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ehrnst

(32,640 posts)
Fri Aug 18, 2017, 08:22 AM Aug 2017

The memorials aggrandizing Lee are a personal issue for me. I'm a Lee.

Having done some deep geneaology for my family, I discovered the Lee branch. Many in my father's family, including me, have the middle name Lee, although no one really remembered the source of it.

We are descended via my father's side from the original immigrant Col. Robert Henry Lee, who became politically powerful, and wealthy from slave brokerage.

While the memory of that is not in our family, my family's fourtunes were certainly guided by the wealth of that ancestor, built upon atrocities on people of color, the results of this are seen every day in the school to prison pipeline, income disparity and countless lives lost to violence, policing and poverty.

While most of my father's family (Trump supporters, most of them) have no sense of what our privilege has cost, my siblings and I have decided to try to come up with ways to counter the imbalance - knowing, of course, that we could never make up for the crimes that laid the groundwork for our current way of life.

Getting these monuments to the confederacy removed or at least put into context is one of those efforts. Making sure that social justice issues do NOT get sidelined in the Democratic Party is another.

Is anyone else on DU dealing with countering their family's racist past?

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The memorials aggrandizing Lee are a personal issue for me. I'm a Lee. (Original Post) ehrnst Aug 2017 OP
Yes and no. zipplewrath Aug 2017 #1
Has your family made any reparations? MichMan Aug 2017 #2
We do. ehrnst Aug 2017 #3

zipplewrath

(16,646 posts)
1. Yes and no.
Fri Aug 18, 2017, 08:32 AM
Aug 2017

Anyone wants to truly look back and you'll find some less than admirable history. Furthermore, although we tend to describe western European ancestors as "settlers" or "immigrants", it is inescapable that in many ways they were "invaders". In my own Irish/German heritage, it is hard to avoid things such as the Tammany Hall connection to Irish immigration. And on the New Orleans docks, klanish Irish immigrants physically beat up working African Americans in order to replace them with Irish workers.

In the end, it is what "white privilege" is all about. We may have been "created equal", but we all start out with advantages and disadvantages of which we may be unaware. Regardless of whether you are specifically aware of unearned advantages, it is best to presume one has some and always work for social and economic justice in the ways you are able.

Republicans wake up every morning desperately worried that someone, somewhere is getting something they don't deserve.

Democrats wake up every morning desperately worried that someone, somewhere isn't getting something they need.

MichMan

(11,952 posts)
2. Has your family made any reparations?
Fri Aug 18, 2017, 08:52 AM
Aug 2017

If you think they amassed wealth unfairly, the moral thing to do would be reparations on a personal level. I'm sure you could find a worthy cause and make regular payments to atone.

 

ehrnst

(32,640 posts)
3. We do.
Fri Aug 18, 2017, 09:41 AM
Aug 2017

I also make donations to women's rights organizations, in particular. Bail out Black Mamas, and Rolling Jubilee are two that get our money. Rolling Jubilee, because health care is especially stratified, and I landed in the hospital uninsured with bleeding ulcers, and lived the nightmare of dealing with collection agencies for the following 5 years.

My father argues that because the few generations before his parents were rather poor, that we lifted ourselves out of poverty....

Ignoring white privilege, of course. Our ancestors gave us not only white skin, but the inertia to get through difficult economic times - a network of other white, educated people as a support, etc.

I am a member of a few organizations of descendents of famous/white Americans (Page Nelson Society, DAR, etc) and joined them with the specific goal of directing energy and resources to repair the damage done.

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