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GreenPartyVoter

(72,381 posts)
Sun Mar 17, 2019, 01:14 PM Mar 2019

My bro lost his job last month. This month it was my turn.

I'm still alive, but also still eating/running from my feelings more than I want to be. Couldn't afford the counselor anymore for my anxiety/eating disorder/bipolar, but that's now a moot point as the elimination of my job means even less money (ie mortgage payment) and no more insurance for health care. And hubby's business is still floundering, a victim of a tough economy and transitioning technologies. But on the plus side, the family and kitties are mostly healthy, and we still have a roof over our heads.

I'm scrambling to get a resume and portfolio together. Though I am not letting myself feel it, I am terribly sad to leave my school and adorable kids. I fear not finding a new position in a school nearby (as you recall, I don't drive) almost as much as I fear landing a job and not being good enough for it. At any rate, there's a lot of fear going on here. And cookie baking. Lots and lots of it.

Anyway, thanks for letting me vent. I may be mostly a lurker these days, but after all these years I still consider DU to be my online community.

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My bro lost his job last month. This month it was my turn. (Original Post) GreenPartyVoter Mar 2019 OP
Keeping my fingers crossed for you, GreenPartyVoter. In_The_Wind Mar 2019 #1
Thank you so much! GreenPartyVoter Mar 2019 #31
So sorry friend TEB Mar 2019 #2
Thank you! GreenPartyVoter Mar 2019 #32
This was my Dad's advice about finding a new job LakeArenal Mar 2019 #3
That's a good perspective for many of life's challenges. Thanks for posting. badhair77 Mar 2019 #8
I like that perspective! GreenPartyVoter Mar 2019 #33
I don't know your age, but contact AARP. Faygo Kid Mar 2019 #4
Thank you. I'm 48, so it didn't occur to me to look there for assistance. GreenPartyVoter Mar 2019 #34
Hang in there GPV! jpak Mar 2019 #5
And mud/pothole season is already here! GreenPartyVoter Mar 2019 #35
My driveway is an iceberg filled lake jpak Mar 2019 #41
This may not help, guillaumeb Mar 2019 #6
Thanks! Will look into the PO. My dad was a rural route carrier for years. GreenPartyVoter Mar 2019 #36
So sorry pamela Mar 2019 #7
Thanks!! GreenPartyVoter Mar 2019 #38
I'm not up on job hunting...been retired too long. Be confident, smiling and happy...that's Karadeniz Mar 2019 #9
Thank you! I will do my best to radiate that kind of energy. :) GreenPartyVoter Mar 2019 #39
I feel your pain. I'm losing my job too. bif Mar 2019 #10
Oh, no! I am so sorry it's happened to you too! GreenPartyVoter Mar 2019 #40
My heart goes out to you, my dear GreenPartyVoter...... CaliforniaPeggy Mar 2019 #11
I'm sending positive thoughts that you get a job right away! lunatica Mar 2019 #12
As for the health insurance, Habibi Mar 2019 #13
Good idea! BigmanPigman Mar 2019 #19
My understanding is that COBRA is really expensive. Habibi Mar 2019 #22
My wise sister always told me, Delmette2.0 Mar 2019 #14
Do not allow yourself to think that Scarsdale Mar 2019 #15
But, But Kellyanne Conway just told me.. busterbrown Mar 2019 #16
Sending you good, positive energy! MLAA Mar 2019 #17
Oh so sorry hermetic Mar 2019 #18
I'm sorry Blue_playwright Mar 2019 #20
6 months hurple Mar 2019 #21
I don't K&R lightly. UTUSN Mar 2019 #23
Are you a teacher? Get on the substitute list. roody Mar 2019 #24
so sorry to hear this Kali Mar 2019 #25
Strong hugs darlin' Tikki Mar 2019 #26
All good wishes for a successful job search! Fla Dem Mar 2019 #27
Sending positive vibes. onecaliberal Mar 2019 #28
one thing i learned berksdem Mar 2019 #29
Kitties? Kimber432 Mar 2019 #30
Keep going, you have already proven that you have Miigwech Mar 2019 #37

LakeArenal

(28,845 posts)
3. This was my Dad's advice about finding a new job
Sun Mar 17, 2019, 01:24 PM
Mar 2019

Don’t know if it still applies in the new world order, but it helped me....

When you look for a new job, a few things will happen...

You may find a job worse than the one you lost.

You may find a job as good as the job you lost.

You may find a job better than the job you lost.

That’s a 2/3’s chance you’ll find a job as good as or better than the job you lost.

That’s pretty good odds.

Good Luck. 🍀

badhair77

(4,220 posts)
8. That's a good perspective for many of life's challenges. Thanks for posting.
Sun Mar 17, 2019, 01:57 PM
Mar 2019

Greenpartyvoter, good vibes going your way that an even better job is waiting for you.

Faygo Kid

(21,478 posts)
4. I don't know your age, but contact AARP.
Sun Mar 17, 2019, 01:24 PM
Mar 2019

It doesn't matter how old you are, you're not alone. They are a great group of folks who will help you. I worked there 10 years, and know.

Keep me posted.

guillaumeb

(42,641 posts)
6. This may not help,
Sun Mar 17, 2019, 01:50 PM
Mar 2019

but Costco is hiring in April, and the USPS is hiring throughout the year.

Costco pays $15 an hour, the USPS pays approximately $17 per hour.

Good luck with the search.

Karadeniz

(22,572 posts)
9. I'm not up on job hunting...been retired too long. Be confident, smiling and happy...that's
Sun Mar 17, 2019, 02:01 PM
Mar 2019

What people want to surround them. All the best in this new opportunity!

bif

(22,745 posts)
10. I feel your pain. I'm losing my job too.
Sun Mar 17, 2019, 02:05 PM
Mar 2019

They want me to stay on until the end of the month. Which would be strange, knowing I'm history. But I have two weeks vacation, so I'm calling in tomorrow and letting them know I'm using it. They'll be pissed and try to pull something, I'm sure. It'll allow me time to update my portfolio and start making calls.

CaliforniaPeggy

(149,698 posts)
11. My heart goes out to you, my dear GreenPartyVoter......
Sun Mar 17, 2019, 02:05 PM
Mar 2019

I join with the other posters here to wish you happy hunting and lots of good vibes along with it!

lunatica

(53,410 posts)
12. I'm sending positive thoughts that you get a job right away!
Sun Mar 17, 2019, 02:23 PM
Mar 2019

And that it turns out to be better than all your previous ones!

I got laid off twice and was rehired right away because of my experience. Be sure to get good recommendations if you can.

Habibi

(3,598 posts)
13. As for the health insurance,
Sun Mar 17, 2019, 02:26 PM
Mar 2019

can you get onto a plan via the national or your state exchange? Losing insurance due to the loss of a job is a qualifying event.

BigmanPigman

(51,627 posts)
19. Good idea!
Sun Mar 17, 2019, 03:52 PM
Mar 2019

Does the former school district have COBRA?

Maybe Green could tutor kids or work with home schooled kids or substitute until a permanent position is found.

Habibi

(3,598 posts)
22. My understanding is that COBRA is really expensive.
Sun Mar 17, 2019, 05:39 PM
Mar 2019

I'd call whatever exchange is available to her and see what the options are there, first.

Scarsdale

(9,426 posts)
15. Do not allow yourself to think that
Sun Mar 17, 2019, 02:30 PM
Mar 2019

you "may not be good enough for a job" Show them what a great choice they made, hiring you. Be the best worker you can be, pitch in enthusiastically. All your life's experiences combined to make you who you are. Put on a smile, and go out there. Good luck. Whoever lands you will be getting a gem, show them that.

Blue_playwright

(1,568 posts)
20. I'm sorry
Sun Mar 17, 2019, 03:57 PM
Mar 2019

I lost my teaching gig years ago and wound up having to reinvent myself. If you can’t land somewhere you like, don’t fear it. I did it at 40. 👋

hurple

(1,306 posts)
21. 6 months
Sun Mar 17, 2019, 04:58 PM
Mar 2019

August 31, 2018 I was walked out of the job that I have had for the past 21 years (almost to the day). I worked for one of the BIG Insurance companies, that just switched CEO's 5 years ago, as a Systems Analyst, and for some unknown reason the new CEO decided 2018 was a great year to cut investment in the systems department. Over a thousand were cut from that department. I was one.

It took 6 months, because of a glut of talent in the marketplace, and was the hardest thing I've ever been through in my life (and our house burned down taking *everything* my family ever owned with it 6 years ago) but I finally found another job. It pays $20,000 less than I was making, setting me back by a decade, but it has better benefits than the job I left (seriously, my first year I'll get more PTO than I was getting in a year at the old job after 20 years!) and a PENSION (which I thought I'd never have again)

It took so long because,

1) I'm 50.

B. My only Systems job has been at the insurance company, I'm entirely self-taught, and the "technical interviews" given by 99% of employers are biased against the self-taught, and older, programmers.

III - I'm not a very good interview.

6 months of fighting, not sleeping, depression and no healthcare has taken a serious toll, though. I could not get motivated to exercise (I do DDPYoga of all things) so I gained 30 lbs, and I look like I've aged about 20 years.

I sent out over 350 resumes, and interviewed so many times I've lost count (dozens, there were weeks I had at least one interview every day). The vast majority of them gave me the feedback "the interview went well, but... " followed by informing me there was another candidate that had some obscure experience in a tool or software that I've never even heard of... so they hired that person instead.

I filed the check-in for my very last unemployment check an hour before I received the email informing me of the job offer. And, I've still got 1/2 my severance money left (which wasn't as much as it should be IMO, but at least it'll help augment my new salary for a few years. I hope.

But, at least I won't be losing my house. (We got to build our dream house to replace the one that was destroyed, so losing that would have been devastating) I may not be able to eat every night, but I won't lose the house.

roody

(10,849 posts)
24. Are you a teacher? Get on the substitute list.
Sun Mar 17, 2019, 09:53 PM
Mar 2019

Kids are disrespectful, but you can keep them safe for a day, and that makes a successful day. Nobody got hurt.

Kali

(55,019 posts)
25. so sorry to hear this
Sun Mar 17, 2019, 09:54 PM
Mar 2019

enjoy the cookies completely then start with a clean slate tomorrow. run in a healthier way by doing what you learned to love - get out and do a hike.

berksdem

(595 posts)
29. one thing i learned
Mon Mar 18, 2019, 01:01 PM
Mar 2019

a while back when being unemployed is be kind to yourself. Take time to relax a few minutes a day and just breathe... job hunting is stressful and you are in a position that many of us have been through and through no fault of our own.

best wishes as you begin your search! things will turn for the better!!

Kimber432

(74 posts)
30. Kitties?
Mon Mar 18, 2019, 03:22 PM
Mar 2019

Don't forget the huge need for reliable, honest pet sitters. If you have kitties, this may be a side job (or even a full time one!) for you. I had a good many clients in Nashville TN when I lived there. I did not have to advertise. It was just word of mouth. Most were professional people - attorneys and such. Having had back surgery, I wasn't able to walk dogs but my clients were fine with that. Just a thought. Wishing you and the kitties all the best.

 

Miigwech

(3,741 posts)
37. Keep going, you have already proven that you have
Mon Mar 18, 2019, 05:11 PM
Mar 2019

succeeded in our BS economy. Bipolar sufferers have an amazing thing ... from my observations ... they are smarter than the average bureaucracy. Calm your nerves, you will find the way.

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