Alternet: Don't fixate on the narcissist.

This is really good. How not to get caught up in the disfunction, because it is an endless loop.

http://www.alternet.org/news-amp-politics/5-sensible-things-do-instead-obsessing-about-and-enabling-trumps-narcissism

"It took a while to fully manifest, but what many social critics, most notably Christopher Lasch (author of The Culture of Narcissism), noticed bubbling up from the painful social and economic conditions of the last third of the 20th century has finally burst into full Technicolor glory in the image of America’s president. In the form of Donald Trump we have a bloated ball of toxic energy whose name, pasted on gaudy skyscrapers the world over, has become a byword for pathological narcissism.

“Donald Trump's malignant narcissism is toxic,” shouts one headline. “President Trump is a 'world class narcissist,'" exclaims another. Even the New York Post editorial board blares, “Trump’s narcissism on display,” admitting that the nauseating suck-up routine of the president’s team left even Republicans disgusted.

Well, yes. Trump is clearly a narcissist of the nastiest variety. But are we in danger of becoming the flip side of his gilded coin?

In psychological terms, narcissism is what can happen when we respond to helplessness, loss and rage by creating a false self as a defense. Narcissists first fashion their own fake reality, then work to extend it to others. They hone in on what you lack and build the illusion that they can provide it. Feel beaten down? They will lift you up. Feeling left behind? They will put you first. Lack money? They will be your financial saviors. And so on. All illusory, of course."