Venting about living near the ex in laws

ARRRGGGGGHHHHHHHHH. Where to start? Once again the ex mil made me mad last night, because she is trying to push my oldest daughter in the wrong direction. My daughter lost credits unfairly when she went from and British curriculum to an American curriculum school, and I told her she could get her GED and go to a community college if she wants to go that route. But the ex mil has decided that my daughter is not emotionally mature enough to go to college at 18- and that makes me furious. Just furious. I was no where near emotionally mature at 18. I never had a job, rarely did anything for myself, and I was petrified of driving. And yet I went to college at 18 and I did fine. My daughter is smarter than I ever was, and I know she won't have any problems, but the ex mil has almost convinced her another year of hs is best. And she also suggested going into nursing, and the only person less suited for that than my daughter is me.

Both of my daughters have complained to me about their grandmother "trying to crush their dreams." My youngest wants to be an artist, and my oldest isn't sure any more, she only knows she doesn't want to stay where we are right now. Their grandmother wants them to stay close, and although I do understand it, what right does she have to try and push it? She was complaining to me that she never really got to know her grand daughters because we lived overseas, but we were away from my parents, too, and actually my parents have spent much less time with my girls. I know that doesn't matter to her, but it does matter to me.

The ex mil also decided that the girls would be working on Saturday, and no one asked me if I was ok with this. It actually irritates me. I can't do anything with them on Sat because they are working.

And of course she doesn't like the way I've raised the girls so far. A few weeks ago she told my youngest that she dressed like a street walker, because she was wearing shorts that are no shorter than some I used to wear. The woman is thoughtless and pushy, and incapable of seeing things from my side. Which is where her son gets it from.

I have to put up with it for now, because I have no money or car or anything. I can't even stay with my parents for a while because in the divorce agreement it says that I have to stay in Florida until my youngest is 18, in 4 years. If I didn't get to vent somewhere, I would go crazy.

And what scares me is that things are going to get worse. Right now things are bearable, just, but sometime before the end of the year the ex's new family will be here, and that will be hard especially on my youngest daughter. Right now the girls aren't having to share their dad, but soon they will and the youngest especially resents it. The ex's family has all the finesse of a bull in a china shop in dealing with these things, and I suspect there will be major problems I don't want to deal with. I'm trying not to think about it, but it is looming.

On the other hand, maybe having someone new to be pushy with will distract the ex mil from my girls and me. I asked the ex if he thought his dad ( a very difficult person) and new wife would get along, and he said that he was more worried about her and his mom. He has a point.