Welcome to DU! The truly grassroots left-of-center political community where regular people, not algorithms, drive the discussions and set the standards. Join the community: Create a free account Support DU (and get rid of ads!): Become a Star Member Latest Breaking News General Discussion The DU Lounge All Forums Issue Forums Culture Forums Alliance Forums Region Forums Support Forums Help & Search

trof

(54,256 posts)
Thu Feb 16, 2017, 08:50 PM Feb 2017

Poll: Should I speak up?

I'm 75.
Every morning I walk with 6 other guys in my neighborhood.
We're in our late 60s to mid 70s.
We do a bit over 2 miles.
We talk about a lot of stuff, but mainly Alabama football.
And just stuff going on in the neighborhood.

There are usually seven of us.
One other guy is a liberal.
The other 5 I'm pretty sure voted for Trump.
This is the reddest county in Alabama.

We NEVER talk politics.
I guess it's the unwritten rule, and not a bad one.
We two know where the five stand and they know our views, pretty much.
Fair enough.

But I am absolutely DYING to just say "So...what did you guys think about the press conference yesterday?"

I'd make NO comment about it.
Just want to hear their take on it.

Am I getting in trouble?





5 votes, 2 passes | Time left: Unlimited
Yeah, go for it
2 (40%)
Why alienate your so-called "friends"?
3 (60%)
Show usernames
Disclaimer: This is an Internet poll
19 replies = new reply since forum marked as read
Highlight: NoneDon't highlight anything 5 newestHighlight 5 most recent replies

Warpy

(111,261 posts)
1. Are you sick of walking with these guys?
Thu Feb 16, 2017, 08:55 PM
Feb 2017

If so, go for it. If you'd rather keep walking, keep avoiding sex, religion and politics. Well, religion and politics.

trof

(54,256 posts)
3. I guess I'd just like to hear if they've changed their minds about him.
Thu Feb 16, 2017, 09:01 PM
Feb 2017

These aren't stupid guys.
Just...'misguided'?
It's just more enjoyable to be with some guys you can chat with.

I can walk alone.

Warpy

(111,261 posts)
10. Well, think carefully about this
Thu Feb 16, 2017, 09:11 PM
Feb 2017

Right now, you're in the minority in a very red area. They're still getting positive feedback about Orange Cal from talk radio, Pox news, friends, family, and church. It might be too soon to expect a change.

I'd let them bring it up, honestly.

Mr. Ected

(9,670 posts)
2. Eh...not worth it
Thu Feb 16, 2017, 08:58 PM
Feb 2017

Sometimes it's nice to carry on relationships that don't involve a lot of controversy or confrontation.

LisaM

(27,812 posts)
4. I wouldn't say anything.
Thu Feb 16, 2017, 09:04 PM
Feb 2017

If this chaos keeps up, I think they'll bring it up after a while. Then you can be nice and receptive to them.

 

Jim Beard

(2,535 posts)
5. I passed and for me being 70 its good to have friends that get along and apparently
Thu Feb 16, 2017, 09:06 PM
Feb 2017

have good companionship. On the other hand, have one huge blow out and enjoy the other Liberal friend and walk 10 miles.

meadowlark5

(2,795 posts)
6. I wouldn't
Thu Feb 16, 2017, 09:09 PM
Feb 2017

Some people are worth poking. But if these are men you enjoy hanging around with and having conversations with otherwise, I would leave it.

There are people in my life I have had to take that approach with.

anarch

(6,535 posts)
8. that was some of the most ridiculous shit I've ever seen on the TV
Thu Feb 16, 2017, 09:10 PM
Feb 2017

I bet they solve this problem for you by bringing it up themselves.

(of course, if they're super into the fascist buffoon, that might be hard to listen to, but you'd have your answer as to what they thought....)

dem4decades

(11,296 posts)
9. I play golf with similar guys. We respect each other.
Thu Feb 16, 2017, 09:10 PM
Feb 2017

One guy said he was going to vote for trump a different guy says, then you're voting for the biggest idiot that ever ran. We laughed and teed off.

 

Daemonaquila

(1,712 posts)
11. Absolutely.
Thu Feb 16, 2017, 09:14 PM
Feb 2017

Look, if they're nuts, they're nuts, and it's good to know that and act accordingly. If they're cool, it will only improve your friendship. Either way, none of us can afford to be "good Germans" right now. If they are on the wrong side, you may be able to help bring them over. Walks are where talks like that start.

As for all the folks who say "it isn't worth it," shame on you. That is how the GOP keeps winning. They're in everyone's faces. But poor, poor Dems just meekly decide they don't want to go head to head and cause friction. Well, that's what got your state's gerrymandered, and that's what Lost you state houses and governors, and that's what lost you the house... and the senate... and the presidency. We must engage even when it's scary.

 

smirkymonkey

(63,221 posts)
12. Maybe you could just casually ask for their feedback?
Thu Feb 16, 2017, 09:16 PM
Feb 2017

It wouldn't have to be confrontational. It might be interesting to find out where they are coming from. Are they usually reasonable people? Not all Trump supporters are raging idiots. My Dad and one of my Brother's just didn't like Hillary, but they aren't really rabid Trump lovers either. My Dad knew my position and all he said to me was "Well, you have to vote your conscience". I have a few members in my family like that. They are able to deal with a difference of opinion.

chillfactor

(7,576 posts)
13. Doesn't sound like these men...
Thu Feb 16, 2017, 09:21 PM
Feb 2017

could bw counted on as friends......more like acquaintances....with friends you should be able to talk about anything whether you agree or not.

 

otohara

(24,135 posts)
14. I Was Intimidated Into Silence
Thu Feb 16, 2017, 09:23 PM
Feb 2017

during the primary...wish now I'd been more vocal but got tired of being called Shillery.

Blue_true

(31,261 posts)
15. Let a sleeping dog alone. You gain nothing from opening
Thu Feb 16, 2017, 09:37 PM
Feb 2017

Up a political conversation. Those guys agree to no politics because they enjoy the company of you and the other liberal walker. Don't bust up your social group with what is bound to be a contentious issue.

Stinky The Clown

(67,799 posts)
16. I can totally relate to your dilemma. I'd keep my mouth shut.
Thu Feb 16, 2017, 09:55 PM
Feb 2017

I, too, have friends of long standing who are diametrically opposite to my political views. Not so much socially, but for sure on politics. Most of these people are fellow geezers, but some are younger. I've chosen to treat them as they treat me. They've never sought to talk politics with me, let alone criticized me or liberalism. It simply never comes up. I am happy to leave it that way.

For what its worth, one of their wives mentioned to my wife that she and her husband regretted their vote for him.

Most of these accommodations are of long standing. Back to when they din't matter nearly as much as now.

 

NCTraveler

(30,481 posts)
17. Sounds to me like this walk provides a nice break from the insanity.
Thu Feb 16, 2017, 09:58 PM
Feb 2017

Keep it that way. Sounds really cool. Politics, even just a mention, can turn into a life of its own.

Go Gators!!!

Tikki

(14,557 posts)
19. Wait until they start drafting their little darlings to fight in his war or crops die in.....
Thu Feb 16, 2017, 10:21 PM
Feb 2017

field because there is no one to harvest them and the trump lovers and their spawn are too
lazy to do the work...then tell them

Voting Has Consequences.

Of course we will all be caught up in this crapola.

Tikki

Latest Discussions»General Discussion»Poll: Should I speak up?