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GoneOffShore

(17,340 posts)
Sat Apr 7, 2018, 09:53 PM Apr 2018

The house is almost empty. Two and a half weeks before we're out of here.

As some of you may know, we bought an apartment in Aix-en-Provence last year and spent two months setting it up.
We came back to Philadelphia in October, futzed around, went back to France for a month and returned to the US. Called some friends who are realtor's and got a price that our house might sell for. But before we put it on the market, talked to our neighbors who have been interested in buying the house for a couple of years.
Turns out that they decided to buy it. No home inspection, no real estate commission, no 'staging' the place. Those are the pros.
The cons: Getting rid of everything. Furniture, books, records, CD's, cookware, china, glass, books, art work, etc, etc. And doing it in just under a month and a half.
So, now, we need to get rid of a Victorian style settee, a solid cherry gate leg dining table, a couple of chairs, and assorted bits and pieces. Thirty seven years of things that we've accumulated and had custody of. Because you don't own stuff. It owns you. And so, one gives it away to other people to have custody. Everything has found a home. Or is coming to France with us, one way or another.
We come back to the US in July. While we're here it's going to be a trip to D.C. to the French Consulate and applying for a long-stay visa. We're hoping to then remain in France.

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The house is almost empty. Two and a half weeks before we're out of here. (Original Post) GoneOffShore Apr 2018 OP
Bon voyage saidsimplesimon Apr 2018 #1
So much to look at and decide should it stay with us or should it go . Good Luck Bon Voyage lunasun Apr 2018 #2
How exciting!! babylonsister Apr 2018 #3
Youll feel great when its over lunatica Apr 2018 #4
I'll wave as I go by en route to Marseille next month! CurtEastPoint Apr 2018 #5
We will be in Aix in May. GoneOffShore Apr 2018 #17
I will be there a couple of days and want to see Marseille but also Cassis CurtEastPoint Apr 2018 #23
In Marseille GoneOffShore Apr 2018 #24
Thank you for these great suggestions! CurtEastPoint Apr 2018 #31
And if you want bouillibaise, head to Chez Loury in Marseille. GoneOffShore Apr 2018 #32
I was looking up on TripAdvisor and don't find 'La Maison' restaurant. CurtEastPoint Apr 2018 #35
It was called El Sol - Now La Maison GoneOffShore Apr 2018 #36
Thank you again! CurtEastPoint Apr 2018 #37
Take a boat ride out to Calenques, very memorable. flying_wahini Apr 2018 #27
Good luck to you both. Ferrets are Cool Apr 2018 #6
WOW! Very good luck to you, and enjoy the lovely area full tilt! BobTheSubgenius Apr 2018 #7
We've done a lot of travelling to France over the past 20 years. GoneOffShore Apr 2018 #18
Hi seta1950 Apr 2018 #8
I remember you! BigmanPigman Apr 2018 #9
Enjoy! I'd bid on a few of those items. FromMissouri Apr 2018 #10
I loved NZ and would move there in a minute but we are too told and we would flying_wahini Apr 2018 #12
I loved that area when we visited several years ago. flying_wahini Apr 2018 #11
We've already joined 'Democrats Abroad'. And will continue to post here. GoneOffShore Apr 2018 #20
Making a similar move to Mexico in or near June. Hulk Apr 2018 #13
Hang in there. It's tough to get rid of the things one has gathered. GoneOffShore Apr 2018 #22
Good time to leave for sure. Do us a favor, VOTE! so we won't miss you. KPN Apr 2018 #14
No fear of us not voting! GoneOffShore Apr 2018 #21
Gonna miss the emergence of Sixers and Eagles dynasties. But wish you well. We have 34 years of Pepsidog Apr 2018 #15
Amusing story about the word stuff Pepsidog Apr 2018 #16
You are a brave, adventurous couple. Best of luck in your new home. Fla Dem Apr 2018 #19
Wow! Good luck 🍀 we can do it Apr 2018 #25
Call an auction house. WhiteTara Apr 2018 #26
Call a good Realtor anyway.... Sedona Apr 2018 #28
You are making it happen! Good for you. mnhtnbb Apr 2018 #29
Hate to ask but curious how you will manage the health care issue. flying_wahini Apr 2018 #30
We're still investigating that. Looks like my Medigap policy will cover 80% GoneOffShore Apr 2018 #33
Bon Chance! jalan48 Apr 2018 #34
Wow.....lots going on..... a kennedy Apr 2018 #38
I regret the books and records and some furniture going. GoneOffShore Apr 2018 #39

babylonsister

(171,070 posts)
3. How exciting!!
Sat Apr 7, 2018, 10:01 PM
Apr 2018

I am so jealous of this grand adventure. Have the time of your life-you are going off shore!

lunatica

(53,410 posts)
4. Youll feel great when its over
Sat Apr 7, 2018, 10:09 PM
Apr 2018

and all the toil and trouble will have been worth it.

Congratulations!

I’m going through the same thing right now only I sold my condo in California and I hoping to buy a place in Santa Fe. I did all that furniture triage in the last few months in 2017.

Now the furniture I’m keeping is in storage in California. When I buy in Santa Fe I’ll have to go back, pack it all up again and drive it to Santa Fe and hopefully that will be for the last time.

GoneOffShore

(17,340 posts)
24. In Marseille
Sun Apr 8, 2018, 10:21 AM
Apr 2018

Visit the MUCEM and Fort St Jean(good cafe there near the bookshop). There are usually some interesting exhibits at MUCEM. The Panier district is great to walk around as in Cours Julien (a little rougher but still safe).
The tourist office on La Canebiere about 100 meters from the Vieux Port Ferris wheel is very useful.
Cassis is lovely. Eat at La Maison or Poissoinerie on the port. The calanques boat tours are multi lingual. Just past the lighthouse, perched on the point at Bestouan plage (the first beach out of the port) is the house that was used in the opening scenes of French Connection.
La Ciotat is okay, but Saint-Cyr-sur-Mer just a bit further along the coast has a much more laid back feel. And a flat sandy beach. If you're lucky you may see the Canadair's practicing, getting ready for the forest fires that plague Provence in the summer. They do circuits and bumps, picking up water from the Baie des Anges.
We could always meet for a coffee in Aix.

GoneOffShore

(17,340 posts)
36. It was called El Sol - Now La Maison
Tue Apr 10, 2018, 08:36 PM
Apr 2018

Between Marco Polo and La Canaille on the port - Quai Calendal.
Rick Steves liked El Sol.
Check out Chai Cassidain 6 Rue Dr Séverin Icard le-chai-cassidain.com - Lovely place to have a quiet drink and buy some wine. Say hello to the very nice dark haired woman who runs it for her son. Her name is Pascale - Only speaks French. Tell her that Sam & Susan from Philadelphia and Aix said to come in.

flying_wahini

(6,606 posts)
27. Take a boat ride out to Calenques, very memorable.
Sun Apr 8, 2018, 12:38 PM
Apr 2018

Save your money and then splurge on some Bouibasse (fish stew) $$$$ but worth every slurp.

Ferrets are Cool

(21,107 posts)
6. Good luck to you both.
Sat Apr 7, 2018, 10:20 PM
Apr 2018

I assume its just the two of you that are leaving. You will be happy once you get moved and settled in.

BobTheSubgenius

(11,564 posts)
7. WOW! Very good luck to you, and enjoy the lovely area full tilt!
Sat Apr 7, 2018, 10:39 PM
Apr 2018

I'm quite envious, try though I might not to be. What an adventure. Do you know of a good site describing the pros and cons, things one does to get ready, how one can afford it....that kind of thing? I'd love that.

I have long toyed with the idea of moving to the south of England and using a small flat as a base of operations, with an eye to extensively touring the continent as I can, and the mood strikes.

The UK can't refuse me even a work visa, if I want one. All my grandparents were born in the UK, and grandfathers and father fought for King and Country. Worse came to worst, I could probably get an Irish passport, as citizenship by even a many-generations forebear qualifies, I've read.

GoneOffShore

(17,340 posts)
18. We've done a lot of travelling to France over the past 20 years.
Sun Apr 8, 2018, 09:19 AM
Apr 2018

Investigated a lot of sources.
I'm sure that there's an ex-pat Facebook group for Americans in England or Ireland. Just for your head, Ireland might be the better bet. Prices in England are insane, traffic in the southeast barbarous (get the BBC iPlayer app and listen to the afternoon drive shows on Radio 2. The traffic reports rival anything in the US as far as jams), and then there's the whole Brexit thing (and the Brexiturds).

 

FromMissouri

(95 posts)
10. Enjoy! I'd bid on a few of those items.
Sat Apr 7, 2018, 10:50 PM
Apr 2018

Been considering New Zealand myself.
Never been able to learn languages -- computer language yes, but not tongues. They speak English over there.
Your post reminded me, when we moved in here about five years ago for a two-year stay, of all those cds and dvds and, yes, LP records from the sixties and seventies and until whenever we got our first cd player... We PAID guys to carry those boxes and crates to their truck and then to a basement closet here.
And I have a box of well-worn 45's from the sixties. I keep thinking there's a valuable one in there, but so far, what do I know?
We can't take anything with us if we move overseas. The piano has to stay. Oh, and did I mention the magazines from way back, documenting "The Revolution". LA Free Press before it became a porn rag? Most issues of The Realist. And two "Whole Earth Catalog" final issue.
Stop me, I'm getting nostalgic.


flying_wahini

(6,606 posts)
12. I loved NZ and would move there in a minute but we are too told and we would
Sat Apr 7, 2018, 11:11 PM
Apr 2018

Have to liquidate everything to get to move there.

flying_wahini

(6,606 posts)
11. I loved that area when we visited several years ago.
Sat Apr 7, 2018, 11:09 PM
Apr 2018

Be sure and keep in touch with us and let us know how it goes.
My husband and I discussed it but just couldn't find a way to pull
the plug and retired to our home town.
Best wishes! Bon voyage!

 

Hulk

(6,699 posts)
13. Making a similar move to Mexico in or near June.
Sat Apr 7, 2018, 11:26 PM
Apr 2018

Glad yours worked out well for you. Ours won't be so sweet.

Can no longer afford to rent in the PNW. Moving back to Mexico where my modest Social Security and small pension can keep us above water. Looking forward to the change of weather and the new life.

Everything must go, and that's going to really be hard. We've lived here for 8 yrs, and we've accumulated way too much. My heart is breaking, and my wife is not crazy about returning to her homeland. It just didn't work out for us.

Not sure how to wrap this up. Many a sleepless nights ahead. Time will tell.

Good luck to you in your new life.

GoneOffShore

(17,340 posts)
22. Hang in there. It's tough to get rid of the things one has gathered.
Sun Apr 8, 2018, 09:22 AM
Apr 2018

So sorry it didn't work out for you.

KPN

(15,646 posts)
14. Good time to leave for sure. Do us a favor, VOTE! so we won't miss you.
Sat Apr 7, 2018, 11:31 PM
Apr 2018

All the best. I'm sure many of us are envious. I certainly am. Well, somewhat anyway; we can't see ourselves an ocean away from our three young adult kids at this point.

Pepsidog

(6,254 posts)
15. Gonna miss the emergence of Sixers and Eagles dynasties. But wish you well. We have 34 years of
Sat Apr 7, 2018, 11:48 PM
Apr 2018

stuff. That’s stuff my wife and I accumulated along with 4 kids. 2 in colllege, 1 out of college and one starting medical school in June. And wife is a pack rat. Haven’t thrown a thing away in 31 years of marriage including kids stuff. Talk about stuff, We sold our shore house and now have stuff from 2 Homes in 1 house and a storage unit. Crazy this stuff definitely owns us lock stock and barrel. Just gave away 12 large trash bags of just my clothes many with tags still on to goodwill and that was just first pass through stuff. Have 2 more rounds of going through my stuff. I’m donating everything. It’s a daunting emotionally draining process. Finding things haven’t seen in 25 years. Where did the time go? Stuff, stuff, stuff, I’m drowning in stuff. Mother Stuffer.

Pepsidog

(6,254 posts)
16. Amusing story about the word stuff
Sun Apr 8, 2018, 12:00 AM
Apr 2018

1983 I was an exchange student living with a reverend and his wife in Australia attending University of Sidney. First night we are finishing up dinner (tea they call it) and my Australian mom asked if I wanted more food. I said no thanks “I’m stuffed “. Well she shot me a look in disbelief. The Rev told me they use the word “stuffed” differently there. Found out that Australians use the word like we use the word “ f_cked” so in essence I said told her “no thanks I’m f_cked” . Have since watched quite a few Australian shows and sure enough “get f_cked” is a often used term.

Fla Dem

(23,690 posts)
19. You are a brave, adventurous couple. Best of luck in your new home.
Sun Apr 8, 2018, 09:19 AM
Apr 2018

I've moved 4 times to 3 different states. At this time in my life I can't even imagine packing up another house full of stuff and moving again, never mind across the ocean.

WhiteTara

(29,718 posts)
26. Call an auction house.
Sun Apr 8, 2018, 12:33 PM
Apr 2018

They will clean out and sell everything down to the ajax. It's the only way to go in my opinion. You take what you want and they will deal with the rest and give you money.

Sedona

(3,769 posts)
28. Call a good Realtor anyway....
Sun Apr 8, 2018, 12:40 PM
Apr 2018

They inevitably will have the name and number of a great estate sale person.

mnhtnbb

(31,392 posts)
29. You are making it happen! Good for you.
Sun Apr 8, 2018, 12:40 PM
Apr 2018

I am still toying with the idea of moving abroad after my divorce is final...but given how much energy it took for me to just
set up an apartment in Raleigh, I don't know if I could make a move abroad on my own in another year or two.

I wish you luck with the long-stay visa. I have an American friend in Lyon who just successfully applied for citizenship, but he is married
to a French citizen.

flying_wahini

(6,606 posts)
30. Hate to ask but curious how you will manage the health care issue.
Sun Apr 8, 2018, 12:43 PM
Apr 2018

I know France used to be pretty friendly about offfering health care practically free
it but not sure about all the changes in the last few years.
I never checked back about it, but thought
I would ask in case you are inclined to share...

GoneOffShore

(17,340 posts)
33. We're still investigating that. Looks like my Medigap policy will cover 80%
Sun Apr 8, 2018, 08:27 PM
Apr 2018

And Mrs GoS's Blue Cross will take care of her.
Need to investigate further. We're keeping an accommodation address here in the US. Until we don't need to.

GoneOffShore

(17,340 posts)
39. I regret the books and records and some furniture going.
Wed Apr 11, 2018, 09:18 AM
Apr 2018

And my manual typewriter that I had since 1969.

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