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sheshe2

(83,885 posts)
Thu Oct 19, 2017, 09:07 PM Oct 2017

John Kelly Is Sad Women Are No Longer Sacred. Women Are Not That Sad.

Fuck John Kelly

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Trump’s chief of staff is missing the point.

Kelly, the White House chief of staff, made the comment during a news conference Thursday afternoon that focused on President Donald Trump’s bungled phone call to the widow of a slain soldier. Kelly lamented that, unlike in the good old days, some things no longer get respect ― like Gold Star families, religion and women.

“When I was a kid growing up, a lot of things were sacred in our country,” he said. “Women were sacred and looked upon with great honor. That’s obviously not the case anymore, as we see from recent cases.”

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Kelly, however, seems to be missing the point of this conversation, which is that many women have no desire to be treated as separate and “sacred.” They simply want to be acknowledged as human beings who deserve basic respect and equality.




Kelly was born in 1950, meaning when he was “a kid growing up,” women couldn’t legally get an abortion or open credit cards in their own names. They also did not have access to the morning-after pill, couldn’t always get birth control if they weren’t married, could not marry other women, were not allowed to fight on the front lines and had little recourse for workplace sexual harassment. Marital rape was not illegal. And Kelly was born before the civil rights movement, meaning he grew up in a time when people of color, particularly women of color, did not have the same freedoms he did.

This imaginary era of “sacred” womanhood included plenty of discrimination against women; they just couldn’t always talk about it. The biggest change between then and now is not in the way men treat women but in the position women occupy within society. Since the 1950s, women have entered the workforce in droves. They have become breadwinners, CEOs and politicians. And they have become increasingly vocal about their experiences with sexual violence and discrimination, including in the Marine Corps, where Kelly served as a general

More https://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/john-kelly-women-sacred-humans_us_59e91025e4b0df10767be25e?ncid=inblnkushpmg00000009

Oh Johnny, hey Johnny, no Johnny we are not going back to your good old days. We are not going to back to YOUR utopia of those days. Fuck you.
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John Kelly Is Sad Women Are No Longer Sacred. Women Are Not That Sad. (Original Post) sheshe2 Oct 2017 OP
Hes so fucking full of shit. ismnotwasm Oct 2017 #1
Yes he is... sheshe2 Oct 2017 #6
True shenmue Oct 2017 #11
Bingo. SharonClark Oct 2017 #38
Kelly is a lot like Trump. Tavarious Jackson Oct 2017 #2
Older white men hold about 95% of the positions in the White House BigmanPigman Oct 2017 #5
This! sheshe2 Oct 2017 #15
Message auto-removed Name removed Oct 2017 #55
K&R and Tweeted yuiyoshida Oct 2017 #3
These "back in my day" politicians need to get out of government. Laffy Kat Oct 2017 #4
Notice they are all male. sheshe2 Oct 2017 #17
LOL. nt Laffy Kat Oct 2017 #36
Sacred equaled possessions in that era. That's not sacred to me. herding cats Oct 2017 #7
I am with you, herding cats. sheshe2 Oct 2017 #19
I only have one child and she's a female. herding cats Oct 2017 #32
I see nothing selfish with what you said. sheshe2 Oct 2017 #35
Love your posts, sheshe2! This nails it! spooky3 Oct 2017 #8
Hey spooky. sheshe2 Oct 2017 #21
Lawrence O is making similar points with devastating clarity spooky3 Oct 2017 #31
I will catch the rerun tomorrow. sheshe2 Oct 2017 #37
Yes...just when you think it cant get any worse... spooky3 Oct 2017 #64
Here we are doing the house work in high heals...as if! sheshe2 Oct 2017 #67
He said it perfectly. appleannie1943 Oct 2017 #57
Yes, I agree. Fuck you John Kelly. smirkymonkey Oct 2017 #9
Let me fix that SACRED shit for ole John boy ChubbyStar Oct 2017 #18
I was born in 1943. As woman, I want to know what the hell he remembers. appleannie1943 Oct 2017 #10
Message auto-removed Name removed Oct 2017 #52
Great post. Nt raccoon Oct 2017 #63
I remember the mercuryblues Oct 2017 #69
And yet Kelly works for Trump. lapucelle Oct 2017 #12
Well of course we were asking for it. sheshe2 Oct 2017 #26
Seriously someone need to ask WTF he means by that Freethinker65 Oct 2017 #13
I think he misspoke Bettie Oct 2017 #14
He did not misspeak. sheshe2 Oct 2017 #28
And to him "Sacred" Bettie Oct 2017 #61
I hate all of these old fucks Starry Messenger Oct 2017 #16
excellent post, SheShe2. Right on the money. MLAA Oct 2017 #20
What BS, claiming that "women were sacred" in the 1950s and '60s. The discrimination against, highplainsdem Oct 2017 #22
Suppressing women never did & never will make America great. . . . nt Bernardo de La Paz Oct 2017 #23
These people really need to stop living in the past. Initech Oct 2017 #24
He's not treating Frederica Wilson very "sacred" n/t TexasBushwhacker Oct 2017 #25
Apparently he only meant some women. sheshe2 Oct 2017 #34
Message auto-removed Name removed Oct 2017 #27
He gave his soul to Trump. riversedge Oct 2017 #53
He forgot patriotism and democracy were sacred blueinredohio Oct 2017 #29
Sacred, my ass. Nay Oct 2017 #30
Lawrence O'Donnell is eviscerating Kelly csziggy Oct 2017 #33
This -- and you said it before I did. Thanks. Hekate Oct 2017 #47
Lawrence was spot on, and I was glad he kept the text "empty barrel" spiderpig Oct 2017 #58
Love Your Title Me. Oct 2017 #39
A whole load of bunches to you as well, Me. sheshe2 Oct 2017 #40
Like my housebound SCVDem Oct 2017 #41
great post Sheshe :) massive K&R JHan Oct 2017 #42
Thanks JHan. sheshe2 Oct 2017 #43
That's like "putting women on a pedestal" NastyRiffraff Oct 2017 #44
Woah. sheshe2 Oct 2017 #45
Lawrence O'Donnell reamed him a new one over that, as they grew up in the same neighborhood... Hekate Oct 2017 #46
Message auto-removed Name removed Oct 2017 #54
He is a first class asshole. erinlough Oct 2017 #48
Another backward glance with no basis in reality. 58Sunliner Oct 2017 #49
Ummhmm. sheshe2 Oct 2017 #50
He can kiss my liberated a** Lifelong Protester Oct 2017 #51
Not much you can do on top of a pedestal Retrograde Oct 2017 #56
Yet if we fell from that pedestal... sheshe2 Oct 2017 #68
Great post! We were held sacred if we "smiled more"; weren't too opinionated"; AnotherMother4Peace Oct 2017 #59
EVERYTHING Kelly claims ought to be "sacred" has been DEFILED by TRUMP: Women; WinkyDink Oct 2017 #60
In those not so good all days, SOME selected women raccoon Oct 2017 #62
From Betty Bowers Gothmog Oct 2017 #65
Lol sheshe2 Oct 2017 #66
 

Tavarious Jackson

(1,595 posts)
2. Kelly is a lot like Trump.
Thu Oct 19, 2017, 09:10 PM
Oct 2017

I don't like him. Last time I criticized him a few here on DU gave me a hard time over it .

BigmanPigman

(51,626 posts)
5. Older white men hold about 95% of the positions in the White House
Thu Oct 19, 2017, 09:16 PM
Oct 2017

under this administration. Considering the fact that women make up about 51% of the US population that seems like a fair and equal representation to me.

Response to Tavarious Jackson (Reply #2)

Laffy Kat

(16,386 posts)
4. These "back in my day" politicians need to get out of government.
Thu Oct 19, 2017, 09:12 PM
Oct 2017

They can't accept progress and need to retire.

herding cats

(19,567 posts)
7. Sacred equaled possessions in that era. That's not sacred to me.
Thu Oct 19, 2017, 09:20 PM
Oct 2017

Its not who I am, nor is it how I've lived my life.

It's not what I want for my daughter or granddaughters. It's not what I want for my nieces or grand nieces. I want better for them than I had. Not to go backward! Never that.

sheshe2

(83,885 posts)
19. I am with you, herding cats.
Thu Oct 19, 2017, 09:38 PM
Oct 2017

I have no kids, but my nieces and grands are not going back if I have anything to say about it...and I do.

herding cats

(19,567 posts)
32. I only have one child and she's a female.
Thu Oct 19, 2017, 10:23 PM
Oct 2017

She's the only child I'll ever have, and I have obligations to her and my nieces. I also have obligations to all of their future children, not to mention my own self.

My family is mostly women. We've all had daughters, my daughter was first but everyone has had daughters since. The second generation is proving to be the same with 4 females so far and no males. Somehow I became the matriarch for all of us. Everyone, be they blood related or extended ladies looks to me for cohesiveness and guidance. I love my fierce women, and I love and will fight to protect my ladies with everything I have.

I'm not meaning to make this small, or selfish. I'm just trying to explain how much skin me and mine have in this whole endeavor. I've emboldened all my ladies to be fierce ladies full of power, and now we're working on a whole new generation of empowered women.

So far, were all fierce, and the adults aren't buying this BS that we're being sold. Two of my nieces were born into a RW family, we may have lost their mom to date, but I've enlightened both of them. We're currently working on the one RW husband in our midst. He's weakening. As I said, were fierce.

We're doing our part, one woman at a time. At least on my side of this female dominated family.

sheshe2

(83,885 posts)
35. I see nothing selfish with what you said.
Thu Oct 19, 2017, 10:41 PM
Oct 2017

I am fighting for mine as well before I go away. I, like you are fighting for them all.

sheshe2

(83,885 posts)
21. Hey spooky.
Thu Oct 19, 2017, 09:44 PM
Oct 2017

Thank you.

Kelly thinks we are sacred...like cows lead to slaughter.

Fugg that bastard, we are not going back to his wet dream that women serve their men.

Sorry to be crass, I am angry.

spooky3

(34,475 posts)
31. Lawrence O is making similar points with devastating clarity
Thu Oct 19, 2017, 10:21 PM
Oct 2017

If you can catch a rerun or a clip online later, I think you would like it.

sheshe2

(83,885 posts)
37. I will catch the rerun tomorrow.
Thu Oct 19, 2017, 10:45 PM
Oct 2017

Thanks for the heads up, spooky...I don't watch much TV.

I only turn that or the computer on each morning to see if we are still here. Sad, isn't it. That is where we are now.

spooky3

(34,475 posts)
64. Yes...just when you think it cant get any worse...
Fri Oct 20, 2017, 10:20 AM
Oct 2017

Trump or his sycophants provide another distraction, or worse.

 

smirkymonkey

(63,221 posts)
9. Yes, I agree. Fuck you John Kelly.
Thu Oct 19, 2017, 09:20 PM
Oct 2017

We all know exactly what you mean by "sacred" and none of us are fooled by your bullshit.

ChubbyStar

(3,191 posts)
18. Let me fix that SACRED shit for ole John boy
Thu Oct 19, 2017, 09:36 PM
Oct 2017

What he meant was scared and scarred. Yep, that is how he likes his women.

appleannie1943

(1,303 posts)
10. I was born in 1943. As woman, I want to know what the hell he remembers.
Thu Oct 19, 2017, 09:21 PM
Oct 2017

What I remember is more than one wife in the neighborhood with black eyes and swollen lips that could not leave their marriages because women could rarely support children on the menial jobs they were able to get. It wasn't until the 1980's that police in some places could arrest a man for beating his wife half to death if they saw evidence of the beating themselves. I remember Frannie beating his wife with closed fists and saying to my dad "Why don't you do something?". His answer was "It is his wife. It's wrong but he is allowed." I remember girls getting shamed if they got pregnant out of wedlock but the boy was never blamed. I remember working and being sexually harassed by my boss and my only recourse was to either put up with it or quit my job. If those are part of being sacred, I am glad my grand daughters are not considered sacred.

Response to appleannie1943 (Reply #10)

mercuryblues

(14,537 posts)
69. I remember the
Sat Oct 21, 2017, 08:27 AM
Oct 2017

catalyst for police action. Tracey Thurman's estranged husband brutally beat and stabbed her multiple times in front of the Torrington, Ct. police leaving her paralyzed. The police ignored her restraining order against him, because they were married. They watched as he stabbed her. She was the 1st woman to win a case against the police for violating her civil rights.

I lived near there at the time when the movie came out. What was the PD's reaction to the movie? Shame, remorse, sorry? No, they were mad because the cops in the movie had dirty shoes, their police officers would never wear dirty shoes.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Thurman_v._City_of_Torrington

Women have come a long way out of that "sacred" cocoon. But the body count still continues.

https://www.democraticunderground.com/10029727699




lapucelle

(18,309 posts)
12. And yet Kelly works for Trump.
Thu Oct 19, 2017, 09:23 PM
Oct 2017

Maybe he thinks Trump only grabbed the _______ of women who were asking for it.

sheshe2

(83,885 posts)
26. Well of course we were asking for it.
Thu Oct 19, 2017, 10:01 PM
Oct 2017

We wear dresses and stocking and heals. We wear shorts and tanks. We are provocative in our leggings and our five year old sweatpants, washed so many times and so comfortable to put on. He wants to take us back to the mans world and I for one am not going.

His defense of the 45 response is beneath contempt. I had a small ray of hope he was different. He is not. That he lost a son and demeans this young wife of her loss is despicable. Actually, this makes him worse than 45. May he roast in hell.

Freethinker65

(10,048 posts)
13. Seriously someone need to ask WTF he means by that
Thu Oct 19, 2017, 09:24 PM
Oct 2017

Sacred with great honor? Like the Virgin Mary? Like with very few reproductive rights nor opportunities for personal growth not dictated by men?

Bettie

(16,124 posts)
61. And to him "Sacred"
Fri Oct 20, 2017, 08:17 AM
Oct 2017

probably means silent and outwardly accepting of whatever men decide they are there for.

I know older men like this, I'm related to some of them. They believe that women are a convenience who are there for them and that they are worth only what they, the men, want them for.

Sacred...that is a strange word to use.

MLAA

(17,321 posts)
20. excellent post, SheShe2. Right on the money.
Thu Oct 19, 2017, 09:38 PM
Oct 2017

All I have ever wanted personally and professionally was equality. Just treat me and pay me the same as anyone else and don't tell me what I can do with my body. I don't want to be revered as sacred, protected, or given special treatment.

highplainsdem

(49,034 posts)
22. What BS, claiming that "women were sacred" in the 1950s and '60s. The discrimination against,
Thu Oct 19, 2017, 09:45 PM
Oct 2017

and mistreatment of, women at that time were what led to the women's movement of the '60s and '70s.

Initech

(100,100 posts)
24. These people really need to stop living in the past.
Thu Oct 19, 2017, 09:55 PM
Oct 2017

I don't think their minds have evolved past 1961.

sheshe2

(83,885 posts)
34. Apparently he only meant some women.
Thu Oct 19, 2017, 10:26 PM
Oct 2017

Fancy that...only some women are sacred and to many of the GOP the rest of us are just lying whores.

I am beyond angry. That Kelly would attack Myeshia Johnson and Wilson, what he did is despicable. She is a 24 year old widow six months pregnant and he attacked her and defend trump. Yet this is what they do, attack women.

Response to sheshe2 (Original post)

Nay

(12,051 posts)
30. Sacred, my ass.
Thu Oct 19, 2017, 10:12 PM
Oct 2017

My mother, and most of the women in the neighborhood in the fifties, were little more than drudges and/or punching bags to men who often couldn't give a shit what they thought or felt. My grandfather left my beloved grandmother when my father was three -- she was penniless and barely made it the 500 miles to an aunt's house, where she was welcomed. She never remarried. I have no idea how she managed -- that's not in the records.

Sacred. What shit.

csziggy

(34,137 posts)
33. Lawrence O'Donnell is eviscerating Kelly
Thu Oct 19, 2017, 10:23 PM
Oct 2017

They grew up not too far apart in similar working class Irish Catholic neighborhoods in Boston. O'Donnell points out that women were not "sacred" in those neighborhoods - they were beaten by their husbands but could not divorce them because the Catholic Church would not allow it. Many of the women worked menial jobs where they could not earn good wages.

O'Donnell just finished the first twenty minutes of his show tonight, every minute of it was shredding Kelly.

Kelly has dishonored his service. He does not deserve the rank he once held. The women he dismissed today are much better human beings than he ever was.

spiderpig

(10,419 posts)
58. Lawrence was spot on, and I was glad he kept the text "empty barrel"
Fri Oct 20, 2017, 03:55 AM
Oct 2017

beside him as he talked about Kelly and his phony lamenting over the good old days when women were sacred.

Then Kelly proceeded to insult Rep. Wilson, not even giving her the dignity of referring to her by name but calling her an "empty barrel". Sacred women, my ass.

Lawrence and I are the same age, born in 51. Lawrence evolved; Kelly did not. He still regards women as chattel and people of color as lesser humans not even worthy of names.

Of course, before the program was over The Dotard was tweeting his butt off about the show, complete with ALL CAPS, exclamation points, and the (D) after Rep. Wilson's (D!D!D!D!) name.

 

SCVDem

(5,103 posts)
41. Like my housebound
Thu Oct 19, 2017, 10:53 PM
Oct 2017

alcoholic, bored shitless Mother?

I was born in 1955 and suggest he look at the television commercials of the era.

Women as rugs, suicidal over bad coffee or subservient to the master.

He is sick and delusional. Also a kiss ass to dump!

NastyRiffraff

(12,448 posts)
44. That's like "putting women on a pedestal"
Thu Oct 19, 2017, 11:33 PM
Oct 2017

Which was a popular meme years ago. But the funny thing about pedestals is that they're usually small, with not much room to maneuver. And very easy to fall off and get hurt. No thank you.

sheshe2

(83,885 posts)
45. Woah.
Thu Oct 19, 2017, 11:35 PM
Oct 2017

Perfect.

That's like "putting women on a pedestal"

Which was a popular meme years ago. But the funny thing about pedestals is that they're usually small, with not much room to maneuver. And very easy to fall off and get hurt. No thank you.






Hekate

(90,788 posts)
46. Lawrence O'Donnell reamed him a new one over that, as they grew up in the same neighborhood...
Thu Oct 19, 2017, 11:39 PM
Oct 2017

...same culture, same era. O'Donnell pointed out the racial segregation, and on women he added to your observations that wives could be beaten every week, and that the parish prist would just tell them to go home and stay married.

Kelly did himself no credit by taking this assignment on behalf of his boss.

Response to Hekate (Reply #46)

erinlough

(2,176 posts)
48. He is a first class asshole.
Thu Oct 19, 2017, 11:46 PM
Oct 2017

New day I was listening to the news but not watching. I heard this idiot spouting pure bull shit and asked my husband which Trump idiot is that? He told me it was John Kelly, I don’t remember what he was talking about anymore, but he sounded just like his boss. And, he is.

Retrograde

(10,153 posts)
56. Not much you can do on top of a pedestal
Fri Oct 20, 2017, 02:44 AM
Oct 2017

Stand still, be admired, maybe fall off if you try to move - that seems to be about it.

I too remember the days of "Help Wanted:Male" columns in the want ads, when women could be fired for getting married or getting pregnant (married or not), when lenders and landlords could legally turn down women - I think I like the present better,

And since Kelly seems to have forgotten - women have always worked, even when they were confined to low status drudgery. It was only for a brief period in Western history that middle-class women became decorations.

AnotherMother4Peace

(4,251 posts)
59. Great post! We were held sacred if we "smiled more"; weren't too opinionated";
Fri Oct 20, 2017, 05:45 AM
Oct 2017

"were sweet" (Jeffers/Mormon Cult); accepted less pay for same work as men; played dumb so as not to intimidate; etc., etc.

Kelly what in the hell are you saying? What are you lamenting about? That those good old days of silent, obedient "sacred" women are waning? especially silent subservient black women. Oh Kelly, man up and get a backbone, women with opinions and who want equality (PAY) aren't going to hurt you.

This comment of his really bothered me. Especially after a very hard day at work. No, Kelly - don't hold me as sacred - just give me equal pay.

 

WinkyDink

(51,311 posts)
60. EVERYTHING Kelly claims ought to be "sacred" has been DEFILED by TRUMP: Women;
Fri Oct 20, 2017, 05:47 AM
Oct 2017

Gold Star families; KIA soldiers; religion; etc.

KELLY SEEMS AS NUTS AS HIS BOSS.

He threw away his reputation and honor for an adulterous, irreligious, disrespectful, treasonous CRIMINAL.

raccoon

(31,119 posts)
62. In those not so good all days, SOME selected women
Fri Oct 20, 2017, 09:02 AM
Oct 2017

selected women meaning women of a certain class or from a certain family are of a certain Socio economic status, were to be respected and honored and treated well.

The rest were considered easy and available, if the man was looking for some free p-----, And/or workhorses to do a lot of hard dirty work.

And has already been said, even those who were "put on a pedestal" still had to deal with discrimination and a lot of other things which Have already been mentioned.

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