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I have been whining for years about not doing these stupid holiday meals. So much going on for us right now; moving an 82 year old family friend 250 miles last weekend, lost alcoholic/addict sibling going into hospice, kids doing a lot of their own things. The super tradition-bound son has gone to have dinner at the other son's new family place. I begged out to deal with the old family friend, who has let me off the hook so it is just the husband, me and possibly the third kid if she can get her vehicle across the wash (1.65 inches of rain since yesterday and still falling). She has plenty of other options so I'm not too worried about that, but I am still setting myself up for a whole day of cooking. Why?
The Velveteen Ocelot
(115,735 posts)and that other plans will have to be made for next year and the future. Sounds like it's time for your friends or relatives to be the host and you the guest.
Kali
(55,014 posts)I have no credibility since I announce that every year
the fact that I am doing this even though the son that has been my past excuse is not here is a sign that it is really my own pathology, I think.
I was so close to going with to the other son's place but thought I might need to be around for the old friend who doesn't know anybody here yet, then last night he showed me the Marie Calendar turkey frozen dinner he was going to have while he continues getting his apartment in order, happy as a clam to be alone...I had a moment of real jealousy!
Arkansas Granny
(31,519 posts)We're a family of cooks and just enjoy getting everyone in the kitchen and around the table.
Kali
(55,014 posts)wish I had the room for that, someday maybe...
Freddie
(9,267 posts)Once in a while. And we get the house clean and straightened up for once and hope to keep it that way thru the holidays.
Kali
(55,014 posts)the satisfaction of pulling it off (again). my problem is never getting the house clean part.
pnwest
(3,266 posts)the Mr, and I get exhausted just THINKING about cooking the whole shittery. I fantasize about just a nice steak and baked potato dinner for once. But then I feel a deep lonely sadness. I think for me, more than any other ritual of the year, theres something about cooking this meal, and these dishes, that makes me feel connected to the rest of the world. Feeling the presence of all the other women up at the crack of dawn, going through the same motions, performing the same rituals and tasks, carrying on their mothers and grandmothers traditions...somehow makes me feel connected to...something. I complain about it every year, discuss a shortened menu with the Mister every year, and end up making the whole shebang every year, cause it just doesnt feel right not to.
Kali
(55,014 posts)panader0
(25,816 posts)This rain has been something else. I think we've had more rain since the
monsoon than we did for the monsoon. I was able to fix two of my four roof
leaks before it hit. Pans out for the other two. Much more on the way
tonight and tomorrow. All the best Kali.
Kali
(55,014 posts)ribs sound good! did all the main things and now enjoying some salted cashews and New Mexico Champagne while the turkey cooks. will take a leftover plate to my friend tomorrow.
we had 1.65 inches by 7 this morning and yeah, more on the way, but also wind - yuck.
zanana1
(6,122 posts)That's what I used to do when my husband was alive. It was just the two of us, so I stuffed the chicken. We had cranberry sauce, mashed potatoes and gravy. It was perfect.
Kali
(55,014 posts)the LEFTOVERS! DURRR....
after the electricity came back on it was time to heat up some leftovers. crazy wind, rain and now snow, electric started whacking out around 12:30 last night, finally seems to be back now. was on for a little while around 7, and quit mid flush (pressure pump for water)