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pnwmom

(108,978 posts)
Fri Oct 21, 2016, 02:23 PM Oct 2016

A mother's story of her 8 month abortion.

According to her, there are only two clinics in the country that will perform an abortion this late in a pregnancy. Her story explains why they are sometimes necessary.

(Despite what the Donald says, there are no clinics that will perform an abortion after 36 weeks.)

https://www.yahoo.com/news/what-kind-of-mother-is-8-months-pregnant-and-117104430132.html?ref=gs

On the issue of late-term abortion during Wednesday night’s debate, Donald Trump notably said the following: “If you go with what Hillary is saying, in the ninth month, you can take the baby and rip the baby out of the womb of the mother just prior to the birth of the baby. Now, you can say that that’s OK and Hillary can say that that’s OK. But it’s not OK with me, because based on what she’s saying, and based on where she’s going, and where she’s been, you can take the baby and rip the baby out of the womb in the ninth month on the final day. And that’s not acceptable.” His comments sparked outrage and pain across social media from women — and men — who know firsthand the devastation of ending a pregnancy. Ninety-two percent of abortions in the United States occur within the first 13 weeks of pregnancy. But for women who opt to have them late, the decision is one that’s typically made under harrowing medical circumstances — one of which is described here, bravely and painstakingly, in this first-person essay originally published in April 2015.

When Kate, a 29-year-old mom outside Boston, found out she was pregnant with a second daughter, she was elated. Then, at 36 weeks along, she got the news that is every expecting parent’s worst nightmare: Her baby, whom she would later name Rose, had two brain malformations. Kate decided to have an abortion, and eventually found solace in a support group on the website Ending a Wanted Pregnancy. The online community is for parents who terminate pregnancies for medical reasons (pregnancies they wanted, but chose to end after a severe prenatal diagnosis or maternal health issue) and who often feel alone or ashamed, and suffer in silence. Kate, one of the site’s administrators, shares her story with Yahoo’s Rachel Bertsche.

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A mother's story of her 8 month abortion. (Original Post) pnwmom Oct 2016 OP
sometimes things go badly....for my family, she developed leukemia dembotoz Oct 2016 #1
Wow. What a powerful, gut-wrenching story. DLevine Oct 2016 #2
So sad! Pacifist Patriot Oct 2016 #3
Thank you for this beautiful, horrifying story, my dear pnwmom... CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2016 #4
Me, too. Poor thing was having painful seizures already in utero. pnwmom Oct 2016 #6
I don't think fetuses in the womb can feel pain; at least that's been the past consensus on DU. MadDAsHell Oct 2016 #7
We need scientific answers for this question, not the opinions of laypeople. CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2016 #8
An 8 month fetus can feel pain in the womb, as it would pnwmom Oct 2016 #9
We don't actually know that. Reaction to stimuli is not equal to pain. Maru Kitteh Oct 2016 #18
They used to do larger surgeries on newborns, too, without anesthesia pnwmom Oct 2016 #19
What a painful, heartbreaking story. Control-Z Oct 2016 #5
I know what you mean. murielm99 Oct 2016 #10
K&R fleabiscuit Oct 2016 #11
I am weeping for this mother's grief, even as I am grateful for her access to medical care... Hekate Oct 2016 #12
My dear Hekate... CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2016 #13
This was a powerful story. Mc Mike Oct 2016 #14
This made me cry and infuriated me all the more at the false & inaccurate statement Trump made at Pachamama Oct 2016 #15
"36 weeks along" isn't this 9 months? I believe in the euthanasia by injection & the pop shot to, Sunlei Oct 2016 #16
A full term pregnancy is considered to be 40 weeks pnwmom Oct 2016 #17
What do you think a typical late term abortion is like? gollygee Oct 2016 #20

dembotoz

(16,806 posts)
1. sometimes things go badly....for my family, she developed leukemia
Fri Oct 21, 2016, 02:35 PM
Oct 2016

she was sinking like a rock....they had to start chemo....obviously the pregnancy could not continue.
we were fortunate that our son was far along enuf so that we could do a c-section. Had it been earlier, an abortion was
a necessity.

DLevine

(1,788 posts)
2. Wow. What a powerful, gut-wrenching story.
Fri Oct 21, 2016, 02:37 PM
Oct 2016

People who don't understand a woman's right to choose need to read this.

Pacifist Patriot

(24,653 posts)
3. So sad!
Fri Oct 21, 2016, 02:57 PM
Oct 2016

And exactly why this should always be a private decision amongst a woman, her loved ones, and her doctors.

CaliforniaPeggy

(149,622 posts)
4. Thank you for this beautiful, horrifying story, my dear pnwmom...
Fri Oct 21, 2016, 02:58 PM
Oct 2016

I would have done the same exact thing.

pnwmom

(108,978 posts)
6. Me, too. Poor thing was having painful seizures already in utero.
Fri Oct 21, 2016, 03:54 PM
Oct 2016

Who could want that suffering to continue?

 

MadDAsHell

(2,067 posts)
7. I don't think fetuses in the womb can feel pain; at least that's been the past consensus on DU.
Fri Oct 21, 2016, 04:46 PM
Oct 2016

Maybe opinions on here have changed on the subject?

CaliforniaPeggy

(149,622 posts)
8. We need scientific answers for this question, not the opinions of laypeople.
Fri Oct 21, 2016, 04:57 PM
Oct 2016

And I don't know if science has an answer.



pnwmom

(108,978 posts)
9. An 8 month fetus can feel pain in the womb, as it would
Fri Oct 21, 2016, 05:02 PM
Oct 2016

if it were born prematurely.

I don't know at what point a fetus matures neurologically enough to feel pain, but it isn't like a switch goes on at the moment of birth.

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2900087/

Anaesthetic plan for Fetal Surgery Procedures
Ex Utero Intrapartum Treatment Procedures

EXIT procedures require maternal laparotomy and hysterotomy while maintaining uteroplacental circulation. General anaesthesia is preferable as it accomplishes both maternal and fetal anaesthesia.

Maru Kitteh

(28,340 posts)
18. We don't actually know that. Reaction to stimuli is not equal to pain.
Sat Oct 22, 2016, 10:13 AM
Oct 2016

WARNING: POTENTIAL THREAD DERAILMENT AHEAD!

CIRCUMCISION! CIRCUMCISION! CIRCUMCISION! CIRCUMCISION! CIRCUMCISION!

Okay, now that we have that out of the way - infants show greatly differing reactions to a procedure that would be, without question, undeniably, unfathomably brutal were it performed (as it is on infants) upon a fully conscious, 20yo male with NO local, oral, or IV pain-killer given.

Instinctual withdrawal from a given stimuli does not equal pain.

There's just too much we do not know to make blanket statements about pain as it relates to late-term pregnancies and neonates.

pnwmom

(108,978 posts)
19. They used to do larger surgeries on newborns, too, without anesthesia
Sat Oct 22, 2016, 10:39 AM
Oct 2016

but they dropped that practice after research showed that anesthesia improved vital signs (heart rate, blood pressure, etc) during the procedure, leading them to believe surgery without anesthesia was causing pain. They've found the same thing for fetal surgeries.

Again, there is no sudden switch that goes on at the moment of birth or later. They do believe that newborns can feel pain, and so can fetuses close to full development,, and that's why they use anesthesia for fetal surgeries.

Control-Z

(15,682 posts)
5. What a painful, heartbreaking story.
Fri Oct 21, 2016, 03:31 PM
Oct 2016

I'm so lucky to have 3 healthy, beautiful children. But I know I would have done the same. My husband and I talked about it when we had amniocentesis with our youngest. We felt strongly about it and were certain. We were grateful when the test confirmed we had a healthy pregnancy.

murielm99

(30,741 posts)
10. I know what you mean.
Fri Oct 21, 2016, 05:03 PM
Oct 2016

We have three healthy children also. I had an amnio with my third, and we did discuss options. I was 35 then, and there was a family history of birth defects. Everything turned out well.

My oldest daughter lived in Wisconsin for several years. She came into contact with a group who did a lot of yelling about "partial birth abortions." She and her friends found the statistics for late term abortions for Wisconsin residents for the three latest years they were available. There were two a year. That was all. Those are rare, and only done under the most critical circumstances.

Every time someone uses the term "partial birth abortion," or says something ignorant, as Trump did, I just keep repeating that there is no medical procedure called "partial birth abortion." I keep saying "late term abortion." I don't care how often I have to say it.

That poor woman. She wanted a large family, too.

Hekate

(90,690 posts)
12. I am weeping for this mother's grief, even as I am grateful for her access to medical care...
Fri Oct 21, 2016, 05:22 PM
Oct 2016

I would have done the same. I would have helped a loved one to do the same if it were in my power.

It brings back so many memories of women I have loved who lost babies they wanted and loved. My MIL, who miscarried her only daughter. My mother, who named her stillborn son David Freeman (free - man). My daughter, who lost her own daughter to SIDS.

When you want a child, I swear you imagine it into being with your whole heart.

I used to write rituals for women and men at turning points in their lives. I wrote one for a miscarriage. I also created an extensive outline for someone deciding to end a pregnancy -- for whatever reason they deemed necessary, because women are moral agents in our own right and I believe we have the right to decide.

The Donald Trumps of this world have absolutely no place here. He can go to Hell and take his lies with him.

Mc Mike

(9,114 posts)
14. This was a powerful story.
Fri Oct 21, 2016, 08:21 PM
Oct 2016

He knew absolutely nothing about Roe v. Wade, absolutely nothing about abortion, absolutely nothing about the Supreme Court. And he cares absolutely nothing about any of it. He would never dream of studying the issues, even a tiny bit. Easier to make up some lying nazi story, and to tell it to the country with complete conviction and outraged indignation.

He was never pro-choice before, maybe he was pro-abortion if a 4th or 5th woman inconveniently got pregnant when having a relationship with him. He may have been in favor of pressuring her to have an abortion, then.

His stupid cartoonish lie about "a day before 9 months", he said with such righteous anger and conviction. He knows jack squat, but says he knows it all, with a perfect used car sales delivery. Just like the swinish Limpbaugh with his Sandra Fluke birth control pill story.

Pachamama

(16,887 posts)
15. This made me cry and infuriated me all the more at the false & inaccurate statement Trump made at
Sat Oct 22, 2016, 04:48 AM
Oct 2016

....the debate about late-term abortion. Never mind he left out how infrequent they occur and only with massive medical consultation and reasons that are medical and gut-wrenching decisions. Not to mention the way he described it happening is false. It was red meat for the pro-lifers and frankly designed to make them frothe at the mouth and to paint Hillary as some kind of "Nasty Woman Satanic Baby Killer".

It was most of all a further attack on all women and the right to making medical and life decisions with their doctors and loved ones that impact them profoundly. I loathe this man. He is dangerous to women and men alike. But he is dangerous. Very dangerous. And he really hates women.

Sunlei

(22,651 posts)
16. "36 weeks along" isn't this 9 months? I believe in the euthanasia by injection & the pop shot to,
Sat Oct 22, 2016, 08:02 AM
Oct 2016

to move along a natural birth of the deceased baby.

IMO, this is not a typical case anyone for or against 'abortion' should cite as any proof. And why not use organs for transplant so some part of Rose could live forever? She lived, survived for 9 months.

pnwmom

(108,978 posts)
17. A full term pregnancy is considered to be 40 weeks
Sat Oct 22, 2016, 09:10 AM
Oct 2016

from the date of the last menstrual cycle.

No, they cannot use the organs for transplants. They had to kill the fetus with the injection so that the fetus would have no further pain, then and during the delivery. You cannot use organs from a deceased fetus.

This of course isn't a typical case for abortion. It is an example of a very late abortion, the kind that the GOP is currently trying to end.

gollygee

(22,336 posts)
20. What do you think a typical late term abortion is like?
Sat Oct 22, 2016, 12:01 PM
Oct 2016

Late term abortions are of wanted babies where something went terribly wrong. Like this.

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