get gross with her, and that she only agreed to the rehearsal because he kept pestering her that they needed to rehearse the kiss, so what happened on stage is irrelevant. She says the assault she claims occurred happened when no one else was around.
Now, I don't know whether to believe the gross forced tongue down the throat kiss story. If it happened as she describes, then bad on him. BUT he does not (as some in high dudgeon claim) admit to the gross kiss assault. In fact, he explicitly says he doesn't remember it that way, but that if she does, and if she felt that way during the rehearsal, then he accepts that she felt that way at the time and he is sorry to have done something that distressed her so.
It is the stupid, inappropriate frat-boyesque pretend groping photo that he has said he is disgusted with himself over and now realizes he should not have done. He's right--he shouldn't have pretended to grope her or had someone photograph it. If in fact it wasn't staged with her awake and willingly participating, then it is obnoxious and insulting, and he would have deserved a loud admonishment in front of everyone (i.e., brief in-the-moment public shaming) for it, but not forced resignation from the Senate years after the fact.
If he kissed her aggressively against her will, then he deserved a misdemeanor assault charge at the time, if she thought it worth pursuing, and a fine. If she was upset enough to push for it, he could have been arrested and made to spend a few hours or even, if late enough, the night in jail.
But even an unwanted kiss is not in the same ballpark as having one's genitals or breasts actually grabbed. It would count more as a clumsy, unwelcome pass, of the sort grown women know how to slap down. From what she says, she did just that--shoving him forcefully away from her and leaving him in her dust as she hurried away from him. He didn't pursue her after she pushed him away.
The ass-grabbing accusations against Daddy Bush raise similar issues. A pat on the butt, even if uninvited and unwelcome, is not in the same ballpark as a rough, aggressive butt cheek grab and squeeze, or an actual goosing. (Apparently he was grabbing and squeezing hard, not just patting.)
I have been subjected to all three types of unwanted butt touching in my life. The brief butt pat is obnoxious and annoying, in a "Back off, jackass!" sort of way, but I always felt in control of the situation, not threatened by it.
However, the rough grab and squeeze feels more like a real assault, like being abused the way being slapped hard in the face would feel like being abused. It is a violent assault. And the fact that it has a sexualized component makes it feel deliberately degrading as well, using one's gender as part of the insult, the same way calling a grown black man "Boy" is particularly insulting and would aggravate any other ugliness toward him.
Being roughly goosed is even worse the the aggressive grab and squeeze, because a hard goose is damned close to actual penetration, and it feels both violent and genuinely threatening, because its violation of personal boundaries goes even further than a rough grab and squeeze.
My point is that no one wants his or her personal boundaries violated, whether there is a sexual element or not, and such violations range from annoying and obnoxious, to gross, to somewhat aggressively abusive, to frightenly, threateningly abusive. It is unhelpful to conflate an obnoxious but relatively mild offense with a rough and threatening assault.
People aren't perfect, and considering how we are generally socialized, it often takes a while even for a well-meaning person to understand that certain behaviors are inappropriate, even if meant jokingly. What teaches them is the experience of having other people respond to their behavior in a way that reveals its inappropriateness, or observing how people respond to others' similar behavior.
As a comedian in a society where demeaning sexualized humor directed at women was the norm, it is unsurprising that any comedian might have made such jokes without realizing how offensive some would find them. As awareness grows and standards of behavior are modified to reflect more ethically advanced values that acknowledge the rights of previously devalued people, people of good will learn which behaviors that were once considered unexceptionable are now recognized as wholly unacceptable.
Obviously Louis C.K.'s habit of exposing himself and masturbating in front of unwilling women was never within acceptable norms, not even in the past, and not even in comedy. But pretend groping certainly would have been within the range of acceptable joking behavior within the context of professional comedy until fairly recently, so I just can't get that outraged, since he has sincerely apologized and publicly castigated himself in harsh terms for ever having thought it was OK.
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She didn't waste any time! 
