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DonViejo

(60,536 posts)
Wed Oct 18, 2017, 03:52 PM Oct 2017

Trump offered a grieving military father $25,000 in a call, but didn't follow through

Source: The Washington Post



By Dan Lamothe, Lindsey Bever and Eli Rosenberg October 18 at 3:48 PM

President Trump, in a personal phone call to a grieving military father, offered him $25,000 and said he would direct his staff to establish an online fundraiser for the family, but neither happened, the father said.

Chris Baldridge, the father of Army Cpl. Dillon Baldridge, told The Washington Post that Trump called him at his home in Zebulon, N.C., a few weeks after his 22-year-old son and two fellow soldiers were gunned down by an Afghan police officer in a suspected insider attack June 10. Their phone conversation lasted about 15 minutes, Baldridge said, and centered for a time on the father’s struggle with the manner in which his son was killed.

“I said, ‘Me and my wife would rather our son died in trench warfare,’ “ Baldridge said. “I feel like he got murdered over there.”

Trump’s offer of $25,000 adds another dimension to the president’s relations with Gold Star families, an honorific given to those whose loved ones die while serving in support of the nation’s wars. The disclosure follows questions about how often the president has called or written to grieving military families.

Read more: https://www.washingtonpost.com/world/national-security/trump-offered-a-grieving-military-father-25000-in-a-call-but-didnt-follow-through/2017/10/18/8d4cbc8c-b43a-11e7-be94-fabb0f1e9ffb_story.html



In his call with Trump, Baldridge, a construction worker, expressed frustration with the military’s survivor benefits program. Because his ex-wife was listed as their son’s beneficiary, she was expected to receive the Pentagon’s $100,000 death gratuity — even though “I can barely rub two nickels together,” he told Trump.

The president’s response shocked him.

“He said, ‘I’m going to write you a check out of my personal account for $25,000,’ and I was just floored,” Baldridge said. “I could not believe he was saying that, and I wish I had it recorded because the man did say this. He said, ‘No other president has ever done something like this,’ but he said, ‘I’m going to do it.’ “
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Trump offered a grieving military father $25,000 in a call, but didn't follow through (Original Post) DonViejo Oct 2017 OP
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Gross. DRoseDARs Oct 2017 #4
He IS rancid slime. nt jrthin Oct 2017 #27
"No other president has ever done something like this" tanyev Oct 2017 #5
Trump University lives I guess. AtheistCrusader Oct 2017 #6
Counting down until Trump calls this a "total fabrication." onenote Oct 2017 #7
Or he says the checks in the mail. CatMor Oct 2017 #9
Done... DonViejo Oct 2017 #21
Interesting...... CatMor Oct 2017 #25
The 'biased media" isn't using this story to advance anything . Boomerproud Oct 2017 #43
Trump meant it at the time, but when he looked at his personal finances, Doodley Oct 2017 #8
So, he began to plan how he could interest the soldier's mother in a great investment. nt NCjack Oct 2017 #11
He offered a half-price deal for Trump University! Doodley Oct 2017 #13
Or move on her like a .... (depending on how she rated). n/t woodsprite Oct 2017 #38
Or get Manafort and Putin to pay it... IthinkThereforeIAM Oct 2017 #47
Even if Trump did follow through, PatSeg Oct 2017 #10
Here's what he should have said FakeNoose Oct 2017 #24
Maybe Trump will say he will provide "proof" (some time in the future) that he sent the money Doodley Oct 2017 #12
The poor guy should tell his ex his plight and perhaps she could help him out with CTyankee Oct 2017 #14
His son had his mother as the beneficiary obamanut2012 Oct 2017 #19
Yes, I get that. I've also had situations in my own family and in the families of friends CTyankee Oct 2017 #33
Sadly this gold star father just learned BlueIdaho Oct 2017 #15
It's more than Trump's contractors. It's the way business is conducted in this fine country. erronis Oct 2017 #41
True That. BlueIdaho Oct 2017 #48
I'd rather the presidents position was vacant Sunlei Oct 2017 #16
I'm glad to see the press digging into this story and doing the research to expose the lies! PearliePoo2 Oct 2017 #17
It's all about saying whatever lie he thinks of to get through the moment he is in. Doodley Oct 2017 #18
Is no one else bothered about this guy whining he is poor and wants his son's money? obamanut2012 Oct 2017 #20
i'm not the slightest bit bothered by it. uncle ray Oct 2017 #46
Wow. Really tacky on Trump's part. . . DinahMoeHum Oct 2017 #22
An old adage my mother liked packman Oct 2017 #23
White House: "The check is in the mail" left-of-center2012 Oct 2017 #26
We need verification that the check was from Trump's own account. Doodley Oct 2017 #30
Trump probably took it out of social programs left-of-center2012 Oct 2017 #32
Trump loses in any event in this story. He can deny it and call Doodley Oct 2017 #28
It's become obvious to everyone by now that Trump has no money. Dave Starsky Oct 2017 #37
And THATS why he doesn't want his tax returns released. 7962 Oct 2017 #40
I've long felt the same - Trump is a hollow shell erronis Oct 2017 #42
WTF! There is no bottom to this man's depravity. berni_mccoy Oct 2017 #29
This guy doesn't follow through on anything and isn't held accountable Afromania Oct 2017 #31
But, oh, R E S P E C T T H E F L A G !! Or You're FIRED !! vkkv Oct 2017 #34
I don't think I have ever despised another human being this much in my entire life. Mrs. Overall Oct 2017 #35
Fuckinggoddamedpieceofshit. (nt) ehrnst Oct 2017 #36
So the White House says its been sent. Should be easy to prove then. 7962 Oct 2017 #39
Another Gold Star family for Trump to go to war with. nt SunSeeker Oct 2017 #44
His inconsistency is beyond bizarre. Called some, promised some, neglected some. nolabear Oct 2017 #45

tanyev

(42,584 posts)
5. "No other president has ever done something like this"
Wed Oct 18, 2017, 03:59 PM
Oct 2017

Oh yeah, that sounds exactly like something DOTUS would say.

DonViejo

(60,536 posts)
21. Done...
Wed Oct 18, 2017, 04:43 PM
Oct 2017
In response, a White House spokesperson said: “The check has been sent. It’s disgusting that the media is taking something that should be recognized as a generous and sincere gesture, made privately by the President, and using it to advance the media’s biased agenda.”

So it certainly sounds like the check was sent after the Post started asking questions, in other words, sort of like how the Niger calls shook out.

http://talkingpointsmemo.com/edblog/he-shouldnt-be-president

CatMor

(6,212 posts)
25. Interesting......
Wed Oct 18, 2017, 04:57 PM
Oct 2017

it took 4 months to get the check out. I get insulted that trump thinks we are all stupid.

Doodley

(9,105 posts)
8. Trump meant it at the time, but when he looked at his personal finances,
Wed Oct 18, 2017, 04:06 PM
Oct 2017

he realized that instead of having 10 billion dollars as he had claimed, he only had ten million, and couldn't possibly spend 25 thousand on helping a stranger.

PatSeg

(47,541 posts)
10. Even if Trump did follow through,
Wed Oct 18, 2017, 04:09 PM
Oct 2017

it seems inappropriate for a sitting president to donate his own personal money, like when he said he would donate one million dollars to Harvey victims. He is president and as such, he has resources that others don't. With Harvey and other disasters, his job is to coordinate disaster relief, not make personal donations, unless he does so anonymously. A president can have a far greater impact than any philanthropist.

This whole "write you a check out of my personal account" is distasteful and of course as usual, he didn't send the money.

FakeNoose

(32,674 posts)
24. Here's what he should have said
Wed Oct 18, 2017, 04:51 PM
Oct 2017

Well you don't have to mail me a check. Just give me your credit card number over the phone.
I'll get a $25,000 transfer off your card and save you the trouble.

CTyankee

(63,912 posts)
14. The poor guy should tell his ex his plight and perhaps she could help him out with
Wed Oct 18, 2017, 04:16 PM
Oct 2017

part of the survivor benefit. I wish the military could have divided the money between the mother and father as they are both suffering.

CTyankee

(63,912 posts)
33. Yes, I get that. I've also had situations in my own family and in the families of friends
Wed Oct 18, 2017, 05:14 PM
Oct 2017

where the mother and father split up and kids take sides. The son obviously had taken his mother's side here, in some way. But we don't know the whole story, do we?

BlueIdaho

(13,582 posts)
15. Sadly this gold star father just learned
Wed Oct 18, 2017, 04:19 PM
Oct 2017

the same lesson learned by every contractor Trump ever hired. The check is not in the mail.

erronis

(15,313 posts)
41. It's more than Trump's contractors. It's the way business is conducted in this fine country.
Wed Oct 18, 2017, 06:14 PM
Oct 2017

Promise everything.

Deliver nothing.

Have good lawyers and rule-makers (congress who are also lawyers in the pocket.)

Democracy - NOT.

Sunlei

(22,651 posts)
16. I'd rather the presidents position was vacant
Wed Oct 18, 2017, 04:21 PM
Oct 2017
"the president resigned and the post was left vacant"

PearliePoo2

(7,768 posts)
17. I'm glad to see the press digging into this story and doing the research to expose the lies!
Wed Oct 18, 2017, 04:25 PM
Oct 2017

The rat-bastard liar has stirred it up and it's blowing up in his bloated face.

fuck you donnie. You deserve everything that's coming your way and MORE.

Doodley

(9,105 posts)
18. It's all about saying whatever lie he thinks of to get through the moment he is in.
Wed Oct 18, 2017, 04:27 PM
Oct 2017

He will say anything to make himself look good at the time - I will provide proof later, it will be tremendous, I've done more than anybody, I can promise this right now - but it is all BS.

obamanut2012

(26,085 posts)
20. Is no one else bothered about this guy whining he is poor and wants his son's money?
Wed Oct 18, 2017, 04:41 PM
Oct 2017

His son had his mother as his beneficiary. He could have had his father, or both his mother and father. He didn't. It was his right to do so.

uncle ray

(3,157 posts)
46. i'm not the slightest bit bothered by it.
Wed Oct 18, 2017, 06:42 PM
Oct 2017

i don't know the relationship between the father and son, and frankly, it doesn't matter. if the father was already having a hard time making ends meet, grieving the death of a child will certainly not make it any easier. the guy can ask for whatever he wants. Dotard could have dismissed the request, but he chose to promise money which he never delivered.

 

packman

(16,296 posts)
23. An old adage my mother liked
Wed Oct 18, 2017, 04:51 PM
Oct 2017

Carve all your promises you don't intend to keep on a block of ice and put it in the sunlight.

left-of-center2012

(34,195 posts)
26. White House: "The check is in the mail"
Wed Oct 18, 2017, 04:57 PM
Oct 2017

From the linked article:

Trump called him a few weeks after his 22-year-old son was killed on June 10.

In a statement today, White House spokeswoman Lindsay Walters said:
“The check has been sent.”

Four months later, and only after publicity.

Doodley

(9,105 posts)
28. Trump loses in any event in this story. He can deny it and call
Wed Oct 18, 2017, 04:58 PM
Oct 2017

Mr. Baldridge a liar, or he can agree and then be forced to write the check, which will look like he is only doing it because the media (that he calls fake news) called him out on it.

Dave Starsky

(5,914 posts)
37. It's become obvious to everyone by now that Trump has no money.
Wed Oct 18, 2017, 05:51 PM
Oct 2017

He has no liquid cash or anything else of value that he can just cash in. His net worth is much less than nothing. He owes millions of dollars to Russian lenders. He could sweep aside all of the nasty rumors about his solvency instantly, if he would just release his tax returns,. But he won't do that, ever.

I am thinking that if you, the reader, sitting at home, have saved up a lot of money in your job, if you inherited some property or money from family members who have passed (or if they just gave it to you) AND you don't have any significant car loans, mortgages, or STUDENT LOANS weighing heavy upon you, then you literally have more money than the President of the United States.

 

7962

(11,841 posts)
40. And THATS why he doesn't want his tax returns released.
Wed Oct 18, 2017, 05:55 PM
Oct 2017

Not because it holds some illicit secret deals with the Russians, but because it shows he DOESNT MAKE MUCH MONEY.

erronis

(15,313 posts)
42. I've long felt the same - Trump is a hollow shell
Wed Oct 18, 2017, 06:22 PM
Oct 2017

Fronting for some conglomerate of interests. The carnival barker, the shill, the traveling salesman, the person at the pulpit.

He would deflate into an ugly mass of epidermis and slime if his lifeline was pulled. His leach-like friends, wives, spawn would all dissolve into nothings except a very bad taste in humanities mouth. Multi-floored towers of nothingness would become wrecks of concrete and rats. The name <unmentionable> will be anathema until the next Stalin/Hitler/PolPot takes center stage.

Afromania

(2,769 posts)
31. This guy doesn't follow through on anything and isn't held accountable
Wed Oct 18, 2017, 05:10 PM
Oct 2017

Did he ever give that million dollars to charity? Probably not, because his ugly ass cat anus of a mouth would have been on TV telling us about it. Son of a bitch would have treated it like it was Publishers Clearing House.

Mrs. Overall

(6,839 posts)
35. I don't think I have ever despised another human being this much in my entire life.
Wed Oct 18, 2017, 05:44 PM
Oct 2017

My depth of hatred is rather disturbing.

 

7962

(11,841 posts)
39. So the White House says its been sent. Should be easy to prove then.
Wed Oct 18, 2017, 05:54 PM
Oct 2017

show us the image of the cancelled check

nolabear

(41,987 posts)
45. His inconsistency is beyond bizarre. Called some, promised some, neglected some.
Wed Oct 18, 2017, 06:41 PM
Oct 2017

I don't think he gives a damn about any of them. And I think he's not fit for the job.

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