1. Call you twice a day to talk and to see how you are doing?
At first, we called and then left it to email and texting. Now we do email only a few times a year.

2. Invite you over to her place every so often for a home cooked meal?
She moved to Bellingham, Washington. That would be a bit of a drive to get to Houston, Texas, just for a home-cooked meal

3. Have one of the kids bring you a cooked meal that just needs to be heated back up in the microwave?
We didn't have kids.

4. Stops by and get on your case if you are not keeping up with the general cleaning, laundry and dishes?
See answer #2

5. Leave you a list of jobs she wants done before the next time she comes back? Like mow the lawn, get a haircut and such?
See answer #2

6. Will come over to take care of you and spend the night with you when you are sick?
See answer #2

7. Comes over now and then for a movie and pizza night?
See answer #2

8. Calls you up, tells you she's horny and she comes for for some fun?
See answer #2. Besides, I've got a girlfriend now. Although her "commute" will be even greater...

1. Her lawyer served me papers.

2. Her lawyer sent me a check for $1 to obtain title to an aircraft we owned jointly. (That pissed me off. I would have signed it over for nothing.)

#2 was in 1988. I hear she remarried shortly after.

is if you don't have kids, you don't have to talk to them ever again. Even if you have kids, you don't have to take any of their shit.

Questions one and two: Only if she wanted more money to buy cocaine.

None of the other things ever happened.

than let me have a dime of what was ours.

If she ever shows up here I have to assume she wants me dead.

Your wife doesn't sound as though she really wants to be divorced from you...

Was it her idea, or yours?

The divorce was her idea. But sometimes she's called me, crying, saying she misses me and has no motivation to do anything when I'm gone. So I go over when she's like that and she'll go to sleep while I putsy with things around the house.

She really wants to be her own person and not have to deal with the complexity of a marriage but she also wants me to be always near by when she needs me. It's like I'm dealing with two different people.

she has gone on with, and improved her life greatly. She's a wonderful person who loves me still, and I her. We knew enough after 10 years of marriage that no one, not she, not me, nor anyone else is able to say what is right or wrong in lives other than our own.

In everything that has happened in the years since, the kids grew up, her new husband, etc, we have always been 100% supportive of each other. Perhaps the one thing most enabling us to love, respect and trust each other was realizing we can't relive yesterday; knowing that to change who we each are to be together is wrong in so many ways, we let each other be free to live. We chose to live as friends and found life as friends, without complications, was exactly the right thing to do.

Our divorce was about seven years ago. Yesterday she waxed her old car before selling it to me - the price, a token payment. Her husband was disappointed that I didn't stay for dinner afterwards.

So I get funny looks when saying a smart woman makes a good wife, when she's wise enough to know how and when to stand up and follow her dreams only a fool would stand in the way.

My ex-wife was a very outgoing woman, but after our divorce was final, it was almost like she dropped off the face of the earth. We exchanged a few emails maybe 5-6 years later. A year or so later, I saw her coming out of a Dunkin Donuts while I was in the drive thru lane, so I looked her up online and found out she was getting married again in 2008. But, I never contacted her and haven't heard from her since.

During the divorce process, we kept in touch regularly, but nothing like what you experienced.

Sure- we can still be friends but... sheesh!