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mvd

(65,173 posts)
Wed May 23, 2018, 01:47 PM May 2018

I have to put my dog Gordon down today

Turns out he has lymph node cancer and the only thing keeping him going was the steroid. The steroid might keep him ok for a short while longer, but it would only delay the inevitable. He has acted quite sick today and yesterday. He's a Goldendoodle and the best dog I have ever owned. Intelligent, loving, spirited, friendly to all. I only had him for 10 short years. It never gets any easier saying goodbye.

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I have to put my dog Gordon down today (Original Post) mvd May 2018 OP
Gordon 🕯️ irisblue May 2018 #1
So sorry dawg day May 2018 #2
A lot of memories and photos indeed mvd May 2018 #5
My condolences, mvd True Dough May 2018 #3
I am sorry for your loss, True Dough mvd May 2018 #6
You are making the correct decision jberryhill May 2018 #4
So very sorry. Scarsdale May 2018 #34
I am so sorry montanacowboy May 2018 #7
It was the best gift you could give to your Gordon. Botany May 2018 #8
My heart goes out to you... Raster May 2018 #9
((((((mud and Gordon)))))) niyad May 2018 #10
... Eliot Rosewater May 2018 #11
Thanks all mvd May 2018 #12
I am so sorry ! JanetLovesObama May 2018 #13
Condolences to you RIP Gordon lunasun May 2018 #14
Oh, tough news. I'm so sorry. RandomAccess May 2018 #15
Hugs to mvd... Tikki May 2018 #16
always so hard. mopinko May 2018 #17
I am so sorry. UrbScotty May 2018 #18
So sorry jpak May 2018 #19
Farewell to Gordon, Run Free ... Donkees May 2018 #20
.... Laffy Kat May 2018 #21
Gordon LyndaG May 2018 #22
I am so sorry, mvd. Solly Mack May 2018 #23
RIP Gorden Soxfan58 May 2018 #24
I'm sorry about your loss MVD. It hurts a lot to lose such a loyal friend. jalan48 May 2018 #25
He is lucky to have had you as u him Chickensoup May 2018 #26
I hope your grieving and tears soon turn to smiles of happiness in your memories of sweet Gordon. PearliePoo2 May 2018 #27
I understand your pain Sylvarose May 2018 #28
I'm so sorry. You and mvd are in my thoughts today renate May 2018 #33
Very sorry to hear this mvd May 2018 #58
I am sooo sorry. Duppers May 2018 #29
May it help you to know that so many of us have experienced having to do "the hard thing". pazzyanne May 2018 #30
I'm sorry....I had a dog named Gordie (full name Gordon Grant Spaniel) LisaM May 2018 #31
So sorry Mvd. bronxiteforever May 2018 #32
I'm so very sorry. It sounds like you gave him a wonderful life. flibbitygiblets May 2018 #35
That sucks PJMcK May 2018 #36
You can tell the vet you want to hold him until he passes. lunatica May 2018 #37
Goldendoodles are lovely dogs. BobTheSubgenius May 2018 #38
Does MVD stand for Most Valued Dog? Bayard May 2018 #39
No it doesn't get any easier.....Gordon KNOWS you love him....He sounds onecent May 2018 #40
I feel very badly for you and your loss. BigmanPigman May 2018 #41
You're right-- it never gets any easier ailsagirl May 2018 #42
A Farewell to My Lovely Dog Grizzly SARFTS May 2018 #43
I am so sorry get the red out May 2018 #44
Condolences on the loss of your beloved Gordon. gademocrat7 May 2018 #45
My sympathies.. mountain grammy May 2018 #46
RIP, Gordon. The Velveteen Ocelot May 2018 #47
You gave Gordon 10 loving years and he gave love back to you. Cherish the memories. Fla Dem May 2018 #48
I took him down to the vet this afternoon mvd May 2018 #49
so very sorry for the loss of sweet Gordon, peacebuzzard May 2018 #51
I'm so very sorry for your loss. It is a hard decision to make. sinkingfeeling May 2018 #50
So, so sorry. colorado_ufo May 2018 #52
I'm sorry MustLoveBeagles May 2018 #53
So sorry snacker May 2018 #54
Oh, I am so sorry! smirkymonkey May 2018 #55
I am sorry for your loss Gothmog May 2018 #56
there is no way to avoid the pain of such a loss. dixiegrrrrl May 2018 #57
I feel you Wawannabe May 2018 #59
I wish dogs and cats could live as long as people Wolf Frankula May 2018 #60
Its very sad. My dog is 7 years old now and I dread ooky May 2018 #61
Have had my worst days today and yesterday mvd May 2018 #62
I've had three goldens/golden mixes as an adult. janx May 2018 #63

dawg day

(7,947 posts)
2. So sorry
Wed May 23, 2018, 01:50 PM
May 2018

He sounds like a wonderful dog. I hope the passing is easy, and you have memories and photos.

mvd

(65,173 posts)
5. A lot of memories and photos indeed
Wed May 23, 2018, 01:53 PM
May 2018

I'll remember all the great times we had. Thank you dawg day!

True Dough

(17,305 posts)
3. My condolences, mvd
Wed May 23, 2018, 01:51 PM
May 2018

I've said farewell to a few dogs over the years. The last one, a German shepherd/husky cross, was 13 and she was a great girl. The vet allowed my wife and I to stay in the room with her after the needle and we spent about 20 to 25 minutes, shedding many tears.

We have a picture of her on the kitchen counter. We also have a male German shepherd/mastiff rescue from the SPCA and he's a wonderful friend.

mvd

(65,173 posts)
6. I am sorry for your loss, True Dough
Wed May 23, 2018, 01:54 PM
May 2018

And thanks. I will not be getting another dog right away. Always need a grieving period.

 

jberryhill

(62,444 posts)
4. You are making the correct decision
Wed May 23, 2018, 01:52 PM
May 2018

I was in similar circumstances, and we went to the end with it. In retrospect, I should have made a decision sooner.

Scarsdale

(9,426 posts)
34. So very sorry.
Wed May 23, 2018, 03:49 PM
May 2018

My Rotttweiler was only 6 1/2 and had bone cancer. Tore me apart to have her put to sleep. Remember, we have to love them enough to let them go. My daughter had a Doberman with bone cancer. They decided to have his leg removed. I watched the light go out of that dog's eyes. He was so ill, even after the amputation. I swore never to have a dog go through that. You are doing the right thing. Don't let him continue to suffer. It is so hard on us, but they are in pain. They trust us to do the right thing.

montanacowboy

(6,089 posts)
7. I am so sorry
Wed May 23, 2018, 01:55 PM
May 2018

It's so hard, it's the worst thing in our pet parent's lives to have to do, but we know it's for them and for their good.

Botany

(70,504 posts)
8. It was the best gift you could give to your Gordon.
Wed May 23, 2018, 01:57 PM
May 2018

And the pain you feel now is a sign of how much you loved each other.

niyad

(113,306 posts)
10. ((((((mud and Gordon))))))
Wed May 23, 2018, 02:05 PM
May 2018

Lady of the Beasts, please take Your little one gently home, and send comfort and feeling to all who love and cherish him.

you are correct. it is never easy saying goodbye. your du family is here for you.

 

JanetLovesObama

(548 posts)
13. I am so sorry !
Wed May 23, 2018, 02:12 PM
May 2018

I know how deep the pain goes. I put my Charley (18 yrs old) down March 15 and it is still killing me.

mopinko

(70,103 posts)
17. always so hard.
Wed May 23, 2018, 02:44 PM
May 2018


you did the right thing. it is so hard to know, but my guideline is that they would go through anything for more time w us, and if i could explain that to them, i would go the whole way. but i cant. so i end up doing so many things that must seem so mean to them. even sticking a pill down their throat for pain. they dont know why the pain fell. if they did they would thank me. all they know is someone they trust is sticking things down their throats.
they must feel so betrayed when we put them through so many traumas.
i just wont do that to a person who has been loyal to me their whole lives.

be good to yourself.
and get a puppy as soon as you are able to do that. nothing cures a broken heart like a puppy.

PearliePoo2

(7,768 posts)
27. I hope your grieving and tears soon turn to smiles of happiness in your memories of sweet Gordon.
Wed May 23, 2018, 03:29 PM
May 2018

I still hurt losing my rescue Border Collie over two years ago.
She was a little over 15 and the love of my life. But, it was time. The worst day of my life.
Her name was 'Pearl' (I called her PearliePoo). My user name is for her.

Peace be with you mvd.





Sylvarose

(210 posts)
28. I understand your pain
Wed May 23, 2018, 03:32 PM
May 2018

My deepest condolences for your loss.

I had to put one of my beloved cats down on Monday. She was a tortie. It's so quiet without her. She was a talker, a snuggler, and a diva. I miss her terribly. It breaks my heart to see my remaining kitty looking for her around the house.

SR

renate

(13,776 posts)
33. I'm so sorry. You and mvd are in my thoughts today
Wed May 23, 2018, 03:49 PM
May 2018

It's just the worst thing to have to do, although it's also so good that we have the option, with so much love and always with what is best for them in our hearts, to put an end to their suffering.

But being responsible for that decision, and to miss them so achingly when they're gone... it's just so hard.

mvd

(65,173 posts)
58. Very sorry to hear this
Thu May 24, 2018, 02:39 AM
May 2018

My condolences go out. Yes the first thing I am noticing is a profound emptiness in the house. Dogs are so much a part of our lives.

I have had 4 dogs in my life - Scotty (terrier who died at 13), Benji (Scottish Terrier who died at 11 1/2 of cancer), Reba (possible Akita/Chow/Golden Retriever mix - maybe more breeds - who died at 11 1/2 of cancer), and Gordon. Scotty I think died of organ failure. Unfortunately my beloved Gordon had the shortest life of all my dogs.

pazzyanne

(6,556 posts)
30. May it help you to know that so many of us have experienced having to do "the hard thing".
Wed May 23, 2018, 03:42 PM
May 2018

There comes a time, when helping your beloved pet cross the rainbow bridge is the last kindness you do for them. I am sure that Gordon will be waiting for you on the other side, ready to run and play with you again when the time comes. Until them, take care.

LisaM

(27,811 posts)
31. I'm sorry....I had a dog named Gordie (full name Gordon Grant Spaniel)
Wed May 23, 2018, 03:43 PM
May 2018

and we had to make the tough decision for him too. He was older than your guy, but he was a rescue and we only had 10 years with him, too. He was the sweetest dog I ever met.

May they enjoy the Happy Hunting Grounds together.

PJMcK

(22,037 posts)
36. That sucks
Wed May 23, 2018, 03:57 PM
May 2018

I'm sorry to hear of your loss. Dogs can be such amazing friends and their loss can be powerful.

We have an appointment on Friday to euthanize our 16-year old cocker spaniel. He's become increasingly incontinent and although he eats and drinks heartily, the results are uncomfortable for all of us. We're going to miss Bubba.

I hope you have some peace, mvd.

lunatica

(53,410 posts)
37. You can tell the vet you want to hold him until he passes.
Wed May 23, 2018, 04:03 PM
May 2018

I did that with my dog and whispered all the endearments I ever used until the end. She passed very gently with my arms wrapped snuggly around her. She was my son’s dog, the love of his life. He died a year before and I know that if by any chance there is an afterlife he was there to take her from my arms.

BobTheSubgenius

(11,563 posts)
38. Goldendoodles are lovely dogs.
Wed May 23, 2018, 04:03 PM
May 2018

I'm so sorry you won't have Gordon for the many more years that you both deserve.

Bayard

(22,073 posts)
39. Does MVD stand for Most Valued Dog?
Wed May 23, 2018, 04:13 PM
May 2018

So sorry. Apparently this is the most common cancer in dogs. I've lost a couple to it now. Never gets any easier, but I'm sure Gordon would be all for getting another dog to fill the hole in your heart that he left.

Be well.

BigmanPigman

(51,593 posts)
41. I feel very badly for you and your loss.
Wed May 23, 2018, 04:27 PM
May 2018

You are doing the hardest thing in the world. I dread having to do the same with my little girl which will be happening too soon (she is 15). Get rest and pamper yourself.

 

SARFTS

(8 posts)
43. A Farewell to My Lovely Dog Grizzly
Wed May 23, 2018, 04:29 PM
May 2018

Last edited Wed May 23, 2018, 05:04 PM - Edit history (1)

My condolences, a very sad day I came across this a while back and had to save it. I'm up there in age and throughout my life I had to put 3 dogs down. Always love my Brittanys. Lovable and loyal. Would hunt to exhaustion. Just a link that tore me up. Wish I could express as well as Alice: "His name was Grizzly, and he was a good boy."
http://www.dogster.com/lifestyle/loss-of-a-pet-farewell-my-dog-died-grizzly-rip-letter-tribute







gademocrat7

(10,657 posts)
45. Condolences on the loss of your beloved Gordon.
Wed May 23, 2018, 04:38 PM
May 2018

Goodbyes are heartbreaking. I have been on this journey with 5 of my Jack Russell Terriers.

The Velveteen Ocelot

(115,693 posts)
47. RIP, Gordon.
Wed May 23, 2018, 06:05 PM
May 2018

It's so hard to let them go but it has to be done as the last act of love - been through it with cats (RIP, Charles, Alice, Woody and Teddy) and it doesn't get easier. But even though it hurts when they leave us, we wouldn't want to go through life without our animal friends.

mvd

(65,173 posts)
49. I took him down to the vet this afternoon
Wed May 23, 2018, 06:44 PM
May 2018

It was very peaceful. Hopefully Gordon is now in Dog Heaven where he gets all the jerky treats he can and plays in perfect health. Thanks again for the wonderful support.

MustLoveBeagles

(11,611 posts)
53. I'm sorry
Wed May 23, 2018, 09:28 PM
May 2018

My beagle Schatzie had this and we ended up putting her down. She went one day before her 11th birthday. It wasn't easy but we had no choice. She was suffering. I'll never forget her pleading little eyes begging us to talk the pain away. Both she and Gordon are in a better place now.

Gothmog

(145,242 posts)
56. I am sorry for your loss
Wed May 23, 2018, 10:45 PM
May 2018

We had to say goodbye to one of our PBGVs a couple of months ago. It was hard

dixiegrrrrl

(60,010 posts)
57. there is no way to avoid the pain of such a loss.
Wed May 23, 2018, 11:59 PM
May 2018

I am so sorry you are having that heart ache now.

Wawannabe

(5,661 posts)
59. I feel you
Thu May 24, 2018, 10:42 PM
May 2018

I lost my Zeus April 23. Still very very sad. I have no routine. He was the routine.
So sorry for you. Take care. Chin up if can.

Wolf Frankula

(3,601 posts)
60. I wish dogs and cats could live as long as people
Thu May 24, 2018, 10:59 PM
May 2018

My sympathies are with you and your four legged friend.

Wolf

ooky

(8,923 posts)
61. Its very sad. My dog is 7 years old now and I dread
Fri May 25, 2018, 11:15 AM
May 2018

the day this happens to us. You have my heartfelt sympathy for your loss.

mvd

(65,173 posts)
62. Have had my worst days today and yesterday
Sat May 26, 2018, 05:56 PM
May 2018

Was a bit numb the first day.

I will put some pictures up later to remember him by. Just want to pick them out.

Even though Gordon was a mixed breed, the cancer gene in Golden Retrievers can be strong, and I never knew Gordon's Golden Retriever dad. Never saw either parent. If I ever get a dog again, I'd like more health info. Gordon did live a nice 10 full years, looking at the positive side.

janx

(24,128 posts)
63. I've had three goldens/golden mixes as an adult.
Sat May 26, 2018, 09:15 PM
May 2018

Two of them succumbed to cancer, the last one, the mix, just a couple of months ago.

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