Greek police appeal over mystery blonde girl
Source: BBC
Greek police are trying to figure out the identity of a young blonde girl, found living on a Roma settlement with a family she did not resemble.
DNA tests revealed the child, called Maria and aged around four, was not related to the couple she lived with.
The little girl is now being looked after by a charity. Her photo has been released to help find her family.
Officials fear she may have been a victim of abduction or child trafficking.
Police are appealing internationally as the little girl looks like she might be from northern or eastern Europe.
Read more: http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-europe-24589614
This is where forum, Twitter and Facebook users can help. The wider this picture is spread the more chance of her parents seeing it...
delrem
(9,688 posts)LisaL
(44,973 posts)Child was DNA tested, she isn't related to them.
delrem
(9,688 posts)There're plenty of folk-tales going back hundreds of years of the Roma kidnapping children.
I see plenty of two "brown skinned" parents with blonde children, or the opposite, of all races and kinds in my neighborhood. By 'plenty' I mean scores. I don't think "DNA testing" is enough to verify an abduction, a kidnapping.
pnwmom
(108,980 posts)leads to the conclusion there was an abduction, since there are no biological parents around to say otherwise.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)pnwmom
(108,980 posts)You don't get to raise other people's children, much less put them on the streets to beg, without some proof that you are authorized to do so.
From the article:
The couple had registered different numbers of children with different regional family registries.
The woman claimed to have given birth to six children within a 10-month period.
'Begging'
When questioned about how they came to have Maria, the couple gave "constantly changing claims," Thessalia Province Police Director Vassilis Halatsis said.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)Little documentation thwre is of rom families, in some areas there is no need for birth certificates etc it all depends where you travel. Even then real names are not used outside of the families, so even names on paper mean nothing.
pnwmom
(108,980 posts)with "outsiders" for benefits for the children they claim to have had. They can't have it both ways.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)So off course fake names are.used. techincally they are not living amongst outsiders not in the sense you mean as that would be unclean..
pnwmom
(108,980 posts)And that child clearly is not one of the Roma. If they can prove otherwise they would have done so.
IMHO, they are no different than extreme libertarians in this country, holding themselves out as exempt from the laws in the larger society in which they dwell.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)She may not be related to the family she was with but that does not mean she is not tsigan or rom or from any other family. Frankly got no idea if she is or not,
pnwmom
(108,980 posts)of how she came to be with them. And then they put her in the streets to beg. They don't deserve your sympathy.
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/worldnews/europe/greece/10390084/Appeal-to-identify-four-year-old-girl-in-Greek-Roma-camp.html
"The suspects allegedly offered conflicting accounts that the girl was found in a blanket, was handed to them by strangers or had a foreign father."
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)A lot of pull or a rom court.
pnwmom
(108,980 posts)AtheistCrusader
(33,982 posts)Doesn't really pass the smell test.
Has all the hallmarks of an abduction in any other society I am aware of.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)Here an adoption is done differently which can be for the better or worse, we dont know in this case where the girl came from and the problem is if she came from another family its all very well putting her the web but the chances of her family having internet could be remote in the extreme.
get the red out
(13,466 posts)If these oh so special people reserve the right to say nothing when suspected of a crime put them in jail and leave them there. They have a choice.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)They have the choice to break either set of laws, there is a price for both.
get the red out
(13,466 posts)loli phabay
(5,580 posts)Much the same as a lot of minority groups and indigenous peoples.
get the red out
(13,466 posts)They can obey the laws of the land in which they reside or go to jail. This culture sounds hideous and harmful to itself and any society in which it operates.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)The thought that it is damaging to any society that allows it to exist is the basis for most of the times of darkening or pogroms that have come along.
get the red out
(13,466 posts)People need to obey the laws of the countries they are in or get the fuck out. No one deserves special treatment to make up their own laws.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)You get an exodus, usually the kids go first followed by the adults. Sometimes just to the less populated areas sometimes to other countries.
get the red out
(13,466 posts)And people need to stop defending them. They are living in the past. No one can continue to exist and do that.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)Guess we all should just become average americans with a mortgage etc.
get the red out
(13,466 posts)Those people aren't fucking wretched child traffickers.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)What next are you going to destroy other countries who have a minority within it who traffick.
jberryhill
(62,444 posts)Are you joking?
There is nothing "special" about the right to say nothing when suspected of a crime.
WTF?
MADem
(135,425 posts)Interesting video at this link--they've had this kid for awhile, and I think the "parents" are child traffickers, myself. We'll see.
http://uk.news.yahoo.com/mystery-blonde-girl-well-looked-025930918.html
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)For a long time, the EU has been highlighting it in reports for a long time.
MADem
(135,425 posts)muster.
I'd trust a Greek court before I would trust a liar who has been defrauding the Greek government of welfare benefits for years, who has possession of a child not her own, who lied repeatedly to authorities.
That's not cultural--that's criminal.
That child was endangered, and now she's not. Good for the Greek government, and shame on the people who stole her.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)And there treatment of the rom, i am sure that they will take your word for it rather than decades of documented biases.
MADem
(135,425 posts)abusers and traffickers should go to jail--and these people are child abusers at a minimum, and child traffickers at worst case.
Here's some light reading for you, courtesy of the European Roma Rights Centre--you need to open your eyes, you don't have a clear picture, here, plainly: http://www.errc.org/cms/upload/file/breaking-the-silence-19-march-2011.pdf
issue that affected Roma. Furthermore, several respondents considered Roma to be significantly overrepresented among trafficked persons.
The Roma are both victims and perpetrators of trafficking. Roma are being forced into prostitution, thievery and begging BY Roma, and selling/appropriating children into slavery. These are not "cultural imperatives." These are CRIMES that need to be stopped.
It won't be stopped with a load of boo-hooing and whining about perceived discrimination.
I'm glad the Human Rights folks are finally getting on this issue--it's outrageous that it is still going on in the 21st Century.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)Seems the reports are now saying that they believe she was begging, but was taken from the camp due to her features. Very interesting. Plus i will say it again none of these things are rom culture rather like they are not latino culture or white culture or french culture but they happen in all societies.
MADem
(135,425 posts)loli phabay
(5,580 posts)You do know that there are millions of kids in families who share no dna to the now parents. Does this mean they are all trafficked.
MADem
(135,425 posts)Millions of kids who share no DNA with their parents have ADOPTION papers, and/or a BIRTH CERTIFICATE with their parents' NAMES on it. You know, the sort of paperwork this kid does NOT have.
Her so-called "parents" don't even know her age. It turns out she's one or two years OLDER than they claimed. Ooops.
But hey, keep digging. You do seem to enjoy that kind of thing....
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)Simply put again, there is usually no adoption paperwork as it is not done through social services or charities, same with birth certs in many parts as few are born in hospitals etc but rather under the wheel.
MADem
(135,425 posts)They LIED. They told repeatedly conflicting stories, and if they hadn't done anything wrong, they wouldn't keep changing their story.
They lied about the child's age, they apparently lied about when she was handed to them, they have stolen from the Greek social services system, and they need to directly to jail. Do not pass go. Do not collect any more euros.
Simply put, again, no paperwork, no adoption.
It's called TRAFFICKING--and the authorities are suspecting that she was being groomed for the sex trade.
http://www.ktvn.com/story/23742373/greek-police-release-photos-of-abduction-suspects
http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-europe-24605954
It's a good thing she was rescued when she was.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)And the adoption thing is not as simple as no paperwork no adoption, i dont know how many times i have to say this, paperwork is not used within the community especially stufg like adoption. If the child was taken for nefarious reasons then i am glad she is okay, if its a case of the well known greek governments treatment of the rom then it is another issue. If the child is tsigan as she looks then i wonder if the authorities will give her back to the tsigan or if she will spend her days in an orphanage or given to a non rom family.
MADem
(135,425 posts)The Greek authorities--who, despite your continued denigration of them, are the Good Guys in this equation-- weren't going after this family because they were Roma, it was because they were involved in criminal activity. Weapons, drugs, stolen laptops and chain saws were pulled out of their abode. They weren't looking for this little girl--they found her when they were getting all that stolen material, drugs and weapons.
She needs to go back to her parent(s), and they may not be Roma. If they are, and they just dumped their child on these people, putting her in harm's way, or sold the child, then they shouldn't get the kid back.
Children deserve a safe, sheltered environment--they shouldn't be worried that they'll be put on the street to beg, steal or turn tricks.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)Also once again the greek authorities are not unbiased when it comes to the rom as seen by the EU reports. To say the child was just dumped shows a lack of understanding of where she came from, we dont know the truth of her adoption or not adoption. It would not be the first time a rom orphan or kid from an unsafe area is given to another family to raise. The assumption is that the family got her nefariously or for nefarious reasons, when all we have is assumptions that she is being groomed for the sex trade or to be a theif or begging. I hope if she is tsigan then she is placed back with either her family or another rom family rather than stuck in an orphanage.
MADem
(135,425 posts)She was not "adopted" in some kind of friendly, informal way. Friendly adoptions are ones where the adoptive parents KNOW the names of the biological ones. That's not the case here.
She was a TRANSACTION. Her value was in her appearance, she was being groomed to be a trafficked commodity, is my guess.
Your insistence to the contrary is curious.
Very curious, indeed.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)Is even more curious. You seem to completely understand that the adoption process is not how you imagine it to be, many kids are sent from unsafe areas to family in other areas without either parents or adoptive parents knowing each other, especially in times of darkening when there may be hundreds of kids being moved. Its not like going to a charity and sitting meeting prospective parents and spending months on paperwork. Sometimes the danger is so real and immediate that it is done overnight.
MADem
(135,425 posts)This family understood the rules and laws well enough to defraud the government of over three thousand dollars a month while running a criminal enterprise, so it's not too much to expect them to follow the law in other respects, too.
Kids are sent to Greece to be TRAFFICKED. They aren't sent there to be safe, they are sent INTO danger there. Apparently you're the only one who is unclear about this pesky little fact.
http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-europe-24613781
Greece's child-trafficking problem
"There are currently 3,000 children transited through Greece by child-trafficking rings. The children originate mainly from Bulgaria, Romania and other Balkan countries," says Lambros Kanellopoulos, the president of the UN children's agency Unicef in Greece.
Mr Kanellopoulos says Greece's status as a trafficking hub can be attributed to two factors: its geographical location, and its ineffective prevention and prosecution procedures.
"The system is full of holes," he says.
Now, the Greeks are working on closing those holes--doing DNA tests on all the children registered as born in Greece going forward is going to help.
get the red out
(13,466 posts)This is good information.
MADem
(135,425 posts)I'm like Miss Whitney, "I believe the children are our future...."
I can't abide cruelty, and I can't abide cruelty to children, especially.
get the red out
(13,466 posts)in defense of abusive "cultures". Some people would rather save a harmful culture than any number of lives.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)MADem
(135,425 posts)And as someone who lived in Europe for years, and had to deal with those folks in real life and time, I never heard the term "rom" used to describe them, EVER.
So I'm not sure where you're coming up with that.
Child trafficking is a crime--it is not a "cultural imperative."
Look--you want to whine about how the poor "roms" are being persecuted, start a thread about it. This thread is about how a girl with unmatched DNA has been found living with criminals who forced her into the streets to beg, and who have been defrauding the social service agencies of Greece.
I don't tolerate any "apologies" or "cultural excuses" for child abuse--so just don't even try that crap with me.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)For your education rom like tsigan or rrom or roma or any other descriptor is regional.
MADem
(135,425 posts)Try reading the report I've provided for you--your simplistic apologies for criminal behavior just don't cut it with me.
Roma are both victims and perpetrators of human trafficking and enslavement. I fail to understand how you can suggest an element of bigotry when the same "folks" (since when is that word verboten? Any straw to grasp, I suppose) are both the criminals and the victims.
It's not "cultural"--it is a CRIME. And your attempt to deflect from the situation by trying to make it about me ain't cutting it.
You're going to have to show me--with documentation--where you get that "rom" stuff. I don't buy it. I've lived in northern and southern Europe and never once heard it.
Not sure what your agenda is, here, but you don't seem to grasp that slavery is not a cute little cultural tradition, it's against the law.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)I will even spell it for you r o m
On edit, i have lived in the US and i dont know all the names of native americans, but i am sure that you must be diffetent having lived in europe.
MADem
(135,425 posts)loli phabay
(5,580 posts)MADem
(135,425 posts)Keep digging....
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)I already gave you enough info to find the word even spelling it for you in case you had difficulty.
MADem
(135,425 posts)otherwise, I'm calling you to prove your claim, and all you can say is "Waah, look at Google."
Provide me a link that doesn't go to one of YOUR posts using the term. Otherwise, I dismiss your use of the term as a fiction you've made up, like your accusations against the Greeks in this "Maria" situation.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)Then that is your loss, as to accusations i am not te one who makes the European himan rights commission condem the greek treatment of the rom within their borders.
MADem
(135,425 posts)And try reading the Human Rights report I provided in this thread. It will curl your hair.
The Roma are both perpetrators and victims of trafficking--they are both the criminals and the exploited.
You seem to have a hard time grasping this. It isn't the Greeks' fault that Roma are stealing children and using them as currency.
Human trafficking is a crime. You really should stop championing it and calling it "adoption." It's not that.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)I have read the report and many more like it, also read the human rights commission reports on greek segregation etc. I unlike you are waiting to see if this is trafficking or a simple adoption or someone else, you seem very mired in the belief that it must be nefarious rather than waiting to see the outcome. That is what i call curious.
MADem
(135,425 posts)assume you invented the term.
Don't insist that others do YOUR proving for you. I'm saying you made it up. Now prove me wrong.
And if it walks like a duck.....
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)Not me, i think i even spoke of the linguistics of it on another post not my fault if you have issues. Its also amusing that you think an english translation of a foreign word should be spelled not only to your satisfaction but only one way.
MADem
(135,425 posts)You can "LOL" all you'd like but the fact of the matter is you can't prove your claim.
Until you can prove it, I and others will look askance.
If it's "an english translation of a foreign word" then you should be able to find it in an online dictionary with no sweat. Funny that you just don't take that route...?
And now you're waffling on the spelling!
Thanks for proving my point, albeit unintentionally.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)Rather than being lazy and confrontational when you google there are numbers at the bottom of the page if you click on them you will go to another page, hope this helps.
MADem
(135,425 posts)Repeated use of "LOL" doesn't make it funny--it does make it kinda pathetic, though.
Go on and find one of those links, since I'm so "clueless" according to you. Come on--you can do it!
Unless you can't?
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)I will even give you other words to put on the search line to help, try roma, romani, traveler, sinti
MADem
(135,425 posts)you should be able to set me right with a few clicks and a post of a link.
Why aren't you doing that, instead of "LOL-ing" and engaging in personal insult.
We don't need "other words" -- we need the word you claim is in common usage. The one you made up, here. The one commonly associated with CDs and computers...
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)Take the time to look the word up, i already told you go google it then you can apoligise if you actually have the honour to do it. In the meantime i am happy to have you looking daft having a tantrum at me not fulfilling your command.
MADem
(135,425 posts)prove it.
So prove it, or I will disbelieve your assertion. That's the bottom line, and too bad if you don't like it.
You can't even cough up ONE lousy link, I guess--otherwise, you would have done it by now instead of name calling and insulting.
You have a lot of nerve talking about "honour" and apologies when you call DUers "daft" and accuse them of having tantrums because they don't believe the stuff you spout without any proof whatsoever offered.
You're behaving badly--and I notice.
No doubt others will, too.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)But i will help you as you seem to have problems
Rom is the masculine noun used in a subset to describe the whole with the feminine chavala and masculine chav used to describe the individuals.
MADem
(135,425 posts)loli phabay
(5,580 posts)You need to relax, go look up a link, there are thousands out there, most of all i think you need to just take a break if this is the most important thing going on right now. You have a great day.
MADem
(135,425 posts)bitchkitty
(7,349 posts)I was aware that some travelers call themselves gypsy, but I never knew that roma gypsies called themselves travelers.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)They are generic terms used outside , think of it as an american, you would tell a foreigner that you are american but a fellow american you are from kansas.
Eyerish
(1,495 posts)Speakers of the Romani language usually refer to the language as řomani čhib "the Romani language" or řomanes "in a Rom way." This derives from the Romani word řom, meaning either "a member of the (Romani) group" or "husband". This is also where the term "Roma" derives in English, although some Roma groups refer to themselves using other demonyms (e.g. 'Kaale', 'Sinti', etc.). The English spelling "Rromani language" may also be found, reflecting a different transcription of the Romani phoneme ř.
Before the late nineteenth century, English-language texts usually referred to the language as the "Gypsy language".
And here's the university paper it came from:
http://romani.humanities.manchester.ac.uk/downloads/1/statusofromani.pdf
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Romani_people
Romani subgroups
There is endless and countless number of designations that can be given to individual Roma groups. It is a result of the caste system, inherited from India, and their movement on Asia, Europe, America and Australia.
All-encompassing self-description is always "Rom".[49] Even when some groups are not using an endonym "Roma", they all acknowledge a common origin and a dichotomy Roma-Gadjo.
Or here:
http://romani.uni-graz.at/rombase/
Rombase » Ethnology and Groups » General Topics » Rom / Ḍom
"Rom is the autonym which the majority of Roma use in the world when they want to label themselves in ethnic terms
Since there was so much back and forth about this, I figured I'd help end the debate.
MADem
(135,425 posts)moriah
(8,311 posts)"It was bad living conditions, poor hygiene. The girl was found in a state of neglect, both physically and psychologically," he said. "We don't have any other information, if this girl was forced to work or to beg on streets."
http://www.cnn.com/2013/10/20/world/europe/greece-mystery-girl/
They didn't find her begging on the streets and take her because of that... they took her in a raid of an impoverished minority community with no probable cause for the raid except the suspicion that because they were Roma they had guns and drugs, and took the child because of her looks. I really hope they find out where she came from, as every child deserves to know their genetic heritage, but there has been no evidence of abuse presented, videos show her happy with her "family", and the only criminality seems to be registering the same children multiple times for benefits. Not good, but not human trafficking.
MADem
(135,425 posts)...The woman also had two different valid identification documents and, based on family registration records, appears to have given birth to three children between June and November 1993 and another three children between October 1994 and February 1995, it said.
In fact, the state-run AMNA news agency reported, she had two family residence registrations indicating that she was mother to 10 children: five girls and a boy in Larissa, plus four girls in Trikala.
The man is registered as the father of four more children.
If you can't recognize what's going on with those children, I can't help you. Read the Human Rights report I have provided elsewhere in this thread. Open your eyes.
moriah
(8,311 posts)... but 10 were "unaccounted for".
http://www.cbsnews.com/8301-202_162-57608337/blond-blue-eyed-girl-in-greek-gypsy-camp-sparks-child-trafficking-worries/
Around 4 years old and going by the name Maria, the girl looked nothing like the couple she lived with, officials said Friday. DNA tests proved she wasn't their child, and further investigation raised even more suspicions: authorities allege the mother claimed to have given birth to six children in a total of less than 10 months, while 10 of the 14 children the couple registered as their own are unaccounted for.
So which makes more logical sense? A woman stealing kids, registering them, and then disposing of them, or taking their own kid in to be "registered" multiple times?
MADem
(135,425 posts)Human trafficking is a real, serious and PERVASIVE problem within the Roma culture. I have provided a human rights report elsewhere in this thread that talks about it in detail. Roma are both exploiters and exploited. It could very well be that this couple raises livestock, (I use that word with every ounce of sarcasm and disgust possible, for those without an irony meter), brought to them by others, and they get reimbursed for it. They register the children as their own to get social services benefits.
When the person who placed the child in their care wants that child for purposes of begging, prostitution, what-have-you, they come and get 'em and pay off the 'farmer' who has cared for the 'livestock.'
moriah
(8,311 posts)If they were getting any type of public assistance for registering the children, the "horses before zebras" thought process has to kick in and look at what is easier to do... and the parents had already proven they were willing to register multiple identities for themselves. I'd not doubt they'd be willing to take the kids in and force them to pretend to go by a different name. It sounds like all the kids "born" in a certain timeframe were older than "Maria". At four, I don't think she'd be capable of as much deception as an older child could be coached to perform.
Whether that's all that was going on, or whether it was something far worse, is something I'd like to find out. We just don't know yet.
And I'm not saying that what I'm describing here is at all good, even in my possibly way too idealistic hope for what might be going on. Kids shouldn't be taught to lie to authority. People shouldn't scam the government for benefits, even when they're living in poverty. There's a reason we have Safe Haven laws in the US -- if a woman can't take care of an infant, she can take it to a hospital rather than give it to a random couple to raise.
I'm very glad that she was found, and I hope we find out where she came from. It just really bothers me the way this went down. If the government in the US decided to "crack down" on an impoverished minority neighborhood and go inside people's homes to look for guns and drugs with no more probable cause than an ethnic or cultural affinity, we'd not stand for it.
MADem
(135,425 posts)It is a simple fact that in Europe there are no "probable cause" laws for people of any ethnicity. No "castle doctrine," none of that. They operate under different systems of laws , and you don't have to be Roma to feel the difference. Look at Amanda Knox--she was acquitted in Italy, yet she's being tried again.
That would never happen in USA.
If these children were registered more than once, than they have a surfeit of documents, not a paucity--it's just that mama is a big fat thief and liar.
I like Occam's Razor, myself, and when I hear hoofbeats, I think horses, not zebras. Roma have a REPUTATION for being both the victims of, and perpetrators of, human trafficking. It's not "bigoted" to point this out. Many Human Rights organizations have beat me to it by many years. So sure, maybe this woman multiply-registered her own kids, AND is a paid caretaker for a trafficked child.
Most of the poor whores of Italy, lining the by-ways in the evening hours as I made my way home when I lived there, were either African or Roma. They weren't there out of choice--they were enslaved. You could see the misery on their faces.
That kind of thing just is not right. Anything the Greeks, or anyone, can do to check that kind of behavior is OK with me.
These kinds of situations are going to push the day forward when we are known by our DNA or other biometric data. Our names won't matter so much as our genetic profile....now that's going to be some interesting days. I don't know if I'll live to see it across society (it's already a fact in the military), but I think it will come, eventually.
moriah
(8,311 posts)... and that is the Fundamentalist Church of Latter-Day Saints.
But when we raided their compound, we went in with probable cause related to child abuse. Instead of being hypocritical and saying only some children needed the help, Texas took them all since they considered being raised with those beliefs was abusive itself -- even though it was a huge burden and eventually ended up being overturned. (If they'd taken only the children that were in forced marriages or were of an age to be married off it probably would have stood muster, but I agree that raising children to believe that is normal is also abusive, just maybe not abusive enough for our courts.)
MADem
(135,425 posts)given birth while underaged? Or was that another fundamentalist Mormon cult?
I read a lot about that matter some time ago, but I'm not up on it.
Religious attitudes do get a lot of consideration, often undeserved. I don't think prayer works when antibiotics are needed, for example. We're no different from a lot of other countries that give some leeway to churches--even the ones that are outwardly stupid and don't deserve consideration. Some elements of sharia law drive me up the wall, to put it kindly.
The Greeks, from what I understand, had information related to criminal activity, drug sales and illegal gun possession, and that is what brought them to that Roma community. The little blond girl was hidden under a blanket, and she was found in an incidental way. They didn't go in looking for her at all.
get the red out
(13,466 posts)That's the exact REPULSIVE group that came to mind when I read this. Fuck cultural relativity. I still despise the courts in Texas for sending those kids back into that fucking hell.
moriah
(8,311 posts)Last edited Tue Oct 22, 2013, 01:38 AM - Edit history (1)
One thing they all make very clear is that the culture of persecution adds to the perception that the members have that they must hide, that they can't trust authority.
When a group apparently has no protections, when they can be raided at any time simply because they assume you're breaking the law if you're a member, it leads to the same type of culture of fear. Except the Roma have been dealing with persecution for over a thousand years, where the FLDS has only been brainwashing their members less than 100.
I know I'm going to sound unpopular, but my view is that our policy should be to decriminalize **ADULT** polygamy. If we do that, then the vast majority of the members of those fundamentalist cults aren't actually breaking the law anymore. It may take some time for them to stop being afraid of the law. Jeffs put the "holiest" members in the compound and records show that's where the vast majority of child marriages took place once it was created, but the compound's construction and the lavish temple were paid for by tithes from members in Utah and Arizona. Most of those members don't marry off children, and if they are made to feel protected by the government they're currently afraid of, they'll stop giving money to the people who they are paying to "keep them safe" now.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)If some members could get a list of every rom i dont doubt there would be raids followed by re education and kids taken away. The memories of the past hundrwd years or so burn bright, bright as the fires the stories are told around.
Aerows
(39,961 posts)Certainly doesn't pass the smell test by any means. Of course there needs to be a thorough investigation - anyone having a modicum of common sense would see that there are a hell of a lot of unanswered questions as to how this little girl ended up with people that aren't related to her.
If that offends someone, well, so be it, but "culture" and "tradition" certainly aren't going to cut it as to why a little girl is suddenly not with her family.
MADem
(135,425 posts)Any attempt to describe the actions by the Greek authorities as "prejudiced" don't hold up when one looks at the full picture. As I have said elsewhere in this thread (and I posted a Human Rights study to back up my claims) the Roma are both the perpetrators AND the victims of human trafficking.
And human trafficking is not "cultural." That's horseshit, that claim I'm reading by one vociferous poster here. If you want your child adopted out, you go get paperwork. If you want someone else to care for your kid, you get a power of attorney. You don't leave the kid with people without any documentation--that's just bullshit. However, Roma have been known to take children from other Roma in payment of debts. Roma have been known to give up children in exchange for discharging debt or obtaining cash. Many Roma children and young adults are forced into prostitution and thievery. Young children ARE put on the streets to beg.
These are facts--they're cold and hard, but they are facts. It's a nasty, horrible thing, and it is exploitative of both children and adults. It needs to stop, and good on the Greeks for doing the right thing in this case. Hopefully it will shine a light on other abuses. I cannot believe the shit that still goes on in Europe in the 21st Century. We're better than this kind of crap...
get the red out
(13,466 posts)that are required by other people in the country? Like paperwork for adoption etc...?
There are either laws or there are NOT. No one is better than the laws or requirements of the nation where they reside. ESPECIALLY when a child might have been kidnapped.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)For a lot of stuff, its a reasonable fear of the authorities. History has taught that if your recorded then when it comes time to round you up its easier. Also its easier to hide kids that have come from other places in times of need, now it is used for the wrong reasons but it is ingrained. For right or wrong.
get the red out
(13,466 posts)This sounds like a culture gravely in need of change for the sake of its people. Cultures do not last forever, at least that's been historically true.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)It in a bad way, but that would be the end result. People can settle if they want there is no prohibition on leaving the road so to speak, but it would be like asking any other minority to give up its identity.
get the red out
(13,466 posts)Well that's ridiculous.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)Many societies have over the centuries used the law to try to destroy the rom culture either by pogrom, forced deportations, re education and forced placement of kids.
get the red out
(13,466 posts)The laws you cite are not intended to damage these people. We can't all live in the past, that is not a positive approach. They can't walk around too wounded to obey the law, they can't be allowed to get by with abducting a child because their precious culture has been disliked in the past.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)The human rights commission has issued plenty of papers on this. Many countries and local governments have anti rom laws on the books.
LisaL
(44,973 posts)the child of the Gypsy couple.
So I have no clue what relevance that has.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)If a father dies and the mother is considered unclean then all the kids move to other families,
pnwmom
(108,980 posts)It would be easy enough for them to prove that she's a relative. Instead, the mother is claiming to have given birth to six children in 10 months.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)There are many people who belong to the same family who are not blood relatives but rather members of the family through geographic location and other circumstances such as adoption when parents die etc.
pnwmom
(108,980 posts)than extreme libertarians are here?
Let them prove who the real parents of the girl are, and that these "parents" who put a four year old on the street to beg are the authorized parents, or they can rot in jail.
Niceguy1
(2,467 posts)And this all could be due to lack of respect for a diverse culture.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)There is also a lot of diversity within the society with whole slews of different bloodlines from many geographic areas. Also depending on the individual nation there are cultural mores that differ. A good comparison is the native americans who also have a diversity across the different nations as to culture and looks.
Scairp
(2,749 posts)Every time the fucking "travelers" went through our area I would read news reports of scams they had pulled to get money out of unsuspecting fools. Naturally, by the time it was uncovered, they were long gone. And they do use about 12 different names each, just as most professional con artists do around the world. The difference is these people have this life as culture. Whether you call them gypsies or Roma or Irish Travellers, it's all the same kind of life, a life of lies, cons and theft to earn a living. These people took a kid from someone somehow. If it's legal then it could be proven but then how can you believe a word that comes out of the mouth of a professional, from-birth liar? And the child is Russian. Or Ukrainian, I'm almost sure of it.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)Youbrealise that to use a rant like that against any other minority on DU would probuably get you banned, but it seems some minorities are fair game.
Scairp
(2,749 posts)I didn't know that being in a culture of criminality to earn your living was a protected minority. They don't do honest work to put food on the table, they take what they want from others and they don't care who gets hurt. Not sure what they would want with this kid because in this day and age taking a kid or at least not reporting that child as abandoned was going to get them busted sooner or later. And I still don't understand why you defend anyone who is a career criminal.
philosslayer
(3,076 posts)Any other cultures you'd like to tee off on?
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get the red out
(13,466 posts)This child does not share DNA from the parents, if they can't give some actual proof that she should be with them then the authorities have the ability to actually save this little girl from this HIDEOUS AND ABUSIVE MONSTER OF A CULTURE.
One can have a life, I don't see why saving this one child is horrible? Can't one little girl grow up to be a full person?
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)Selling herself on the street, but to label ten million or so people as not full people is to start down a road that has been walked before.
get the red out
(13,466 posts)But I think this culture is abusive to women. ALL ABUSIVE CULTURES MUST CHANGE OR END. But that's just my opinion because I give a fucking God Damned about women's rights more than any no good culture that treats females like possessions. If I have to care about some female selling culture to be a "good liberal" I'll go to the dark side in a heart beat.
Obviously many cultural relativists have no concern for women's rights, children's rights, or basic human rights. Cultural relativists need to be correct in their love of cultures that are monstrous, they need to argue how they need to be preserved no matter what cruelties exist within them. All for the culture, like an animal preserve, that's what cultural relativists think of human beings unlucky enough to be born into such a culture that they love to watch and defend. They are antelopes being eaten by their favorite Lion, oh my look at the majesty of that fine death.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)That all rom are theives, scam merchants, traffickers and do nothing but abuse women and children, oh and kidnap kids as well. Like every society thete are good and bad with the bad getting the press. To say that you believe that the culture is abusive to women is to say that you believe that a minority makes the norm. How many other groups also have some problems with certain membera and subgroups.
Yo_Mama
(8,303 posts)It doesn't prove that they abducted her. But it is not unreasonable for the police to be looking for relatives.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)Than in the bigger society. It is very common for kids and adults to be adopted after the loss of a parent or husband in some cases. This ensures that all rom are part of a family and thus still romani.
Scootaloo
(25,699 posts)Whatever the truth, this story is certainly going ot do no favors for the Roma of greece, especially with the fascist slouch the country's been taking.
delrem
(9,688 posts)pnwmom
(108,980 posts)the biological parents just handed her over. Or that she had a foreign father.
And the mother had registered 10 different births over a six month period.
And you expect a different kind of response?
delrem
(9,688 posts)pnwmom
(108,980 posts)or if the parents had given her willingly. As it is, the police don't even know who the parents are.
delrem
(9,688 posts)pnwmom
(108,980 posts)The police had raided the camp and found the girl, who was being used for begging. And the parents, who are not genetically her parents, don't have legal paperwork for her.
"The couple had registered different numbers of children with different regional family registries.
"The woman claimed to have given birth to six children within a 10-month period.
"When questioned about how they came to have Maria, the couple gave 'constantly changing claims,' Thessalia Province Police Director Vassilis Halatsis said."
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)Not enough info out there.yet.
pnwmom
(108,980 posts)The couple had registered different numbers of children with different regional family registries.
The woman claimed to have given birth to six children within a 10-month period.
When questioned about how they came to have Maria, the couple gave "constantly changing claims," Thessalia Province Police Director Vassilis Halatsis said.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)With the two head men agreeing and then shaking on the deal, all business is done outside of the gaje world of contracts and courts etc. So the adoption may be perfectly legal in a cultural sense but not in a legal sense. Its kind of complicated.
pnwmom
(108,980 posts)related to and those people can be contacted to make sure they gave permission.
As it is, the "parents" are just coming across as liars. The mother, for instance, has filed paperwork claiming to have given birth to 6 children in 10 months.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)Especially when there is no way anyone would give the real names or even.location of the family.
pnwmom
(108,980 posts)that they didn't kidnap the child -- which I think is a fairly large assumption.
Why should these people get to exempt themselves from the laws that apply to everyone else? Why are we supposed to assume that they would NEVER engage in kidnapping? How are we supposed to protect children if this particular culture is exempt from the laws that apply to everyone else?
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)All that is needed in a rom deal is ones word, also many laws are against the whole culture and to follow them would render one unclean. Not sure if you are calling for conformity to cultural norms that are alien or what.
pnwmom
(108,980 posts)that protect children than do libertarian extremists in our own country -- who also often claim the cultural or religious right to do so.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)Now i am not talking about abuse etc but stuff like the banning of use of language or being forced to learn stuff against a kids culture.
pnwmom
(108,980 posts)where parents can abuse their children on cultural grounds, withhold medical treatment on religious grounds, and kidnap children and claim a cultural right to do so.
Your point about banning use of language is an interesting one but has nothing to do with the current situation. A girl's life is at stake, and she deserves the protection of the state no matter what her cultural background is.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)Simply put and trying not to be insulting its why everything is hidden to the outside, so the culture and the families can survive.
pnwmom
(108,980 posts)to be exempt from laws that protect children.
It's no different with the Roma than it is with white supremacist cults or other groups that consider themselves superior to and separate from the larger culture. Adults can voluntarily choose to be associated with these groups, but children deserve our protection.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)And to compare it to white supremecy that would and has in the past actively burned the rom. I am done with you as to continue with you would be marime.
pnwmom
(108,980 posts)This isn't bigotry. I have no problem with adult Roma living their lives as they wish, but the children living with them deserve all the protection of the laws of the larger society, and they deserve to know who their parents are.
bitchkitty
(7,349 posts)You're the one being racist here - you think because they are Rom that they should be able to put babies on the street to beg. I saw it all over Spain and it makes me sick. Same way that genital mutilation makes me sick - it's cultural too. But me being against it doesn't make me a racist.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)And people they actively firebomb. I suggest you reread the posts and hopefully comprehend that you are getting some info on some of the ins and outs of rom culture on adoption etc
bitchkitty
(7,349 posts)important point - their adoption laws may be different from the laws of Greece, but there should be some way of proving who the child is. They can't prove it. It's not their child. They've told three lies so far. THIS BABY WAS BEGGING ON THE STREET. And you natter on about adoption and accuse people who are rightfully indignant of racism. You're a piece of work.
moriah
(8,311 posts)"It was bad living conditions, poor hygiene. The girl was found in a state of neglect, both physically and psychologically," he said. "We don't have any other information, if this girl was forced to work or to beg on streets."
When the couple was questioned, "they changed repeatedly their story about how they got the child," a police statement said, compounding the officers' suspicions.
DNA testing then "showed that there was not any genetic compatibility" between the girl and the 39-year-old man and the 40-year-old woman, the police said, meaning they cannot be her biological parents.
Honestly, it sounds like racial profiling on the surface, if the lifestyle was consistent with the other Roma families in the community -- unless they took all of the kids from all of the families in that community. It doesn't say that anything specific drew the eye of authorities to that family in particular other than the girl's coloring, and the immediate leap to assuming she was begging on the streets from the quote saying that they don't *know* if she was forced to do it or not, is consistent with the worries of people who have seen discrimination against this ethnic group before.
But if the family had taken video of this little girl two years before, and she seemed happy in it, I wonder what kind of neglect they say was happening. I don't believe any group is immune to investigation because of cultural issues, but it is a good idea to have cultural sensitivity. We simply do not know yet if she really was being abused -- and the concerns that she was not acting like "a normal child" when she was first taken into custody could be simply a reaction to being taken from the only parents she knew. Naturally a child would be upset in those circumstances. She's playing now, after just a few days -- which honestly says to me her circumstances were not as terrible as some children have experienced.
MADem
(135,425 posts)get the red out
(13,466 posts)delrem
(9,688 posts)The banning of use of language is the most pernicious thing. It's the force that lets "learning stuff against a kids culture" go down like syrup soothing a cough.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)European countries that is the problem here. If you had some authority in the US trying to destroy any minority culture here DU would be up in arms but its down to the alieness of the rom culture that many here would label it a cult.
Diego_Native 2012
(65 posts)the informal exchange of children amongst parties who may or may not have any legal rights to the child for unspecified, unsupervised and unknown purposes.
Yeah...I have NO problem with eradicating that minority culture.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)Ikonoklast
(23,973 posts)Pedophiles from around the world applaud and support your position on child abuse being kept secret, and being able to lie about it to law enforcement and claim it's their 'culture'.
See how that works?
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)But there are cultural rules about talking to the police, that can be circumvented. Some posters seem to jump right on the old bigotry of rom stealing kids and calling for the eradication of a minority culture. I wonder if sites such as stormfront have the same posts up.
moriah
(8,311 posts)loli phabay
(5,580 posts)That the nazis used.
pnwmom
(108,980 posts)you've spoken about, along with their attitude that the outsiders are unclean and must be lied to. And refusing to let their children learn how to read, which the majority do, is a way of maintaining control of them that keeps them from being able to get jobs or otherwise find a place in the larger world.
delta17
(283 posts)If this child had been found neglected in a trailer park in Alabama there would be no controversy whatsoever.
pnwmom
(108,980 posts)The Roma are human, therefore as capable as anyone else of committing a serious crime, including kidnapping. The police needed to respond just as they would in any other raid if one of the children didn't appear to belong with the group and there was no reasonable explanation for her presence.
This couple had a child who isn't their biological child and they have given three different explanations as to how they got her. The rights of the child should come first, not the rights of the Roma to be left alone.
tabasco
(22,974 posts)doesn't make it good.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)Thing, it means no child is left withoit a family and families are always part of the larger nation.
Yo_Mama
(8,303 posts)would be discriminatory against her.
Sorry, but the police aren't randomly grabbing Rom kids. There are so many red flags here that it would be greatly abusive to ignore them, and they are also checking out the other Rom-appearing kids in the family due to the obvious concerns raised by what they found.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)Ie segregating rom kids in school etc. I am.sorry but i would not trust the greek system to be fair.
MADem
(135,425 posts)paperwork.
And with any luck, the child will be reunited with her family and escape a life of abuse as a beggar and worse.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)The majority of rom born under the wheel dont even have birth certificates, there are no marraige certificates most of the time and seldom death certificates. Paper trails are not something that is part of the culture.
MADem
(135,425 posts)overcome their "culture" (cough horseshit) when a monetary payment is on the line. So your argument about paper trails is pure BULL.
Amazing that a woman from a culture that you say doesn't "do" birth certificates managed to register FOURTEEN BIRTHS, with certificates, even though ten of the kids are missing. Golly gee, Gomer, that POOOOR woman.....
If the DNA don't fit, they won't acquit.
Jail for those parents. They are child traffickers until proven otherwise--and that's THEIR fault.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)You do realise that the vast majority of births, marraiges and even deaths are not recorded and when they are its not under a real name but rather a name used for the gaje(outsiders).
MADem
(135,425 posts)they claimed she was. What person who has a legal right to a kid doesn't have a clue as to their age? That makes NO damn sense at all.
Never mind that she shares zero DNA with them.
Never mind that they dyed her hair to hide her in the community--what innocent person would do such a thing? And no, it's not "culture" so don't even try to shop that line of horseshit.
Never mind that they've lied--repeatedly--to the police.
I hope they find this kid's parents, and she is returned to them without too much damage to her psyche. I hope she hasn't suffered too much abuse.
ripcord
(5,408 posts)They keep everything in house until they want benefits for the kids then they are willing to lie to get free money. They had a four year old out begging professionally, that makes them unfit parents even if there was an adoption.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)Plenty of people in other groups pull the same scam does that mean you assume everyone does it as well. Plenty of rom want nothing to do woth outsiders and just live their lives doing their own thing.
Renew Deal
(81,861 posts)loli phabay
(5,580 posts)All over the planet is abusers then it is nothing jeffs. Adoption is so common that most families have them. It is a myth that is still alive and it does not seem to be going away.
Renew Deal
(81,861 posts)With the two head men agreeing and then shaking on the deal, all business is done outside of the gaje world of contracts and courts etc. So the adoption may be perfectly legal in a cultural sense but not in a legal sense. Its kind of complicated.
This sounds like Jeffs. His definition of "legal" differed from outside. What he was doing was "legal in a cultural sense." Same shit. Different people involved.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)Its when they are orphaned or when circumstances such as for safety, ie in the past defence against pogroms etc. Now sometimes there are nefarious reasons but that happens even in other societies adoptions as well. It is not a cultural thing amongst the rom to sell and trade their kids, so think it is is to say that the kids are not valued by their families except as property.
justice1
(795 posts)loli phabay
(5,580 posts)We dont know what happened here but a lot of people are stereotyping the old libel that rom steal kids. Thats the issue i have with this, the assumption that she was stolen from a non rom family rather than realise that she may be a rom who was adopted for a million of reasons that people dont know or would even understand.
Turborama
(22,109 posts)Oct. 18, 2013 | 4:03 PM | 0 comments
FARSALA, Greece, Oct. 18 (UPI) -- A four-year-old girl found, in a Roma, or gypsy, settlement in Farsala, Greece, was kidnapped in 2009 by two of the residents, police said Friday.
A DNA test on the two alleged abductors showed they were not the girl's biological parents.
http://www.upi.com/Top_News/World-News/2013/10/18/Roma-couple-in-Greece-held-in-2009-kidnapping-of-child/
Plus this from the BBC article:
The couple had registered different numbers of children with different regional family registries.
The woman claimed to have given birth to six children within a 10-month period.
When questioned about how they came to have Maria, the couple gave "constantly changing claims," Thessalia Province Police Director Vassilis Halatsis said.
delrem
(9,688 posts)pnwmom
(108,980 posts)Kidnappings do happen. And people who do that should be punished.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)Will be next to impossible unless someone with a lot of pull decides to intervene.
pnwmom
(108,980 posts)Somewhere there could be parents who are looking for a missing four year old who looks like her; and thanks to dna tests, the authorities might be able to confirm who her parents are eventually.
pnwmom
(108,980 posts)that children in the hands of the rom culture don't deserve the same protection of the law as all other children in the larger society.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)Living within it. Its not as if the laws protect all kids as it is so there is reason for distrust.
pnwmom
(108,980 posts)to put four year olds in the street to beg for them.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)pnwmom
(108,980 posts)be treated as the property of their parents (or whoever has managed to get hold of them), not subject to any protection by the state.
JustAnotherGen
(31,828 posts)She can't speak for herself - so someone else must.
In our rush (well mine) to give Roma, Gypsy, Traveler people the benefit of the doubt and the right to live and let live - that doesn't mean this ONE couple could not have abducted this child.
If someone from the community comes forward and claims her and can explain what she is doing with this family - the more power to them. But if not - she deserves to have this investigated.
And I say this a a "brown" child whose mother was stopped in a KMart in Western NY in the late 1970's because the strawberry blonde with green eyes was removing her spoiled brat from the store. A DNA test, birth certificate and consulate papers would have proven the brown child belonged to her!
Turborama
(22,109 posts)Turborama
(22,109 posts)delrem
(9,688 posts)Turborama
(22,109 posts)My original question was a rhetorical one. You chose to answer it when no answer was needed.
delrem
(9,688 posts)All I said was:
"Well, then, let's just hang the fuckers. nt"
In a stone obvious exaggeration. Should I be forced to follow the wit of people who can't understand the uses of rhetorical effects like 'exaggeration', so be forced not to use any of the a,b,c,'s of rhetoric? So as to satisfy that kind of numbness.
Turborama
(22,109 posts)My worry is for the girl's welfare and that her parents get her back as soon as possible.
The perpetrators and how they are punished is a secondary concern.
Crunchy Frog
(26,587 posts)That's a little extreme, isn't it?
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)I doubt the police will get any info from the family about it, be interesting to see what comes from it.
LisaL
(44,973 posts)She isn't related to the Gypsies that claimed to be her parents, and per the article they gave conflicting stories on how they got her.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)She may be from a fellow family from the balkans etc, adoption is simply a matter of a handshake between the big men of each family.
delrem
(9,688 posts)No paperwork -> guilty. Regardless of cultural differences.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)Adoption is also handled much differently than in other cultures, simply needing the big man of each family to give permission.
DURHAM D
(32,610 posts)You are using rom instead of Roma. Is that spelling/word common in some parts of Europe? This is not a challenge, I am just trying to learn.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)Also depending on ones location tsigan or other words would be used depending on the dialect being spoken.
pnwmom
(108,980 posts)that she is not related to them?
bitchkitty
(7,349 posts)Yea, that's it!
pnwmom
(108,980 posts)about who the birth mother is, and then get her to confirm the story.
jeff47
(26,549 posts)who will be confirmed with DNA tests and back up their story.
Instead, they keep giving different stories about how they got her. That doesn't make it sound like "the big men" arranged this.
okaawhatever
(9,462 posts)her hair was a different color a year or two ago. I'm a blonde and I can tell you hair doesn't go from being that light to that dark in that fashion. I'll bet good money someone died her hair about two years ago. Trying to hide the blonde and her identity? Trying to make her look like a member of the family?
I hope her family is found. Quite sad.
LisaL
(44,973 posts)Turborama
(22,109 posts)okaawhatever
(9,462 posts)wickerwoman
(5,662 posts)Or maybe all the "new developments" in the news over the last few weeks has me waiting for the other shoe to drop.
Samantha
(9,314 posts)Odd. I think your thoughts on why are definitely a consideration.
Sam
okaawhatever
(9,462 posts)may not have dyed her hair immediately, they may have dyed it for traveling across borders or something, but it would likely point to the time of her kidnapping, if she were indeed kidnapped.
Samantha
(9,314 posts)Hair is supposed to grow more quickly in the summer than the winter. If that is true (I have heard this often but do not know if it is scientifically proven), the rate of growth might vary in children from adults. But if all of those factors could be combined and assessed, it would be possible to guesstimate when the hair was colored and investigators could start searching through amber alerts and news articles pertaining to missing children the girl's age.
Sam
pnwmom
(108,980 posts)pnwmom
(108,980 posts)just gave her to them. Or that she had a foreign father.
It would have been nice if they could have gotten their story straight.
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/worldnews/europe/greece/10390084/Appeal-to-identify-four-year-old-girl-in-Greek-Roma-camp.html
The suspects allegedly offered conflicting accounts that the girl was found in a blanket, was handed to them by strangers or had a foreign father.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)The truth. It takes a higher authority to reveal stuff about the family which may or may not be forth coming.
pnwmom
(108,980 posts)and the larger culture demands the protection of children.
The cult loses. Too bad. Children need our protection more.
Turborama
(22,109 posts)They shouldn't get a free pass to do whatever they want with children just because of their ethnic heritage.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)There are remedies, ie the big man or head man can convene a court and give permission to talk freely, but to break the law would make one an outcast and this is worse than anything the authorities could do to them.
pnwmom
(108,980 posts)Not a great situation for women and children.
delta17
(283 posts)pnwmom
(108,980 posts)when it's about men, it's politics; when it's about women, it's culture.
Turborama
(22,109 posts)Unless it is against their customs and traditions to ever tell the truth and are therefore compelled to lie about everything, they have no reason to lie unless they have something to hide.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)In order to reveal the real name of another then dispensation must be given as names have power, to give that name to an outsider without consent would render one unclean and an outcast. Now in this context people are saying tell where the girl came from, and i agree but they cant rattle off a name without getting dispensation first. It also seems that an ethnic stereotype is at play here in that rom kidnap children to be beggars, next will be the intentional crippling of kids to make better beggars. This is a large held belief in many regions of europe and seems to have bled over here.
pnwmom
(108,980 posts)for them on the streets, according to the police.
Turborama
(22,109 posts)Not just a "belief". They are made to do it away from home against their will, which is a form of kidnapping.
Estimates provided during research by the ERRC and PiN about the perceived representation of Roma among trafficked persons in Bulgaria, the Czech Republic, Hungary, Romania and Slovakia are several times higher than the proportion of Roma among the general population, indicating a disproportionate impact of this practice on Romani communities. Romani women and children were found to be particularly vulnerable to trafficking, which brings Roma to other countries and to other locations within their home countries.
Roma are trafficked for various purposes, including sexual exploitation, labour exploitation, domestic servitude, organ trafficking, illegal adoption and forced begging. The vulnerability factors identified in this study are closely linked to those commonly associated with non-Romani trafficked persons and include structural forms of ethnic and gender discrimination, poverty and social exclusion which result in low educational achievement, high levels of unemployment, usury, growing up in State care, domestic violence and substance abuse.
Gaps in law, policy and practice in the field of anti-trafficking constitute barriers to the fight against trafficking in Romani communities. Few Roma are identified by police as trafficked persons and many are reluctant to report themselves to law enforcement agencies for fear of reprisal from their traffickers or of prosecution for the conduct of criminal acts as a trafficked person. Similarly low numbers of Romani trafficked persons access victim prevention and protection services and general social protection systems are failing to reduce the extreme vulnerability of Roma to trafficking. The overwhelming lack of support available to Romani trafficked persons negatively impacts the ability of many to re-integrate, leaving them highly vulnerable to re-trafficking.
Read the report here: http://www.errc.org/article/breaking-the-silence-trafficking-in-romani-communities/3846
By John Sweeney
BBC Panorama
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Over the course of almost a year, all of the child-begging teams working the streets of London which were investigated by Panorama turned out to be Gypsies from Romania.
Despite wearing modest clothing and headscarves and targeting the mosque and areas popular with tourists from the Gulf states, none were Muslim.
Gypsies - also known as Roma - are Europe's largest ethnic minority, and the poorest. Racism against them in Romania and across Europe is rife.
Christine Beddoe, UK director of ECPAT (End Child Prostitution, Child Pornography and Trafficking), said forcing them to work the streets of London is denying them their childhood.
More: http://www.bbc.co.uk/panorama/hi/front_page/newsid_9618000/9618038.stm
The report can be watcher here:
By Sam Bagnall
This World
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While some crime is driven by poverty, a worrying amount is the result of child exploitation, organised by professional criminals.
Breliante is a powerful underworld figure in the Romanian city of Craiova, where many of the Roma criminals in Milan originated.
He told the BBC many of the fabulous villas in the city were built on the proceeds of crime committed all over the world.
Gang bosses traffic people, including children, abroad to beg and steal and get fat on the profits.
More: http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/8226580.stm
The report can be watched here:
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)But there seems to be a willingness from some to automatically label the rom as kidnappers of children, now it does happen but its a myth that all rom steal babies from cribs, much the same as the anti jewish myths that come from the same regions or the belief that all african american males are in gangs or any other of a hundred different lies told about people of different ethnicities. It is also this mistrust which makes it harder to track down the real cases of trafficking etc as a society will close itself from the majority to protect itself and its members.
pnwmom
(108,980 posts)of this girl.
snooper2
(30,151 posts)That would be weird if it really had to be a "big man"
"Let's feed the shit out of our growing son so he can be the big man someday!" LOL
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)Ikonoklast
(23,973 posts)It's a total bullshit excuse when they do it, too.
Hiding abuse behind 'cultural differences' is the reason people's 'culture' gets slammed.
The Rom are not mystically immune to laws concerning child welfare.
If they can't or won't tell the truth, too bad. They will suffer the consequences of that decision, and I don't care if it goes against ten million years of 'culture'.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)Another darkening.
Sheldon Cooper
(3,724 posts)No one has called for eradication. No one.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)Its not the first time a culture is attacked and next step is to force change for the good of the culture and then to re educate the culture, as americans i am sure you have an example of this close to home.
Renew Deal
(81,861 posts)loli phabay
(5,580 posts)You haveto remember that the law has hardly been a good thing, there are even anti romani laws in some states, the human rights commission campaigns with vigour against them and even when changedbthere are still ingrained biases. Best analogy i can think of is the plight of african americans and the US legal system, would you agree that there are laws and regions in the US that show bias against african americans, well it is the same as when a rom goes in front of them. For some reason people seem to believe that kidnapping of kids is what therom do, this is an ancient libel much along the lines of the libels against other cultures.
SunSeeker
(51,571 posts)JI7
(89,252 posts)dipsydoodle
(42,239 posts)The blond hair is a distraction in the picture. Whilst I would say that's its natural colour it doesn't follow she couldn't be Roma.
Spreading her picture via social media may help but not necessarily so if she's been with the family since a baby.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)loli phabay
(5,580 posts)There are plenty of blond, blue eyed people across the whole ethnic blanket of europe. Not jumping on you but there seems to be a belief that she cant be rom due to being blond and blue eyed. I got no idra.
pnwmom
(108,980 posts)JI7
(89,252 posts)child so they are lying about how they got her . including the conflicting stories.
i'm going to say she was either kidnapped or they paid for her because i don't think there would be a reason to lie if they had just found her abandoned or someone had given her to them to take care of.
pnwmom
(108,980 posts)and they wouldn't have had to do that if they had her legitimately.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)JI7
(89,252 posts)my point was that while it's not impossible for there to be Blondes among Roma and some other groups that they are still rare. and that's why they were dying her hair darker. to try to avoid being suspected of anything.
if there was no wrongdoing in how they ended up with her there would be no need to try to cover up her hair color.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)Have nordic as well as germanic blood, there is no fixed look as some people seem to be thinking. Russian tsigan look like other russians, irish rom look like other irish, spanish sehano the same.
JI7
(89,252 posts)loli phabay
(5,580 posts)Also due to adoption of whole familes from different parts of the world you get different complexions hair colour etc. As i said further down, she could be russian tsigan or from the polish community. The families are not insular to one geographic area and usually there are kin spread all over as a survival mechanism to keep families alive during pogroms etc.
bigworld
(1,807 posts)loli phabay
(5,580 posts)idwiyo
(5,113 posts)loli phabay
(5,580 posts)idwiyo
(5,113 posts)loli phabay
(5,580 posts)This is entering bizarro world
idwiyo
(5,113 posts)loli phabay
(5,580 posts)You do know that over the centuries there has been influx of different bloodlines into the families, or is this another myth that its all inbreeding. Go to eire you will see travelers of every colour, go to the balkans you will see rom of turkish extraction and further afield, Russia you will get tsigan from the stans, the Caucasus. With ten million or more people you will get all sorts.
idwiyo
(5,113 posts)loli phabay
(5,580 posts)JI7
(89,252 posts)cpwm17
(3,829 posts)or at least from a neighboring eastern European nation.
HooptieWagon
(17,064 posts)But she could be from anywhere...European bloodlines very mixed.
mimi85
(1,805 posts)I posted this thread on the GB forum. Lots of people on there are very knowledgable on the Roma people and their culture. It will be interesting to see what they have to say. I certainly hope we find out the story behind this little girl.
http://avenue-b.net/forum/
Side note: GB has changed a few members over the years but if you ever get a chance to see them in concert, go! We've seen them 4-5 times and it's amazing. Exhausting like the old Bruce concerts. My husband even flew back to NY to the annual gypsy fest several years ago and had a wonderful time.
Crunchy Frog
(26,587 posts)will help in finding the little girls legitimate parents.
Also for exposure of the issues of trafficking and exploitation.
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loli phabay
(5,580 posts)Hatred that festers in european societies to a minority within their borders.
dipsydoodle
(42,239 posts).
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)As i said the problem is this just perpetuates the myths that surround the rom and traveler families. I expect an uptick on attacks on rom villages in the near future across europe.
pnwmom
(108,980 posts)There are people who do wrong in every culture, and the Roma shouldn't get a pass on child protection laws simply because they have a secretive culture.
treestar
(82,383 posts)Here they might not have been able to do that.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)Plus i doubt the court would sympathize with the rom so a warrant would not be hard to get.
Ken Burch
(50,254 posts)This seems like a perfect pretext for the Greek state to provoke an anti-Roma pogrom of some sort.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)Of this case the supremicist nutjobs will use it. Expect to see petrol bombings soon.
Turborama
(22,109 posts)This is the house they live in...
The neighbors' houses to the left...
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)Rebuild, culturally and for survival its ingrained that stuff is just stuff and sometimes it must be left if a time of darkening comes. This stems from the original times of darkness and has served well through pogroms and genocide overthe years. Any day may be the day you have to walk to escape. For some who have settled its harder and many have stayed but enough who stayed have died that it is still taught round the campfires that to have more than you can carry slows you down, and he who is slow dies.
Turborama
(22,109 posts)And I was pointing out that it's not as easy as it once was, when they could just harness up and ride into the sunset.
BTW I hope you're not suggesting the family in question flee from the law?
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)And there may be a time to take it up to survive. Pretty much if the family wanted to they could disappear into the diaspora pretty easily. Not that i think they should.
MADem
(135,425 posts)And as for the town where they lived, it consists of assorted brick and prefab homes, and most if not all of the children in that town are receiving public assistance from the Greek government. They aren't "nomads"--they're residents.
Because they were engaging in fraud, the two adults holding this young girl were taking in over three thousand dollars a month from three separate municipalities in Greece for a supposed fourteen children. Yet the only child with a private bedroom in their home was supposedly little Maria.
There's much more than meets the eye here--I suspect in the case of this particular child, none of it is good. The parents insisted they got her as a newborn in 2009 but it turns out she wasn't born then--she was born earlier than that. Because their stories keep changing, the authorities are starting to conclude they aren't telling the truth, which is why they're in jail.
"From medical examinations conducted by a forensic pathologist we now know that she is older than we thought and is probably five or six," said Panaghiotis Partelis at Smile of the Child, the charity tasked with looking after her. "She is still in hospital but she seems to be happy and playing with her toys, doing what all girls of her age do."
The philanthropic organisation was still receiving thousands of calls from around the world, often from people whose children had gone missing, as part of a wider campaign to trace the girl's real parents, he said.
Authorities released the photograph, which portrays the pale-skinned child wedged between the couple and clasping a water bottle, after a court announced there was enough evidence to suggest she had been kidnapped.
Turborama
(22,109 posts)There's also a video of her when she was a toddler, and it looks like she's being trained to dance. I also thought the way the woman just throws the boy out of the way at the end looked very brutal.
Have you seen the videos I posted? If you only have time for one, I recommend this, it explores the "farming" you mentioned above, amongst other things...
Here's the accompanying article: http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/8226580.stm
MADem
(135,425 posts)PANORAMA programme.
I saw the film of the little girl, and I got the impression she was being groomed in some fashion. That didn't look like "fun" to me.
Turborama
(22,109 posts)I did mean to post the one where the investigative reporter goes across Europe, but the Panorama one is very insightful, too.
Here's the Panorama one again for anyone who wants to see it as well:
MADem
(135,425 posts)The husband and wife have turned on one another, so now they have separate lawyers. Each is accusing the other, I guess...!
Hristos Salis and Eleftheria Dimopoulou been charged with child abduction
Salis told court: 'I dont want to put a bomb in my house'
Neighbours suggested pair could have purchased child for as little as £850
She is now at the centre of an international appeal to uncover her identity
Six of eight 'promising' calls about Maria's identity have been ruled out
...Director Costas Yannopoulos has said the couple used Maria as a dancing bear to make money, a view bolstered by two videos of the girl being made to dance in public.
Yesterday locals said Maria was seen begging in a market two weeks ago. One said the distinctive child asked strangers for money both by herself and with Dimopoulou.
Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2470998/Blonde-Angel-Maria-Mystery-child-bought-850.html#ixzz2iQizCe00
Turborama
(22,109 posts)http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=236997333
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)Not sure if there is any way they will ever find the birth mother, or if she would even want the child. Wonder what greek law says will happen to the child in that event or if euro law governing minorities and their rights would take precedence.
moriah
(8,311 posts)Isn't it obvious that they registered the same children multiple times to try to get benefits? Sure, it might be flim-flamming, but I don't think it was kidnapping or selling children - the 10 "missing" children simply never existed.
As articles are written and people talk about this case, things change. "We don't have any other information, if this girl was forced to work or to beg on streets" becomes "This poor baby was forced to beg on the streets!" Her hands look dirty and her face is unhappy in this picture, but other pictures and video from the family show a happy child, and it's only the fingers in this photo that are dirty -- maybe that's from being fingerprinted? Yes, the hair dye is curious.
But in a culture that does not often formalize adoption, I think looking at the totality of the circumstances is important before rushing to conclusions.
MADem
(135,425 posts)Roma people often have their children forcibly taken from them--by OTHER Roma-- to pay debts. If some thug steals a kid, he'll hand the kid off to someone else (who gets paid) to raise, until he needs the kid to act as a thief or prostitute.
It's slavery. The person holding the kid for the enslaver might try to do something cute, like register the child as their own to get additional benefits.
There could have been fourteen kids--and ten of them are off begging in some European capital, or forced into prostitution, by someone who came and got them.
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loli phabay
(5,580 posts)get the red out
(13,466 posts)Seriously, I hate people that steal children and force people into prostitution. I don't consider that wrong, no matter who they are.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)I guess you must hate every group on the planet cause every race and nationality has people who traffick.
MADem
(135,425 posts)The incidence of human trafficking in that community is very high, but the Roma are both perpetrators AND victims. People within the community will steal the children of others within the community to discharge a debt, for example. The people who have their child taken will not go to the authorities as a consequence of custom. Still others will participate in raising the stolen children for the thugs who take them. It is this kind of thing that needs to be changed. They need to understand that they can't live outside the law in the 21st Century. It's a rather painful process.
All of this information is found in the report I cited elsewhere in this thread. The report has the endorsement of activists in the Roma community who want to stop this kind of thing from happening.
FWIW, this report is from the "Roma Rights Centre." It isn't outsiders telling people how to live.
It's a worthwhile read, and it details the stark reality surrounding this issue:
http://www.errc.org/cms/upload/file/breaking-the-silence-19-march-2011.pdf
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graywarrior
(59,440 posts)and no one here, except maybe someone from that culture, really can understand or explain it.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)Turborama
(22,109 posts)Worth spending some time to watch, if you're interested.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)Its like watching a documentary on a segment of a society then assuming all ten million of a group are the same,
Turborama
(22,109 posts)If so, what is in them that you disagree with?
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)Natives of the americas or other ethnic groups, do you really believe that a minority as large as this are all doing this stuff, think about it, you are talking about ten million people, spread across the world, with differences and similarities. The assumption on this thread that all rom, rrom, romani, romanja, tsigan, etc etc are all child traffickers is like assuming all people from one city are the same.
Turborama
(22,109 posts)When/if you do you can come back and give a critique. Until then...
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)To be theives, prostitutes etc. Think about it. The numbers in the US alone are a million or so, you really believe that all are trafficking their kids. Its bad enough that all are labeled as thieves and scam merchants and shows that the old myths are not dead but still there.
Turborama
(22,109 posts)loli phabay
(5,580 posts)Turborama
(22,109 posts)...what 'myths" you think are in them.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)But the problem they show, the world is much bigger than just DU, and this issue has been around for a long time. You can think that this is thw first time panorama or shows like it have ever talked about the issue but its not, anyway you guys can keep using it as the be all and end all reference on the rom but in the end all it is is words from gaje and will do nothing to stop the problem.
Turborama
(22,109 posts)Which you can't until you actually watch them.
You know what that's called, don't you? Prejudice.
I'm unwilling to take any critique you have of them seriously unless you have actually seen them. I think that's quite a normal position to take with anyone who's criticizing something they haven't even seen, be that a movie, stage play or a documentary.
(Typo fix)
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)Panorama, i have always thought it was a good show, i am challenging the premise thatt this is normal rom culture and widespread. It is a problem that pertains to a subset and has been an issue for a long time. The problem is that it feeds into a widely held belief that rom are all child traffickers much the same as all are thieves etc. Ideally all who engage in this should be jailed by the authorities and declared marime (unclean) by their families, but it is certain families who perpetuate it. I believe i have said as much in my posts, most of which are trying to explain the adoption laws and why the overall community do certain things certain ways. It also is not helped in that the blame is heaped on all which then makes all close ranks due to ingrained distrust of outsiders. Hope this helps explain where i am coming from.
Turborama
(22,109 posts)It's a real eye opener.
You don't what the "premise" and "problem" they report on is or how "widespread" it is until you watch it. So how can you even challenge it?
I'm not discussing the documentaries, as I said, but why are you so reluctant to watch them and offer an informed critique? You seem like someone who's interested in learning more about this topic, and they are very informative.
intaglio
(8,170 posts)The Sunday World newspaper reported that a birth certificate was believed to have eventually been produced but officers were not satisfied with it.
The paper reported that although the couple claimed the child was born in the Coombe hospital in Dublin in 2006, the hospital had no record of the child being born on the date quoted by the parents.