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Unrepentant Fenian

(1,078 posts)
Wed Apr 5, 2017, 10:08 PM Apr 2017

Serious question, are men's lives worth less than those of women and children?

I just watched a great show by Vanity Fair about hate crimes, they mentioned a white supremacy group in Kansas that wanted to blow up an apartment building that housed a fair number of Somali families. They made a point to say that the terrorists planned to kill "women and children too". Then I turned on the local news and they were talking about the chemical attack in Syria. They too made the point of saying that the attack was meant to kill "women and children too". I'm serious when I ask, are they saying that these atroticies wouldn't have been so bad if they had only killed men and left the women and children out of it? I really think that the loss of any life is bad, but is it somehow better if no women and children are killed???

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Serious question, are men's lives worth less than those of women and children? (Original Post) Unrepentant Fenian Apr 2017 OP
Perhaps, it is because women and children rarely cbreezen Apr 2017 #1
And neither did any of the men killed in these attacks. Painting with a broad brush much? Unrepentant Fenian Apr 2017 #8
I think it has more to do with Ilsa Apr 2017 #2
This Yo_Mama_Been_Loggin Apr 2017 #10
You got that right. nt raccoon Apr 2017 #51
I think it goes back to the days when women were considered as defenseless as children dflprincess Apr 2017 #3
That's kind of my point. Unrepentant Fenian Apr 2017 #6
Do you feel more outrage when a man punches a woman than if he punches another man? Hassin Bin Sober Apr 2017 #18
Those days are still now Jonny Appleseed Apr 2017 #23
It shouldn't be about race, sex, or age. mia Apr 2017 #4
I think killing a kid is worse Hamlette Apr 2017 #19
When the innocents get caught up in adult horrors, it's heartbreaking. mia Apr 2017 #21
So how many Iraqi kids were slaughtered two weeks ago malaise Apr 2017 #54
To the world, every life should be worth the same HoneyBadger Apr 2017 #5
Gender not so much ismnotwasm Apr 2017 #7
While I agree, killing or hurting children is extra fucked up. But really, how is that worse... Unrepentant Fenian Apr 2017 #12
Because children are completely dependent on adults to keep them safe. ismnotwasm Apr 2017 #24
Women and children are usually non-combatants. milestogo Apr 2017 #9
Just an appeal to pathos ProudLib72 Apr 2017 #11
I have to admit, you just confused the fuck out of me! Unrepentant Fenian Apr 2017 #13
Sorry ProudLib72 Apr 2017 #14
From a purely biological perspective, yes. The same with boy children. See, e.g., rzemanfl Apr 2017 #15
Males are mostly expendable unc70 Apr 2017 #16
No, men's lives are considered worth MORE, therefore they are the prime targets. Lil Missy Apr 2017 #17
Across the globe, war is a mans game.... NCTraveler Apr 2017 #20
Because men are marginalized in society BainsBane Apr 2017 #22
What an odd question. WomenRising2017 Apr 2017 #25
Read The OP Again ProfessorGAC Apr 2017 #55
Indubitably! democratisphere Apr 2017 #26
Women and children are considered equally helpless victims. nolabear Apr 2017 #27
Yes. tazkcmo Apr 2017 #28
That depends on the man. WomenRising2017 Apr 2017 #32
No. they are worth the same. lostnfound Apr 2017 #29
That's not the answer the OP was looking for n/t kcr Apr 2017 #50
Serious answer Calculating Apr 2017 #30
Female pups cost more than male puppies! golfguru Apr 2017 #31
Hardly, just compare their paychecks with ours. Warpy Apr 2017 #33
Blame patriarchy for that! Spider Jerusalem Apr 2017 #34
Bingo! 50 Shades Of Blue Apr 2017 #37
Yep! GoCubsGo Apr 2017 #58
Serious question, WomenRising2017 Apr 2017 #35
X1000 onecaliberal Apr 2017 #36
Good question. BainsBane Apr 2017 #38
I would say children's lives are worth more. RoadhogRidesAgain Apr 2017 #39
But the vast majority of dangerous humans are male. Kaleva Apr 2017 #45
If you look at statistics RoadhogRidesAgain Apr 2017 #48
Statistics also show that children are more likely to be killed by the father... Kaleva Apr 2017 #56
What is the ratio of wars declared by women vs. that of men? LanternWaste Apr 2017 #59
Some observations Worktodo Apr 2017 #40
It's not about worth, women/children are viewed as more defenseless and innocent qdouble Apr 2017 #41
My guess is that KT2000 Apr 2017 #42
Children are defenseless and don't fight wars. Also, they've barely started living. pnwmom Apr 2017 #43
As mentioned, children are defenseless & women are generally the childrens' caretakers. Kaleva Apr 2017 #44
Yes: snort Apr 2017 #46
If our plane crashes in the Andes my frozen corpse can feed more people Warren DeMontague Apr 2017 #47
Perception get the red out Apr 2017 #49
Start a movement! "Mens Lives Matter!". ret5hd Apr 2017 #52
Blame the culture that thinks that men are tougher than women. DetlefK Apr 2017 #53
Men cast themselves as protectors treestar Apr 2017 #57

Ilsa

(61,695 posts)
2. I think it has more to do with
Wed Apr 5, 2017, 10:14 PM
Apr 2017

the idea that women and children are less likely to be able to defend themselves, and less likely to be soldiers and active warriors. Also, it may be perceived that they are more likely to die from the same attack than men, even though that may not be true.

dflprincess

(28,079 posts)
3. I think it goes back to the days when women were considered as defenseless as children
Wed Apr 5, 2017, 10:14 PM
Apr 2017

And, you'll notice, a car accident or murder is always considered more tragic if a pregnant woman is killed.

There is a hierarchy:

Children
Pregnant women
Women
Men

I don't agree as it really is just another way to label women as "the weaker sex".


 

Jonny Appleseed

(960 posts)
23. Those days are still now
Wed Apr 5, 2017, 11:02 PM
Apr 2017

Woman and children are essentially the status quo for an emotional rendition of the word "non-combatant", which in most societies is still true.

Hamlette

(15,412 posts)
19. I think killing a kid is worse
Wed Apr 5, 2017, 10:47 PM
Apr 2017

not sure why, might just be an emotional reaction, but I think it has to do with the fact they are vulnerable and less able to protect themselves.

And they are cute.

And I love them.

mia

(8,361 posts)
21. When the innocents get caught up in adult horrors, it's heartbreaking.
Wed Apr 5, 2017, 10:52 PM
Apr 2017

It happens all the time, everyday, and everywhere.

malaise

(269,077 posts)
54. So how many Iraqi kids were slaughtered two weeks ago
Thu Apr 6, 2017, 07:35 AM
Apr 2017

Funny how Western media never show graphic details of their killings in other people's homelands..

I'm sick of them all.

 

HoneyBadger

(2,297 posts)
5. To the world, every life should be worth the same
Wed Apr 5, 2017, 10:18 PM
Apr 2017

To me personally, some lives are worth more, but age and gender do not factor in. On the other hand, my concerns about the taking of lives have nothing to do with their value. Children are innocent creatures and should never be killed.

Unrepentant Fenian

(1,078 posts)
12. While I agree, killing or hurting children is extra fucked up. But really, how is that worse...
Wed Apr 5, 2017, 10:26 PM
Apr 2017

than killing ANY uninvolved civilian?

milestogo

(16,829 posts)
9. Women and children are usually non-combatants.
Wed Apr 5, 2017, 10:21 PM
Apr 2017

So when they are the victims of terrorists they are innocent victims. Of course men can be innocent victims too.

ProudLib72

(17,984 posts)
11. Just an appeal to pathos
Wed Apr 5, 2017, 10:25 PM
Apr 2017

Same reason the ASPCA tends to show puppies and kittens rather than full grown pit bulls and mangy cats. They are working your tear ducts.

ProudLib72

(17,984 posts)
14. Sorry
Wed Apr 5, 2017, 10:37 PM
Apr 2017

Pathos is one of many rhetorical appeals. Just think of it as an emotional appeal. Since women and children are weak and vulnerable (according to the stereotype), then their audience will feel more sympathy towards them than men. I was just showing an analogy between the way the news uses the phrase "women and children" and how ads like the ones the ASPCA put out are overtly geared toward making people cry. They chose the saddest looking cats and dogs (women and children) instead of the older, tougher animals (men).

rzemanfl

(29,565 posts)
15. From a purely biological perspective, yes. The same with boy children. See, e.g.,
Wed Apr 5, 2017, 10:37 PM
Apr 2017

Hitler Youth or Dr. Strangelove.

unc70

(6,115 posts)
16. Males are mostly expendable
Wed Apr 5, 2017, 10:39 PM
Apr 2017

Only a few males are required to produce the next generation. Survival of the group, tribe, or whatever requires protecting and preserving as many of the women and children as possible. The very old and very young are also expendable, depending on the nature of the threat.

Lil Missy

(17,865 posts)
17. No, men's lives are considered worth MORE, therefore they are the prime targets.
Wed Apr 5, 2017, 10:45 PM
Apr 2017

Women and children aren't a threat, as far as they are concerned.

 

NCTraveler

(30,481 posts)
20. Across the globe, war is a mans game....
Wed Apr 5, 2017, 10:50 PM
Apr 2017

And women and children are often their victims. I believe it is acceptable verbiage and outlines that women and children are simply collateral damage in what is a male dominated industry.

nolabear

(41,987 posts)
27. Women and children are considered equally helpless victims.
Wed Apr 5, 2017, 11:36 PM
Apr 2017

At least in this context. Men are supposed to take care of them. Their safety is an indication of how strong the masculine element is.

In other contexts they're the insurers of immortality, genetic line, civilization.

Life is life and every one is equally precious but there are lots of things to think about.

 

WomenRising2017

(203 posts)
32. That depends on the man.
Wed Apr 5, 2017, 11:51 PM
Apr 2017

Men, and more specifically fathers, should be considered as more than just contributing seed.

But, if you have a simplistic view, well, ...

Calculating

(2,955 posts)
30. Serious answer
Wed Apr 5, 2017, 11:40 PM
Apr 2017

Practically speaking, it has to due with repopulating after the disaster. It's easy for a few guys to make a whole bunch of babies with a lot of women. It's not the same for a few women to repopulate with a whole bunch of guys.

From a purely ethical standpoint, the lives men and women should have exactly the same worth.

 

golfguru

(4,987 posts)
31. Female pups cost more than male puppies!
Wed Apr 5, 2017, 11:45 PM
Apr 2017

So yes, females are worth more. Men can't give birth. Females do not need a male. They can access sperm banks. Males must get a female if they want babies.

Warpy

(111,286 posts)
33. Hardly, just compare their paychecks with ours.
Wed Apr 5, 2017, 11:54 PM
Apr 2017

Women and children were supposed to be saved first in a disaster, but as a practical matter, disasters that unfold quickly favor men. Only the ones that are slow enough to allow planning save the future (children) with their caretakers (women).

Destroying an enemy's future by focusing on bombing schools would be considered the most heinous of crimes, probably a hair's difference from complete genocide.

The loss of life in Syria was mostly women and children, who were indoors napping after being kept awake all night by the bombing in the area. Men were in their fields or working in a neighboring village. Women and children weren't targeted, just hapless civilians. They were most of the fatalities only because they were there.

Warfare that specifically targets civilians started with WWI. Up until the blockade of Germany by the UK and Germany's answer to them of sinking the Lusitania, civilians were allowed to escape, leaving their property behind to be stolen. War against civilian populations culminated in carpet bombing in WWII and the dropping of nuclear bombs on largely non military targets, i.e. targeting civilians specifically.

While so many young men find glory in war and so many old men live out their fantasies vicariously by starting wars, this will happen.

Hug your kids. If war comes, you might not have them for long.

GoCubsGo

(32,086 posts)
58. Yep!
Thu Apr 6, 2017, 12:34 PM
Apr 2017

They are only "worth more" as propaganda tools to exploit when it serves their purpose. Other than that, they don't give a shit about them. "Look over here: Boo hoo. Those big, bad Syrians are killing women and children. Pay no attention to the cuts we want to make to Medicaid, WIC, Planned Parenthood, and all the other programs that will kill far more American women and children than died in that gas attack."

 

WomenRising2017

(203 posts)
35. Serious question,
Thu Apr 6, 2017, 12:02 AM
Apr 2017

why would any man be upset at the news reporting horrific and tragic loss of the lives of children?

Why would a man then question why no one was speaking about the men?

Why would a man believe he is so important, that he feels he deserves more recognition than a child?

 

RoadhogRidesAgain

(165 posts)
39. I would say children's lives are worth more.
Thu Apr 6, 2017, 01:15 AM
Apr 2017

I don't think women should be considered a protected non combatant defenseless class in warfare. women out there just as bad and dangerous as men.

Kaleva

(36,314 posts)
56. Statistics also show that children are more likely to be killed by the father...
Thu Apr 6, 2017, 11:59 AM
Apr 2017

then by the mother.

"Fathers are more likely to kill. Men killed six out 10 children, most often beating or shooting them. Fathers were at fault in 75% of cases when children were shot to death by a parent and in 64% of cases when a child was beaten. "Violence is a masculine pursuit," says Jack Levin, a Northeastern University criminologist. "

https://www.usatoday.com/story/news/nation/2014/09/10/parents-kill-children-fbi-data/15280259/

" Overall, fathers were the accused murderer 57.4 percent of the time."

https://news.brown.edu/articles/2014/02/filicide

 

LanternWaste

(37,748 posts)
59. What is the ratio of wars declared by women vs. that of men?
Thu Apr 6, 2017, 12:39 PM
Apr 2017

"women out there just as bad and dangerous as men..."

What is the ratio of wars declared by women vs. that of men? What is the ratio of violent deaths at the hands of males vs. that at the hands of females? And from where are you getting the objective, peer-reviewed numbers for that ratio?

Then re-evaluate your statement... and hopefully learn a lesson. But I doubt it.

Worktodo

(288 posts)
40. Some observations
Thu Apr 6, 2017, 01:46 AM
Apr 2017

1. The "women and children" part is there because a) it's factual, and b) highlights the depravity of the perpetrators. (i.e. It's not a statement about the "worth" of the victims. It's not part of a quantitative or qualitative measurement of atrocity.)

2. "Women and children" strongly implies civilian non-combatants. Sure there could be child soldiers or female adult combatants but my expectation is that would be made explicit (i.e. not described as "women and children".)





KT2000

(20,585 posts)
42. My guess is that
Thu Apr 6, 2017, 02:19 AM
Apr 2017

men could be considered part of the resistance or other "enemies." Women and children are not part of the enemy groups - they are considered innocents, traditionally speaking.
Women and children first onto lifeboats is meant to protect the more vulnerable while the men would be stronger to survive - traditionally speaking.

pnwmom

(108,980 posts)
43. Children are defenseless and don't fight wars. Also, they've barely started living.
Thu Apr 6, 2017, 03:31 AM
Apr 2017

So YES, their lives ARE worth more.

get the red out

(13,467 posts)
49. Perception
Thu Apr 6, 2017, 05:42 AM
Apr 2017

I think it is using a perception of women and children being more defenseless in any circumstance, not true, in many cases any human is defenseless, but it plays in a learned belief to emphasize the horror of a situation.

I have issues with a person's parental status being used in place of "man" or "woman" (or person), such as saying "a mother of three was killed today....". As a child free person I don't exist in the minds of society as a full person.

DetlefK

(16,423 posts)
53. Blame the culture that thinks that men are tougher than women.
Thu Apr 6, 2017, 06:33 AM
Apr 2017

Men are tough and men live a rough life. Men love this image of being invulnerable and cultivate it. And now you complain that nobody is noticing your hurt feelings.

treestar

(82,383 posts)
57. Men cast themselves as protectors
Thu Apr 6, 2017, 12:18 PM
Apr 2017

Of women and children who they perceive are weaker than they are. They are seen here as extensions of the men. They are valuable to men as the reproduction of their genes. That is where that comes from.

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