "death panel"? My conversation with his doctor about hospice care. BTW, hospice workers are angels on earth. I'm eternally grateful to them...if you are one, thank you. If you know one, thank them.


My point here is that I am thoroughly convinced that if we had insurance through a for profit agency, they would have cut off his access to treatment as soon as the Lynch Syndrome diagnosis came through, I would have lost him 2 years sooner, and his final time would have been a horror. I just think they would have decided he had a "pre-existing condition" (Remember, this was an inherited trait. His fate was sealed the moment that sperm fertilized the egg.), and would have not only refused to pay for his treatment, they would have come after us to repay anything they had paid for leading up to his diagnosis.

Single payer is a must for this country. It's the only way some people will ever be able to access health care before they're old enough for Medicare. But the Democrats problems are multi-pronged. First, they have no balls. Harry Reid has been "compromising" (read: folding his hand) since day one. They also have no idea how to handle power. Republicans get drunk with power and immediately start over-reaching. Democrats get stupid. Reid has let the Senate be completely tied up for the last 3 years because he's too gutless to force the Republicans to actually filibuster, instead of letting them file a card saying they are. And they don't know how to market their own ideas. They keep letting the Republicans set the ground rules, and can't figure out why they're losing the game. They keep blowing opportunities to do things that 65% (and higher) of the people support. Somebody in that party better grow a spine...and soon.

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