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I mean, we have all moved on and hopefully have had more interesting adventures since. But, that one person and what could have happened... if
Weird thought that entered my mind!
Skittles
(153,199 posts)Last edited Fri Jun 26, 2020, 11:24 PM - Edit history (1)
I was 14 and was in England....my dad got very sick and was flown back to America, a week later I went back to America too and have not seen or heard from my first love since.
Ahpook
(2,751 posts)Very similar for me!
I wonder where she is and how she is doing.
Skittles
(153,199 posts)his mum had just died so I waited and then when I searched for him again, his niece had just died in a car wreck....have not looked lately
hunter
(38,328 posts)Nobody wanted to sit next to the crazy bloody guy on the long bus ride home.
The Velveteen Ocelot
(115,869 posts)beveeheart
(1,371 posts)NurseJackie
(42,862 posts)No, seriously. I laughed and cheered and jumped for joy.
beveeheart
(1,371 posts)Am I bad for hoping he gets covid-19?
NurseJackie
(42,862 posts)3catwoman3
(24,054 posts)I haven't checked obituaries, but I do not look back fondly.
yonder
(9,678 posts)I'm a lucky fella.
Ahpook
(2,751 posts)Lucky, for sure
Under The Radar
(3,404 posts)hunter
(38,328 posts)My heart was crushed two-and-a-half times and badly bruised a few more times before i met my wife.
yonder
(9,678 posts)in finding the key to what may work for each other.
ironflange
(7,781 posts)Right down to the 43 years part. I'm lucky too, and congrats to you.
Solly Mack
(90,787 posts)I didn't find out until a couple of months after. Talked with a mutual friend from all those years ago. Hadn't seen or talked to either in almost 40 years. Called the friend to get the details. Won't go into it but tragic is the word that comes to mind.
Felt odd for a few days and realized I was grieving. It took a little time for me.
Actually glad we didn't end up together but everyone thought we would. Still...
I remember his smile. It was beautiful.
Under The Radar
(3,404 posts)It must have been a popular match.
Solly Mack
(90,787 posts)after we went our separate ways.
But yes, it was considered the way things would turn out. A done deal.
I made a point of breaking all shared connections. Didn't need to hear about the inevitability of it all. I had other plans.
Zoonart
(11,879 posts)High school sweethearts, drifted apart afterwards as I went to Mexico to art school. Married other people happily. We still email on one another's birthday. See one another once in a blue moon at reunions.
No enemy! I remain friends with most of my ex's
Under The Radar
(3,404 posts)I dont reflect in some way on my 1st love every day anymore but it is several times a week 40 years later. Still have dreams at night at least once a week, the kind of dreams that leave an impact on my emotional mood most of the day.
We dated from the age of 15 until my 3rd year of college when we decided to date other people. Separate colleges 600 miles apart was our wedge. Wasnt fesable to visit each other more than once a quarter or on holidays. Letters took 3 to 4 days, and long distance phone calls could cost $100 an hour. I often reflect on how iPhones could have made things different.
Often dread on how I should have fought harder.
Truthfully this is the first that I have spoken of that relationship to anyone. You could likely get a good turnout for a first loves forum. Good to see that I am not the only one that has those feelings, have thought of it being unhealthy to have those feelings.
Ahpook
(2,751 posts)I was listening to some music that took me back a few years.
She said I would miss her and was correct. I was young and dumb!
Under The Radar
(3,404 posts)Youth is wasted on the young as said by George Bernard Shaw. And now wisdom is wasted when we are old and can no longer put it to good use.
NRaleighLiberal
(60,022 posts)year of bliss...soul mates, best friends, just all great.
I thought I was in love a few times back in the day (but likely it was just young lust!!!!).
Ahpook
(2,751 posts)yonder
(9,678 posts)The close calls turn out be bumps in the road in a lifelong journey.
Generic Brad
(14,276 posts)My life has turned out way better than it ever could have with her. She hurt me so bad it took years to get past her betrayal. I have no curiosity about what happened to her. Im just grateful Im not part of it.
BigMin28
(1,180 posts)We had a daughter a year later. Unfortunately he died in a motorcycle accident when I was 23. Now 34 years later, I still miss him.
Upthevibe
(8,074 posts)to hear that happened....
BigMin28
(1,180 posts)nt
NNadir
(33,561 posts)...have not been answered.
(The quote is from the Children's writer Jean Ingelow.)
Aristus
(66,467 posts)My first love. My first kiss. The sister of a friend from school. We have a brief, blazing first love. Then she moved on.
One of the few people from my school days whom I haven't reconnected with on social media. Someone told me her married name. I looked her up. Happily married with adult children. I'm happy for her...
OAITW r.2.0
(24,639 posts)Those were the days.....
DFW
(54,445 posts)"Lord, I hope she's happy, 'cause she sure deserves to be
Especially for what she did for me."
Like Aristus, I looked her up, and she has adult children, presumably successful ones. The guy she married was involved in some dubious international bank scandal in 2008, and was given a 150 million golden parachute to go away, which I'm sure he was happy to do.
If she hadn't left for the bigger and better deal, I never would have met the woman who became my wife, and THAT--though I never would have found out--would have been the biggest tragedy of all.
PJMcK
(22,052 posts)We dated for about 2-1/2 years then stayed friendly for another 5 or so before losing touch. I always wondered where her life took her.
Twenty years later, we re-connected through a mutual friend. With phone calls and email, we reestablished a friendship and shared our respective lives. Although we never saw one another, and there were no illusions or fantasies about getting together, we had our history as a bridge to our new relationship.
Then one day, I got a phone call from her daughter with whom I had spoken on several occasions. My first love had died suddenly at only 58 years old. For about an hour, I stared at a blank wall trying to comprehend my feelings.
Although I'm a very happily married man sharing a wonderful life, there is a hole in my heart.
smirkymonkey
(63,221 posts)infatuated with him (I don't know if you would call it love, although I thought it was at the time). Anyway, I spent some time in the summer in the resort town where he lived and we eventually got together the summer before my sophomore year in college, however I was kind of the party girl from hell at the time and not ready to settle down at such a young age.
We still dated over the years when we were able to get together, but the more I got to know him, the more I realized we just weren't compatible. He was a nice person, but we just weren't right for each other. We really had nothing in common.
I finally broke it off a year after college and I am not sure what happened to him. He probably got married and had a family and I hope he is very happy now. I still feel a little bad about the whole thing, but he is much better off I am sure. I know for certain that it never would have worked.
wnylib
(21,618 posts)My memories are mixed. We were on and off for nearly 4 years and dated others in between. He was smart, good-looking, and had a good sense of humor. But it was complicated for being so young. (Age 13 to 17 for me; he was 3 years older.)
One memory that I enjoy happened after we got back together, and I found that he was still seeing another girl. It involved my uncle, who is also my godfather, so he was always giving me thoughtful presents. This uncle looked younger than his age and was very good looking.
So when First Love brought me home on Valentine's Day, my mother told me, "Someone is here to see you." First Love followed us into the kitchen where my uncle gave me a hug, handed me a big Valentine box of chocolates, and called me his "sweet 16." (He had stopped by on his way to work on the night shift.)
First Love instantly got huffy and said he wasn't going to play competition games. (He of the 2 girlfriends at once) It got worse when my uncle realized the misunderstanding and laughed, since he was 30, married with 3 children, and my blood relative, for pete's sake.
I totally enjoyed the tables being turned, even though briefly, but my mother and uncle explained who he was.
First Love was eager to get married but I was still a junior in high school. It was the Vietnam era and he wanted a draft exemption. So it ended for the last time between us when he knocked up another girl and married her.
malthaussen
(17,217 posts)CanonRay
(14,119 posts)OriginalGeek
(12,132 posts)since we were high school sweethearts and we are still friends on Facebook.
She's married to the guy she left me for although that marriage came later. I mean, we were together in High School. We broke up and she dated another guy from our high school for a while and they broke up. life moved on for everyone and she went to college, met a guy and got married, had some kids and divorced. Our high school friend became a fireman, got married and divorced and then many years later they hooked up again and have been married for a long while.
Meanwhile I moved out of state and went to college and met my wife. We have been married 34 years next month.
We all ended up where we should be and we are still friends.
Paladin
(28,276 posts)catbyte
(34,458 posts)He became a MAGAt so I had to block him on all social media when I found out. That's one of my dealbreakers.
Thank heavens my taste in men vastly improved after I got to college.
But, let's face it. pickings were kinda slim in the little town in northern lower Michigan I grew up in. He's still there.
jalan48
(13,888 posts)3catwoman3
(24,054 posts)...when I made the mistake of deciding to go to the same college he chose. We started dating about the middle of our junior year of high school. Once away from home at that college, he changed. It took me too long to recognize it. Anything I wanted to do that did not involve him was a threat to him - even something as benign as having breakfast with my suitemates. We were in all the same classes. I joined a small dance troupe on campus and he pitched a fit when he found out we were going to perform wearing leotards - "I don't want anyone gazing at your form."
The brother of a high school classmate was killed in car accident. I was brokenhearted for her. He scolded me for crying about this - "You should be thinking about ME."
I no longer recall my precise breaking point, but it would have been wanting to do something in which he was not included. "It seems like you don't want to be with me."
By then, he was right. That was sophomore year of college. I transferred to a different school.
He has never come to any class reunions, thank goodness. I don't wish him ill, but I sure as hell never want to see him again.
Wolf Frankula
(3,602 posts)I haven't seen her in 50 years. A few years ago I saw a picture of her. She looked amazingly like I remember her.
Wolf