Everyone grieves the death of loved one's differently. Some need privacy and are to pained to tell anyone. I know this, because it is how I felt about the death of my niece last month. I still cry just thinking about it.

wondering about her one day so i googled her name and found the obit. They got mad at me for something I haven't a clue what I did strange family. I always liked her and my uncle.

My uncle died in April but my brother and I weren't informed until August - by an email from a cousin in response to something else. The family wasn't especially close but there was no bad blood either, so I'm not sure what happened there.

Then one year they moved it up a week and never told me. I found out after driving two hours and a neighbor told me they had it the week before. I guess I did something.

There would have been time for them to get to see her. By the time he called them, it was too late to even go to the funeral.

One of her brothers called me, in tears, to let me know what had happened. I then got busy to let the few remaining cousins know she was gone. None of us had seen her for years, but I knew everyone would want to know, and reach out to the brothers.

My sister had died about a year before, and he was with us as the family all came together to mourn. I think that contrast made what happened that much harder for him.

I did not know until I received an email!

Good gawd!!

So, yeah, I know how you feel.

showed up with an unsigned will and the probate judge honored the will. How about that for the rule of law? He had he no original or any copies but she brought a lawyer that claimed he signed it.

Only in my case I was his former girlfriend of 6 years and current good friend and only person he really talked to and had permanently in his life.

Made me feel like, “Oh, you aren’t important. You’re just the person who stuck with him no matter what.” Which doesn’t exactly help when you’re feeling like you let him down.

boyfriend die suddenly who I was still good friends with and I was pretty much his only friend. I heard about it a week after they found him.

We spoke every day on the phone and when I hadn’t heard from him and couldn’t reach him I started calling around. I finally found out and I called a couple we often got together with to tell them, asked them to call me back because I didn’t think I should tell them on voicemail, they didn’t get back, I finally got a hold of them, and oops we knew a week ago that he died but we didn’t get back to you when you asked us to OR call you when we heard the news a week ago. Like, WTF??? I was numb from hearing he died and when that second blow landed my mind went blank and there was just dead air in my head. (That’s à radio term, for you youngsters.) This was 5 years ago. I finally got my head around him dying, and the fact that he wasn’t found immediately, but them not calling me I just don’t know what to do with. File it the “no closure” box I guess.

his son/my cousin called me ASAP, within 6 hours, crying and sobbing.

When my oldest son died i wanted to be the person to tell his best friend. Somehow he found out before I could talk to him. He avoided me for days. But, in my grief I could not see that he was avoiding me, I believed all the excuses. Out of consideration for the friend I put off the obituary and announcement of the memorial for a couple of days.

His denial and grief is understandable but the problems it created for me and his brother are difficult to forgive.

We all handle grief differently and in different stages. It is taken me a long time to understand this.