Figure on eating and drinking. You might enjoy.

Stay home. Get a token gift and call it done.

These things are happening nowadays!

Look at it as just a party invitation. If you dread the company of these people, don't go. I actually think it's a lovely idea. Sounds like your wife wants to go. Choose your battles.

would not have approved of throwing a shower for your own daughter. Just saying. Nobody knows who Emily Post was anyway.

wow! Although I'd think at that age they could afford all the things they need.

Oh, wait, you mean their daughter is having a baby! Never mind.

And I don't think there's a rule that the future grandparents can't throw the baby shower. And no, you don't have to go or send a gift if you don't want to. A simple RSVP politely declining to attend is sufficient.

It's been awhile since I've been to one. But isn't it someone in the future Mom's family that hosts the shower? Who else would host a baby shower?

If your wife would like to go, then do something nice for her and go. It's what? A few hours?

I feel bad for my wife who goes to these things. I think she actually enjoys them. Yikes. Sounds like absolute torture!

If she enjoys them, she should go.

Will she feel awkward if you don't go with her? (I know these days these previous chick-flick events are now co-ed)

I see nothing wrong with parents hosting. Getting a friend to sponsor an event can be a PITA and young couples can use the gifts.
My in laws hosted their daughter's. My in-laws hosted both my wedding and baby shower. (36 and 34 years ago)

If you both don't want to attend that's OK too. If you want to support the couple, contribute to their registry.

The main purpose of a shower is the gifts. All the other stuff is a side-show!!
But don't you want to play baby bingo??? Get with the times!! (Just kidding)

And family members are invited.

I think it's kinda weird.

then a "family and friends of the family" shower. Two distinctly different events. The "friends" one would be all the "Mom To Be" friends and put together by a friend. The family one would be for grandma's, aunts, cousins and friends of the family which would be pulled together by the family. I guess if the MTB doesn't have a lot of friends, then the 2 could be combined but still coordinated by the family because of the family involvement.

anymore than the bride's mother doesn't throw the shower. Used to be not done. Don't know anymore but it still is kind of a turn off for me.

and don't like baby showers so I certainly would not go to one for someone I barely know. I traveled to my son and daughter-in-law's baby shower for my first grandson. We climbed Seattle's Queen Anne Avenue to Kelly Park and an hour or so later I started to have "issues."

Ended up in ICU for a week, diagnosed with Takotsubo, which is Japanese for "octopus pot." Not a heart attack but it affects the heart's ability to function.

Long story short, I'll apparently go to any length to miss a baby shower!

even if you don't know them, it's for the baby so it's all good