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bigtree

(86,005 posts)
Sun Apr 16, 2017, 09:17 AM Apr 2017

I remember Easter as a child

...a little Easter indulgence of mine.


me


I REMEMBER Easter as a child. Mom would take us to Charleston, West Virginia every year to visit my grandfather for the Spring holiday.

Granddad lived in a huge two story house off of Main Street, and there, he rented out the upstairs to a few folks that I never really saw much, and a room off of his kitchen where a dapper garbage man slept. Granddad was a short, strong man, dark as night, with a hearing aid for his deafness that happened when he worked in the glass factory after WWI. He'd turn it down when my mom would lecture him about something or another, and whenever he fell asleep in his red reclining chair with the red duct tape covering the cracks while he watched the baseball game turned up way loud. He'd wake up every now and then to spit his tobacco in his brown ceramic spittoon and record the score on the margin of his TV guide. Granddad was a master of checkers and never let me win one game. I still have the wooden checkers and board that he put away for good after his last checker partner and friend died.

Bobo, his faithful mixed border collie who would bark whenever the phone rang or the door chimed, laid and slept by his side as he slept. When he thought we weren't listening, he'd call Bobo by his seedy pet name: "C'mon shitbutt, he'd say as he sneaked away to the smaller room by the kitchen where he slept (or listened to the baseball game on his portable radio) while we took over his grand bedroom with the thick, dark aged-oak furniture and the huge wooden pocket doors that separated the bedroom from the living room. Bobo would never fail to bite me almost every visit, sending me three times to the doctor for stitches, the last time after taking the other half of a cookie I gave him from my hand.



Bobo


Besides that, nothing much at all happened in that town for us young ones. The biggest thing was when the huge car carrier pulled up on the other side of the street. My sister and I would run outside on the porch and sit on that rough painted metal rocking chair and bench and watch as the man unloaded the new cars one by one until the very last.

Charleston was like a large retirement community to me, with a Dairy Queen where I sometimes got to go to by myself to get mom her butter almond, and an sweltering, all night laundromat where we sometimes went after dark to wash our clothes and beg Mom for one of the prizes in the bubble gum machine; or, maybe a handful of stale peanuts for a nickle from the other dispenser.

There were a bevy of old relatives who Mom would take us to visit - walking for endless miles through town, in the heat, in our new spring wear. There was a lady with who had been stuck in bed for years (I never saw her get up) who was always in her nightgown and robe. Mom said she tried to get up one morning and found she couldn't walk. She was a kind woman with several pictures of Jesus on the wall. There was a lady who took care of her who had a huge goiter on her neck. The bedridden lady always gave my sister and I some change before we left.

Then, there was Mrs. Gilmore (a recognized civil rights leader) who lived in a huge brownstone with a funeral parlor in the basement that her husband had left her. Everyone in town brought her their business when someone passed away. She had a wide painted smile with her hair pulled back so tight that it seemed stuck on. She had long fingers with the longest nails I had ever seen and she would gesture when she spoke with the extra long cigarette holder she had delicately wedged between two of them. Mom would take us to visit and I'd fiddle with a crystal ball she had brought back from a visit to Russia to try and conjure up the flying monkeys from the Wizard of Oz in the translucent glass. Years after she died the National Park Service made her spooky home a landmark because of her work as an activist in Charleston and elsewhere.

There was Annie Joe, my mom's best friend who would do her hair with the hot combs heated on the kitchen stove, and her mom, Cousin Gussy and Uncle Moore who lived across the Kanawha bridge in one of a suite of plaster houses with sunken floors. They had two trees with white washed trunks and red mites that crawled up and down. We'd salt the slugs on the walkway for fun and climb the trees to wait for them to shrivel. The railroad tracks were just a few feet from the house and the train would barrel by occasionally. We'd leave pennies on the track and collect them flattened when the train rolled over them. Gussy would cook up a Sunday meal that I'll never forget with fried chicken, mashed potatoes, and greens that would melt in your mouth while Mr. Moore watched the ball game.

Easter Sunday was a great pain for a small kid like me. Mom was a terror as she got us ready for church. She'd scrub me, brush my hair raw, and dress me in this powder blue, Lord Fauntleroy suit with shorts and a beanie cap. She'd hustle us outside as Granddad carefully backed his gold Oldsmobile out of the garage with the shed on the side which had a ton of pipe parts, motor parts, nuts and bolts and everything wonderful. There was a shack in the back and a couple of run-down homes surrounding his three floor boarding house where poor folks improbably survived on next to nothing.

I smoked my first cigarette in that shed one Sunday before church, one of Granddad's Pall Malls without a filter . . .



Granddad's house


Granddad would stop and open the wide gate he had built at the end of the long driveway (with pipe parts) which had a pulley and a rope with a brick tied on that slowly shut the gate by itself until it clicked surely into its handmade latch. The front gate also closed by itself, but with an entirely different pulley and weight arrangement he had designed. I'd always look back out of the window of the Olds to see whether that would be the day that it failed to close. It always clicked shut, though.

We'd arrive early at the First Baptist Church and sit in the pew as the parishioners would stream in. First Baptist was a huge church with a wall of stained glass windows on both sides and a pulpit that towered above us all with room for its large choir. Martin Luther King preached there in 1960, the year I was born. The church on Easter Sunday was always packed full and humming from the rich, sickly perfume of the women there. The smell was unbelievable. And the hats . . . wide brimmed monstrosities with feathers and such, atop processes and wigs.

There was this one large lady who owned and lived in a dubious consignment shop along Main Street with a few dust-covered ceramic figurines and plastic flowers on the window shelf who would always arrive at the last minute. She'd saunter down the aisle with her silver tipped cane, and her hat was always the largest, most outlandish one there, with fake birds, fruits or something amazing on top. She'd make her way down to her reserved seat in the front row. She was the only holy roller I think that was allowed in First Baptist. I understood that she had been informed that she'd have to tone down her shouts of praise to the Lord which, nonetheless, still echoed through the hall at several key points in the service.

Granddad always left us to take his place up front. He was a longtime deacon who would fully memorize the passage he would get to read before the congregation. I'd be stuck on that hard bench for the full 3 hours that the service ran on Easter Sunday. Mom would do her best to keep me still and quiet throughout the service with gum, or some starlight mints and butterscotch candies. A few of the stained glass windows swung open to let in whatever breeze could be had, but it was always sweltering hot. Almost everyone (but me) had a hand fan with a wooden handle and a picture of Jesus and a lamb on the front and a picture of the church on back. You could hear the fwap, fwap of the parishioners waving them back and forth in vain attempts to ward off the heat. I always fell asleep several times throughout, taking advantage of Mom's arm, probably the only time that she didn't terrify me.

The First Baptist Church was led by the Reverend Moses Newsome, a towering, light-skinned black man with a deep baritone and kind eyes. He would lead the congregation through prayers, through acknowledgments and death and sick mentions. He would stop in between and sit as the choir belted out some rollicking gospel tune, rocking, bobbing, and clapping their hands in unison as they rocked the house. They had an unbelievable sound. And folks would rock along with them. There was nothing subtle about the choir. They were loud and righteous. Whew! The one holy-roller up front would be on her feet, shouting out, " Praise glory!" she would cry. "Thank you Jesus!"

Then came the sermon. One hour long. An eternity. I'd have a sore butt by then and the candy just wouldn't cut it anymore. Reverend Newsome would speak in a low, measured tone as he counseled the congregation on the vestiges of evil and the virtues of good. His long arms reached out from under his flowing robe and he firmly grasped the lectern on both ends as he glared down on the flock. Sweat poured off of his freckled brow while he cautioned us about the Devil and warned us to look everywhere for Christ's coming.

Somewhere near the end, you would get a whiff of the food cooking in the church kitchen for after the service. The smell of fried chicken and gravy, beans, cornbread, and greens wafted uncontrolled into the great hall. Folks got restless, but they were mostly patient and still until, at once, the Reverend's voice would rise to a fevered timbre as he brought on the end of his sermon. Folks would shift in their seats and sit upright again as the Reverend boomed out his ending.

Then came the benediction, that wonderful benediction that signaled the end of the service. And then it was over. There were Easter baskets full of jellybeans and chocolate waiting at home, and the sun was shining full outside as we filed past Reverend Newsome and he grasped my small hand with his giant, coffee-colored, soft ones.

"You be good now, you hear?" the Reverend would say. "I'll be good sir," I'd answer as I pushed out into the Spring air to soak up another Easter in Charleston.



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I remember Easter as a child (Original Post) bigtree Apr 2017 OP
thank you magnificent man jodymarie aimee Apr 2017 #1
That was a great read. nt Laffy Kat Apr 2017 #2
Beautiful memories and vivid imagery...felt as if we were transported there Docreed2003 Apr 2017 #3
Thanks so much for that eloquent glimpse into your childhood! MineralMan Apr 2017 #4
Duplicate reply MineralMan Apr 2017 #5
You are a writer, whether you know it or not.. never stop writing secondwind Apr 2017 #6
What a wonderful story. sl8 Apr 2017 #7
Beautiful story mainstreetonce Apr 2017 #8
Wonderful recollection... ewagner Apr 2017 #9
Memories - oh how it used to be. beveeheart Apr 2017 #10
Beautiful story shenmue Apr 2017 #11
k&r nt steve2470 Apr 2017 #12
Thank you. I so enjoyed reading about you and your family. lucca18 Apr 2017 #13
Great writing TNNurse Apr 2017 #14
What a lovely story, something you should keep just like the memories... redstatebluegirl Apr 2017 #15
Vivid...Nice... Thanks masmdu Apr 2017 #16
Lovely. ❤️ tavernier Apr 2017 #17
You really should write a book B2G Apr 2017 #18
I especially liked your photographs. Grammy23 Apr 2017 #19
I loved your memories.... FormerOstrich Apr 2017 #20
Aside from the great story, were you the cutest kid in the world? LisaM Apr 2017 #21
Handsome little boy. Such a cutie; I Ilsa Apr 2017 #22
Great Story, bigtree! Sissyk Apr 2017 #23
Thank you for sharing your wonderful memories. StarryNite Apr 2017 #24
That was fantastic, bigtree. Raine1967 Apr 2017 #25
K&R ismnotwasm Apr 2017 #26
You were such a QT. a kennedy Apr 2017 #27
Awesome. I have many similar fond memories. Our culture in the US for generations is more alike nikibatts Apr 2017 #28
Oh - I love this - KT2000 Apr 2017 #29
Great story of your childhood memories! The Velveteen Ocelot Apr 2017 #30
Lovely post malaise Apr 2017 #31
Awww! Very sweet story and photos! smirkymonkey Apr 2017 #32
You were a really cute kid! redwitch Apr 2017 #33
Thank you eyeofnewt Apr 2017 #34
I can smell the cornbread and fried chicken ThoughtCriminal Apr 2017 #35
Thank you for a wonderful step into your childhood. All of the family traditions that stay with us LuckyLib Apr 2017 #36
what a TREAT this was to read Skittles Apr 2017 #37
This is wonderful! jcboon Apr 2017 #38
Wow. SO evocative, thank you! TygrBright Apr 2017 #39
wonderful! thanks Fast Walker 52 Apr 2017 #40
This is so well done, bigtree. brer cat Apr 2017 #41
My mothers mother had a Bobo as well. irisblue Apr 2017 #42
this brought back great memories nini Apr 2017 #43
What a lovely Easter tribute. Paka Apr 2017 #44
K&R! Fascinating memories, thanks for sharing them with us! Rhiannon12866 Apr 2017 #45
Your granddad was the man bigtree and maybe if you dae Apr 2017 #46
Thank Bigtree, for a wonderful journey. oasis Apr 2017 #47
This is the stuff that makes DU great ornotna Apr 2017 #48
loved this JI7 Apr 2017 #49
Thank you bigtree radical noodle Apr 2017 #50
You got a book in you... Mike Nelson Apr 2017 #51

Docreed2003

(16,869 posts)
3. Beautiful memories and vivid imagery...felt as if we were transported there
Sun Apr 16, 2017, 09:59 AM
Apr 2017

Thank you so much bigtree for sharing this beautiful memory.

sl8

(13,851 posts)
7. What a wonderful story.
Sun Apr 16, 2017, 10:18 AM
Apr 2017

Thank you for sharing it with us.

And, as a former little boy who somehow managed to be mostly good for a one hour service, I tip my hat to you. Three hours! There's no way I could've done that.

mainstreetonce

(4,178 posts)
8. Beautiful story
Sun Apr 16, 2017, 10:24 AM
Apr 2017

Almost brings tears. Although my story would be very different, it would be about family and church and celebrating in a different way than families do today.

lucca18

(1,243 posts)
13. Thank you. I so enjoyed reading about you and your family.
Sun Apr 16, 2017, 11:06 AM
Apr 2017

It brought back memories of my own.

You grew up in a wonderful family, that you cherish and appreciate.
And, the photos of you as a child are so cute!

Grammy23

(5,810 posts)
19. I especially liked your photographs.
Sun Apr 16, 2017, 12:01 PM
Apr 2017

You were such a cute little boy! I love photography as it freezes a moment in time. Your photographs are great moments to be preserved. Thanks for sharing your memories in words and pictures!

Ilsa

(61,695 posts)
22. Handsome little boy. Such a cutie; I
Sun Apr 16, 2017, 12:32 PM
Apr 2017

Could hug you until you turned to jelly.

I remember whitewashed tree trunks in the south. And mom giving us girls perms the week before Easter so our hair would be all burned up and frizzy for Palm Sunday and Easter. And nearly everyone wore hats - many white women, and their daughters wore little bonnets. And Catholic women wore a veil or scarf or some kind of headcovering.

I remember naps Easter afternoon. Mom and Dad too tired from a long week.

But your story is more vivid than mine. I hope someone kicked stinkbutt for biting you all of the time.

StarryNite

(9,457 posts)
24. Thank you for sharing your wonderful memories.
Sun Apr 16, 2017, 01:00 PM
Apr 2017

Your gift of memories brought back my memories.
You were such a cutie pie!

 

nikibatts

(2,198 posts)
28. Awesome. I have many similar fond memories. Our culture in the US for generations is more alike
Sun Apr 16, 2017, 01:55 PM
Apr 2017

than different. Pall Mall was my first smoke too. Almost choked to death. Turned me again smoking until I was well in college.

KT2000

(20,585 posts)
29. Oh - I love this -
Sun Apr 16, 2017, 02:06 PM
Apr 2017

please share far and wide. This is so beautifully written.
I can feel the family and community - something I'm afraid we are losing.
Thank you for posting!

BTW - you were a pretty handsome kid!

eyeofnewt

(146 posts)
34. Thank you
Sun Apr 16, 2017, 04:33 PM
Apr 2017

This made my day. Your grandfather's house brings back memories of Charleston's west side. I loved Charleston, actually still do. I was there just recently.
Easter was special to my family. Dressing up, long sermons, Easter baskets, big dinners. Today, most of my family is gone, and I'm working on Easter, something my parents couldn't have imagined.


ThoughtCriminal

(14,047 posts)
35. I can smell the cornbread and fried chicken
Sun Apr 16, 2017, 04:35 PM
Apr 2017

I had a very different family and childhood, and yet I recognize many of the same things - especially hour-long sermons on a hot Sunday morning.

LuckyLib

(6,819 posts)
36. Thank you for a wonderful step into your childhood. All of the family traditions that stay with us
Sun Apr 16, 2017, 05:16 PM
Apr 2017

as we age are so important. Beautiful!

TygrBright

(20,763 posts)
39. Wow. SO evocative, thank you!
Sun Apr 16, 2017, 06:00 PM
Apr 2017

I'm just a few years older than you, so that era speaks to me, too.

The visits with relatives, the uncomfortable clothes, the candy waiting at home, the mandatory and interminable church services...

I'm glad I lived in a town with neighborhoods, at a time when people sat on front porches to listen to baseball on the radio and watch the kids playing "statuemaker" and "red rover" in the front yards.

Thanks for reminding me.

appreciatively,
Bright

irisblue

(33,018 posts)
42. My mothers mother had a Bobo as well.
Sun Apr 16, 2017, 07:52 PM
Apr 2017

That dog liked me and my sister, but would snap at my brothers.
Thanks for sharing your memories with us.

nini

(16,672 posts)
43. this brought back great memories
Sun Apr 16, 2017, 08:18 PM
Apr 2017

I'd give anything to have just 5 minutes with my grandparents again!

Great stories - thanks for sharing.

Rhiannon12866

(205,766 posts)
45. K&R! Fascinating memories, thanks for sharing them with us!
Sun Apr 16, 2017, 10:03 PM
Apr 2017

And you were awfully cute, loved the photos! You have excellent detailed memories of people and places which you really should write down. I was the eldest, used to visit the great aunts with my grandmother, so I heard the stories, too, still remember a lot of them, but I wish I'd written them down at the time since memories fade and now I have no one left to ask. Hope you had a memorable Easter!

dae

(3,396 posts)
46. Your granddad was the man bigtree and maybe if you
Sun Apr 16, 2017, 11:31 PM
Apr 2017

had called Bobo by his proper name he would not have bitten you.
Great memories, thank you for sharing.

radical noodle

(8,010 posts)
50. Thank you bigtree
Mon Apr 17, 2017, 01:25 AM
Apr 2017

for the great read and sharing your family with us. It was a terrific OP and perfect for Easter weekend.



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