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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsEnough of the Gene is with Gilda
He was an atheist and did not think he was "going to be with Gilda". He was also remarried for 25 years and she saw him through his illness. He was married to Gilda for 5. it is very disrespectful to his widow to say he is with Gilda now.
The illusion by the public that Star marriages are special and more important is inane. I am sure he had a loving marriage with Gilda, but also with Karen. Enough with the fantasies.
MadDAsHell
(2,067 posts)Major Nikon
(36,827 posts)awoke_in_2003
(34,582 posts)Bucky
(54,087 posts)tymorial
(3,433 posts)It is absolutely brilliant!
AllyCat
(16,233 posts)awoke_in_2003
(34,582 posts)He was a known atheist. He wouldn't have believed he was going to be with her.
King_Klonopin
(1,307 posts)MadDAsHell
(2,067 posts)The dead don't need defenders.
RIP Gene.
whathehell
(29,096 posts)as atheists, not those of the dead.... They just try to disguise it as the other.
Act_of_Reparation
(9,116 posts)... if you're illiterate.
No one is speaking about Gene's feelings. Gene's dead. They're talking about two things: 1) historical accuracy; and 2) the feelings of Gene's widow, which apparently don't matter because she didn't say funny shit on SNL.
whathehell
(29,096 posts)"Historical accuracy"? Wrong. Unless, of course, you can show us where anyone questioned the fact of Gene's atheism.
I doubt that Gene's widow is reading DU right now, but, as others have said, given the public nature of Gene's marriage to Gilda, I think.she'd understand.
I can see that DU's militant atheists aren't doing too well on this thread, but lame arguments and faux 'concern' won't help.
Act_of_Reparation
(9,116 posts)Witty rejoinder there. What, with the whole "go back to reading 101" schtick, I almost forgot I was on a web forum and not a schoolyard. Terrific banter. Very authentic.
Which might make sense if directly questioning Wilder's belief system was the only way to portray him inaccurately. I'd toss out a "remedial logic" quip, but seeing as that ground has already been covered...
Well, you certainly have an opinion. And that's fascinating. But irrelevant.
You don't know Wilder's widow or what she reads, so I honestly couldn't give a flying fuck in a windstorm what you believe.
It's always refreshing to see supposed liberals addressing atheists in much the same way conservatives do.
whathehell
(29,096 posts)"which made sense if that was the only way of portraying Gene inaccurately".
Say what? You're now telling us that this 'discusson is based on someone on the thread "portraying Gene inaccurately"?
Excuse me, but please tell us where Gene is being "portrayed inaccurately"? on this thread? Who is doing it, and how?
What, in fact, ARE you talking about?
I suggest you come back when you actually learn to construct an argument and articulate it.
Act_of_Reparation
(9,116 posts)You nailed it.
Not so much here, though.
Or there.
Or there.
Or there (HINT: Read the op, *wink*).
And I shall promptly ignore your suggestion.
whathehell
(29,096 posts)I never engage in battles of wits with unarmed opponents.
Person 2713
(3,263 posts)5 times as long to his current wife! I thank you for saying it here ... You just can't stop celebrity follower fantasy
Skittles
(153,209 posts)he is dead
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jonno99
(2,620 posts)madokie
(51,076 posts)no guy in the sky in my world.
If there was/is gonna' be whatever, a heaven and hell and a bunch of the people I know will be going to heaven as they think they will I'd rather take the other road and go to hell rather than spend an eternity with them. sorry
Atheist from the heart.
I do wonder about reincarnation though as I remember my childhood well, I remember back before my eyes could focus so what is that, within days of birth. Anyways I've always felt that I've lived before and I'll live again. I never felt that I knew what or when I lived before just felt I hadLong before I was indoctrinated in the religious ways of which I ultimately was. That lasted until I was about 14 YO.
From then on I've not for a second thought there is anything to the bible or a heaven or a hell. I'm a free spirit and when I die I want my ashes put in a hole in the ground with a sycamore tree planted in the hole. Just in case my spirit may want or need a place to hang out and roost possibly rest, just in case mind you
B2G
(9,766 posts)That makes no sense at all.
madokie
(51,076 posts)I simply don't believe in a god, a supreme being. Has nothing to do with my questions concerning my possibly having lived before
B2G
(9,766 posts)and then go on to talk about how you feel you've lived before and will live again.
You do the math.
ToxMarz
(2,169 posts)They would be kind of mutually exclusive states. You could only be in one or the other at any time. And the existence of one would not be predicted on the existence of the other.
madokie
(51,076 posts)I won't bother with any more answers to this
Act_of_Reparation
(9,116 posts)ABORT! ABORT! ABORT!
cleanhippie
(19,705 posts)Belief in reincarnation has nothing to do with gods, therefore nothing to do with not believing in gods, therefore nothing to do with atheism.
This isn't rocket science.
whathehell
(29,096 posts)One that is no more provable than belief in a supreme being.
cleanhippie
(19,705 posts)Atheism isn't a lack of belief, it's the lack of belief in a god. Everyone believes many things, not everyone believes in a god.
whathehell
(29,096 posts)Last edited Wed Aug 31, 2016, 06:15 AM - Edit history (1)
Atheists generally defend their view by attacking all "belief" not backed by empirical evidence... Reincarnation is obviously in the same category.
Spitfire of ATJ
(32,723 posts)The argument that the choice is either a pre-packaged sky spook or oblivion is a false choice put forward by people peddling their own belief.
There are other options besides having to stand before a father figure deity who is conducting the ultimate "People's Court".
B2G
(9,766 posts)With no afterlife, there can be no reincarnation.
Maybe some atheists believe in an afterlife and souls, but Madokie evidently doesn't.
How can you possibly believe in reincarnation then?
Spitfire of ATJ
(32,723 posts)There are faiths where you hopscotch from life to life without the existence of a mystical realm.
cleanhippie
(19,705 posts)B2G
(9,766 posts)Which is required for reincarnation.
You're right, it's not rocket science.
N_E_1 for Tennis
(9,786 posts)Energy cannot be destroyed, not rocket science.
Death=energy leaving the body.
Energy immediately is transferred to another being, whatever, insect, animal, person that is either going to be born or is being born. Reincarnation! No afterlife.
Remember everyone is almost an atheist. If you believe in only one god, you have already rejected all the other deities that some believe in.
We atheists just went to the final step. Rejecting all gods.
lordsummerisle
(4,651 posts)I knew it, I'll come back as a cockroach...
cleanhippie
(19,705 posts)Thor_MN
(11,843 posts)Why are you wasting time on the internet when there is so much work for you do? I mean, the existence that gets to define how everything works must be busy. Get back to work and fix the messes the GOP has made.
B2G
(9,766 posts)Thor_MN
(11,843 posts)We beseech thee to get off thine divine fundament and getest thine work done? That is, if thee is the decider of all things.
The concepts of an afterlife and reincarnation are more mutually exclusive than dependent on one another, IMO.
An afterlife in many religions are a heaven and hell thing, include puragtory if you are really anal about controlling the flocks.
Reincarnation is coming back as something else, which most of the aforementioned religions vigorously rule out.
Granted, there is some overlap in that some religions believe that you keep coming back until you get it right, and only then is there an afterlife.
But declaring that there can not be reincarnation without an afterlife is just silly.
AlbertCat
(17,505 posts)"We beseech thee to get off thine divine fundament and getest thine work done? That is, if thee is the decider of all things. "
"THY work done."
and "if thou art...."
"thine divine" is divine tho'.... (but should be "thy". "Thine" is used in front of words that begin with a vowel or "h".)
And I'm ribbing you y'know.....
thesquanderer
(11,995 posts)"Afterlife" generally refers to some other non-earthly existence after we die (Heaven, for example). Reincarnation, in that respect, is not an afterlife. Yes, it is a return to life after death, but it is not another realm.
And both the belief in another realm of existence after death AND the belief in reincarnation are not things that, themselves necessarily require a belief in God (that is, a specific individual supreme intelligence responsible for creating these things). In theory, to the extent that these things could possibly exist at all, they could just as well exist without such a God.
Put differently, if someday we manage to prove that either an afterlife or reincarnation exists, that still wouldn't prove the existence of God. Different issues.
Exilednight
(9,359 posts)In most forms of Buddhism there is no supreme being, but we do believe in reincarnation.
I believe in it based on science. Matter and energy can neither be created or destroyed. The matter in my body will be redistributed along with my energy. In some sense, I've always been here and always will.
dgibby
(9,474 posts)Interesting story: a friend of mine had an abortion, never told anyone about it. Several years later, she had a son. When he was about 5 years old, he told her that he had tried to come to her before, but that she was not ready for him, so he had to wait. He had not been told about the abortion, had absolutely no way of knowing it.
I have no explanation for this, except I think it is very much in line with what you are saying about matter and energy. As for me, I'm convinced I've been here before and will be here again.
I'm also interested in Buddhism. Do you have any books, etc, you could recommend?
Orrex
(63,226 posts)We moved into our current house when our younger son was 4.
A few months later he told us that the previous owners had a big dog. This baffled us, because he'd never met the previous owners, nor were there any dog-obvious signs in the house that he could identify. So my wife and I asked him how he knew:
"The lady told me on the stairs."
Spooky, right? Some sort of mysterious woman telling secrets to our toddler son in our very own home?
Nope. It was our realtor, who had bad knees and sat on the steps with him while we checked out the second floor of the house, and she told him about the dog.
The point is that parents--even very hands-on parents--don't control all of the information that flows into their kids' brains. Children are highly imaginative and are exceptionally good at retaining and regurgitating information in a way that makes it seem mysterious if you lack all of the details, much the way your friend lacked all of the details about her son's cryptic revelation.
In short, that anecdote--though admittedly charming--fails completely as evidence for reincarnation, and it certainly has nothing to do with the conservation of matter and energy.
Incidentally, that's a trendy ad hoc way of shoehorning a caricature of modern physics into a caricature of ancient wisdom. It's ultimately not very persuasive to anyone who doesn't already have faith in the underlying philosophy.
GreenEyedLefty
(2,073 posts)LakeArenal
(28,855 posts)You can be an atheist and believe you've lived before. First off, people can think and believe anything they want.
Reincarnation may be part of physics rather than religion. Energy can't be created or destroyed, parallel universes, what's at the other end of a black whole. Who knows what happens after the physical body releases that energy. Where does it go?
Anyway madokie, save a branch on that sycamore tree for me.. Thanks.
madokie
(51,076 posts)if you go first save one for me
Maru Kitteh
(28,343 posts)Last edited Tue Aug 30, 2016, 05:21 PM - Edit history (1)
It always cracks me up, watching atheists argue about what constitutes "belief" while preaching earnestly from their soapboxes that if someone does not believe exactly as they believe they are not "real atheists."
Reminds me of . . . every zealot theist on the planet
I'll never understand the fervent and absolute insistence with which so many (n)theists claim the only true! right way!
cleanhippie
(19,705 posts)But at least you've made yourself feel better than everyone else. Great job!
Maru Kitteh
(28,343 posts)The theist vs wishy-washy agnostic vs evangelical atheist is a source of great entertainment. Who would wish to stand in the way of that?
cleanhippie
(19,705 posts)SammyWinstonJack
(44,130 posts)Warren DeMontague
(80,708 posts)much less come to anything like an agreement on.
Maru Kitteh
(28,343 posts)Insert your favorite (or least favorite) sample of highly vocal insisters, if you will.
whathehell
(29,096 posts)AlbertCat
(17,505 posts)..... watching faiths kill each other if someone does not believe exactly as they believe ....
At least atheists just argue.
Maru Kitteh
(28,343 posts)Here, all of the (n)faith arguments about who is the real this and the real that are pretty fucking hilarious.
AlbertCat
(17,505 posts)Salvador Dali said he could remember being in the womb.
But I don't believe him EITHER.
Remember..... every memory of any event or thing, but the 1st one, is remembering your last memory of it. One incorporates things that came after, and things that never played a part at the time, mis-remembered things....without realizing. Like a game of Chinese Phonebook (apologies to Chinese folks). Who knows what you are actually remembering.
And "feeling like I've lived before" means nothing.... like deja vu.
madokie
(51,076 posts)I could care less what you believe or think.
AlbertCat
(17,505 posts)Oh good. that means you do care!
Unless you meant "I couldn't care less...."
And the science of memory is not "what I think".
madokie
(51,076 posts)do a little research
Some of us can remember to within days of being born. Thats fact, I am one of them so I know
AlbertCat
(17,505 posts)Prove it. You made the claim.
As for research....1st google hit:
Despite some anecdotal claims to the contrary, research suggests that people aren't able to remember their births.
The inability to remember early childhood events before the age of 3 or 4, including birth, is called childhood or infantile amnesia.http://www.livescience.com/45731-can-people-remember-birth.html
madokie
(51,076 posts)You have a good rest of the day. I know I will
Peace
AlbertCat
(17,505 posts)Well, you told me to do a little research!
Sorry you are wrong about your memories, dude.
Everybody creates false ones.
Act_of_Reparation
(9,116 posts)And that's fascinating, but ultimately irrelevant.
Orrex
(63,226 posts)Cool story, bro.
madokie
(51,076 posts)but you have no clue either
Orrex
(63,226 posts)I'm confident that you believe that you remember it, and (like my rotation-sensing friend) nothing will convince you to the contrary.
But you're still wrong, and you're certainly not in a position to tell anyone that they don't have a clue about it.
madokie
(51,076 posts)there are those of us who can remember all the way to within days of our birth. I'm one of those persons. Some within hours. I'm not far from that myself.
I know exactly what I know and it matters not what you or anyone else thinks you know as obviously you don't know shit about this subject.
I'm not going to go looking for links for you either as I've better things to do with my time. The information is out there on this. Been too long since I read about the study in fact it was long before the internet and I believe it probably was Science or Discovery magazine as that was a couple of my fav's back then when I first read what confirmed what I already knew.
Call me a liar if you want but that is only a pox on you not on me.
Peace, now either educate yourself on this or shut up and in the mean time quit making excuses for your lack of knowledge here on this subject
Orrex
(63,226 posts)You're asking me to accept an extraordinary claim on faith with no evidence and no citations, simultaneously refusing to "go looking for links" for me.
So keep telling people about the day of your birth. I'm sure that you'll find more than a few credulous sorts who'll believe it without question.
madokie
(51,076 posts)At any rate I could care less what you think, believe or don't believe. its your loss not mine
I will tell you, you have no idea what you're talking about but then again I could care less. So buzz off, ok
here's something else you might take issue with, My grand father fought as a union soldier in the Civil war. Last I read there was only 109 families in America with grandfathers that go back that far. That was 20 plus years ago so I'm sure that number has declined by now
Orrex
(63,226 posts)You remember bright lights and lots of commotion and maybe a bunch of people fussing over you.
You don't actually remember the day of your birth. I believe that you think that you do, but you don't. You have constructed that memory from readily available stock images, and you've invested your self-image in the "reality" of that memory.
I don't care if you don't believe me. It's "such a big thing" to me because I have no respect for nonsense. Why is it "such a big thing" for you?
And why would I take issue with your grandfather? The last living child of a slave died just a few years ago, so I can readily believe that some families' generations span 150 years. It's well within mathematical possibility.
Unlike your claim that you remember the date of your birth.
madokie
(51,076 posts)I said I remember before my eyes focused. What is that a week maybe ten days
Of which I do, even after all these years I still remember
Orrex
(63,226 posts)You have constructed that memory.
And how could you possibly verify it, even to yourself?
AgadorSparticus
(7,963 posts)Just like we can't prove our dreams. Yes, we can have eeg's and prove when we go into the various states of rem and ram. But we can't PROVE our dreams. And there are times we don't even have dreams. All because we don't remember it? Maybe. And how to prove that I had this dream and not that dream? It is still a subjective experience.
How do you prove your feelings and emotions?
That is the thing with subjective phenomenons. You can't prove it. But just because we can't prove it doesn't mean it doesn't exist or that it didn't happen. There is much we do not know. There is much more to be discovered and learned in Science. And maybe one day, we will find a way to measure or prove the abstract concepts in our lives.
Orrex
(63,226 posts)And he is making that claim in indirect support of claims of reincarnation or the afterlife. Since he is making those claims on an open forum, he is inviting refutation, even as he claims that he doesn't have to prove it to anyone. Maybe he doesn't "have to," but there is no way to believe his extraordinary claim except as an act of pure faith.
He also urged disbelievers to "do a little research" in order to help him support his extraordinary claim. It's flatly dishonest of him to make a claim and then require others to document it for him.
This is especially true because his claim directly contradicts established understanding of cognitive function in newborns.
Unfair? Not at all.
whathehell
(29,096 posts)madokie
(51,076 posts)whathehell
(29,096 posts)You're the one making a definitive statement. You prove it.
whistler162
(11,155 posts)madokie
(51,076 posts)You believe what you want and I'll believe what I want, ok
No god for this old man.
pipoman
(16,038 posts)Nobody who matters is here...lighten up Francis...
trotsky
(49,533 posts)If a believer dies, and an atheist says something about there not being an afterlife, etc., they are dismissed as rude and nasty.
If an atheist dies, and someone says something about there being an afterlife, etc., we are supposed to just let that slide. They 'meant well' or something.
pipoman
(16,038 posts)Unless the dearly departed's loved ones are members here, nothing said really matters or is important.
whathehell
(29,096 posts)Dorian Gray
(13,503 posts)They're both stupid and insensitive. (Though I lean toward insensitive more because of his current wife than the afterlife aspect.)
Most memes are, though.
awoke_in_2003
(34,582 posts)SammyWinstonJack
(44,130 posts)awoke_in_2003
(34,582 posts)Maynar
(769 posts)Bucky
(54,087 posts)The desire to be the scornful critic in the room is perfectly natural. It probably feels like power to some personality types. But you really gotta wait until someone else freaks out over a nothing before playing that card.
The desire to be the scornful critic in the room is perfectly natural. It probably feels like power to some personality types. But you really gotta wait until someone else freaks out over a nothing before playing that card.
Raine
(30,541 posts)cwydro
(51,308 posts)Dang, I must have missed the announcement.
Bucky
(54,087 posts)Stonepounder
(4,033 posts)AlbertCat
(17,505 posts)Only if you take the other nonsense off!
edhopper
(33,635 posts)"He's with Gilda" people do the same.
LanternWaste
(37,748 posts)It can be frustrating when an individual applies a simple and gracious sentiment to someone we've never met.
However, as respect is merely an illusion itself and does not exist in any tangible way outside of our imaginations, it seems the very presence or absence of respect to someone who does not exist is far too inconsequential and immaterial to invest any concern into it.
TexasBushwhacker
(20,220 posts)I wouldn't have if I hadn't gone back and read his bio.
Amaril
(1,267 posts)I almost made that comment (i.e., he's with Gilda now) yesterday in response to my daughter's post about his death on FB, but then thought........"You know, I wonder if he ever remarried after Gilda".......and did the Google. Having learned the answer, I didn't post it.
I'm guilty of romanticizing their relationship -- saw them as this tragic, perfect-for-each-other couple who were cheated of their happily ever after by cancer -- others probably are as well.
TexasBushwhacker
(20,220 posts)Absolutely. I think many people buy into the soulmate concept and that there can be only one, but that simply isn't the case. In Gene's case, his marriage with Gilda was his third, so one thing you can assume is that, while not always successful, Gene liked being married! I'm glad he found Karen. It seems that he was only duagnosed with Alzheimer's 3 years ago, so they had many good years together. Good for them.
whathehell
(29,096 posts)"There are all kinds of love in this world, but never the same love twice". F. Scott Fitzgerald.
still_one
(92,433 posts)Bucky
(54,087 posts)Thanks, Obama
True Dough
(17,337 posts)Hopefully they are watching Blazing Saddles together!
still_one
(92,433 posts)lot of people laugh
notKeith
(141 posts)This sort of drivel is useful for those who can't handle the idea that This. Is. It. Once we ..um.. pass thru the veil, if we simply cease to exist, that overwhelms some people. People who require something.. anything.. to give them solace. Whatever. Personally I can't get my head around (for example) the quasi-biblical requirement to do things so you get a heaven ticket. That's an external motive, i.e., apart from THIS construct, I'd act like an SOB. No, more interesting if someone behaves because it's simply right to do so, not so you get a reward.
Tommy_Carcetti
(43,209 posts)narnian60
(3,510 posts)amuse bouche
(3,657 posts)The OP has a great point. Actually 2 great points
cbdo2007
(9,213 posts)That seems a little short sighted. Of course nobody is saying he is physically with her and they are playing ping pong together or something, but the final piece of a star crossed romance has now faded and the legend of "Gene and Gilda" will burn brighter than ever.
Bucky
(54,087 posts)And Gene & Gilda aren't exactly a legend.
(if you're being sarcastic, sorry for taking you seriously)
WillowTree
(5,325 posts)FighttheFuture
(1,313 posts)and their happiness, both being such wonderful people in life. It's a form of collective good will and an acknowledgement of who they are and what they've done, which is in of itself, very important to a society. It is inspiring.
Why is that so hard for you to understand?
Regardless, my best wishes and prayers for Gene and Gilda, wherever they may be. Even if its only in our memories and the movies they made, bless you both. I think, though, that something more is going on!
usaf-vet
(6,215 posts)ENOUGH ALREADY!!!!!
whathehell
(29,096 posts)Unless a rule violation is involved, I'm afraid DUers get to say what they want.
Bucky
(54,087 posts)Seriously, thank you for the perspective. I didn't know he'd remarried, but even then it seemed weird.
geardaddy
(24,931 posts)Cryptoad
(8,254 posts)Codeine
(25,586 posts)yeoman6987
(14,449 posts)In death, the mourners say a lot of things to bring healing for themselves. I don't find it a big deal. Let people mourn in their own way.
hamsterjill
(15,224 posts)I've seen it here and other places, and I am fine with it.
There is no disputing the fact that Gene had a great love for Gilda, and that her death was a tragedy for him. What happened beyond that, well, only Gene really knows. The fact that he was married to someone else for 25 years may or may not mean that he loved that woman equally, less equally, or in a different kind of capacity.
Most spouses of widows or widowers fully accept the fact that there was someone before them, and that someone held a special place in their current spouse's heart.
But I don't think it's necessary to condemn posters for a simple sentiment.
Third Doctor
(1,574 posts)zipplewrath
(16,646 posts)It was very common in yea olden days for the widower to be ultimately buried with the widow. Second wives previously understood this "going in". Of course, today is a whole 'nother animal. But the sentiment survives.
chrisau214
(235 posts)Gilda Radner was Wilder's third wife.
dgibby
(9,474 posts)then willed her body to science. She told me that she thought 3 would be a crowd. What can I say. She always did march to the beat of a different drummer.
Orrex
(63,226 posts)For at least two reasons:
1. It's openly disrespectful of Karen Boyer
2. It's openly disrespectful of Gene Wilder
All this talk of intention is complete crap, because the actual intention is that the people pushing the Wilder/Radner meme are prioritizing their own romantic fantasies at the expense of Wilder's life, views and marriage.
Fuck that noise. I see no reason to respect the sentiment, because the sentiment is fundamentally disrespectful.
hamsterjill
(15,224 posts)I think it's a sweet sentiment. That's my opinion. Yours differs.
Have a nice afternoon.
Orrex
(63,226 posts)n/t
Orrex
(63,226 posts)hamsterjill
(15,224 posts)You also didn't know Gene Wilder personally, or did you?
You have read something on the internet about an interview with him whereby he claimed he was an atheist. Who is to say WHAT Mr. Wilder would find disrespectful and what he would not.
You have no better basis for your assumptions than I would have for mine. You want to perpetuate an argument because the sentiment expressed is disrespectful to you. Point taken. But it is not disrespectful to me and to many others.
I can accept your disagreement with my opinion. Can you accept my disagreement with yours?
Let it go.
Orrex
(63,226 posts)By your words I shall know you, and in this context I do indeed know what you don't understand.
hamsterjill
(15,224 posts)Have yourself a very nice day. I'll not be responding any further. Any further exchange would be a waste of time.
Orrex
(63,226 posts)I've dealt with religious/spiritual bigots for decades, and I know how strongly they resist any suggestion that their worldview might not be correct.
cleanhippie
(19,705 posts)cleanhippie
(19,705 posts)Perhaps putting yourself in the shoes of wilder, a non-believer, you might begin to understand why this "sentiment" is so very insensitive and inappropriate.
But that's difficult for believers, and I suspect difficult for you too.
cleanhippie
(19,705 posts)Gene wilder don't believe in a god or heaven, or any place he would "be with Gilda." Their that say that to him are being disrespectful of his philosophy and the way he lived his life.
whathehell
(29,096 posts)Lol..Let's hope he believed in using better English than you do.
P.S. You're not upset about "disrespect" to Gene or Gilda and their "philosophy..." You're pissed at "disrespect" toward you and YOURS...Get a grip.
steve2470
(37,457 posts)B2G
(9,766 posts)Orrex
(63,226 posts)K/R
MFM008
(19,821 posts)No one KNOWS. When you die you come tell us what really goes on.....oh wait.....
Orrex
(63,226 posts)But a fuckload of spiritual/religious proselytizers are more than happy to spout their sales pitch every chance they get.
If you're really concerned about this dreadful presumptuousness about post-mortem existence, then instead of scolding the OP, you should spend your time on those who claim authority to tell us exactly what happens after we breathe our last.
MFM008
(19,821 posts)Why be angry. Noone knows the unknowable.
Orrex
(63,226 posts)I've seen it literally hundreds of times, with a believer "praying for" or "thanking God" on behalf of an aggrieved victim, while the victim's own views are completely dismissed.
Since we can't know what happens after death, then people should keep their bullshit to themselves about Gene and Gilda being "together again." To do otherwise is to ignore Wilder's own statements and to seize yet another personal tragedy as an opportunity to preach the word, whatever the fuck their word is.
It is not "a harmless gesture," and the "good intentions" don't mean shit. It is, as always, deliberately and explicitly disrespectful of the deceased and the survivors.
Dreamer Tatum
(10,926 posts)DavidDvorkin
(19,493 posts)dembotoz
(16,852 posts)REP
(21,691 posts)Saying "they're together again" is disrespectful of their Judaism (there's no heavenly afterlife in Judaism), disrespectful of Wilder's atheism, and disrespectful to Wilder's widow.
It's enough to mourn the loss of a beloved performer without taking on superfluous and unnecessary religious sentiments.
whathehell
(29,096 posts)full of it regarding "disrespect of Judaism" Judaism does not deny the existence of an afterlife, and many Jews believe in the possibility.
Besides, I see very little "respect" here for the Christianity of anyone, dead or alive -- Fuck double standards.
REP
(21,691 posts)Is your "experience" being a Jew? Because that's my experience. Thanks so much though for your thoughts, though.
whathehell
(29,096 posts)something you've neatly dodged. Does Judaism deny the existence of an afterlife? Yes or no? That's all that matters here.
P.S. FWIW, I do have Jewish heritage, but again, that's not the point.
whathehell
(29,096 posts)Check this out: www.Jewfaq.org/m/olamhaba.htm.
amuse bouche
(3,657 posts)I really hate the 'better place' meme and so true about disrespecting his actual wife
jodymarie aimee
(3,975 posts)here I thought I as joining a bunch of thoughtful progressives who wanted to change THIS world, not ruminate and fight back and forth about an actor, however splendid, who died. I'll tell you where he is NOT, here!!
cleanhippie
(19,705 posts)shrike
(3,817 posts)But there are a lot of interesting discussions that have nothing to do with politics. People here tend to be passionate about all kinds of things, including religion or the lack thereof.
jodymarie aimee
(3,975 posts)DEMS know there is a separation of church and state. And the difference between serious and foolish conversations. If this is fun for you, have at it !! I am going out to register voters. Just expected more of you guys.
Orrex
(63,226 posts)Everyone loves a preachy, sanctimonious new member.
whathehell
(29,096 posts)but you'd be forgiven for not noticing that here.
Act_of_Reparation
(9,116 posts)It's almost like this post belongs in a general discussion forum.
Nye Bevan
(25,406 posts)before being admitted through the Pearly Gates. Unless Saint Peter is a big fan of his, of course.
True Dough
(17,337 posts)Good points made on all sides. This is what public forums should be about, not trying to shut down dialogue, for God's sake (did I just write "for God's sake???" .
Adrahil
(13,340 posts)I have heard he deeply loved his wife, Karen. But that does not mean he quit loving Gilda. If his spirit does go on (like him, I think it does not), there is no reason to believe he wouldn't love seeing her again.
Stop being a killjoy
63splitwindow
(2,657 posts)KMOD
(7,906 posts)of Gilda's passing years ago.
People can mourn however they want.
redwitch
(14,948 posts)LongTomH
(8,636 posts)CBGLuthier
(12,723 posts)That she loved him far more than he loved her. It happens.
Kansaskid
(17 posts)Gilda discusses the fact that Gene did not want to marry again. She was very high maintenance, and he had reservations about their marrying. He finally just gave in and married her.
whathehell
(29,096 posts)Then again, he had multiple wives -- Maybe they all "loved him far more than he loved them".
Rex
(65,616 posts)JonathanRackham
(1,604 posts)In my next life I want to be a psychic lawyer.
Warren DeMontague
(80,708 posts)contains the Buddha nature.
If, at death, the ego dissolves and the illusion of ego, specific and finite melts back into the universal and infinite, then arguably "they" are together, in some fashion (or were never really separate) but like most theological/philosophical debates, it's the definition of pointlessness to argue about it.
...really, can't we fight about circumcision? porn? The man fucking the McChicken, for mcchicken fucking fuck's sake?
All this one does is remind me of two great comedians we've lost, over the years.
Blue_Tires
(55,445 posts)but that ended tragically...
progressoid
(49,999 posts)wysi
(1,512 posts)I agree, it's disrespectful to his widow (to whom he was married for 25 years).
LongtimeAZDem
(4,494 posts)recentevents
(93 posts)My mother (93 years old) and father (who passed away almost 20 years ago) were married for 50 plus years. I ask her once about joining dad in heaven as they both were very religious people who lived the talk.
She replied, "It's till death do us part. I'm not going to be married to him in heaven, that's not the way it works."
SusanCalvin
(6,592 posts)Now I *really* miss him.
Thank you for everything, Gene.
whathehell
(29,096 posts)Why would an atheist thank someone who's no longer alive to hear?....Just sayin'
SusanCalvin
(6,592 posts)I'm grateful to a lot of dead people.
Any other questions?
whathehell
(29,096 posts)it is, in fact, identical to the last: Why would an atheist address someone -- with gratitude or anything else -- who can't hear?
Your feelings for a dead man, however fine, cannot restore his hearing, so they would properly only be expressed to the living.
Have a good day.
SusanCalvin
(6,592 posts)If this is what floats your boat, knock yourself out.
I won't be here to participate, though. Thank you for playing.
whathehell
(29,096 posts)Declare victory and go home?....Oh well, at least you're smart enough to know your limitations.
"Thanks for playing"?...You're welcome -- The pleasure was all mine.
SusanCalvin
(6,592 posts)Only here because...
Well, I admit I can't explain it any other way than apparently I am, at the moment, bored.
If you get your jollies splitting hairs, I defend your right to do so.
whathehell
(29,096 posts)SusanCalvin
(6,592 posts)"You're" is the contraction for "you are."
In the title. You used it correctly in the body.
whathehell
(29,096 posts)Feel better now?
SusanCalvin
(6,592 posts)But not your replies since my abandoning (sorta) of this thread. And don't intend to. (An advantage of message boards of this sort.)
But, really, is this all you have got to do.....?
Sigh.....
Bye.
Orrex
(63,226 posts)For those anyone a little rusty on the literary device: Apostrophe
Addressing someone who is absent, whether due to death, to distance, or to lost contact, is not a statement of faith nor any declaration of an afterlife. Nor is it any sort of "Gotcha!" proof that the speaker expects the absent person to hear. The speaker is, in effect, addressing the memory or the idea or the thought of the departed.
When you express frustration at a driver who cuts you off in busy traffic, do you always expect that driver to hear you to change his or her driving habits as a result? No? Then why the hell do you do it?
Wait, I know. You never express yourself in that way. Fine--then why do you suppose that other drivers do it? People talk to their cars and their computers all the time. They yell at movie screens to warn the hero away from danger. Do you think that they expect the character to hear them?
This is a nuanced point that I suspect might be lost on those religionists who sadly rely too much on Gotcha! moments, but it's necessary to consider the context of the situation and also the views of the speaker.
Does that clarify it for you, or are you still flailing around for a Gotcha! moment?
SusanCalvin
(6,592 posts)I had abandoned this thread, then got really bored and came back.
Glad I did.
Thanks!
DFW
(54,447 posts)IrishEyes
(3,275 posts)They made a great comedy team.
get the red out
(13,468 posts)Our culture of worshipping "stars" is more than a little like the way the Greeks and Romans approached the worship of their Gods, and the mythology of their deities successes and foibles. Performers are people, they aren't living on Mount Olympus. This is just my opinion, but I really see our star struck culture as a problem.
Loki Liesmith
(4,602 posts)Buzz Clik
(38,437 posts)What a fucking callous OP.
Odin2005
(53,521 posts)whathehell
(29,096 posts)AlbertCat
(17,505 posts)Ah yes..... and other imaginary animals....
You might want to save your hate (it takes so much energy) for something that actually exists.
Odin2005
(53,521 posts)Look at some of my early posts here in the mid to late 00s when I was an edgy Atheist college student.
Orrex
(63,226 posts)If not, then you weren't as militant as you probably think.
AlbertCat
(17,505 posts)That's your definition of a "Militant Atheist"?
What extreme and violent actions did you commit in the name of atheism?
edhopper
(33,635 posts)Gene Wilder, since you seem to think any atheist that is open about it is "Militant"
whathehell
(29,096 posts)Being open about one's beliefs does not equal militancy. Nice try, though.
edhopper
(33,635 posts)people are saying Gene prefers Gilda over his widow. Wilder, an atheist, is now somnewhere with his "true love".
pointing out the inanity and insult of that is "Militant"/
Nice try.
whathehell
(29,096 posts)Switch goal posts much? I'd say "nice try", but It's a bit too obvious for that.
edhopper
(33,635 posts)which is about people saying "Gene is with Gilda now" despite his wife of 25 years and the fact Wilder was an atheist who didn't believe in such garbage makes me a Militant?
Please proceed...
Act_of_Reparation
(9,116 posts)People don't like that, it seems.
edhopper
(33,635 posts)probably the perception I did that, even though I didn't.
Like I'm a "Militant" for asking people to respect his widow.
Act_of_Reparation
(9,116 posts)If you're a militant Christian, you blow up abortion clinics. If you're a militant Jew, you murder Palestinians in the streets. If you're a militant Islamist, you forcibly remove heads from bodies with butter knives. If you're a militant Hindu or a militant Buddhist, you lynch Muslims by the busload.
All an atheist has to do to be considered militant is rankle some nerves on an internet forum.
People would much rather not see or hear from us... except on election days.
edhopper
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NeoGreen
(4,031 posts)..with excuses to Hitch...
("yumyum beersies" gets me every time)
whathehell
(29,096 posts)Last edited Fri Sep 2, 2016, 10:11 AM - Edit history (1)
If atheists talked about 'outer space' instead of spewing insults and ridicule at those with other views, they'd likely be unrecognized as
such, much less be tagged as "militant" which, btw, does not necessarily equate with being an "extremist".
whathehell
(29,096 posts)Big difference.
Act_of_Reparation
(9,116 posts)...you're deliberately lumping a guy who says things on the internet together with people who by definition take violent action to promote their political agenda. The best case scenario here is you don't really know what any of those words -- "proselytize" or "militant" -- really mean. Worst case, you're being dishonest.
Now you seem like an intelligent individual, so to be honest, I'm leaning towards the latter.
whathehell
(29,096 posts)although I can see how that analogy could, if accurate, advance your argument.
Sorry, but in this context, it simply means proactively advancing an agenda, and that frequently involves proselytizing. No one thinks militant atheists are "dangerous". They're just tiresome and obnoxious, like religious proselytizers...Get it now?
P.S. Given your insults and allover belligerence, I'm afraid I'm going to have to relegate you to the Big "I" list. Goodbye and good luck.
Act_of_Reparation
(9,116 posts)Good. At least you're honest about being dishonest.
whathehell
(29,096 posts)Kinda thought that was obvious, but not for some, it seems.
You shit all over other people's views, and then, incredibly enough, whine about a lack of 'respect' for your OWN?
Atheist, Schmathiest, bro..You gotta be living on another planet with those expectations.
edhopper
(33,635 posts)of "Gene and Gilda"
And that makes me a "Militant"?
Your threshold for militancy is really low.
I guess That makes almost everyone on DU a "Militant" Democrat for the way they talk about Republicans.
Odin2005
(53,521 posts)Atheists whining that they are being told to shut up reminds me of the internet edgelords on sites like Reddit who think moderation is censorship.
edhopper
(33,635 posts)I am asking how I am a Militant in any of my posts.
whathehell
(29,096 posts)and, in answer to your question, it apparently is.
whathehell
(29,096 posts)and shove it down the throats of others via ridicule, insult and boorish arrogance.
whathehell
(29,096 posts)I replied in the negative to this rather silly assumption:
"I guess that would include Gene Wilder, since you seem to think any atheist that is open about it is "Militant"
You guessed wrong, and, since I wasn't "gotched" by it as you obviously intended, you'd like to give it another go.
Sorry, bro -- This one is even sillier than the first and I'm not at all interested.
edhopper
(33,635 posts)make me a "Militant Atheist"?
Odin2005
(53,521 posts)Quit projecting your own persecution complex.
edhopper
(33,635 posts)and please use examples of other forms of militancy you would compare it to?
Odin2005
(53,521 posts)"Militant" was the wrong word, "Fundamentalist" is probably the better descriptor. I am not implying that you or other such people are equivalent to IS or the WBC, I'm using it to describe the nasty, tactless behavior used to brag about how smarter and superior you are to religious people that makes you morally no better than fundie bigots telling people they are going to Hell
Act_of_Reparation
(9,116 posts)Telling religious people there is no afterlife when they are grieving over the death of a man they never met is a "massive dick move"?
How about completely disregarding the feelings of the man you're supposedly grieving, along with the feelings of those who actually knew and loved him? What, that's just fucking peachy?
Just so we're clear, then: when I die, my atheist wife is going to have to bite her lip and stay quiet when distant relatives and acquaintances who barely knew me tell her I'm in a "better place"? Because I wouldn't want her, in her grief, to accidentally hurt the fee-fees of grieving believers and thereby become a massive dick.
Well, you have an opinion on morality, and while the great lengths to which you go to establish some kind of bullshit equivalence between telling people there's no Santa and actively wishing for people to spend eternity locking in a furnace are truly fascinating, they're really.... not.
the dick move is telling his wife of 25 years that he is no with his "true love" as if they know fuck all about it.
The dick move is saying an atheist is now happy in heaven.
Pointing this out is not the dick move.
Good Day, Sir.
whathehell
(29,096 posts)but it is a good time to cut and run, ' cause you just lost that argument big time.
edhopper
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whathehell
(29,096 posts)muriel_volestrangler
(101,385 posts)You popped into a DU thread to tell the thread starter you hate them. And that has been your sole contribution.
Odin2005
(53,521 posts)It is nothing but pumping up one's own ego and sense of superiority by shitting on others. The whole "we Atheists are all smart and logical and superior to all those stupid religious people" crap is nauseating.
Nobody is telling Atheists to shut up, people are telling atheists to not be assholes. That so many Atheists think those 2 things are the same says a lot.
muriel_volestrangler
(101,385 posts)They were pointing out that Wilder was atheist, so had no belief in this 'with Gilda' stuff, and, most importantly, that the actual person grieving - his widow Karen - was being ignored, and shunted to one side, not by "grieving religious people", but by DUers, in favour of the celebrity they'd heard of, with an inappropriate religious cliche.
And then you marched it to tell a DUer you hated them. Now you accuse the one person on DU to think of the living family member that they've been making it about their own "ego", and they're "shitting on others" by thinking of Karen. Congrats. You're really digging your hole deep.
"Smart and logical and superior"? The thread starter was better informed, and pointed out, politely, there's a living widow who was married to him for 25 years, right through his illness.
Are you telling atheists to shut up? No, you're just telling them you hate them. That's worse. That you think you have any moral standing in this whatsoever is very telling. Look to your own ego and how you're trying to pump it up. DU is not meant to be a hate site, so stop trying to make it one.
Humanist_Activist
(7,670 posts)is apparently too much for Atheists to ask for.
whathehell
(29,096 posts)Poor widdle atheists..So Sad. Especially given how respectful THEY so often are to those not sharing their views...Give me a tucking break.
Orrex
(63,226 posts)Or at least you've never bothered to listen to them.
In your entire life, have you ever heard an atheist intrude on a religionist's grief to proselytize atheism at them? Not talking about soundbytes from Richard Dawkins nor anonymous comments on an internet board: have you ever seen an atheist confront a widow and tell her that her husband is gone forever in the cold and soulless universe?
Of course not, because in spite of the pro-religion propaganda that infests every square inch of public life, the vast majority of atheists are not assholes and do not evangelize. Obviously there are exceptions, but other atheists tend to decry that behavior. Contrast that with the vast majority of religionists who exploit every death and tragedy to preach the word.
Not 12 hours ago a neighbor lost her son to an overdose. Do you think that I took that opportunity to tell her that there's no evidence that God exists? Of course not, because I'm not an insensitive monster. But if I had similarly lost a loved one, do you doubt that I would be told that he's "with God" or "in a better place" or "you're in my prayers?"
Sure, they insist that they're being positive and compassionate, but they're doing it by explicitly disrespecting the views of the person they're "supporting." That's like "supporting" a vegan event with a rack of barbecued ribs.
So instead of shitting on a minority in the name of religious bigotry, perhaps you might consider educating yourself about the people you're attacking.
Humanist_Activist
(7,670 posts)whathehell
(29,096 posts)but I appreciate your saying.
Humanist_Activist
(7,670 posts)Oh, what the fuck is the point, its not like you are capable of feeling shame, or anything really.
edhopper
(33,635 posts)it's a good thing we are atheists
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If you saw the movie.
Humanist_Activist
(7,670 posts)lame excuse, I know, especially since I think its on netflix. As far as the person I'm responding to, just an old time bigot(transphobe). Not really a worthy person to talk to, I'm assuming they are behaving better now than in the past, or else they may end up being shown the door.
edhopper
(33,635 posts)and yes I'm done there.
whathehell
(29,096 posts)If it helps, I did NOT read the article you linked me to.
Humanist_Activist
(7,670 posts)if you're not going to read what the fuck I linked to.
Just stop the bullshit.
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Kaleva
(36,355 posts)edhopper
(33,635 posts)OriginalGeek
(12,132 posts)gvstn
(2,805 posts)When he is asked about his relationship with Gilda he talks about the good times and the struggles. When he says, "I really did love Gilda", it sounds a bit defensive as in despite all the problems. If there is an afterlife, it sounds to me that his most recent family that saw him through his struggles will eventually reunite with him(maybe Gilda too) but definitely them.
astral
(2,531 posts)Non-Believers gotta be right.
What's the big deal if we can't agree on where Gene Wilder went, anyway? None of us will ever know for sure until we cross over.
. . . Unless we don't. Crossover.
In which case, we just stay put where we are. .
I mean where we aren't, anymore.
So we can't stay there cuz we aren't there.
But, then, where did we go?
The Christians went to Heaven.
The Sinners went to Hell.
The atheists simply fertilized the flowers,
which were left by the non-non- believers
who thought the flowers were a symbol of respect to the deParrted who didn't go anywhere because as atheists they could not travel without their bodies.
All I know is:
± I have no defined religion.
± I believe in God because I can feel His presence.
± I love Gilda Radner more than I love Gene Wilder.
± I am probably not going to Heaven.
± The truth is the truth, whether we choose to believe it or not.
± I'm God-Damned Sure I'm right.
± Part of this post is going to get Bleeped.
± I think I have managed to offend everybody in this thread.
± Posting this was fun.
shrike
(3,817 posts)Best post on the thread.