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Music Man

(1,184 posts)
Thu Jun 25, 2020, 07:49 PM Jun 2020

I just need to commiserate: Bad bosses are the worst.

Last edited Thu Jun 25, 2020, 09:44 PM - Edit history (1)

I work for someone who is disorganized, sneaky, and belittling. Just this week we were talking on the phone, he got pissed off at my difference of opinion on something, and hung up on me. Every time I start to give him a chance in my mind, he does something demeaning to remind me of the reality.

For a variety of reasons, I can't quit this job until next year at the earliest. He may also be leaving soon, so it's something I could ride out, because I love the job otherwise.

I don't necessarily need stories, I just appreciate the community and knowing I'm not alone. It's awful how someone in a position of power can do so much to destroy your enthusiasm for a workplace.

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I just need to commiserate: Bad bosses are the worst. (Original Post) Music Man Jun 2020 OP
I've had bad bosses wryter2000 Jun 2020 #1
Thank you. I hope so too :) Music Man Jun 2020 #6
I've been there. Be good to yourself. onecaliberal Jun 2020 #2
A bad boss can really be a blight on an otherwise great job. The Velveteen Ocelot Jun 2020 #3
My wife had one of those bosses once Dave in VA Jun 2020 #4
Thanks for the recommendation. Music Man Jun 2020 #7
It's not easy to maintain your dignity.... Mopar151 Jun 2020 #5
I can totally relate. I have had my share of bad bosses. The one I have now is decent, but smirkymonkey Jun 2020 #8

wryter2000

(46,051 posts)
1. I've had bad bosses
Thu Jun 25, 2020, 07:52 PM
Jun 2020

They're the worst because they control your pay. I hope he leaves soon or you can find something else.

I will tell you, one of the worst bosses I ever had was dismissed by the person over her. In part because of how she treated his employees. He took over and turned out to be the best boss I ever had. I hope something like that happens for you.

The Velveteen Ocelot

(115,719 posts)
3. A bad boss can really be a blight on an otherwise great job.
Thu Jun 25, 2020, 08:25 PM
Jun 2020

I had a job I really enjoyed, except that the boss sucked at being a manager. He wasn't a bad guy, but he was one of those people who was good at his original operational job and then got promoted to manager, which he wasn't good at. He'd give incoherent instructions which we tried our best to follow, but then he'd claim that's not what he wanted, so we'd show him the emails containing his instructions and then he'd get mad and say that's not what he meant. Fortunately there was a reorganization as the result of which another manager was appointed and he went back to the job he was actually good at.

Dave in VA

(2,037 posts)
4. My wife had one of those bosses once
Thu Jun 25, 2020, 08:25 PM
Jun 2020

and a friend recommended a book called, "How to Work for a Jerk." It helped her get by until he was transferred to another office and eventually was fired.

Just checked and it is on amazon.

Mopar151

(9,983 posts)
5. It's not easy to maintain your dignity....
Thu Jun 25, 2020, 08:28 PM
Jun 2020

When you are "working" for someone that you would'nt tolerate standing in your driveway.

 

smirkymonkey

(63,221 posts)
8. I can totally relate. I have had my share of bad bosses. The one I have now is decent, but
Fri Jun 26, 2020, 05:09 AM
Jun 2020

there is nothing worse than having someone awful who has control over your financial security (assuming a paycheck is your financial security, which it is for most of us).

If you want to watch something cathartic and funny, may I suggest the movies "Horrible Bosses" and "Horrible Bosses II" starring Jason Sudeikis, Jason Bateman, Charlie Day, Kevin Spacey, Jennifer Aniston, Jamie Foxx, Colin Farrell, etc.

They are pretty funny movies and help you to indulge your revenge fantasies, while remaining perfectly harmless. You can find them on Amazon Prime and Hulu for an extra fee.

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