period around this time, it could be a delayed cycle. I freaked when it happened to me but the following month, nothing. Wishing you both well.

it is right in line to wait a month before getting in. that was with my first. because my first was so early, i got an appointment right away with second. but, the wait is norm. and it is not unsafe for the preg. also, i had spotting with the first. why i didnt know i was preg. and that was ok, also.

it is hard, all of this is hard.... for years, lol, it is hard. cause i was always concerned about everything.

STRESS is a HUGE no no. so, let jen see, think, feel, know, you have faith all is well.

that was the big one for my doctor. always asking, making sure, all was well. the first question. he didnt want the stress.

we have lots of RNs on du. i hope they come into your OP

This happened 35 years ago....medical science has advanced so much in the birthing dept....you'll do fine. Keep us posted!

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Major vibes coming your way. Trying not to stress is the best advice to follow for right
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Try not to worry, though I know that's really difficult. The doctor is right; there's no way to know if she'll miscarry or not.

The tough thing is not having any control over what happens.

You are all in my thoughts!

I'm saying every possible prayer for you and your lovely wife. Keep strong, brother.

stay calm, and stock up on pickles, ice cream, and chocolate. all will be well... and you'll be ready for the food cravings....

The lady I work with had this with BOTH of her pregnancies, around this stage, and she has two beautiful, healthy girls ages 3 and 10 months.

I sure hope so. Neither one of us has ever had a child and that's another thing that has Jen worried- our age. We're wanting a child badly and we don't have a lot of time left to be doing this. So I guess that isn't helping out our outlook right now either.

I'll do what I can to get Jen to relax. Starting with myself will probably help us both.

And try and make her get some sleep if she can. That will help her body.

And thanks for the other thread on the other side, that really helps. I mean really.

My DH was 42. My dad was almost 48 and my mom almost 36 when I, their 4th and last, was born.

I was making the bed one day in ~5th month, and crouched down, then spotted shortly after that. Went to the doc on duty in my doc's office, he did an ultrasound and asked if I wanted to know the gender, which we hadn't wanted to hear at the amniocentesis appointment a month before, either. "No." "Then don't look now."
He told me he had four girls, and I felt kind of bad because I sensed that he was a bit jealous that he would have liked one son out of the four, and I think he subtly relayed that I had a boy on the first try- but I didn't give a hoot as long as the baby was healthy.

I'm hoping for the best for you three- but the biological clock isn't something to be overly concerned about unless you want 6 kids!

The doctors told her of the possibility of losing that child.

That child turned out to be my very robust older brother.

Sending hugs and vibes your way.

...but I had that problem with my last pregnancy. My doc, who was pretty old school and in his final year of practice, prescribed weekly progesterone shots (which hurt like a mother, by the way). He said that a lot of docs didn't believe the shots could help but that he'd seen them work over and over again. Anyway, I had a healthy full term baby. So, do with this information what you will but there you go.

It was my first pregnancy and at that age, the odds were just simply against us. We were emotionally preparing ourselves for that moment.

Our son is a healthy 3-year old now.

It is possible. However, sometimes, things are beyond our control. I wish you guys the best and hope for a good outcome.

With her first pregnancy my wife was sick constantly for the first 3 months. She had morning, noon, and night sickness. She actually lost weight the first 3 months. I had to take her to the emergency room because she was coughing up blood. Come to find out she had broken a blood vessel from coughing so hard. We worried ourselves sick thinking she was going to miscarry. After the 3 month point she stopped getting sick and progressed normally in her pregnancy. A few months later our son was born. He's 23 years old now.

With her second pregnancy, my wife had spotting. It was just like your story. Again we were worried sick she was going to miscarry. A few months later our daughter was born. She's 16 years old now.

All I can say is worrying about these things will only make things harder on yourselves.

you guys don't need stress and worry right now - that is for when the kid starts driving

breathe, it will be OK

Right now the best is to love.

take good care, Tobin!

Thanks for thinking of us - jen

Please keep us info'd.

I'm naturally a worrier - so when I noticed a bit of spotting I worried.

Now that I'm somewhat calmed down, I have been looking in my pregnancy books and I have been reading more carefully - when they did my ultrasound they said I was 4 weeks and 6 days. I thought I was more like 6 weeks - going by what I had read and adding the 2 weeks on - going from my LMP... I think that it looks like I am right on track and where I should be!

I so need the Idiots Guide To Pregnancy! It's confusing! Which I think is what gets me - I keep thinking "I'm 41 - average intelligence - I should be able to figure this out and not be so confused!"...

Toby and I had tickets to see Bob Dylan last night - but we felt that it was better to just stay home and relax - so we gave the tickets to my dad and his friend (who he went to see Jimi Hendrix with about 43 years ago). They loved it - of course - who wouldn't!?!?

I told my parents today that they can babysit for us next year when Toby and I go to see Bob...

I have 4 children, the youngest was born when I was 40. He'll be 18 in a couple of months.

I have to agree with several others here--try to alleviate as much stress in your life as possible. Don't lift anything heavier than 10 lbs. Put your feet up whenever possible and try to nap. Many women, including me, feel unusually tired in the 1st trimester. Keep a positive attitude. Visualize holding a healthy, happy, baby.

The first 12-15 weeks are always scary. My thoughts and prayers are with both of you.

we miscarried before getting preggers with my now 17 month old darling daughter.

Dont worry, it's nature's way of taking care of things that werent meant to be quite yet.

get back in there and keep banging away (so to speak)

If i do miscarry that it is because there was something wrong and couldn't develop.

Thanks! Jen

We didnt expect it so soon and figured her cycle's were off. Went to the Dr and found that we were 12 weeks pregnant already.

I know it sounds twisted, but have fun, take it easy, and get lots of "practice".

I just wanted you to know that your husband is one hell of a guy. You two deserve the best, and you are in my thoughts and prayers.

I tell him that all the time....

Who is now a college freshman.

I had a slight case of placenta previa, where the doctor said the placenta was rubbing up against the cervix.

It IS scary. I remember exactly how I felt when the spotting started. My activity was limited and I was on bedrest for the last part of my first trimester, and then things cleared up.

Of all four of my kids, his turned out to be the "most normal" of the pregnancies.

Keep in touch -- and trust -- your doctor. And if you have ANY concerns day or night, don't hesitate to call him, and be quite frank in asking your questions and about how you both feel.

Take care.

I know you're worried, but you need to stay calm. I hope Jen will be just fine. s to you both

I had spotting with both pregnancies and those babies are now grown men! With the first one, we actually counted wrong... so that happens too!

could be nothing. hold each other tight, and eat.

I had a similar issue with my oldest, it occurred a couple of times in the first couple of months, testing all was ok, no real explanation other than it happens in some pregnancies. It scared the heck out of us so I can understand. Sending good vibes to you and your wife.