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IronLionZion

(45,484 posts)
Mon Nov 20, 2017, 08:46 AM Nov 2017

Rape in the storage room. Groping at the bar. Why is the restaurant industry so terrible for women?

https://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/food/rape-in-the-storage-room-groping-at-the-bar-why-is-the-restaurant-industry-so-terrible-for-women/2017/11/17/54a1d0f2-c993-11e7-b0cf-7689a9f2d84e_story.html



If you’re a woman, what makes a restaurant dangerous isn’t the sharp knives or the hot griddle: It’s an isolated area of the kitchen, like the dry storage pantry.

That’s where Miranda Rosenfelt, 31, then a cook at Jackie’s restaurant in Silver Spring, was headed one day seven years ago to help out with inventory, at the request of one of her direct supervisors, who she says had been harassing her for months. When she walked into the narrow basement room, far from the bustle of the kitchen, she turned around to find him “standing there with his pants on the floor, and his penis in his hands,” blocking her exit from the basement, she said.

“I felt cornered, and trapped, and scared, and what ended up happening was that he got me to perform oral sex, and it was horrible. And the whole time he was saying things like, ‘Oh, I’ve always wanted to do this.’ ” Her instinct was “not to do anything, and wait for it to be over. Because that’s what will make me the safest.”

Or maybe the dangerous place is the walk-in cooler. That’s where chef Maya Rotman-Zaid, 36, says she was cornered once about 12 years ago, by a co-worker who tried to grope her. But after years of working in kitchens with handsy, misbehaving men, she had remembered an anecdote from Anthony Bourdain’s “Kitchen Confidential,” in which the famous chef struck back after being grabbed repeatedly by a colleague.


I've been to Jackie's several times when I lived in Silver Spring. I've probably seen Miranda Rosenfelt before. This stuff happens at any restaurant anywhere. My sister works at a restaurant and would probably stab the guy with her high heels. She also has some self defense training.
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Rape in the storage room. Groping at the bar. Why is the restaurant industry so terrible for women? (Original Post) IronLionZion Nov 2017 OP
The sexual-harassment epidemic has been diagnosed. Whats the cure? IronLionZion Nov 2017 #1
Ask Palin for the cure, you ask for a hostile work environment, Palin gives you one Not Ruth Nov 2017 #2
Armed female soldiers with combat training have been sexually harassed IronLionZion Nov 2017 #4
And 6 foot 7 inch 380lb professional wrestlers get sexually harassed too, but it is atypical Not Ruth Nov 2017 #6
18 years in restauranting...I could regale pnwest Nov 2017 #3
It's very disappointing that people come to accept it as normal IronLionZion Nov 2017 #5
What industry is safe for women? nt Irish_Dem Nov 2017 #7

IronLionZion

(45,484 posts)
1. The sexual-harassment epidemic has been diagnosed. Whats the cure?
Mon Nov 20, 2017, 08:47 AM
Nov 2017
https://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/style/the-sexual-harassment-epidemic-has-been-diagnosed-whats-the-cure/2017/11/17/150b34d8-c8a8-11e7-b0cf-7689a9f2d84e_story.html?utm_term=.4e99ba6a8202

A man walks into a conference room, where two women are planning the company’s booth at an upcoming trade show. (Sit tight, this is eventually going to turn into a story about gender, despair and whether our society is completely busted.) “Hey girls, we need to prep for this show,” the man says. “So unless the plan is to stop traffic with thigh-high boots and halter tops, we’re going to need strong messaging and branding.”

The above scene is from one of those workplace sexual harassment training videos you have probably seen if you’ve had a job. Specifically, it’s from a California-based firm called Emtrain, which specializes in such trainings and which, to facilitate open discussion, encourages clients to code inappropriate behaviors as yellow (problematic), orange (moderate), or red (toxic). The thinking being, it’s easier to say, “Oof, Jerry, that joke was a little orange,” than it is to say, “Jerry, that’s harassment.”

Anyway. The video above is coded by Emtrain as orange. But in recent weeks, Emtrain’s founder, Janine Yancey, has noticed something. When viewers watch the video — which goes on to show the male boss ranking the hotness of female workers — they can submit questions and comments. “Women are writing in saying, that’s red, that’s red!” Yancey says. “And men are saying, is that really orange? It looks yellow to me.”

Yancey once practiced employment law; she thinks in terms of legalities. She knows juries in the past wouldn’t have thought of that incident, in singularity, as toxic. “But we don’t really have a mechanism to figure out how the current news cycle might impact juries,” she says. In other words, we can’t figure out how behaviors that once were considered yellow — or even green, a healthy work environment — can transition to red.

IronLionZion

(45,484 posts)
4. Armed female soldiers with combat training have been sexually harassed
Mon Nov 20, 2017, 09:45 AM
Nov 2017

and it happens to conservative gun toting women all the time.

 

Not Ruth

(3,613 posts)
6. And 6 foot 7 inch 380lb professional wrestlers get sexually harassed too, but it is atypical
Mon Nov 20, 2017, 09:58 AM
Nov 2017
https://www.queerty.com/wwe-impresario-vince-mcmahon-accused-of-demanding-sexual-favors-from-male-wrestlers-20141124

WWE Impresario Vince McMahon Accused Of Demanding Sexual Favors From Male Wrestlers
By Graham Gremore November 24, 2014 at 3:11pm

Former WWE pro wrestler James Harris hasn’t had it easy in recent years. At 6’7, 380 pounds, he was once known as “Kamala the Ugandan Giant,” one of the most feared contenders in professional wrestling. Today, he’s a double amputee who struggles to pay his bills.

After losing both limbs to diabetes a few years ago, 64-year-old Harris has made his living building wooden chairs by hand in his garage, then autographing each one with his “Kamala” signature and selling them online for $150 a pop.

“I wish things had worked out better for me,” he said recently. “I believe the reason I got done that way is because I’m just a poor boy from down south in Mississippi. If I had been a better talker — you have to negotiate — that probably would’ve helped me.”

But Harris isn’t looking for pity.

“I don’t want people to feel sorry for me,” he said. “Because I’m still Kamala.”

Now, Harris says he’s hearing up to release his memoir called Kamala Speaks, and he plans on spilling all the dirt about the pro-wrestling industry.

In a recent interview with 1Wrestling radio, Harris gave listeners a taste of what they can expect from his book, talking about behind-the-scenes corruption, failed drug tests that were covered up, and sexual harassment allegations against WWE’s majority owner Vince McMahon

pnwest

(3,266 posts)
3. 18 years in restauranting...I could regale
Mon Nov 20, 2017, 09:05 AM
Nov 2017

you for hoouuurs with stories of the harassment and abuse I endured, and saw others endure. I was very young when I started, and I thought that’s just the way the world worked: if you want to keep your job, you have to put up with it and deflect as best you can. Had I only known.... I’d be a very wealthy restaurant chain owner now. Anyone remember Chi-Chi’s? Early 80’s, it was insane what went on.

IronLionZion

(45,484 posts)
5. It's very disappointing that people come to accept it as normal
Mon Nov 20, 2017, 09:50 AM
Nov 2017

when it happens at a young age and people don't know any better. But at least there's hope that now there's a bright spotlight shined on it everywhere with people sharing their stories.

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