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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsThe key to raising happy kids? The latest trend says do as the Dutch do.
Washington Post:Pretty much everything, according to an outpouring of child-rearing wisdom from our compatriots abroad. Were a nation of helicoptering sanctimommies blinded by flashcards and Pinterest projects and in desperate need of help. The 2012 bestseller Bringing Up Bébé touted the wisdom of French parenting, such as serving kids multi-course meals and letting them curse with an age-appropriate word. Then it was all about The Danish Way of Parenting, which promised to show us what the happiest people in the world know about raising confident, capable kids. (In short, get cozy and dont yell.)
Now, apparently, its time to go Dutch. In their new book, The Happiest Kids in the World, two expat moms want to share what theyve discovered about the Netherlands: Childhood over here consists of lots of freedom, plenty of play and little academic stress. As a result, Dutch kids are pleasant to be around. Moreover, co-authors Rina Mae Acosta and Michele Hutchison add, a UNICEF report rated Dutch children the happiest in the world. Take that, Denmark!
Acosta, an American, and Hutchison, a Brit, are both married to Dutch men; each couple is raising two children in the Netherlands. The authors have come to embrace the Dutch lifestyle, largely because of how the culture and government policies help create laid-back parents and self-assured children. By compiling expert interviews and sharing (and, at times, oversharing) their personal stories, the duo promises to reveal what it is that the Dutch know and their British and American counterparts have forgotten or overlooked.
sharedvalues
(6,916 posts)We learned from the French, now learning from Japanese, Dutch, etc.
The best way to learn to be a better person is to learn how other people live. No harm in thinking about how other cultures raise kids.
all american girl
(1,788 posts)My son was in 5th grade riding the trains with his friend...same age, and when he was in 7th grade, I had a part-time job, and had to work late some times...I would get bus tickets for him and his sister (2nd grade). They'd take the bus, and stop to get a treat...I gave them kroner...and walk home. Not a big deal. We went to Germany after that, but when we moved home, my daughter was in 6th grade, and in the states, my daughter had to go backwards from some of the freedoms that she had in Europe...my children were always safe, but Americans act like our kids can't grow up and make mistakes...I had more freedoms in the 70's and 80's. I like the way my kids grew up. They were able to have independence and not have a crazy mom...I'm not judging, I just think American's need to remember that kids love structured freedom...not helicopter parents.
NickB79
(19,274 posts)Don't baby them, don't smother them, don't Tiger Mom the shit out of them.
Talk to them, listen to them, play with them, be genuinely happy spending time with them.
Let them explore, let them have their own free time to use their imaginations, let them and their friends roam the neighborhoods and parks (when age appropriate) without fretting every time Little Timmy is out of your sight for more then 5 seconds. IE, trust them.
Gee, who'd a thunk it?