Conservative Bullying Has Made America Into a Broken, Dysfunctional Family:
http://www.alternet.org/story/154622/conservative_bullying_has_made_america_into_a_broken%2C_dysfunctional_family%3A_but_there_are_ways_to_regain_our_wellbeing_/Conservative Bullying Has Made America Into a Broken, Dysfunctional Family: But There Are Ways to Regain Our Wellbeing
A marriage counselor friend once told me that he almost always knows by the end of the very first session whether he's being hired to guide a damaged couple back to health, or to help them work toward a divorce -- even when the couple doesn't know the answer to this question themselves.
It's easy to see, he explained. The relationship's future success or failure all hinges on one simple thing: How much goodwill and trust they have left. Even if they've hurt each other badly, the couples who make it are the ones that still retain a few shreds of faith in each other's basic good intentions. She didn't mean to hurt me. He's not always a bastard. Deep down, she still loves me. Deep down, he really wants things to be better.
These couples are still seeing same future together, and still cling to the tattered memories of why they first fell in love. Just a few frayed threads of trust are all that's needed -- if they've got that, the odds are high that with time and work, they can re-weave the fabric of the marriage into something that's once again strong and good.
On the other hand, the tell-tale sign of a zombie marriage -- one that's already dead, even if the parties involved haven't yet confronted that fact -- is that one or both partners have already given up and checked out. The trust is broken, the dream shattered, the damage just too much to ever repair. Things have been said and done that can't ever be unsaid or undone. There's so much bad history that there's no way a mere human heart can ever forgive it all. It's so far gone that pain and rage are all that remain -- and the longer they stay together, the more brutal it's likely to get.
no_hypocrisy
(46,242 posts)Whether it's corporatists seeking to own every branch of government and privatize every public institution, security and intelligence types cracking down on our civil liberties, or Christian nationalists out to turn the country into a theocracy, conservatives are increasingly united by the conviction that Americans cannot be trusted to govern ourselves.
applegrove
(118,845 posts)MarianJack
(10,237 posts)...many on the left haven't yet recovered from the post 9/11 convention that We weren't allowed to talk and were mandated to instantly shut up if a rightist snarled.
I'm proud to say that my wife and I NEVER bought into that line of BS and when george w moron had his illusion of a 92% approval rate, we were peoud members of the 8%.
PEACE!
Brigid
(17,621 posts)What about those of us on the left, who since the debacle of 2000 have been wishing we could leave this mess and live in a place that has not gone completely insane. I would leave this country in a heartbeat if I could, and I very seriously doubt I am alone. I have lost faith.
xchrom
(108,903 posts)Myrina
(12,296 posts)n/t